Is She a Cougar?
Jimb376mfp
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I read that P Chopra (36 yo) married Nick Jonas (26 yo). I think of a Cougar as 40 yo or older. A guy with a younger wife is no big deal? Is having a younger man more common now?
In 1990s I worked with a lady 30 something who had a husband 12 year younger. There was a whisper campaign that went around the office, but we didn’t yet know the term for Cougar.
(BTW I’m 70 yo so NO I’m not looking for a Cougar, I married a 19 yo...we will be married 50 years in February!)
In 1990s I worked with a lady 30 something who had a husband 12 year younger. There was a whisper campaign that went around the office, but we didn’t yet know the term for Cougar.
(BTW I’m 70 yo so NO I’m not looking for a Cougar, I married a 19 yo...we will be married 50 years in February!)
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That's amazing Jim!. So happy for you and hope you have fun plans for you and your young bride😘 in February!🤗
I think as long as they are happy and on the same maturity level it's fine. Also I think it must be hard when you are with any one who is young enough to be your child, but as the years creep in it evens out I suppose...and of course it's the norm since the days BC for a male to be much older than his very young bride. Why should it be different between December woman and May male? But it somehow just is.
Few women seem brave enough to take the plunge, most I'm thinking would worry what others would say, and about while they.look great now, but how will it be I'm say 20 years, when she is say 60, and he is 40, which is the difference between Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher....when she was confident and 40 (which is still young these days), and he was a young buck of 20...life was good....I know he cheated or so they say, but I read many articles saying how hard she tries to be younger because she was obviously insecure, and that's sad because of double standards for men and women....men become silver foxes and women well we don't stay visible or haven't until.recently...and I'm thrilled that's changing!!!
Please for one moment don't think I feel looks have anything to do with one's self worth...I.so do not. But we're talking about appearance and what is socially acceptable right? Socially is usually shallow ya know?!😒
Boy...I could have just said....I think they'll be perfectly fine, and 10 yrs is really nothing....but I had a lot of caffeine today Jim and sorry I used your thread to release some mental jitters lol🙄🤐🤷🤦
Big Hugs Jim! Great question and also I again I am so happy for you and your Mrs! ❤😍2 -
I think cougar has more to do with behavior rather than just age. Think hair coloring, jeans with funky stitching, and profuse armpit sweat at the bar. That's a cougar. And I'm all in.3
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I aspire to be a cougar one day!
Gimme another 20 years and I'll be on the prowl4 -
If only the cougars knew what their significantly younger sex partners say about the cougar to their friends and associates when the cougar isn't around. Which is one of the reasons why, historically, experienced women with common sense "date" older or same age, not younger.3
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If only the cougars knew what their significantly younger sex partners say about the cougar to their friends and associates when the cougar isn't around. Which is one of the reasons why, historically, experienced women with common sense "date" older or same age, not younger.
What do they say?3 -
Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »If only the cougars knew what their significantly younger sex partners say about the cougar to their friends and associates when the cougar isn't around. Which is one of the reasons why, historically, experienced women with common sense "date" older or same age, not younger.
What do they say?
Nothing that I can quote here but suffice to say, comments that objectify at best and at worst, blatantly demean.3 -
Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »If only the cougars knew what their significantly younger sex partners say about the cougar to their friends and associates when the cougar isn't around. Which is one of the reasons why, historically, experienced women with common sense "date" older or same age, not younger.
What do they say?
Nothing that I can quote here but suffice to say, comments that objectify at best and at worst, blatantly demean.
@newmeadow
so.....
that's wrong?1 -
I aspire to be a cougar one day!
Gimme another 20 years and I'll be on the prowl
This is the difference. A cougar has prey. It has nothing to do with age.
Personally, in the days when I cared about dating and sex, I always got along better with younger guys. It was a mental age thing.
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Happiness....however you describe it!!1
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SurfyFoFurfy wrote: »MistressSara wrote: »SurfyFoFurfy wrote: »I was in a relationship with a man 16 years younger than me. He never had a problem with it but I definitely had concerns about how his family and friends would view our togetherness. If anything, he was always reassuring me because despite not being an insecure woman before us, together, the age difference made me fear he would not find me desirable as I aged. I dislike the term cougar. I think it is yet another made-up, sensationalist/negative label women of age have to bear. My ex taught me a lot, always pointing out that it would be perfectly acceptable in society's eyes if our age-roles were reversed and he was older. He always made me feel desirable and beautiful. I am thankful for the experience and it's funny, it is as if I am now always encountering couples where the woman is significantly older than the man. Crazy.
Thank you for sharing your experience. If you feel ok continuing (if not, totally cool), did age have anything to do with your breakup?
