Highest Weight Ever......
missytrishy
Posts: 203 Member
When it comes right down to it...I DON'T want to put in the work to lose the weight. I am constantly exhausted and the time and energy it takes to track and weigh and exercise, leaves me feeling tired already.
That being said, I am also very tired of putting my back out, feeling winded after doing my stairs, constant aches and pains, headaches (and now migraines), swollen feet, not being motivated to do anything, constantly pulling at my clothes, sucking in my belly, brain fog, IBS and a laundry list of other obesity symptoms that come and go.
So which side will win? Based on my past, exhaustion always wins, but to overcome the constant exhaustion i know that diet, tracking and exercise are what's needed.
So, I am here again, looking for some help, and a little push. This is my second day tracking even though I was 1000 calories over yesterday
I want to feel alive again
That being said, I am also very tired of putting my back out, feeling winded after doing my stairs, constant aches and pains, headaches (and now migraines), swollen feet, not being motivated to do anything, constantly pulling at my clothes, sucking in my belly, brain fog, IBS and a laundry list of other obesity symptoms that come and go.
So which side will win? Based on my past, exhaustion always wins, but to overcome the constant exhaustion i know that diet, tracking and exercise are what's needed.
So, I am here again, looking for some help, and a little push. This is my second day tracking even though I was 1000 calories over yesterday
I want to feel alive again
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3 months from now you will thank yourself. I started march 12th and that was my mantra.
I am 35 lbs down. Good luck!4 -
You don't have to decide to go "all in" right at this very moment. You can aim for a 0.5 pound weight loss per week (as long as you realise you may not see it on the scale due to fluctuations). You can even choose to track your weight and calories but maintain for now. Maybe after a few months of doing this, you'll decide that you can do a bit more. You're on this planet (hopefully) for a long time - so view it as a journey without a specific end date.
I choose to be mindful of how much I eat, and I accept that I will go over my maintenance sometimes, and that's life. No cheat days. No diets. Just living life. Doesn't take a whole lot of energy, really.3 -
Don't try to overhaul your whole life at once. You're tracking, that's great! Keep tracking, even if you go over every day for a while. Make sure you're set for a reasonable rate of weight loss. Make small changes. You don't have to switch from burgers and fries to all salad, all the time. Have a smaller burger and fewer fries. Switch regular soda for diet. Park a little further away. Baby steps. Small, sustainable little habits that add up over time. Consistency is key.
The time will pass, regardless of what you do. You can either be better off in 6 months than you are today or not. (Notice I said better off, not at goal weight or a fitness model. Just a better version of you)8 -
Being fat is hard, losing weight is hard.... choose your hard...12
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I'm in a similar boat, trying to break out of cyclical habits that aren't serving me and also being at my highest weight ever is sad. Feel free to add me I am focusing on tracking right now. baby steps=marathon not a sprint where I'm wiped out before finishing.1
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Weight loss can be done as a series of compromises and deals you make with yourself. Work long term and always choose the easy way. Perfect is the enemy of the good.6
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TavistockToad wrote: »Being fat is hard, losing weight is hard.... choose your hard...
Man, isn't that the truth!2 -
It's up to you if your life is to be better.
Exhaustion or not must be forged thru by you.
It will only get worse if you do not start building habits and a better life.
1000 calories over your established count says that your relationship with food is way over the top and you are letting food win.
Ask yourself if you really want to be healthier or continue along this dysfunctional relationship that you and food have built. Its ALL up to YOU!2 -
Being fat is hard
Losing weight is hard
Pick your hard.0 -
Great job tracking even when going over your calorie goal! IMO, that is a great step. In the past, I used to stop tracking when I had a bad day, but now I track no matter what. Some days there are special events and I choose to go over on calories but still track. Most days, I stay within 10-15% of my calorie target.
Just focus on small changes, one at a time. You can do this!1 -
Hi missytrishy,"Stop focusing on what you can't do and start focusing on what you can!"
Why I want to get in shape
To feel comfortable wearing clothes and not have to search through all my clothes for what fits me today.
To be able to keep up with my active kids.
To not disrespect the one body that God gave me.
My Inspirations
Jesus
my Children
My Mom
Sound familiar? Yep..
