Are you okay being a little overweight
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I'm sure they do since they see and have seen many, many patients. Your situation is not unique.8
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singingflutelady wrote: »I'm sure they do since they see and have seen many, many patients. Your situation is not unique.
I don’t have an eating disorder team. I just have a normal primary care provider and a dietician I called in for backup
The dietitian you see seems knowledgeable. Listen to what she says.5 -
singingflutelady wrote: »I'm sure they do since they see and have seen many, many patients. Your situation is not unique.
I don’t have an eating disorder team. I just have a normal primary care provider and a dietician I called in for backup
And have you ASKED either one of them what to do? Have you shown them your posts?
If you haven't, you have no idea what they think. You are presuming, because your ED brain is telling you that no one could possibly understand.
Again: Your dietitian told you to not focus on weight loss. SHE clearly has an opinion. You need to listen to it.
Get. Help.
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singingflutelady wrote: »I'm sure they do since they see and have seen many, many patients. Your situation is not unique.
I don’t have an eating disorder team. I just have a normal primary care provider and a dietician I called in for backup
Which is why everyone here is telling you to seek help from a team that deals with eating disorders!5 -
want the change now. It’s almost like a panic, like I want to rip the extra weight from my body. I hate it so much. And I hate always being on guard out in public in case anyone points it out. I feel like the extra weight I carry is an elephant in the room, and everyone is too kind to say anything but it’s blatantly obvious. To me, this is unsafe (being overweight). Losing the weight all mean I’m okay and safe in my body again.collectingblues wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »Or would you rather go all the way and get to a “normal” BMI? Right now I’m a little overweight, and I’m wondering how detrimental it is to be staying at this spot. It makes me uncomfortable being in this limbo - I’d love to get to a “normal” healthy weight for my peace of mind, but it’s like my body is resisting any weight loss beyond this point.
Ask your treatment team
I think they’re okay with me losing 20 pounds
If that's the case, why did your dietitian tell you to put loss on a backburner?
Even if they are OK with it, that doesn't mean they're OK wit h it NOW. And you need to focus on the now.
Sweetie. Sweetie. Sweetie. You're not huge - I swear. I understand that you're thinking that, I do.
It's a tiny bit of extra weight, at most. You're OK. Really. You're safe, I promise. Granny promises, from the safety of decades' knowledge. Hugs!!
Curl up in the blankets. Breathe. You're OK. Push off the panic. Get warm, get cozy, get through the moment, however you can. Tell that guy of yours (very emphatically) that you need hugs and comfort, not instuctions, not weigh-ins. Assert yourself. That's strength.)
It's OK. You can hold on. Your appointments are so soon (I get that it seems like infinity!). Hold on: FInd your very own possible, amazing, stong way: It's in reach.16 -
Lillymoo01 wrote: »singingflutelady wrote: »I'm sure they do since they see and have seen many, many patients. Your situation is not unique.
I don’t have an eating disorder team. I just have a normal primary care provider and a dietician I called in for backup
Which is why everyone here is telling you to seek help from a team that deals with eating disorders!
I don’t know if I’m that far gone yet...
You don't know it but everyone reading yours posts does. You need professional help from someone with expertise in.eating disorders.10 -
singingflutelady wrote: »Just want to add I'm in longtime recovery from Anorexia binge/purge and been through both inpatient and outpatient treatment. There is no way that your team would be happy with you losing 20 lbs right now. You are going down a very dangerous place. You do not want to end up with all of the health issues I now have (an ileostomy and a feeding tube) by hurting yourslef with your stinking thinking.
I don’t think they know what to do with me
I'm sure there are tens, if not hundreds, of therapists within driving distance of you who know what to do with you. It's up to you to actually seek one out. And no, you're neither ok nor are you safe.8 -
collectingblues wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »Or would you rather go all the way and get to a “normal” BMI? Right now I’m a little overweight, and I’m wondering how detrimental it is to be staying at this spot. It makes me uncomfortable being in this limbo - I’d love to get to a “normal” healthy weight for my peace of mind, but it’s like my body is resisting any weight loss beyond this point.
Ask your treatment team
I think they’re okay with me losing 20 pounds
If that's the case, why did your dietitian tell you to put loss on a backburner?
Even if they are OK with it, that doesn't mean they're OK with it NOW. And you need to focus on the now.
I want the change now. It’s almost like a panic, like I want to rip the extra weight from my body. I hate it so much. And I hate always being on guard out in public in case anyone points it out. I feel like the extra weight I carry is an elephant in the room, and everyone is too kind to say anything but it’s blatantly obvious. To me, this is unsafe (being overweight). Losing the weight all mean I’m okay and safe in my body again.
Tell this to your therapist ... not us.7 -
Lillymoo01 wrote: »singingflutelady wrote: »I'm sure they do since they see and have seen many, many patients. Your situation is not unique.
I don’t have an eating disorder team. I just have a normal primary care provider and a dietician I called in for backup
Which is why everyone here is telling you to seek help from a team that deals with eating disorders!
I don’t know if I’m that far gone yet...
Yes. You are. Talk to a depression councillor today. Talk to your medical team tomorrow. You've got an appointment tomorrow ... right?8 -
Lillymoo01 wrote: »singingflutelady wrote: »I'm sure they do since they see and have seen many, many patients. Your situation is not unique.
I don’t have an eating disorder team. I just have a normal primary care provider and a dietician I called in for backup
Which is why everyone here is telling you to seek help from a team that deals with eating disorders!