Merci. It is such a taboo topic. Most in my life I have had the courage to share this with, have responded negatively, so I stopped doing so. But instead, I go share it on a public forum haahah! But why not, I am not ashamed and besides he is farking gorgeous! Also, age is not why we broke up.
The French president knows where it's at, as does Jason Mamoa
Jason Mamoa 38, Lisa Bonet 50 - they look amazing together and I love the way they dress...
Totally agree and what I was trying to.say but you so very eloquently and selflessly did! Thank you beautiful girl...you're not only beautiful on the outside but inside as well! It's the way society sees us...and it's dead wrong! I love.Jason Mamoa because hello he's just so dang hot and big...but because he loves his wife and always gushes on her...also besides the handsome French.President there is Hugh Jackman as well.....wolverine knows where it's at!🤗💓 hugs!!!!!1 -
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SurfyFoFurfy wrote: »I was in a relationship with a man 16 years younger than me. He never had a problem with it but I definitely had concerns about how his family and friends would view our togetherness. If anything, he was always reassuring me because despite not being an insecure woman before us, together, the age difference made me fear he would not find me desirable as I aged. I dislike the term cougar. I think it is yet another made-up, sensationalist/negative label women of age have to bear. My ex taught me a lot, always pointing out that it would be perfectly acceptable in society's eyes if our age-roles were reversed and he was older. He always made me feel desirable and beautiful. I am thankful for the experience and it's funny, it is as if I am now always encountering couples where the woman is significantly older than the man. Crazy.
I find this hard to believe, the part of you dating someone 16 years younger than you, was he 12 when you started dating? xD you seem young to me!1 -
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SurfyFoFurfy wrote: »Tankiscool wrote: »SurfyFoFurfy wrote: »I was in a relationship with a man 16 years younger than me. He never had a problem with it but I definitely had concerns about how his family and friends would view our togetherness. If anything, he was always reassuring me because despite not being an insecure woman before us, together, the age difference made me fear he would not find me desirable as I aged. I dislike the term cougar. I think it is yet another made-up, sensationalist/negative label women of age have to bear. My ex taught me a lot, always pointing out that it would be perfectly acceptable in society's eyes if our age-roles were reversed and he was older. He always made me feel desirable and beautiful. I am thankful for the experience and it's funny, it is as if I am now always encountering couples where the woman is significantly older than the man. Crazy.
I find this hard to believe, the part of you dating someone 16 years younger than you, was he 12 when you started dating? xD you seem young to me!
HAAaha you smooth operator you..YOU COUGAR
I am 44 years old, 45 in a few weeks time.
Haha I am serious! Well happy early birthday!
I'm 28 btw which reminds me, how you doin? 😉 haha0 -
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leut_underpants wrote: »SurfyFoFurfy wrote: »Tankiscool wrote: »SurfyFoFurfy wrote: »I was in a relationship with a man 16 years younger than me. He never had a problem with it but I definitely had concerns about how his family and friends would view our togetherness. If anything, he was always reassuring me because despite not being an insecure woman before us, together, the age difference made me fear he would not find me desirable as I aged. I dislike the term cougar. I think it is yet another made-up, sensationalist/negative label women of age have to bear. My ex taught me a lot, always pointing out that it would be perfectly acceptable in society's eyes if our age-roles were reversed and he was older. He always made me feel desirable and beautiful. I am thankful for the experience and it's funny, it is as if I am now always encountering couples where the woman is significantly older than the man. Crazy.
I find this hard to believe, the part of you dating someone 16 years younger than you, was he 12 when you started dating? xD you seem young to me!
HAAaha you smooth operator you..YOU COUGAR
I am 44 years old, 45 in a few weeks time.
I'm apparently free now, and definitely a few years older than you.
#bringbackthemintgreenslacks
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I'm mid 20s and a dude. I find it sooo much easier to talk and connect with older women. By older I mean 35 - 45. I don't think the age difference is all that bad..at the present but when I'm 50 and she's 65+ i think it would be a different story. Could be a generation thing..
But my then I think, my Dad is 12 years older than my Mum..and it's not so Strange.1 -
I think cougar means an older woman seeking out much younger men. I think it describes a pattern of repeated behavior rather than a woman dating or marrying one person younger than themselves. I don't think a man being older than their partner is any different behavior. A 40 year old guy always trying to date 20 year olds is pretty much the same as a 40 year old woman dating 20 year olds.
My husband is 6 years younger than me. I was not looking for a relationship with a younger man and was surprised when I found out he was younger as he was very mature. I hesitated over our age difference and probably would have even more with someone 10 years or more younger. Love isn't a neat number though. I think an age gap matters less when you are in a similar life stage like working and raising young kids.1 -
I am down for wutevs, if she's hot.2
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