Do you think vulnerability is a turn off or attractive

thirtiesrock
thirtiesrock Posts: 30 Member
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  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    Vulnerable as in emotionally in touch with themselves? Can feel, think, verbalize and not stuff all their feelings down?

    If so then yes 'vulnerability' is attractive to me.
  • 4legsRbetterthan2
    4legsRbetterthan2 Posts: 19,590 MFP Moderator
    CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »
    Here’s the thing. This is a very vague question. In order for a relation ship to be successful you have to be vulnerable. It comes after the attraction in my (almost 24 years old and getting divorced) opinion

    wait, seriously, now I feel old :worried:
  • CaptainFantastic01
    CaptainFantastic01 Posts: 9,558 Member
    4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: »
    CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »
    Here’s the thing. This is a very vague question. In order for a relation ship to be successful you have to be vulnerable. It comes after the attraction in my (almost 24 years old and getting divorced) opinion

    wait, seriously, now I feel old :worried:

    Don’t
  • Caporegiem
    Caporegiem Posts: 4,297 Member
    4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: »
    CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »
    Here’s the thing. This is a very vague question. In order for a relation ship to be successful you have to be vulnerable. It comes after the attraction in my (almost 24 years old and getting divorced) opinion

    wait, seriously, now I feel old :worried:

    Sounds like you're feeling pretty vulnerable right now.
  • CaptainFantastic01
    CaptainFantastic01 Posts: 9,558 Member
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: »
    CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »
    Here’s the thing. This is a very vague question. In order for a relation ship to be successful you have to be vulnerable. It comes after the attraction in my (almost 24 years old and getting divorced) opinion

    wait, seriously, now I feel old :worried:

    Sounds like you're feeling pretty vulnerable right now.
    It all comes around
  • mustacheU2Lift
    mustacheU2Lift Posts: 5,844 Member
    Im feeling vulnerable right now. How does that make you feel?
  • pudgy1977
    pudgy1977 Posts: 13,499 Member
    Vulnerable can be attractive. But to me vulnerable and weak are not the same thing. Opening yourself up and feeling emotions is what I consider vulnerable.
  • go_cubs
    go_cubs Posts: 1,183 Member
    Mmmm like how vulnerable? Cause I don’t like cry babies
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    Men do seem to favor the bird with a broken wing type of gal.

    We can save them, and by saving them save ourselves! Every damn time.
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    mustacheU2Lift wrote: »
    Im feeling vulnerable right now. How does that make you feel?

    Hornpervalicious?
  • SomersetCharlie
    SomersetCharlie Posts: 42 Member
    Attractive. :)
  • elizabethmcopeland
    elizabethmcopeland Posts: 167 Member
    edited June 2018
    It truly depends on what you mean by vulnerable.

    There's vulnerable, insecure, where you're just manipulating other peoples' goodheartedness for attention. (you're the beneficiary)

    There's vulnerable, openhandedness, where you're just opening up to share or empathize. (you may benefit, but the goal and intent is that it's mutually beneficial)

    IMO, the former is irritating and the latter is honorable. Some people like to feel needed so they might like the former.
  • MichelleWithMoxie
    MichelleWithMoxie Posts: 1,817 Member
    You have to allow yourself to be somewhat vulnerable to truly fall in love, IMO. Just don’t be too gullible.
  • bojack5
    bojack5 Posts: 2,859 Member
    Vulnerable.....no. Caring, yeah. I think vulnerable is the extreme end of being sensitive. Almost like being a victim. I think it's important to have a degree of sensitivity, but being vulnerable I think is something that happens to all of us, but I don't believe It's something we should strive for.
  • Diatonic12
    Diatonic12 Posts: 32,344 Member
    edited June 2018
    vul·ner·a·ble

    susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm.
    "we were in a vulnerable position"
    synonyms: helpless, defenseless, powerless, impotent, weak, susceptible

    Yes then No to your question. Vulnerable to me means having a bullseye on your forehead. There's a difference between openness and vulnerability.

    Just for context, I don't know of a man in my circles who would choose to be vulnerable either but we're bent on survival out here.
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    I think the most stable relationships will happen when both parties are in a good place and things happen naturally without effort.

    Equating vulnerability with being able to fall in love is a bit of a romance novel construct.
  • Deadman_Diggingup
    Deadman_Diggingup Posts: 3,082 Member
    spanish_liza wrote: »
    Mmmm like how vulnerable? Cause I don’t like cry babies

    We could have really had something special, but I cry at commercials :'(
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
    Vulnerable, as in "I acknowledge my feelings and emotions and am comfortable sharing this", is attractive and appreciated.

    Vulnerable, as in "I'm insecure, I need someone strong to take care of me", is GTFO, I don't have time for that *kitten*.

  • go_cubs
    go_cubs Posts: 1,183 Member
    _Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »
    spanish_liza wrote: »
    Mmmm like how vulnerable? Cause I don’t like cry babies

    We could have really had something special, but I cry at commercials :'(

    Now if we’re talking Sarah mclachlan commercials I’ll let it slide
  • Deadman_Diggingup
    Deadman_Diggingup Posts: 3,082 Member
    spanish_liza wrote: »
    _Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »
    spanish_liza wrote: »
    Mmmm like how vulnerable? Cause I don’t like cry babies

    We could have really had something special, but I cry at commercials :'(

    Now if we’re talking Sarah mclachlan commercials I’ll let it slide

    More like Wendy’s commercials cause that *kitten* is tasty and I’m jealous.
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,855 Member
    To me it means that you open yourself up and let down barriers for someone that you wouldn't normally open. I think that it's important to do this when a relationship reaches a certain point..If you can never let the walls down, the relationship will stall. So yes, I think it's attractive when appropriate because it means you've reached a milestone.

    However, if you're opening up to the cashier at Publix. . well, that's kind of annoying. . especially if I'm behind you with my 11 items.
  • go_cubs
    go_cubs Posts: 1,183 Member
    _Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »
    spanish_liza wrote: »
    _Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »
    spanish_liza wrote: »
    Mmmm like how vulnerable? Cause I don’t like cry babies

    We could have really had something special, but I cry at commercials :'(

    Now if we’re talking Sarah mclachlan commercials I’ll let it slide

    More like Wendy’s commercials cause that *kitten* is tasty and I’m jealous.

    Cut it out!
  • ChaelAZ
    ChaelAZ Posts: 2,240 Member
    Meh, I am how I am. If they don't like it - if I am too hard or vulnerable - go find someone that is more suited to your tastes.
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    Vulnerable -- in need of special care, support, or protection because of age, disability, or risk of abuse or neglect.

    By the definition above, I would say that I wouldn't want to seek out a person displaying vulnerability. I prefer persons that are capable of taking care of themselves.

    Not sure what the question is, but I would say I don't want someone that needs me. I want someone that doesn't need me, but, wants me in their life.

    I’m going to be really annoyed when you retire and don’t come around anymore.
  • bojack5
    bojack5 Posts: 2,859 Member
    https://youtu.be/TVmCwmC5-kQ

    Vulnerability is so sexy.....;)

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