LOVE CHUB: is your significant other making you fat??

I put most of my weight on when i met him 7 years ago and he does this very annoying thing where he supports me for like 3 days then tries to convince me to eat pizza or have something super bad and i used to slip up and give in.I now tell him to eat whatever the hell he wants but i wont be party to it and hes started to do it less. I guess iv just had to be firm with him lol.

I'm exactly the same, met my boyfriend 3 years ago and then the weight just came from nowhere. He eats twice as much as me and has not put as much weight on as me, though he still has put a little bit on.
Now we're losing weight together.

I had to make him promise to help me lose weight because it was so hard to diet around him while he was scoffing chocolate and pizza.

Yes! I am 5'5", whereas my boyfriend is 6'4", but INSISTS on equality when serving us dinner etc. Which, I know is him trying to be nice and fair, but I don't think he realises that somebody my size shouldn't be eating the same portions sizes as somebody of his build!

Plus, he is one of those boyfriends who when I say that I'm not happy and need to lose weight, he tells me that I am perfect the way I am and doesn't want me to change.

Just let me get fit, for goodness sake! Haha.

My BF seems to live off take aways! Then moans that he's putting on weight! MEN!

But yeah when we first got together we went out a fair bit or had take aways or he'd cook mammoth portions, as does his mum when she cooks, or it's what they THINK is healthy, but it's battered fish or something with chips, or sauces, or piles of pasta! It got to the point where I'd eat before I went round, or say I felt ill as I'd get the 3rd degree why I wasn't eating everything!

The BF can't understand now why I can eat a mcdonalds and still loose weight, he forgets that nearly every night I'm riding for at least an hour and then mucking out for the same!

Ha! You mean if someone made their boyfriend/husband fat?

I did!
I took away his soda (pepsi) and he replaced is sugary beverage with PIZZA at every meal.
Gained 10-15lbs in about a month and had to buy new pants.

He's now trying moderation with pepsi and pizza

This is so true! Read my profile...it all started with the relationship. We love food, cooking and eating out...we were a disaster together. I remember at uni we'd sit down with a big bowl of pasta and not answer the door because we were so embarrassed of anyone seeing how much food we were eating.

Also we're around the same height but my belief in gender equality meant I always wanted to eat exactly the same as him. I also did this by drinking pints at uni...matching all my male friends pint for pint...

Whenever I've dieted he's joined me and he now weighs pasta, rice portions etc but takeaways were a problem and whenever I suggested halving what we ordered or leaving half for the next day he'd look so hurt as though I was depriving him.

He also indirectly guilt trips me like when we've had a big lunch and he suggests some dinner and I say I'm ok but you go ahead, he says oh never mind I won't eat either which always made me feel guilty so I'd end up eating.

I managed to prove that he was having a bad effect on my weight when i spent 3 months on my own in Spain, eating for myself, going out freely and certainly not consciously dieting. I lost around 10lbs...he got the message. I think he has his own issues - food is a real treat for him and he can't treat himself with other stuff in the way I can (a nice new Chanel lipstick or something!) He also doesn't like cooking for himself (he'd prefer to get a pizza etc...) but he'll gladly cook for both of us whereas I don't mind cooking for just myself.

But this time he's been great. Very supportive. The real breakthrough was getting a takeaway and ordering about half of what we'd normally order and he acknowledged that he felt full but did say if there'd been double the amount he'd probably have eaten it! But we're getting there...

I love how guys are so polite lol!! I gained 25 kilos (50 pounds) since I met him... and I've lost most of it now...but when I ask him now..."hey remember how fat I was last year" he says "you never had any weight to lose!!"....im like "dude I was nearly your weight...and you are 6'1 and I'm 5'5" :P hahaha...

we eat completely different things! sometimes we would get different take outs for both of us..like i wud grab a subway and he wud get indian take away...haha..yup that's how i'm losing weight!! not eating with my bf anymore...

we do eat out once a week, but i'm very firm on my ORDER A SALAD WITH DRESSING ON SIDE or SOMETHING GRILLED options hehe...and its working out beautifully !!!!

but seriously though, how unfair is it!?!?!?! i hate boys and their metabolism!!

wud love to hear if the weight gain happened for the guy in the relationship..

lol speaking of metabolism, my bestie (who is a chick) lives off maccas, kfc, kingsleys is 46 kg?! and she is ALWAYS eating :O not fair.

I have a friend like that (eats everything but super skinny!) She's 17, her prom dress was a UK sz4 (sz 0) Yet I've never met anyone who can put away as much food as she does and STILL STAY SKINNY! Mind you since I've started riding her horses with her and helping out down the yard the weight has started to come off thank god, I really want at least another 10lbs off by xmas... 17 and a bit weeks.... 2 weddings and a 2 week holiday inbetween... I think I can manage that!