I want you to succeed, but it isn't up to me, it is up to you! ..and experience tells you that all this, and more is absolutely possible!
When I began, I could have done with a "Everything will be ok, you can do it", so here is my "Everything will be ok, you can do it", to you.
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Just want to say I dieted for years off and on always trying to lose quickly so I could go back to my "normal" eating. It took me a while to realize that my "normal" wasn't working and I could never go back. Take small steps like everyone here says and find a path you can walk the rest of your life. It takes time to change your habits and if you can't live with the way you are going you won't stick to it. I'm finally at a normal weight and my eating habits are very different from what they were but I took my time to get here. My exercise is walking... I started with 2,000 steps a day. I still only do a minimum of 8,000. I'm old so my maintenance calories are around 1400 but I'm used to that now. Don't try to lose 2 pounds a week at first. Trust me on this. As you lose you may get more motivated but don't feel like you have to rush. It took you a while to get here, take your time to get back.5
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I think in the beginning, exercise and changing eating habits really does suck. There is just no way around it.
And with exercise, if you are not conditioned, don't have the endurance, the stamina, the muscle tone, just starting to move again is a struggle. It's almost like you just have to do it anyways. Even when you don't feel like it. Even when you are winded. When I first started this, my body was so de-conditioned, my activity level so low, that just walking would spike my heart rate. All I can say is that if you can find that mental strength to push past it, and to accept where you are and that it's okay, and just keep doing it, it WILL get easier and easier. Your body will adapt. You'll be able to walk/jog/run further and longer and faster. You will be able to pick up a heavier weight. And somewhere along the way, it actually becomes less of a chore because you can do it. And it feels good. So just try to push past that initial exhaustion, a little more and more each day, and you will see improvements. It's doing it before you are conditioned that can feel miserable, but it won't stay like that forever.
It's good to track what you are eating so you have an idea where you are at and where you can make some changes. It's sticking with it and not giving up in defeat before you start seeing the result of those changes.3 -
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TavistockToad wrote: »Being fat is hard, losing weight is hard.... choose your hard...
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alwaysbloated wrote: »Please reply so we know if we are being helpful :-) Let us know if you have any other questions.
Thank you so much for taking the time to address my post. My attitude has even lifted in the couple of days since I posted. I haven't exercised yet but I am just recouping from putting my back out on Monday. I enlisted a couple of friends for support in sticking to my exercise goal of 3-4 walks per week of at least 30 min. Food has been going ok and I think I am making decent choices but that post-supper snack craving is a hard one. Today will be the first day I dont go over my calories
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cheryldumais wrote: »My exercise is walking... I started with 2,000 steps a day.
Thank you for your post Cheryl. I find when I get back into healthy eating and exercise, I tend to overdo things right away and overwhelm myself. I figured that walking would be a good place to start since I haven't actually exercised in about 3-4 years and I'm quite weak at this point I average about 2,500 - 3,000 steps on my average day and would like to see that get up to 5,000 consistently. 0 -
walking2running wrote: »You don't have to decide to go "all in" right at this very moment. You can aim for a 0.5 pound weight loss per week.
I have had the "all in" mentality in the past and found myself too overwhelmed right away. Taking it slower this time.1 -
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missytrishy wrote: »alwaysbloated wrote: »Please reply so we know if we are being helpful :-) Let us know if you have any other questions.
Thank you so much for taking the time to address my post. My attitude has even lifted in the couple of days since I posted. I haven't exercised yet but I am just recouping from putting my back out on Monday. I enlisted a couple of friends for support in sticking to my exercise goal of 3-4 walks per week of at least 30 min. Food has been going ok and I think I am making decent choices but that post-supper snack craving is a hard one. Today will be the first day I dont go over my calories
I know it was a hard one for me too but I think I have broke it!
I do leave some of my calorie balance for a night time snack. Yogurt...cherries....small popcorn bag....mini drumstick(ice cream).
Be prepared for those times but if you don't really feel like it then dont!
It's about building new habits!
Just stay within your range trainee
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What's helped me is setting a time to "check in" with a trusted friend every night. For me, it helps me to stay motivated by being able to brag about how good I'm doing -- rather than beating myself up in solitude and shame and just retreating to the easy route. I make the time before I go to bed each night to call her, video message her, text or email.
