It’s easy for you (rant)

Full disclosure: my antenna are up for people who discount the hard work of others by dismissing any success as “easy for you.” Straight As, professional recognition, weight loss (or maintenance).... it must have been easy or there’s no way you could have achieved it. Hard work, persistence, patience... I’m not giving you credit for that. You can only do easy things.

It’s annoyingly but not uncommon. I expect it from my mother. But my husband? Jeez. Tonight he actually said, “It’s easy for you because you’re disciplined.” To my ears, that’s an oxymoron. Discipline isn’t easy. Discipline is synonymous with effort. Consistent effort. Example: Yesterday I did my 4mi run in a cold rain. Not fun. As he laid on a chaise lounge indoors, he saw me gird up to face the elements. Easy? Where is he coming from?

Crazy thing is I’ve been sympathetic with his efforts to lose weight. No reciprocation, evidently. I guess that’s what hurts. I encourage and he dismisses. To all of you MFP-ers out there, I appreciate the effort it takes. It’s not easy.
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  • snowflake954
    snowflake954 Posts: 8,399 Member
    edited December 2018
    OP--they always say opposites attract. I'd just put it down to that (after I stomped out of the house).
  • girlwithcurls2
    girlwithcurls2 Posts: 2,281 Member
    Hugs, OP. Clearly you're in good company :heart:
  • psychod787
    psychod787 Posts: 4,099 Member
    Ain't "kitten" easy!
  • foxtrot1965
    foxtrot1965 Posts: 133 Member
    edited December 2018
    I hope you tell him that too!! People often dont know when they are minimizing
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    "Easy for you" is implicitly confessing "I'm so lazy I can't get off my fat *kitten* to keep up with you."

    So, when you think about it, it really is easy.