Is my weight ok?

It might be helpful if you post a pic. It does sound like you are underweight but a picture would be more helpful.

I weight close to twice what you do lol If they're concerned because you don't eat, don't seem to be taking care your health, etc, that makes sense. But what do YOU think? Do you follow good eating habits? Do you think you need to gain weight to be healthier? If you want to make a change, do it for you--not because someone else thinks you should. It sounds like you have a very small build. I'd genuinely thank them for their concern, and let them know that you're fine.

terrafwa wrote: »

Honestly, my family eats crap (lots of processed,& sugary foods),& I try to eat healthy as possible,but I allow myself a treat once a day. So that could be it. And I love cheese & yogurt, but I always feel sick after. Which sucks

Nothing has changed with my weight much,

So, is avoiding dairy a recent thing? Because I can see where, if you are already underweight and then they see you beginning to cut out an entire food group, that would cause concern. Are they aware of your dietary issues and are they seeing you make an effort to replace those calories with other things? And again... why not have your doctor weigh in on this?

What do you consider a "healthy" diet, BTW?

terrafwa wrote: »

I eat basically eat everything else! Nuts(PB addiction here), grains(rice, whole grains, sweet potatos, quinoa, oats, stuff like that), animal products(eggs, fish, chicken, turkey, beef,& pork), fruit,& veggies.

Yes, I try to make up for it. I’ll have almomd milk + protein powder,& I’m currentely trying to find decent DF yogurt(so far everything I’ve had suck, suggestions welcome.) & cheese

That's good that you have a varied diet.

We're back to where we started though. No one here can tell you that you're not underweight. You're the only one that really knows if that's just the way you are or if it's maybe the result of aspiring to something you shouldn't be, but as long as you don't lose anymore weight and are properly fueling your body (both quality and quantity), it may not be a cause for concern. I don't know if you are blowing off the suggestion about seeing your doctor, or if maybe you're unaccustomed to seeing a doctor routinely or can't for some reason, but that's the best thing you could possibly do, and it might have the added benefit of quieting your family's criticism. Wish you the best

Edited to add: If the digestive issues are a recent development, a visit to the Dr. is definitely in order.

No I don’t think it is okay , maybe you need to really consider looking I to your diet since you not as healthy as you might think ?!

kommodevaran wrote: »

What can you use "what people think" for? You are technically underweight at a BMI of 17.6, that's not up to thinking/feeling, it's an observation, not a judgement. Healthy eating includes eating enough. If you're underweight, you're not eating enough. So, maybe more constructive - do you yourself think that your weight is okay? (Are you in doubt, is that why you ask?) Do you struggle with eating enough? Do you think you shouldn't eat more than you do? Do you have trouble with swallowing, or feeling stuffed too soon? Anything else, just to troubleshoot?

Completely agree that you should consider these questions, OP. If you bothered to ask, you must realize there is a basis for concern. But only you know what the real issues are.

This is a question for your doctor. And you can ask your doctor about your lactose intolerance while you are there too.

You have heard what your BMI tells us. There are other pertinent questions - are you small boned, very petite? (not everyone who is short is "petite") More importantly, do your bones stick out - like your shoulder bones, are your forearms smaller than your wrists and elbows. Are you seeing yourself fatter than as others see you? You definitely should see a doctor and ask him. You could have an overactive thyroid for example. Your Dr. will likely ask for a complete fasting blood panel, which will tell him where you are in terms of your overall health. Believe me, a Dr. will not tell you that you are too thin if you are about right for your frame, and your blood numbers are good.
I would not worry about what family thinks, as much as what your Dr. thinks. And why not try a lactose free milk and see how that makes you feel with regard to the dairy concerns.