What holds people back from noticing/ complimenting?

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  • msmandyjo
    msmandyjo Posts: 95 Member
    Aside from jealousy/ their own insecurity, that is.

    I've come from XXL to M, and the only people who have said anything are the ones who already know I've changed my lifestyle around. Everyone else either hasn't noticed, or... something's keeping them from commenting on it. They're still just as friendly though, so I don't think they're being insecure... Or maybe I just need to lose more :laugh:

    I know I've gotten significantly thinner. I know I look much better. I just want to know why sometimes people don't notice/ say anything. Not just to me, but in general.
    In the workplace I think people are held back because of harassment laws. Even if the compliment is not meant to be of a sexual nature. I know I've held back many times giving out compliments for that very reason. Darn litigious society... LOL

    That's my thought as well... tell somebody they are looking good, and the next thing you know you're slapped with a lawsuit or stuck in mandatory training.

    also, if it's people you see on a daily basis, they might not notice, the same as you don't notice looking in the mirror. But, if they saw a picture of before they'd do a double take, even if they'd seen you almost every day in between.
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    For better or worse, ever since it became illegal for a boy to tell a girl she is fat, people bite their tongues about the size of other people.
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