Please tell me if it’s me...

jenniferanderson3888
jenniferanderson3888 Posts: 53 Member
edited December 19 in Health and Weight Loss
Ok. My mother in law is living with us. I do not bring any sweets in the house. But she keeps bringing them in. I think it’s very rude. I struggle with sweets and can’t be around them. Last week I blew my plan because she brought home donuts. My husband says it’s me. I need to have will power. I think they should respect the fact I can’t have them in the house. Is it me? What would u do?
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  • snickerscharlie
    snickerscharlie Posts: 8,578 Member
    @jenniferanderson3888 - Is your M-I-L living with you a recent thing? Or is your diet the new element here?
  • missysippy930
    missysippy930 Posts: 2,577 Member
    It’s hard having a relative, other than your spouse, SO, and children, living under the same roof. Even immediate family members have different needs. To deny others because you don’t want a certain food is a little unreasonable. At work, foods and treats are always coming into the office. It’s a lot easier to learn to resist something yourself than to expect people in their home to not bring certain foods into the home you share.
  • Johnd2000
    Johnd2000 Posts: 198 Member
    I’m with your husband on this.
  • kds10
    kds10 Posts: 452 Member
    NovusDies wrote: »
    I don't like to say what is right or wrong with only one side of the story but I don't like that your husband was so dismissive of your situation.

    You don't take your mother's side over your wife in normal situations. You just don't.

    I am afraid there is not much I can suggest that probably won't end in a major fight. I believe respect is among the core principles of a marriage.

    I hope you two are fairly young and he just needs to grow up a little.

    My advice is to stand your ground. Tell him that in time you may be able to handle it but until then there will be no sweets left in the house. They can eat them elsewhere. You want your MiL to feel at home but this should not be a big thing to ask.

    I would definitely ask this forum for strategies to help deal with your sweets situation.

    Edited to remove a bad comparison that should not have been made.

    LOL....sounds like a typical husband to me...taking the mother side over the wife. I don't know maybe just me but most men find it hard to confront their mothers.

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