I feel like a loser

collectingblues wrote: »

sathmif465 wrote: »

AnnPT77 wrote: »

Let it go. It's a minor blip, one day out of your entire future.

Just take a few minutes to think about why it happened, and learn from that, so you can do differently in the future:

* Is your routine calorie deficit too high (calorie budget too low) to stick with? It's more effective to lose slower but more reliably.

* Have you been over-restricting chocolates? Consider fitting a small treat into your calorie budget so those cravings don't build up and overwhelm you. Nutrition is important, but that doesn't mean you can't ever have treat foods.

* Did you feel physically hungry? Why? Experiment with timing and composition of your eating (i.e., macronutrient levels and specific food choices) to figure out what you personally find most satiating.

* Were you bored? Adopt a new hobby, or re-start an old one. Hobbies that require clean hands (sketching, needlework, musical instrument, etc.), or create dirty hands (gardening, painting the living room, carpentry, etc.) are particularly good choices.

* Was it at a time or in a situation where you're used to snacking or overeating, to the point that it's become habit? Work on replacing it with a new habit that helps you better meet your goals, either low calorie snacks, or a snacking alternative like a compatible hobby, stretching/movement, or a hot herb tea, etc.

* Did you get enough sleep? Being over-tired can sap one's will power.

* Are you under extra stress? Come up with some new strategies for handling stress, like a soothing warm shower, deep breathing exercises, a hot cup of chamomile tea, a walk around the block - whatever would work for you.

* Was it a social situation where food was being urged on you? Rehearse in your head some strategies about how to politely refuse, and stick to it, in similar future situations. Actually imaging yourself saying and doing those things, several times over, like a little movie in your head.

Once you've figured out your why, and made a new and improved plan for the future, just log what you ate and go on with life. There's no reason to feel bad or guilty. Food isn't a sin, and there's no need for penance or expiation. Besides, it's not fun to feel bad/guilty, and doing so burns no extra calories (the stress can even cause water weight retention, for heaven's sake!).

Let it go, and stay on your healthy track toward your goals. You can do this.

Thank u very much!!! This really helped me. The thing with me is I dnt have enough patience. I want to see results quickly. When I dnt see it, that frustrates me. I’m 18, girl, weigh 60kg and my goal is 55kg. I want the stay consistent but sometimes it is hard cause of the temptations and cause of that time of the month (if u get wat I mean).

How tall are you? Is it possible that 55kg is not a good goal for your height?

Also try to remember this: If you overrestrict, you're going to be more likely to binge, and wipe out that calorie deficit. If you eat a little more, you may not feel like you need to give into those temptations, and you'll have been control over it.

collectingblues wrote: »

sathmif465 wrote: »

AnnPT77 wrote: »

Let it go. It's a minor blip, one day out of your entire future.

Just take a few minutes to think about why it happened, and learn from that, so you can do differently in the future:

* Is your routine calorie deficit too high (calorie budget too low) to stick with? It's more effective to lose slower but more reliably.

* Have you been over-restricting chocolates? Consider fitting a small treat into your calorie budget so those cravings don't build up and overwhelm you. Nutrition is important, but that doesn't mean you can't ever have treat foods.

* Did you feel physically hungry? Why? Experiment with timing and composition of your eating (i.e., macronutrient levels and specific food choices) to figure out what you personally find most satiating.

* Were you bored? Adopt a new hobby, or re-start an old one. Hobbies that require clean hands (sketching, needlework, musical instrument, etc.), or create dirty hands (gardening, painting the living room, carpentry, etc.) are particularly good choices.

* Was it at a time or in a situation where you're used to snacking or overeating, to the point that it's become habit? Work on replacing it with a new habit that helps you better meet your goals, either low calorie snacks, or a snacking alternative like a compatible hobby, stretching/movement, or a hot herb tea, etc.

* Did you get enough sleep? Being over-tired can sap one's will power.

* Are you under extra stress? Come up with some new strategies for handling stress, like a soothing warm shower, deep breathing exercises, a hot cup of chamomile tea, a walk around the block - whatever would work for you.

* Was it a social situation where food was being urged on you? Rehearse in your head some strategies about how to politely refuse, and stick to it, in similar future situations. Actually imaging yourself saying and doing those things, several times over, like a little movie in your head.

Once you've figured out your why, and made a new and improved plan for the future, just log what you ate and go on with life. There's no reason to feel bad or guilty. Food isn't a sin, and there's no need for penance or expiation. Besides, it's not fun to feel bad/guilty, and doing so burns no extra calories (the stress can even cause water weight retention, for heaven's sake!).

