WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2018

So I paid bills, and have a bit of wiggle room. About $50 of play money a week to whittle down on my wish list. One thing I want is a lounge chair for the sun room. Two chairs facing each other look like we are interrogators of some sort! My husband uses my chair to put his feet up, and I do the same for this chair. Presently we are both out, and yep we are kinda facing each other.
Most of the nice lounge chairs range in the $200 category. Ouch!
Still are trying to figure out how to pay for the sun room ceiling cleaning. Also for a lawn service. Big homes= $ upkeep. I am taking things in stride.
Hugs and happy Friday!
Talked to youngest Navy son on the phone today. Not in the Nuke program anymore, but waiting with about 140 others that tapped out too! Most likely another month wait to talk to detailer of what other rates he wants, and transfer to attend school for it. He seems happy go lucky about life. He says they have them doing roving duty, fire watch, cleaning detail, etc. They aren't sitting around being bored!

Eldest son got home from night duty at 2, so now it's 12:36pm and he has yet to get up! He said he wants to go to the commissary with us. Waiting for others is not husband's strong suit.
Take care everyone!
Rebecca
Whidbey island WA

Snowflake - Don't waste your time and/or money on the magnetic lashes; they are not perfected yet. I tried several. One the bands were so straight they did not look nature. The 2nd from a different company - magnets so strong, they pulled the other one off before you could set them. If you get any, put the top lash on first so you don't have your eyebrow in the way. I'll just use mascara - several coats drying in between all of them. When I was much, much younger, and they first came out, I glued the individual lashes to my own, so they'd look natural, not like they do most of the time with an entire strip. There is a woman that works at or owns a nursery in the next county - she has 'ginger' hair; doesn't wear any make-up; but, if she did … her blue eyes would pop the Hello-Kitty off the charts. Her lashes are long and they split like deer brow tines on the ends (which are blond). I had a first cousin that was born with lashes so thick they looked like a pair of false eyelashes had been put on her. She was a beautiful baby; and, still as an adult is very pretty. I doubt that she ever had to wear mascara. Blond; but, her lashes were black, and eyes blue. I think it is 'false advertisement' in magazines where they advertise for mascara lengthening and volume and then 'in very small print' say they have lashes or extensions added. Back when I was younger and glued individual lashes to my own, I did wear mascara; but, if the mascara did not come off in a shower, then it was there to stay. Wore them for years and years.


My oldest sister's hair is 'white'; my middle sister is letting hers go gray after years and years of bleaching it. Mine is mostly 'white' with light brown everywhere else. I use 'blond' eyebrow make-up and I 'swear' by WunderBrow, it stays on for several days (even though mine and very thin and sparse). I like their mascara as well. Tami gave me some lipstick that has a special gloss that you have to wear with it; the stain dries my lips out so much and burns that I've gone back to my regular Maybelline stains. That way I can use the special gloss and it helps. Even using the special stain; by the end of the day I had licked it off or drank it off when drinking water or anything. So, there really isn't a failsafe lipstick that stays on. I prefer 'corals' with my skin tone - or nudes. The pinks are okay; but, the 'reds' just have way too much of a blue undertone and looks harsh; and, makes my teeth look dingy. My posts and caps are not 'white' like some people I know - they could have been; but, the dentist I used never wanted anything to 'look fake' so he matched the color for the caps to my other teeth.


