Im 35 Mother of 3 and im extremly Obese. and Scared

Friend request on the way but sure to use the food diary and log all your food, yes all of it It will make everything soo much easier and you will see even purely by numbers how good and bad everything is for you Keep your head up, it's a long journey ahead but we CAN do it. Take everything one day at a time, and I'm always here if you need someone to talk to, or even to complain to I'm a good listener

You can add me for motivation. I understand where you're coming from. I've needed to lose weight since I was about 5 years old - literally - but never really had the motivation. Then, about 7 months ago, I looked at my siblings and realized they plan their days around what medication has to be taken when. It was a wake up call. I don't want to have to check my sugars several times a day and restrict what I want to eat because of diabetes. I don't want to have to take medication to keep my blood pressure and cholesterol low. I don't want to be forced to take elevators because I can't walk up a flight of stairs. You can do this. There's a lot of support on this site, and we'll work to get you through. I'm thinking that once you start seeing results and FEELING results, you'll find motivation within yourself.

You've come to the right place, girl!! This site and these people rock!! Good luck on your journey!! Add me if you'd like!!

You can do this You are off to a good start. I just joined a few days ago and there is so much support here. Take small steps and start by cutting your calories and doing a little walking or jumping jacks or something. I was very conscious of my body and didn't want to go out in public to exercise. I just do it at home. I can help you with recipes, support and suggesions. I will send you a friend request.

Good job! xoxxoxo

Been there...done that and have been morbidly obese most of my life. My big wake up call was loosing my baby sister (54) to this. I had the same health problems she did and came home from her funeral deciding that I might die of other things but morbid obesity was not going to be the cause. That was in Sept of 2002. I began the Dr Phil challenge and lost 125 pounds. Kept off all but 5 pounds until this year when I had to be put on steroids for my COPD/Emphasema. Plus other health problems and death and sickness of friends and family put me into a depression. It's a battle and I plan on winning but it is so hard when you are 68! I'm putting together family picture albums for my sister's 7 grandchildren. She died in Jan of 2010 from a sudden heart attack brought on by 35 yrs of smoking. She loved those babies so much and it is so sad to know that she won't live to see them grow up. Ages 19-13. One graduated last May without her. So you can do this but it takes love of yourself and baby steps. Each day is a new day and you start over if you must. Do it often enough and it becomes habit. Best wishes and enjoy those babies.

SMALL STEPS..... weightloss is a journey it takes time to reach your destination.. Welcome to MFP.. Believe in yourself.. Believe you can do it for you and your children... I suggest starting slow just eliminate something from your diet maybe soda, bread , cake and replace it with something healthy like veggies, fruit.. start drinking water in place of other liquids.. stop frying AND START BAKING.. Really take time to look at the food your buying in the supermarket take the low ercalorie or lower fat choice instead of the full fat choice.. add more veggies and fruits to replace the sweet snacks.. Just know it takes time to lose weight somedays will be harder then others... just focus on your long term weightloss goal keep it close and before you know it you will be on your way... BEST OF LUCK.... I believe in you.. you can do this.. feel free to add me...

I need all the Support I can get because even tho I am scared this weight will kill me I have NO motivation. I need pushed and I need support.

Good job, you have started the journey. It's all downhill from here!

I started around January at 310 lbs. I thought I couldnt stick with it, either....but I have. I'm 224 now, and feel better than I've felt since highschool. If I can do it, you can do it. If you can force yourself to stick with the commitment for a month, it will become a habit. By the 3rd or 4th month, you wont even notice you are dieting anymore.

I'll certainly send a prayer. A wise person once told me, "There's nothing God gives that you and He can't overcome together". Although I've been criticized in the past for praying because of 'blind faith', the reality is I pray because it works as it does for everyone who does the same (James 1:2-18). Please feel free to update us with your successes, we're looking forward to hearing them.

Don't beat yourself up for having a hard time with the changes, and don't try to change everything at once.

Start with logging your food and drinking a lot of water.