Let it go, and stay on your healthy track toward your goals. You can do this.

Thank u very much!!! This really helped me. The thing with me is I dnt have enough patience. I want to see results quickly. When I dnt see it, that frustrates me. I’m 18, girl, weigh 60kg and my goal is 55kg. I want the stay consistent but sometimes it is hard cause of the temptations and cause of that time of the month (if u get wat I mean).

How tall are you? Is it possible that 55kg is not a good goal for your height?

Also try to remember this: If you overrestrict, you're going to be more likely to binge, and wipe out that calorie deficit. If you eat a little more, you may not feel like you need to give into those temptations, and you'll have been control over it.

AnnPT77 wrote: »

sathmif465 wrote: »

AnnPT77 wrote: »

Let it go. It's a minor blip, one day out of your entire future.

Just take a few minutes to think about why it happened, and learn from that, so you can do differently in the future:

* Is your routine calorie deficit too high (calorie budget too low) to stick with? It's more effective to lose slower but more reliably.

* Have you been over-restricting chocolates? Consider fitting a small treat into your calorie budget so those cravings don't build up and overwhelm you. Nutrition is important, but that doesn't mean you can't ever have treat foods.

* Did you feel physically hungry? Why? Experiment with timing and composition of your eating (i.e., macronutrient levels and specific food choices) to figure out what you personally find most satiating.

* Were you bored? Adopt a new hobby, or re-start an old one. Hobbies that require clean hands (sketching, needlework, musical instrument, etc.), or create dirty hands (gardening, painting the living room, carpentry, etc.) are particularly good choices.

* Was it at a time or in a situation where you're used to snacking or overeating, to the point that it's become habit? Work on replacing it with a new habit that helps you better meet your goals, either low calorie snacks, or a snacking alternative like a compatible hobby, stretching/movement, or a hot herb tea, etc.

* Did you get enough sleep? Being over-tired can sap one's will power.

* Are you under extra stress? Come up with some new strategies for handling stress, like a soothing warm shower, deep breathing exercises, a hot cup of chamomile tea, a walk around the block - whatever would work for you.

* Was it a social situation where food was being urged on you? Rehearse in your head some strategies about how to politely refuse, and stick to it, in similar future situations. Actually imaging yourself saying and doing those things, several times over, like a little movie in your head.

Once you've figured out your why, and made a new and improved plan for the future, just log what you ate and go on with life. There's no reason to feel bad or guilty. Food isn't a sin, and there's no need for penance or expiation. Besides, it's not fun to feel bad/guilty, and doing so burns no extra calories (the stress can even cause water weight retention, for heaven's sake!).

Let it go, and stay on your healthy track toward your goals. You can do this.

Thank u very much!!! This really helped me. The thing with me is I dnt have enough patience. I want to see results quickly. When I dnt see it, that frustrates me. I’m 18, girl, weigh 60kg and my goal is 55kg. I want the stay consistent but sometimes it is hard cause of the temptations and cause of that time of the month (if u get wat I mean).

Patience is a good plan for weight loss, and also a skill that will be useful for the rest of your life! (Trust me, I'm old enough to be your granny, almost great-granny.)

With only 5kg to lose - I know it probably feels like a lot, to you, but it really isn't compared to others - your best plan would be to lose very slowly, no more than about 0.25kg per week. If you set your MFP profile up that way, it should give you more calories to eat, and make the process much easier.

I know that may seem very slow, but it will make sure you have enough energy and nutrition to feel really good in your daily life, and will also give you better practice at eating in ways that will help you keep the weight off permanently.

Speaking as someone who was obese for a long time (decades!), I know that it's easier to lose weight and develop really healthy habits at 18 and stick to them, vs. living with the alternatives. Women my age who have yo-yo dieted with repeated extreme but unsustainable calorie cuts are in possibly the worst circumstances, as that too-fast loss/rapid regain process, repeated over and over for decades, takes a dangerous toll on the body.

So: Yes, patience! You can find some, and exercising patience just makes your "patience and persistence muscles" stronger for future use.

Best wishes!


Thank u!!!!! This helped my damn being patient is hard. I’ll try to be patient. I think what is slowing this process is my cheat days. Every Friday I eat like a monster. How can I say no to all the sweet food? So tough.....
Lol when u said u re old enough to be my granny😂. That got me laughing.