My boss and others basically called me fat and it feels weird

I didn't read the other comments yet, so hopefully this isn't a repeat of what someone has already said. That said, my daddy used to ALWAYS tell me to remember: "Misery LOVES company". I didn't understand fully what he meant back then, but I do now. Miserable people LOVE to make other people miserable--they LOVE IT and LIVE for it too , that's how they not only "get-down" but they actually "feed" off of the hurt, confusion, anger and yuck they provide to others. They "get-off" on it and DEPEND on their words, actions and ways of thinking and living to "get to you", to throw you off balance and just plain make you sad, mad and feel bad. So....MAKE YOURSELF LAUGH AT THEM INSTEAD. MAKE yourself see that you are not dealing with an "ordinary person" you are dealing with a two legged monster, a wizard of oz, so to speak and if you make yourself see behind the curtain of their lives...you would actually ALMOST feel sorry for them That said, DO NOT EVER feel sorry for "energy/life" vampires/monsters. LAUGH inside and even outside at them.

Just imagine this--your "boss and others" makes a comment about how much weight you're gaining and instead of "allowing" them to "get (to) you" you give a sincere and hearty laugh instead--laughing because you "see" the true/real them and you ain't falling for their yuck. Just imagine how your laughing would absolutely destroy their efforts to sap your joy and well being. IF you from this day forth, CHOOSE to laugh at "devils" instead of cry how powerful and so much stronger you will become. DON"T allow the old lie/trick of "well, what this/these monsters are saying about me is true" business to trick you into falling into their abusive game. AGREE with them and then say/think/believe that even though what they've said is TRUE, they do not/will not have your best interest at heart with their "truth" so LAUGH at them, because you're growing wise enough to recognize the and NO LONGER, NOT ANOTHER second give ANY of your time/life/thoughts/feelings/emotions/heart over to them ever again.

Lastly, another thing that blows these type of YUCK people away is being kind to them, instead of hating them (because that's what they want and need--your ENERGY of anger, sadness, confusion and woe from you), because hate, anger, wrath, self-pity makes you weaker and they love that. Laughing at them and being kind makes you STRONGER and they will hate that and perhaps even eventually leave you all the way alone--knowing you are stronger, wiser, cooler then them--BOOM! That's the (or a) ticket for deals like this.

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Once you've lost your weight, you could then tell your boss that you have some clothes that are now too big and was wondering if she would like them. Maybe she'll understand the jab and leave you alone.

I'm really sorry you've had to deal with depression. I suffer from it as well, but have been able to find the right meds to help. If you haven't been to a doctor yet to discuss your depression, I really recommend it. I totally get that it can mess with your weight, and you should never feel pressured to disclose your depression, regardless of what it may have caused.

On to the next point - some people are going to talk about your weight. They'll talk about it when it goes up, they'll talk about it when it goes down. It's never really fun (for me, even when they congratulate me on weight loss - I don't really like it - I'm just so much more than my weight). It really, really blows, and honestly, says almost nothing about you other than what one of your many physical attributes are (it's the same thing as "your hair has grown" - it's just that society has put this weird stigma regarding weight as opposed to other attributes, like hair length). If it really bothers you - I'd address it. Something as simple as "hey, as a coworker, maybe you shouldn't comment on my body" isn't a bad place to start. Beyond being called fat hurting (although, it really shouldn't hurt - again, it's just a descriptor, but we have put all this emphasis on fat being terrible, when the truth is that sometimes it happens - bodies change and fluctuate - but that's a different topic), it's also super inappropriate in the workplace setting. You just shouldn't comment on other people's bodies at work.

I've heard that stuff before. The reality is that we all have our "warts". People are jerks. But so am I at times - just ask my family. I just gave grace and let it go - because that's what I would hope for when I'm blind to my own insensitivities. That's the most freeing thing. Especially since in my case, like yours, there is an element of truth to it. I didn't consider it "bullying" even though it's tempting to do that.

Some of the same people were quick to give complements when they noticed the change in the other direction. Some people don't have filters, as mentioned above.

"Love your enemies and do good....". Easy to say - hard to do. But rewarding in practice.

Having said that, if it goes beyond a time or two, I might still consider doing something about it since it's your boss. But not in an isolated instance.

Lastly, as others have said, your identity and your worth is not at all based on what others think.

2t9nty you are my hero thinking of this! ( quote)
You can always pretend you thought it was a compliment, and respond with "Thank you so much for noticing! You have put on some weight too!"
Love this maybe it should be the standard response to those rude enough to think they get to comment on your life. Ignore them and do your thing X