I don’t know if I’m that far gone yet...
This is a very common thought among people with eating disorders. I remember thinking at my worst that if I just lost 10 more pounds, THEN I could get the help I needed. I wish I had gotten help sooner.
Please speak with your primary care doctor or dietician and ask about setting up a team, if you do not currently have one.
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6 weeks ago i went to the doctor. An RN who did vitals said my BMI was too much. Talking to to the doctor he said nonsense, maybe 10 pounds the numbers quoted you don't take muscle and bone into consideration. Eat 200 more calories
and work out a little less. Lose 1 or 2 pounds a month. I said you better talk to this head nurse as I may sue due to receiving unqualified medical advice if it happens again. Take advice from professionals and do the actions they suggest or seek a second opinion.7 -
Lillymoo01 wrote: »singingflutelady wrote: »I'm sure they do since they see and have seen many, many patients. Your situation is not unique.
I don’t have an eating disorder team. I just have a normal primary care provider and a dietician I called in for backup
Which is why everyone here is telling you to seek help from a team that deals with eating disorders!
I don’t know if I’m that far gone yet...
Ok so there are so many things going on in that phrase. First - everyone can benefit from therapy. I don't care if you don't have a diagnosable mental health issue, therapy is useful for everyone. Secondly, as my therapist once told me - you can't see what others can because you are not your own mirror. It's clear as day to everyone here that your thinking is disordered and you need to see therapist who specializes in eating disorders.
And I mean, I can think of various things (outside of insurance/money) that would make finding a therapist that is even kind of a good fit or impatient treatment for someone hard, that said I don't think that any of those things apply to you. That's a good thing. Eating disorders are incredibly common and because of that, there are lots of therapists who specialize in it. Your primary care physician is not equipped to meet all or even most your needs in part because there's no way that they can see you often enough to do so. I can't imagine you're really getting any continuity of care which is what you need. I realize that you think that there aren't therapists out there that can handle what you're dealing with, but those thoughts a symptom of cognitive distortions.
Honestly, if you don't eventually see a therapist your academics are probably going to take a major hit. Not because you're not smart, but because what you're dealing with, mental health wise, is incredibly pervasive. Never mind that you need to eat enough nutrients to actually function in class and do your homework (this is a major issue that students who are dealing with food insecurity have actually). I have been down the road of mental health issues (in my case severe major depressive disorder as well as anxiety) adversely affecting my academics in a really major way. You want to avoid that, you really do or at the very least try to put things in place to deal with it. Right now you don't have anything in place to avoid or attempt to manage that very real possibility.
Good luck.8 -
collectingblues wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »Or would you rather go all the way and get to a “normal” BMI? Right now I’m a little overweight, and I’m wondering how detrimental it is to be staying at this spot. It makes me uncomfortable being in this limbo - I’d love to get to a “normal” healthy weight for my peace of mind, but it’s like my body is resisting any weight loss beyond this point.
Ask your treatment team
I think they’re okay with me losing 20 pounds
If that's the case, why did your dietitian tell you to put loss on a backburner?
Even if they are OK with it, that doesn't mean they're OK with it NOW. And you need to focus on the now.
I want the change now. It’s almost like a panic, like I want to rip the extra weight from my body. I hate it so much. And I hate always being on guard out in public in case anyone points it out. I feel like the extra weight I carry is an elephant in the room, and everyone is too kind to say anything but it’s blatantly obvious. To me, this is unsafe (being overweight). Losing the weight all mean I’m okay and safe in my body again.
Except that's not really true at all, is it? That's your disordered thoughts and emotions getting the better of you.3 -
Lillymoo01 wrote: »singingflutelady wrote: »I'm sure they do since they see and have seen many, many patients. Your situation is not unique.
I don’t have an eating disorder team. I just have a normal primary care provider and a dietician I called in for backup
Which is why everyone here is telling you to seek help from a team that deals with eating disorders!
I don’t know if I’m that far gone yet...
You really, really are that far gone.6 -
Lillymoo01 wrote: »singingflutelady wrote: »I'm sure they do since they see and have seen many, many patients. Your situation is not unique.
I don’t have an eating disorder team. I just have a normal primary care provider and a dietician I called in for backup
Which is why everyone here is telling you to seek help from a team that deals with eating disorders!
I don’t know if I’m that far gone yet...
Yes, you are. Many people here are telling you that. Please ask your doctor at your appointment tomorrow to see an eating disorders specialist and show him/her your posts on here.4 -
I was really happy when I got out of the "overweight" category. The BMI numbers are medical numbers and I can't talk myself into thinking I'm the exception.
Why not just lose to the high end of your normal BMI? Losing below that is just a matter of personal goals.14 -
elisa123gal wrote: »I was really happy when I got out of the "overweight" category. The BMI numbers are medical numbers and I can't talk myself into thinking I'm the exception.
Why not just lose to the high end of your normal BMI? Losing below that is just a matter of personal goals.
Have you even read the thread? Encouraging her to lose weight AT ALL RIGHT NOW is completely misguided.14 -
singingflutelady wrote: »I'm sure they do since they see and have seen many, many patients. Your situation is not unique.I don’t have an eating disorder team. I just have a normal primary care provider and a dietician I called in for backupLillymoo01 wrote: »Which is why everyone here is telling you to seek help from a team that deals with eating disorders!I don’t know if I’m that far gone yet...
As everyone familiar with your threads recommends you get professional help, yes, you really are that far gone now.8
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