General frustration vent - I'm doing my best not to get too upset; because I don't have any control over it; but, the next 2 weeks I will be going into town with husband to go to appointment starting Tuesday (when I get my hair cut - after going over at least one month too long) - had to cancel it last time. Then Wednesday have my year physical and mammogram, will get my pre-op labs done there as well. I've got to remember to take my list of what surgeon wants done, so the hospital will have them when I get there. EKG, either there or I might need to call to make sure they will accept one done at a private MD's office - they might prefer to wait and have me do it there. Thursday, go back to OrthoMD about wrist. I did not think it would continue hurting like it does. Been doing all the exercises that were given to me at my first PT session - because I am on a 'driving restriction' … or was at the time - just could not go in every day. Friday - nothing, thank goodness. I have Barrett's Esophagus and a small hiatal hernia. The Monday after that I go back to have a repeat colonoscopy with a 2 day prep (liquids only), then first day 2 bottles of Magnesium Citrate, and then same prep as last time - but start it earlier in the afternoon/evening. Had to buy 'cherry' and not so sure how I will like that. The plain/lemon wasn't too bad; but, they were out of it. Tuesday go in for weigh-in and; then after I get finished with that go next door and have a "Marshmallow" Barium Swallow; different because rather than just drinking water before the barium is used; will have to eat marshmallows instead. Oh, fun! They turn you over and over to make sure the barium has coated your stomach inside. So actually, I will have 3 days of a clear liquid diet - so I 'should' lose some weight - albeit not a permanent loss - probably. The Thursday is clear diet and nothing by mouth after Midnight - have to call hospital after 3:00pm and before 5:00pm to find out what time I am supposed to get to the hospital for the Surgeon to repair the hernia and do a LINX procedure. Got to do something to stop the acid reflux before it turns into pre-cancerous or cancer. I might be a freaking basket case after all this. Louis went with me yesterday when the surgeon explained everything to us and why and showed pictures and all that. I had questioned the 'other' MD in his practice that tried to do the colonoscopy; but, did not get a good view because prep did not work entirely; so he got his surgery notes and agreed that it needed to be done again. OH $#T - literally and figuratively speaking. I won't be 'Full of $#*T' - at least not for a while. So now, both Louis and I are on Miralax - because he told us that we should not be constipated and since we ate 3 meals a day we should be having a minimum of 3 BMs a day. Louis is taking it twice a day; I am taking it twice a day until I'm no longer constipated - hopefully this is achieved before the LINX procedure - or that is what the Surgeon thinks should happen. AFTER that - it will just be a matter of waiting for results. I really show be 'glowing' after all this x-ray exposure. They say not to have a MRI; but, surgeon says this has been proven not to be the case with the 'new' machines they have out. Said that there are 3 different MRIs and I'd still be given a card to carry with me in my wallet that will show that I have this implant.


Then in July will see my GP; have to see him every 6 months so he will keep me as an 'active' patient. He is so 'loved' by everybody who goes to him, I don't ever want to 'lose my spot'.


But, after all that - life is good! Still not driving. I think Louis and Trey have already decided they really don't want me to. Mainly because starting in November - I'm not having any type of 'aura' before I just fall out and have a seizure. But, haven't had once since they got me back up to the dosages I was taking before I went into the hospital. The MD who was 'on call' (or is the 'hospital' PsycheMD) messed with my 'seizure meds' and all she did was succeed at making me Dilantin Toxic. That was a rough week after I got home. Was so 'drunk' I might just as well have chug-a-lugged a 5th of liquor. That is exactly how I felt; but, did not know why until I saw Neurologist. I would have become deathly ill if I had not had the Dilantin lowered when it was and not have waited until I saw him about a month to 5 weeks after getting out. He was 'pissed'. Had to take 3 Dilantin levels before it fell back down below where it had been prior to the change.


Trying not to *kitten* too much about anything because Louis has been a 'champ' … other than grumbling under his breath. Yep, he is stuck with me - he could have traded me in on two 21-year-olds years ago; now he would have to trade me in on three 22-year-olds and a 'baby' (less than a year). He just 'shakes his head'. Love that man, don't know what I'd do without him.


Hi to all the newbies. Congrats to all who have continued succeeding; heads up to all who have 'fallen off the wagon or stayed on by hanging by their nails'. August - we go to Louisiana for about 10 days. Cracker will go to the "Doggie Spa" … so she can get out several times a day and exercise. They said last time, she just wanted to sit in one of their laps; but, she was quiet. They have a shallow pool for them to get in; deeper in one part; but, no more than 48" (maybe 60" at the deepest part).


Jennifer's niece got taken to Macon (much bigger hospital and is a Class I Trauma Center because she got 'something' while in the hospital after giving birth to her 4th baby - so Jennifer has volunteered to help with 2 of the children. I don't know how they will do it; but, 'not my' circus, not my monkey'. Good thing it is summer so the girls will be keeping them during the day and she won't have to take them to daycare in the opposite direction from going to work. Her company has been sold; but, she has been told not to worry - they like her and she doesn't have to worry about her job. One of the other ladies is not so positive and all she talks about - daily - is 'how she has been through it twice in her life and replaced with someone that worked for the company that bought wherever she worked before out'. Jennifer is hoping that maybe she will be 'encouraged' to 'retire', she is certainly 'old' enough - but she also has had cancer, so they might have to kick her or drag her 'screaming and cursing' out of there - because of benefits - I'm sure she can COBRA her insurance. I know when they made changes (after I left the first real job I had) there were several of the women in the office that were offered early retirement with no loss of benefits. For the Claims Clerk who was the Head of the Department - it probably could not have come at a better time - she drank on the job and the other 2 claims clerks said to keep my desk locked at all times. I was just amazed the first time she leaned over her bottom drawer and took a big swig out of a Vodka bottle; then she chewed about 1/2 a pack of chewing gum. She rarely got up from her desk, now I know why.

