Locked Diary..Why?

New2ket0 · July 2018

I don’t want people to know my secrets of how to lose weight and lose more than me!🙈

Joking mine is open 😊 as said already, you shouldn’t care about what others say, if it works for you and your healthy do what you like 👍

1houndgal · July 2018

ACanadian22 wrote: »

For people here with a closed diary, why do you do it?

I do it because I have a very big fear I will be judged not only for the days that I eat too much but for the ones I eat too little too. Add to that, what I eat is pretty junky some days even if I make my cals

I find keeping my diary public to keep me honest and on the wagon. Plus I think it could help others to see how the people use the food diary to track their food intake.

I have yet to be judged on my diary. (MFP has a lot of nice people all with similar goals)But if it happens, I would not hesitate to report it and block the user.

RunnerGrl1982 · July 2018

I keep a locked diary. I don't have a reason why one way or the other, it's just simply a choice I made when I got the app. *shrug*

manderson27 · July 2018

I have always had mine open. It is not the healthiest though. I am in the UK so sometimes it is helpful for other UK people to see what's on offer.

kami3006 · July 2018

I am a private person. I feel the same way about someone looking over my shoulder and asking me what I'm eating...or reading.

For most people, they just have it set to closed by default.

Duck_Puddle · July 2018

I’ve logged all my food for 6 1/2 years. In that time, my diary has been open, closed and currently is under passcode.

The people of MFP are a well meaning but opinionated bunch who really like to give advice. I think it comes with the territory. Most are somewhere along a path to health/fitness and feel like sharing the knowledge they have gained on that “journey” is a great thing. And it is. That’s how we have the forums full of so many contributors.

But when it comes to a food diary? A low day means you need to eat more. A high day means you need a pep talk, “tomorrow is a new day” or I need to consult my eating disorder treatment team because clearly I’m relapsing. A low carb day means you need a talk about how you don’t have to go low carb/keto to lose weight. A “clean” day means you need to include more treats so you don’t feel deprived and binge. A treat-heavy day means you need to make sure you’re getting adequate nutrition and need to focus on fruits and vegetables. Are you using the recipe builder? You need to enter recipes and not use random entries in the database. Do you need that much coffee? Have you tried this root/seed/concoction I read about on Pinterest instead?

I don’t actually need any of that (except the coffee-and I have 57 pages of recipes so that’s covered too). And it’s well meaning and kind, but also exhausting.

Maybe it’s all under control and like all people, my food intake ebbs and flows and my diet perfectly fits my nutritional and training needs as well as my hunger and satiety preferences.

So my diary is under passcode and the people who are involved in actively helping me meet my training and food/weight goals have the code. Life is less exhausting that way. Less exhausting is what works for me.

Diatonic12 · July 2018

Food insta accounts bore the daylights outta me. Eating for the insta, showing off manicured nails over the top of the food, eating some gloppy food up against a wall, food stacking with sweet potatoes or lettuce leaves, zoodles, cauli-rice, a bowl of lettuce leaves with ground turkey or chicken with a spritz of some fancy sauce. Who gives a rat's...we haven't got the time. Eating the same foods day in and day out, I would rather watch paint dry. There are those here with a great sense of humor, if they showed us what they were eating it would be very amusing.

Gummy bears, hot tamales on top of Old Smoky all covered with snow. I can think of several who could pull it off. I like being brutally honest with myself. I don't want anyone reading my diary here or anywhere. I've tossed out years of written diaries because I shared true feelings about everything and everyone. Oy vey. Rereading what I said about specific relationships literally makes me sick now. I've not read anyone's food diary.

glassyo · July 2018

kommodevaran wrote: »

MFP is one of the most judgement free zones I have ever come across. Whenever people's diets are discussed, it's more about what's helpful, than about what's right or wrong.

Wow, you must have missed the thread where people in grocery stores thought it was ok to judge other shoppers.

