Dating Turn Offs and Red Flags
Its_Haleeyyy
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What are some turn offs for you as far as dating?
What about things that you consider red flags?
Some of mine include:
Red Flags
-No job and/or car
-Controlling/Clingy
-Won't introduce me to friends/family and won't meet mine
-Still seems hung up on ex(s)
-No respect for family
-Anger issues
Turn offs
-Smoking weed and/or cigarettes
-Bad hygiene (Especially teeth)
-Momma's boy (To an excessive level)
-Clinginess
-Anger issues
-Instability
-Posting problems on social media
What about things that you consider red flags?
Some of mine include:
Red Flags
-No job and/or car
-Controlling/Clingy
-Won't introduce me to friends/family and won't meet mine
-Still seems hung up on ex(s)
-No respect for family
-Anger issues
Turn offs
-Smoking weed and/or cigarettes
-Bad hygiene (Especially teeth)
-Momma's boy (To an excessive level)
-Clinginess
-Anger issues
-Instability
-Posting problems on social media
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Seeing a 28 year old unchaste shrink with bad karma4
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turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off1 -
Red Flags:
Criminal record
Unstable job history
Talks about an ex a lot
Has tons of scantily clad women as friends on social media pages.
Overly jealous
Turn offs:
Smoking
Drinks too much
Poor hygiene of any kind, esp bad teeth
Short
Overweight
Lazy, lack of effort
Only texts and doesnt call
Flaky, breaks promises6 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?
I was curious about the read receipts too1 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?Its_Haleeyyy wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?
I was curious about the read receipts too
way too easy to try and play games if you keep 'em turned off. this ain't even just for relationships tbh. i just inherently don't trust people who keep theirs turned off. 9 out of 10 times they're gone be the ones who screenshot your convo for the group chat.3 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?Its_Haleeyyy wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?
I was curious about the read receipts too
way too easy to try and play games if you keep 'em turned off. this ain't even just for relationships tbh. i just inherently don't trust people who keep theirs turned off. 9 out of 10 times they're gone be the ones who screenshot your convo for the group chat.
I’ve never had that happen to me (I think). I don’t know people behave like that. I keep mine turned off because I can’t always respond right away and don’t want to come across like their text doesn’t matter.
way i see it- they're my friends or sometimes more or whatever. and they gonna have to know that sometimes I'm gonna read their text and I'm just not gonna respond. either I'm busy or tired or with someone else and i don't wanna text back.
so if they're an adult they're gonna have to accept that and it won't be a big deal. and in return they know I'm never gonna hit 'em with that "oops i JUST saw this sorrrrrrry!" response you know3 -
turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
oh well - you can delete me now, esp with the activity of my day 1 -
turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
oh well - you can delete me now, esp with the activity of my day
nah you're secretly one of the better people on here. i wish everyone followed you.1 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?Its_Haleeyyy wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?
I was curious about the read receipts too
way too easy to try and play games if you keep 'em turned off. this ain't even just for relationships tbh. i just inherently don't trust people who keep theirs turned off. 9 out of 10 times they're gone be the ones who screenshot your convo for the group chat.
I’ve never had that happen to me (I think). I don’t know people behave like that. I keep mine turned off because I can’t always respond right away and don’t want to come across like their text doesn’t matter.
that's absolutely valid M - my good friend explained this to me precisely in this context1 -
Red flags
-wanting to come to your house after first date
-falls in love to fast
-turns his phone so the screen is face down
Turn offs
-bad hygiene
-short in height
-too feminine
-no job
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tinkerhellraiser wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?Its_Haleeyyy wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?
I was curious about the read receipts too
way too easy to try and play games if you keep 'em turned off. this ain't even just for relationships tbh. i just inherently don't trust people who keep theirs turned off. 9 out of 10 times they're gone be the ones who screenshot your convo for the group chat.
did u know read receipts auto turn off when you put on “do not disturb”? i learned recently i had to manually put em back on
idk if I've ever used DND mode before. it actually makes me happy that you keep yours on though.0 -
What are read receipts?0
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Shouldn’t “no job” be a deal breaker and not a turn off?
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competeagain4x wrote: »Shouldn’t “no job” be a deal breaker and not a turn off?