Pip - You and Kirby sort of 'look alike' other than he is blond and you are brunette. I've heard a lot of people say that some married couples start looking alike the longer they are with one another. I just hope I don't go bald.

Well - CHOW!
Lenora

Been playing a lot of golf this week and it tires me out. Boy, it is so hot here. Our neighbors are getting married tomorrow in their back yard at 4 pm. Suppose to be 102. Oh my.
Allie, love the new hair cut. It suits you. I don’t have many eyelashes either. I use a pencil to do a line half way under my lower lashes and all round the top lashes. Seems to take the place of
lashes.
Today when I put my golf clubs in the trunk of my car I had to laugh because I also had my yoga mat and my water aerobic weights in there.
Getting late.
SueBDew in TX

Michelle - As hard as it is going to be to 'not' say something to Pete about his family insulting Denise and her family. The 'best' thing you can do is 'zip it' … I know - I have a 'loud-mouthed' DDnL#1 and I bite my tongue a whole lot; but, DOS has already told me, 'if the 2 of you cannot get along; I will take Jenn's side … she IS MY WIFE. GREAT, Trey - that is 'exactly' what you needed to say … so that I am not constantly dragged into the middle of their arguments that get 'started' because of miscommunication'. He re-sent a 'friend request on Facebook' immediately. She has not even asked to be 'friends' and it isn't my place and I flatly refuse to 'ask' her. I don't say 'jack squat' … they are better off; I'm better off; and, all I have to do is 'ignore' Louis when he starts in on the 'stupid things she says or does via Trey - who works for him'. I will never understand a lot about Jenn because how she grew up and how we did and how we brought up our sons are totally polar opposites on so many sides.

Same goes for Will and Tami. They are so far away that we are not 'in on their day-to-day life' and although I would really like to see them more than just once a year - we will discuss that with them when we go out there. Will have 'nothing to do with Jenn because of how Jenn treated Tami - for no good reason' and he isn't going to come visit if they have to be around her. So … my time with my youngest son will always be 'out in Louisiana'. I hate it; but, I know Will … when Will has had his 'fill of you - he is finished' … in that way he is exactly like my Daddy. I don't worry about him nearly as much since he and Tami got married and I worried less about him when he was single - I knew that he was 'ok'. I worried more about Trey because he can get 'down in the dumps' pretty easily. BUT, 'if he thinks he is happy … then I have to accept that from him'. Letting go of grown children is one of the hardest things we have to do as parents (especially mothers). I don't have any daughters; and, I do have a 'step-child' who has been 'out of our lives for going on 11 years and we have a granddaughter by her' who we have NOT seen in 11 years - last time was when my MnL died. Last time we heard from Sherry was the day she sent a death certificate with a sticky note on it that read: "IF you need anything else, call the funeral home." IF that wasn't a KISS MY @$$ - I don't know what is. As far as Louis is concerned he doesn't have a daughter. She is 'dead to him'. It hurts; but, if he can accept it then I will obey his wishes and not even try to contact her for any reason. She knows 'how old he is and that doesn't seem to make any difference'. So we don't have a daughter and we don't have a 5th granddaughter. It works for us.

All you can do is 'accept Denise's choice for a husband' and 'if' one day she wants to 'come home' … then let her and do NOT try to 'bait her for information'. Just let her get whatever she wants off her chest and hug her and love her. She might still be with Pete long after you are dead and gone. People 'fall' (or 'fall in love') with others for reasons that most people will never understand. You and Vince just need to enjoy one another and whatever you do in your neighborhood with you friends.