If you have trouble exercising, do whatever you can. . . walk to the neighbor's house: or walk to the end of your driveway, whatever you are capable of. Sit in your chair and reach for your toes. You may not be able to reach them, but keep doing it a little bit daily until you do. Lift some cans of (whatever: soda, tomato sauce) above your head a few times. Try to increase the repetitions tomorrow: if you can do four today, do five tomorrow. The exercise gets easier as you continue, but it is okay to start slow. Just start. Modify exercises to fit your abilities.

You can do this, many people here have. We're here if you need anything. Welcome! :flowerforyou:

We can do this together! I just joined a half hour ago, so I don't know much about this site. I know several people who use it. I've been overweight my whole life. Six years ago, I had to start using a wheel chair because of back and hip problems. 2 and a half years ago I decided to get serious about losing weight, after several doctors told me they wouldn't do anything to help me with other issues because of my weight. (I decided I was going to show them, I was!) I was 426 pounds. I'm 311 pounds now.

Everyone has given you good advice. First, talk to your doctor, and see if there's anything you shouldn't do. Track everything! It keeps you accountable. Be honest. No one is going to judge you harder than you judge yourself. Eat lots of fiber. (Check the labels on food. When I started, I was only eating about 10 grams of fiber daily. Now I eat 30-45 grams, WITH MY DOCTOR'S PERMISSION.) Drink as much water as you can. Diet soda isn't good for you either. It contains a chemical that may actually cause you to crave sweets. 9I do allow myself one every day though.) Since I'm in a wheelchair, there's not too much I can do for exercise. But I lift hand weights, use resistance bands, move my feet and toes without moving my hips, etc. I do at least 30 minutes every day. If you go out to eat, pick a place where you can get info on the food ahead of time, so you can choose wisely. As someone said, even salad can be bad for you, with the wrong stuff in it.

Please know that you can do this. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE contact someone from this site if you need support. DON'T give up. Take it one minute at a time if you have to. (Tell yourself~ come on, I can do this for one more minute. I'm not a wimp. ) It really does get easier, and becomes a new way of life. And before you know it, you'll have a whole new you to go along with that new life! 8~)

welcome! I just finished my second week and love this site....you can do it...start the exercise little by little..start with walking if other workouts are too strenuous...I find this site is great for motivation..shows like the biggest loser and heavy are always good for a boost too..don't give up!

Hi--losing weight can be daunting--but I've lost 65 lb and have 45 more to go--right now I'm stuck in the 160's and I keep losing and regaining the same 4 lbs, but I keep going because of my 4 children and my 4 grandchildren. I want to see them graduate and go onto do wonderful things.

I know its scary--it was for me too, but the way I started was changing one habit at a time....anybody can change one habit. I started by learning to drink 8 glasses of water or its substitute a day---I thought I'd never make it but I did. I also made some changes to my diet, like cutting out white bread and replacing it with whoe grain bread and I started moving--a little at first but then more as time went on.

Its a matter of making small changes in your habits that become big changes over time. If you try to make huge changes all at once, it doesn't work as well. Keep yourself motivated by thinking about why you want to lose the weight.....and keep in touch the fact that you reached out is a big deal!

There are sooo many of us out here struggling with the same feelings, working everyday and we are with you. So take a few steps, drink some water instead of soda, change out your menu bit by bit and we'll be here to encourage you along the way.

Everyone has given you great advice so far! I hope more than anything that you deserve to be happy and to be healthy! Know going into this that you'll have set-backs and days or weeks where you might back-track and don't let those be quitting moments for you. You're human. Just always keep moving forward.

Sit down and write out very small goals for yourself. Where would you like to see your weight one week from now? Two weeks from now? One month from now?

I can't wait to see the progress that you're going to make. Feel free to add me as a friend and we'll motivate one another. Also, feel free to join the new group I just started: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/320412-new-group-20-down-by-halloween-join-now

Good luck.

Hei! Your post made me so sad. You can do it. Each pound counts, for every one. We all have our demons to deal with.
You're only 35, your entire life is ahead of you. Make baby steps and learn from scratch how to fuel yourself. Then your scare will go away and you feel better each day. And you can play with your kids better each day and care for them better, too.

Friend me if you like. We all need support in some ways.

I'm new too...and i love this site. Friend me and we can help each other