Feel free to add me if you're looking for another friend to help you along!1 -
missytrishy wrote: »
I started just about 6 months ago, so the quote sure hit home! I've lost over 40 lbs, exclusively by counting calories. I impose very few restrictions on myself because I want this to be a permanent change. (My approach to eating is evolving, interestingly, but only in response to what I find myself leaning toward and not because of any rules or prescribed program.) I'm amazed at how good I feel, and often find myself thinking, "6 months ago I couldn't have (fill in the blank)" The absolute best part is literally FEELING yourself moving more freely. I am not exhausted like I was. I had all but resigned myself to giving up because I truly felt I didn't have it in me. I was wrong!
I promise you, the effort is so very worth it.1 -
Hey, at least you are tracking your intake. 1,000 over today, make it 950 tomorrow and 900 the next day. You will find you don't need that extra glass of milk or 2 slices of 45 cal bread today. Put in what you want to eat before you eat it, you will be like WOW, I didn't realize that had that many cal., what can I eat instead.
Don't worry about your weight until you get used to tracking and getting that down - I think that is half the battle. You get that part down, you should start seeing results and then that will motivate you!!! My wife started loosing weight when I finally got her to track and she was happy, but then she got tired of putting everything in and her weight is up again and still going up and she is sad all the time, don't want people to see her, etc. I'm guessing you are in the same boat.
You say you get tired walking up the steps. Okay, after reading this go walk them twice!! Do this every time you go up or down the steps, make the trip twice. You will see it getting easier and easier and then do them three times.
Just a couple of simple things to tackle and as you see results you will look for more things to help.2 -
missytrishy wrote: »walking2running wrote: »You don't have to decide to go "all in" right at this very moment. You can aim for a 0.5 pound weight loss per week.
I have had the "all in" mentality in the past and found myself too overwhelmed right away. Taking it slower this time.
That's important. Your goal should not be so much to lose weight as it shoudl be to adopt a healthier lifestyle overall.0 -
Do a pro's and con's list. When I did it I realised that although both staying fat is hard and losing is hard. I prefer the later option. These are some of my pro's so far
- Not worrying about fitting in airplane/public transport seats.
- Enjoying a nice glass of wine without acid reflux
- Being able to walk up a flight of stairs without having to stop to catch my breath.
- Being able to buy clothes off the shelf
- Feeling attractive again
- So many compliments (ok I know that one is vain but I still love it a bit)
Give it a go, it may help you find out what you want.
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Do a pro's and con's list. When I did it I realised that although both staying fat is hard and losing is hard. I prefer the later option. These are some of my pro's so far
- Not worrying about fitting in airplane/public transport seats.
- Enjoying a nice glass of wine without acid reflux
- Being able to walk up a flight of stairs without having to stop to catch my breath.
- Being able to buy clothes off the shelf
- Feeling attractive again
- So many compliments (ok I know that one is vain but I still love it a bit)
Give it a go, it may help you find out what you want.
This is awesome - not a thing wrong with being vain!
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I also pre-log my food for the day. I log 3 meals. If I have extra calories I often choose my snack. If I go over, I log it as soon as possible. Often it wasn’t as bad as I thought. If I ate one candy bar over, at 210 calories, that’s better than 4 candy bars. It still keeps me at maintenance.
I’ve been doing this a long time. It gets much quicker with practice. It also gets mentally easier to decide to stay under your calories, with a little time and patience. Maintenance is more of the same, so establish portion control now, as you’ll need it always. Exercise if you can. Weight loss comes from the kitchen though.
Check the boards daily. I do, to keep my head in the game and remind me how easy it is to overeat and gain (as if I could forget that!). By giving back to others you’ll also find that that helps you in your journey. You CAN do this. It’s your choice.2 -
I have the “all in” mentality too whenever I start something. It helps me to remind myself that just because you’re not all in right away, doesn’t mean you’re any less dedicated to your goals. You’re not all in right now, but you’re working your way up to it so it will be easier and more sustainable.missytrishy wrote: »walking2running wrote: »You don't have to decide to go "all in" right at this very moment. You can aim for a 0.5 pound weight loss per week.
I have had the "all in" mentality in the past and found myself too overwhelmed right away. Taking it slower this time.
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