It's both.0 -
tinkerhellraiser wrote: »competeagain4x wrote: »
idc if i’m left on read tbh, the best thing about it imo is u know someone isn’t dead if it says “read” but if it’s just “delivered” then they could be in a ditch somewhere
But maybe the kidnapper read it and decided not to respond.
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I keep my read receipts off but turned them on, on my kids’ devices. That way I know for sure that they read my multiple messages and are, in fact, completely ignoring me.5
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Red flag: Lists all the things they dont want in a relationship/partner. When asked what do they want in a partner.
Turn off: someone who is misleading0 -
CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?Its_Haleeyyy wrote: »CoffeeAndContour wrote: »turn offs
- dark arm hair
- doesn't wear glasses
- short hair (kinda negotiable)
- can't cook (not saying i want her to babysit me, because i do my own cooking, i just want someone who can do *something* in the kitchen. like one time i knew a girl who didn't know how to fry an egg)
- slovenly
red flags
- keeps her read receipts turned off
Wait. Why the read receipts?
I was curious about the read receipts too
way too easy to try and play games if you keep 'em turned off. this ain't even just for relationships tbh. i just inherently don't trust people who keep theirs turned off. 9 out of 10 times they're gone be the ones who screenshot your convo for the group chat.
HAHAHA I have mine off for my work email! they don't need to know that!1 -
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Turn off...expectations4
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Android user - do I even have read receipts? I don't think so. I can't see when other people have read my messages, either. Is this really a thing? Are people actually getting all het up because someone may or may not have "read" their message at 12:53 but now it's 1:04 and they still haven't responded? This is what I hate about texting. Remember back when you wanted to talk to someone and you actually had to call their HOUSE and if they weren't there, you were just out of luck until they got home and called you back. Now everyone in the world thinks that everyone ELSE in the world is at their beck and call 24/7.
I know. I'll get back to looking for my teeth and shaking my cane at whippersnappers.4 -
JeepHair77 wrote: »Android user - do I even have read receipts? I don't think so. I can't see when other people have read my messages, either. Is this really a thing? Are people actually getting all het up because someone may or may not have "read" their message at 12:53 but now it's 1:04 and they still haven't responded? This is what I hate about texting. Remember back when you wanted to talk to someone and you actually had to call their HOUSE and if they weren't there, you were just out of luck until they got home and called you back. Now everyone in the world thinks that everyone ELSE in the world is at their beck and call 24/7.
I know. I'll get back to looking for my teeth and shaking my cane at whippersnappers.
yeah i been shouted at IRL and over text for not having mine turned on in the past at least.0 -
i see read receipts in my settings (galaxy 7)
i will not have mine on. too controlling-though i do like fb messenger cause i can see if they read my message or not. horse a piece.
not sure what i'm looking for this time around.
turn off
heavy drinker/drug user
heavily invested into a particular stance.
mansplaining
bad grooming
stinky0 -
aerospace_engineer wrote: »Red flag: Lists all the things they dont want in a relationship/partner. When asked what do they want in a partner.
Turn off: someone who is misleading
Yeah agreed.
Or when you try to break it off with someone they give you a list of your pros and cons.
Pal. That doesn't endear me to you surprisingly enough.0 -
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Yeah agreed.
Or when you try to break it off with someone they give you a list of your pros and cons.
Pal. That doesn't endear me to you surprisingly enough. [/quote]
Lol I dont think I have ever been in that scenario. would love to see how that one would pan out.
That just feels odd in thought. What do you do with that? Take it as constructive criticism? ........ I have however been in a scenario where an ex tried to give me advice for my next partner. That was awkward. 😂 0 -
Red flag
If she jumps in to bed on the first date.
That's about the only deal breaker1 -
Yeah agreed.aerospace_engineer wrote: »
Or when you try to break it off with someone they give you a list of your pros and cons.
Pal. That doesn't endear me to you surprisingly enough. [/quote]
Lol I dont think I have ever been in that scenario. would love to see how that one would pan out.
That just feels odd in thought. What do you do with that? Take it as constructive criticism? ........ I have however been in a scenario where an ex tried to give me advice for my next partner. That was awkward. 😂[/quote]
😂😂 My reaction was, "OK. Bye!" It was ridiculous stuff as well, like, "I don't lie it when girls wear their hair up"
Good god. Giving you advice, bit presumptuous.0 -
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