Saying prayers for your friends and family is usually easy … it is your enemies and the hurt that sometimes you feel because of what a family member does or doesn't do or says or doesn't say. God Grant You Serenity. I have that Prayer hanging up over my desk area. Believing in that and trying to make it a big part of your day will make things 'lighten up'. Don't ask, don't tell. Just listen. I had a friend in our neighborhood when we were growing up that would just 'laugh' at me for saying or doing things in front of our sons. Well, when you are Bipolar - you don't always have much control over what you say or do. My kids have been with me throughout the years and they have seen and heard a whole lot that I wish they had not. But, that's life. I hear them talk about things that I sometimes 'wish' I did not know - but, they are adults and most of the things they did as teenagers - I already 'knew' about - because they were the same things that Louis and I did 'as teenagers'. Same thing our parents did. It is a lot more relaxing (to me) to give up control and not have to make decisions for our sons and their families. They are grown up and they can handle their own lives and they can raise their children as they deem fit. I might not agree; but, I have raised my children … one day they might have to make decisions about me. I hope that never comes; but, it can always happen.

Lenora

Machka9 wrote: »

exermom wrote: »

I’m a bit in a dilemma. I don’t know if it would be wise to tell Pete when we go up there that his family insulted all of our family (even Denise) at her bridal shower. He seems to think that his family is this wonderful thing who would never talk down to Denise. No, they’d just insult her and her entire family behind her back. The sad part is Denise doesn’t even realize (I think) that she was insulted. She never stood up for her family. One part of me feels it isn’t fair to him to not know the truth. The other side of me says “the past can’t be changed. They just don’t know any better” I know why Denise never stood up for us. Because she’s the kind of person who doesn’t like to make waves and she knows that no matter what, we’re always going to love her.

My advise would be ... no, absolutely not.

Be the most pleasant, fun, happy, nicest people you can be. Be people that Pete and Denise would want to invite more often and would want to spend more time with.


I've completely lost track of time, but wasn't the bridal shower a year ago already?

M in Oz

M is right. Let it go and move on.

Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon

Janetr - Love that quote! It's what I have gleaned from reading my running books. It's all about the mind.

Heather UK xxxxxxx

morning ladies~
i finally turned the a.c. on though I didnt want to, just takes a bit of the stagnant yuck out of the air. tomorrow going from 80 plus to low 60s tomorrow yeesh. will see if my DB needs help with dads house. I really need to go through and organize paperwork and clean my place and walk in closet..
finally getting used to the color of my hair, and everyone except the one I knew that would say something.. and she did..
sent out the paperwork for home owners and auto insurance.. slow but sure im plugging along.

Michele ~ Agree with the others. Bringing up hurt just fosters more animosity.

June already!

KJ - what a neat bee story. I'm growing a small patch of wildflowers like I did last year and yesterday I counted four small bumblebees on the blooms. They are my favorite bees.

Beth - good luck with cochlear implants. My DH, at age 73, can hear TOO WELL! He has a thing for low-frequency sounds that immediately cause him terrible anxiety and he nearly flies into a rage. I wonder if it's PTSD from Vietnam. Anyhow, I had to talk him down from confronting our neighbor about his lawn mower (which, to me, sounds like the rest of the mowers in the neighborhood). Ended up ordering him some active noise-cancelling headphones he can wear and I hope they work. Our TV doesn't have Bluetooth but the tablet does so he can chill and watch some movies.

Do implants have an on and off switch? I know my hearing has diminished and there are times I'm glad I'm not wearing my hearing aid. And when I am, I seem to have it muted a lot.

Machka - ((HUGS))) just wondering, does your DH have some type of disability insurance kicking in?

Yesterday was allergy shot day. Again, it hurt! I think this nurse injects the serum deeper or something. Ended up with ice packs and Tylenol despite taking Benadryl before I went in. That's the bad news. But the good news is, after lunch I went into the greenhouse and was stung by a wasp - ouch - but luckily I still had some Benadryl left in my system. It's OK today, put the ice pack on it right away.

Makeup - Clinique powder than I brush on when I think about it, mainly to cover rosacea and for a little SPF. I gave up on eye makeup years ago - allergies to mascara. Blonde eyelashes all my life.

June goals - keep up with the 5:2 fasting. Was a crazy week so today I get to be hungry until 3 pm. Black coffee right now. The fasters are right - it does get easier as we become comfortable with hunger. Drinking water helps. I haven't been good about keeping calories down to 500 on fast days - after 3:00 I tend to go overboard, but my weight is moving down anyhow.

Still trying to catch up with you all - have a great weekend!

Lanette
SW WA State