Dating Turn Offs and Red Flags
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Its_Haleeyyy
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What are some turn offs for you as far as dating?
What about things that you consider red flags?
Some of mine include:
Red Flags
-No job and/or car
-Controlling/Clingy
-Won't introduce me to friends/family and won't meet mine
-Still seems hung up on ex(s)
-No respect for family
-Anger issues
Turn offs
-Smoking weed and/or cigarettes
-Bad hygiene (Especially teeth)
-Momma's boy (To an excessive level)
-Clinginess
-Anger issues
-Instability
-Posting problems on social media
What about things that you consider red flags?
Some of mine include:
Red Flags
-No job and/or car
-Controlling/Clingy
-Won't introduce me to friends/family and won't meet mine
-Still seems hung up on ex(s)
-No respect for family
-Anger issues
Turn offs
-Smoking weed and/or cigarettes
-Bad hygiene (Especially teeth)
-Momma's boy (To an excessive level)
-Clinginess
-Anger issues
-Instability
-Posting problems on social media
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Seeing a 28 year old unchaste shrink with bad karma4
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turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off1 -
Red Flags:
Criminal record
Unstable job history
Talks about an ex a lot
Has tons of scantily clad women as friends on social media pages.
Overly jealous
Turn offs:
Smoking
Drinks too much
Poor hygiene of any kind, esp bad teeth
Short
Overweight
Lazy, lack of effort
Only texts and doesnt call
Flaky, breaks promises6 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?
I was curious about the read receipts too1 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?Its_Haleeyyy wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?
I was curious about the read receipts too
way too easy to try and play games if you keep 'em turned off. this ain't even just for relationships tbh. i just inherently don't trust people who keep theirs turned off. 9 out of 10 times they're gone be the ones who screenshot your convo for the group chat.3 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?Its_Haleeyyy wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?
I was curious about the read receipts too
way too easy to try and play games if you keep 'em turned off. this ain't even just for relationships tbh. i just inherently don't trust people who keep theirs turned off. 9 out of 10 times they're gone be the ones who screenshot your convo for the group chat.
I’ve never had that happen to me (I think). I don’t know people behave like that. I keep mine turned off because I can’t always respond right away and don’t want to come across like their text doesn’t matter.
way i see it- they're my friends or sometimes more or whatever. and they gonna have to know that sometimes I'm gonna read their text and I'm just not gonna respond. either I'm busy or tired or with someone else and i don't wanna text back.
so if they're an adult they're gonna have to accept that and it won't be a big deal. and in return they know I'm never gonna hit 'em with that "oops i JUST saw this sorrrrrrry!" response you know3 -
turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
oh well - you can delete me now, esp with the activity of my day 1 -
turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
oh well - you can delete me now, esp with the activity of my day
nah you're secretly one of the better people on here. i wish everyone followed you.1 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?Its_Haleeyyy wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?
I was curious about the read receipts too
way too easy to try and play games if you keep 'em turned off. this ain't even just for relationships tbh. i just inherently don't trust people who keep theirs turned off. 9 out of 10 times they're gone be the ones who screenshot your convo for the group chat.
I’ve never had that happen to me (I think). I don’t know people behave like that. I keep mine turned off because I can’t always respond right away and don’t want to come across like their text doesn’t matter.
that's absolutely valid M - my good friend explained this to me precisely in this context1 -
Red flags
-wanting to come to your house after first date
-falls in love to fast
-turns his phone so the screen is face down
Turn offs
-bad hygiene
-short in height
-too feminine
-no job
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tinkerhellraiser wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?Its_Haleeyyy wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?
I was curious about the read receipts too
way too easy to try and play games if you keep 'em turned off. this ain't even just for relationships tbh. i just inherently don't trust people who keep theirs turned off. 9 out of 10 times they're gone be the ones who screenshot your convo for the group chat.
did u know read receipts auto turn off when you put on “do not disturb”? i learned recently i had to manually put em back on
idk if I've ever used DND mode before. it actually makes me happy that you keep yours on though.0 -
What are read receipts?0
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Shouldn’t “no job” be a deal breaker and not a turn off?
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competeagain4x wrote: »Shouldn’t “no job” be a deal breaker and not a turn off?
It's both.0 -
tinkerhellraiser wrote: »competeagain4x wrote: »
idc if i’m left on read tbh, the best thing about it imo is u know someone isn’t dead if it says “read” but if it’s just “delivered” then they could be in a ditch somewhere
But maybe the kidnapper read it and decided not to respond.
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I keep my read receipts off but turned them on, on my kids’ devices. That way I know for sure that they read my multiple messages and are, in fact, completely ignoring me.5
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Red flag: Lists all the things they dont want in a relationship/partner. When asked what do they want in a partner.
Turn off: someone who is misleading0 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?Its_Haleeyyy wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?
I was curious about the read receipts too
way too easy to try and play games if you keep 'em turned off. this ain't even just for relationships tbh. i just inherently don't trust people who keep theirs turned off. 9 out of 10 times they're gone be the ones who screenshot your convo for the group chat.
HAHAHA I have mine off for my work email! they don't need to know that!1
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