Ladies- how do you stop comparing yourself?

I think that is usually more of a mental thing, when one is feeling insecure. If I catch myself doing that I try to step back and look at the bigger picture (as silly as that may sound) and try to focus less on appearances and more on other ways to make myself feel good and boost my self-esteem, like meeting personal goals and helping others.

I read back over this and it does sound so Pollyanna and "woo" but I truly mean it. I remember times in my life when I endlessly compared myself to others, and it was usually indicative of bigger problems psychologically and not that closely related to weight or fitness.

Comparison is common, for women and men. If it spurs you to try harder in a healthy way, then use it to your advantage. But, if it makes you feel poorly about yourself then it's best to try to stop doing it, which is hard, I admit. At that point you have to give yourself a positive pep-talk just like you'd do for a friend who was feeling down about themselves.

Also, keep track of what you're proud of. Things you do and have done that make you feel accomplished. We tend to forget things like that.

i ask myself if i can do something to make me comparable and if i'm willing to do the work.

and usually, i am not that interested. it is usually related to my BF% or spending more time exercising.
and if it's a genetic thing, i say bless 'em

Eh, everyone has something about themselves they don’t like. The same women you look at and envy could very well be doing the same thing to you.

I think it’s important to focus on the things you like about yourself. Maybe each day start writing down or saying out loud 5 things you like about yourself. Or each time you see someone and think “Oh, I wish I looked like her” make a conscious effort to tell yourself things you like about you. It may sound cheesy but if you want to change your thought processes you have to put in some mental effort to do it, it may feel cheesy or fake a first but keep at it and it really can help rewire your thinking.

There's nothing wrong with comparing yourself to others. The problem is when you feel you don't measure up to some ideal. So what if she's taller, thinner, firmer, etc. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. People are all different, and you need to love yourself--faults and all. Focus on your good points, and if it helps you can mentally downgrade your comparison. (She's thinner, but I've got a better butt, her nose is big, my clothes fit better, and I would never be with that guy.) If you're going to take inventory, you have to count your strengths as well.

I used to compare myself to the pretty people all the time. What stopped me was learning what was behind the facade. The women I envied had faced challenges I'd never imagined. That skinny beauty had suffered a miscarriage, that tall blonde had lupis, that gorgeous lady had an abusive husband. The people I envied, and thought had it all, had their own share of ups and downs I didn't have. All things considered, I wouldn't trade.

Lastly, confidence makes you prettier. Be the best you. Work it. Stand up tall and proud, and don't tear yourself down. Compare yourself to last week's you, and try to be better than her--inside and out.

I compare all the time.

I can’t help it.

But now that I have lost most of the weight I wanted and am generally much fitter the comparison ceased to be automatically negative. And I feel better most of the time. Still a work in progress but heading there.

There are parts of my body that not matter what I think I could never be happy enough with, but some others parts that have hit the spot now make it good for me.

To strive toward an ideal is great but sometimes you forget where you’ve come from. Do compare yourself to less attractive people too and realise «  I used to be this size, yeaaah go meeee !!! » I might sound petty but sometimes it’s what’s needed.

I think I did that when I was unhappy with myself. I made an effort to find things I liked about myself and I don't care as much any more. I have friends and family all shapes and sizes and what makes them great is not their body being model perfect.
A person is more than looks. Maybe you are nicer, stronger, healthier, have better relationships, a better job, more friends, etc. You don't know what that person is going through so comparing your looks and deciding they are better than you might be a pretty silly thing to do.

Most people have things they don't love about themselves even if you think they look amazing. The grass is always greener on the other side. You are probably someone else's ideal.