OP, I keep my diary closed because I don't think anyone cares and I don't need to account to anyone else anyways. I know when I'm cheating myself or not.

dsboohead · July 2018

malibu927 wrote: »

Because it’s nobody’s business what I eat

AMEN!

singingflutelady · July 2018

I keep it closed so that the "evangelists" of all types don't make judgemental comments.

whitpauly · July 2018

Kandisn29 wrote: »

The added accountability helps me, so I keep mine open. But to each their own.

I think if I opened mine it would help me make better choices,,hmm something I need to consider cuz right now I'm pretty embarrassed about my choices

CarvedTones · July 2018

I post a lot, mention I am open when asked or when someone is looking for open diaries. I eat a lot of processed foods and added sugar; the kind of stuff a lot is posters think is evil. But no one ever gives me a hard time about it. I think the people who keep their's private so they don't get a lot of feedback are worried about nothing.

Freedom1862 · July 2018

singingflutelady wrote: »

I keep it closed so that the "evangelists" of all types don't make judgemental comments.

Oh i am the opposite. My diary is wide open and I dare somebody to make a judgement. They'll get deleted with the quickness lol! Luckily, my friends list is small and nothing but supportive.

fuzzylop72 · July 2018

When i've had my diary open, I don't think I ever had anyone comment positively or negatively on my food choices. Admittedly, my friends list does tend to consist mostly of plant based people (or ex-plant based people at least) so negative evangelism directed at me would be sort of limited.

siobhanaoife · July 2018

A MFP friend just posted about how motivation and mood are impacted by scale fluctuations and plateaus. Not asking for help, not saying her plan wasn't working, just posting about her feelings. One of her friends posted something about how she should do X, Y, and Z because she looked at her diary and could "see at a glance" where she was going wrong. I think it was very frustrating for the poster who was just talking about her emotional state to be diary-policed.

singingflutelady · July 2018

Freedom1862 wrote: »

singingflutelady wrote: »

I keep it closed so that the "evangelists" of all types don't make judgemental comments.

Oh i am the opposite. My diary is wide open and I dare somebody to make a judgement. They'll get deleted with the quickness lol! Luckily, my friends list is small and nothing but supportive.

I can barely eat ATM because of health issues so my intake is very bad. I don't need anyone commenting on it or liking my VLC intake.

sgt1372 · July 2018

It's nobody's business but my own.

I log only to keep track of my cals and I'm not seeking anyone's help or "approval" regarding what I eat.

sgt1372 · July 2018

kommodevaran wrote: »

MFP is one of the most judgement free zones I have ever come across.

Say what?

Guess you don't read that many threads. There
are certain issues where judgment is so bigoted on MFP that there is no point in trying to express a contrary opinion.

amusedmonkey · July 2018

My diary is too unorganized, half logged (I log meticulously, but not all on MFP), with weird food combinations and entries added for the sake of numbers, the entries of one day can span several days or vice versa. I tried "clean logging" for a while in order to open my diary to help people with ideas, but I found it too restrictive so I abandoned that experiment. I don't want my chaotic ways to be used against me in discussions and me having to explain how and why I do things on my diary derailing discussions.

swimmchick87 · July 2018

I will echo what some others have said- I don't want or need judgments from others, and I'm more likely to be honest if I know I'm the only one looking at it. I know that a lot of people like the increased accountability and if that works for you, that's great. I've never been someone that can do well under pressure. Last year, I was doing exceptionally well with diet and exercise and decided to enter a "health challenge" at work.

I pretty much immediately fell off the wagon, even though I'd been doing well on my own for months and was seeing good results. I felt embarrassed and judged about some of the choices I made- things that worked for me but others felt the need to judge me for (drinking diet pop, not having enough fruits and veggies, eating too much sodium or too many carbs, not increasing my workouts, etc.) I couldn't handle the pressure.

Another time, I was doing really well with my own workout system. I was bringing my gym clothes to work and changing right away at the end of the day so that I wouldn't make excuses to skip the gym. A work friend saw me and begged me to work out with her, even if it was just a couple of days per week. To make a very long story short, this led to me working out less and less and eventually stopping all together.

I have learned that fitness and dieting for me is a solo activity. This time around on MFP, I'm not even accepting any friend requests, even though my diary is closed. I have to do things on my own terms and not worry about other people.

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