Anyone else get irritated when they see people lose weight super fast.

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  • GreenValli
    GreenValli Posts: 1,054 Member
    edited February 2019
    I am not irritated. Seeing my co-workers lose weight it actually motivates me. If they can do it, so can I.
  • Danp
    Danp Posts: 1,561 Member
    Not at all. I'm stoked for them!

    Weight management isn't a zero sum game. Their success in no way impacts, diminishes or takes anything away from me so why wouldn't I want to see and take pleasure in a fellow human being's success and happiness.
  • SCoil123
    SCoil123 Posts: 2,111 Member
    Irritated isn’t the right word for me. There were points when I found myself a little envious because it looked easier for others. Then I got to know them. It wasn’t easier for them they were just doing things I wasn’t.

    One gym friend was constantly telling me she didn’t count what she ate and had simply reduced her portions. The weight fell off her. We worked out together so I knew what her fitness looked like. But what I didn’t realize is that she walks a lot more than I realized in her job. When she had told me she had an office but also did field work I assumed she was mostly in her office since I am - but she isn’t and takes 12,000-16,000 steps a day at work. I also didn’t realize that when she did she reduced portions she actually had cut her portion size in half, be it visually she had still actually cut far more calories than I had from her previous diet.

    Moral of the story - you have no idea what is going on that you don’t see influencing other people’s results so best just to focus on your journey. You’ll get there.
  • HeliumIsNoble
    HeliumIsNoble Posts: 1,213 Member
    I sometimes feel worried for them and their health.

    Not irritated though. I chose a lower target rate of loss, so why would I be irritated that people are losing at a faster rate than I chose to do so?
  • etherealanwar
    etherealanwar Posts: 465 Member
    I understand where you're coming from. I know I should not let it bother me but I cannot help it. The way I see it is that I could have been done with the weight loss portion by now had I not strayed off my path in the beginning. I originally set a goal to reach my goal weight in one year from 200 lbs to 125 lbs. I reached 148 lbs by the end of 2018 and projected to take another 4-5 months to get to my goal which I am honestly upset about. Thing is I am eating 1,200 calories a day and do not plan on going any lower so I assume my TDEE is just not that high. I never lost at a rate of 2 lbs a week when I *should* have (back at my starting weight). Nothing I can do about it.

    On the positive side, I have ingrained better eating habits along the way and I'm very confident I will not have trouble maintaining. I HAVE lost a significant amount of weight which I do realize and am proud of. If I could make it so it doesn't bother me I would but sadly it does (and I KNOW comparing our progress is not a smart idea). I'll get to my goal eventually!
  • lthames0810
    lthames0810 Posts: 722 Member
    I am the one losing faster than a woman at work and she seems irritated about it and it makes me feel bad. She always goes on an extreme diet then inevitably quits in a couple of weeks.

    She once asked me how I do it. When I told her she insisted that could never work for her. I think she's actually angry at herself, not me, but I feel bad anyway.
  • Phirrgus
    Phirrgus Posts: 1,894 Member
    I'll congratulate them. Realistically speaking, I have no way of knowing that they won't keep the weight off even though personal experience (myself and others) suggests otherwise.

    I just don't see a reason to discourage someone who recognizes that they need to do something about their weight. I will speak up though if I have reason to believe that what they're doing may cause actual long term harm though. That's usually only if they initiate the conversation though, usually....
  • etherealanwar
    etherealanwar Posts: 465 Member
    DancingMoosie wrote: »
    IDK...I guess I lost weight pretty quickly. Are you irritated by me? Also, just because someone loses weight quickly doesn't mean it's all water or they'll gain it all right back again.

    I don't think anyone is irritated at people who lose weight quicker than themselves, more so just jealous most of the time. Those who regain are typically those who went on a crash diet of sorts and did not learn new eating habits that would aid them in maintenance. In no way does this mean that all those who lose fast re-gain but it's been evident that a majority do.
  • palmerb2
    palmerb2 Posts: 48 Member
    Also keep in mind some of them may have had weight loss surgery to aid in that loss and may have not made it public. I had the surgery in October and technically a slow loser but I've lost 46 lbs since then. Others that had it around the same time have lost a lot more then I have and some less than me. Everyone's journey is different though. I wouldn't focus on them and just stay proud of your accomplishments and keep up the great work.
  • debrakgoogins
    debrakgoogins Posts: 2,033 Member
    quiksylver296 wrote: »
    No. I assume they are on some fad diet, and I'll see them back up at their starting weight or worse soon.

    ^Ditto^ I also wonder how much muscle they have compromised to lose weight that fast.
  • Johnd2000
    Johnd2000 Posts: 198 Member
    I don’t feel jealous, but I do worry for their health, particularly if it’s someone from my generation (old).

    One thing I’ve learnt over the last few years is that fast weight loss is harder to sustain (so rebounds are more likely) and risks losing muscle mass.

    If I’d lost my first 50lbs at half the rate I did, I’d have been in much better shape by the time I hit my initial goal weight. As it was, I looked half dead and it took me 2 years to get back to full fitness/strength.

  • MeganReid1991
    MeganReid1991 Posts: 170 Member
    DancingMoosie wrote: »
    IDK...I guess I lost weight pretty quickly. Are you irritated by me? Also, just because someone loses weight quickly doesn't mean it's all water or they'll gain it all right back again.

    Not irritated at anyone...
    Irritated at myself and my body..


  • MeganReid1991
    MeganReid1991 Posts: 170 Member
    ruqayyahsmum wrote: »
    If it makes you feel any better it's taken me 5 years to lose 150lb and I still have 80lb to go so likely another 2 years.

    Could I have gotten it off faster? Sure but I've had fun living life along they way and having a son who's life wasn't possible at my heaviest

    No one reaches the grave regretting that they didn't lose weight fast enough

    Enjoy your journey hun


    & thank you I have been enjoying my journey it’s just hard sometimes to embrace that my journey will be longer. But I also want to make sure I can maintain this lifestyle forever.
    It’s a balance of wanting the weight off but not wanting to make my miserable doing it..

  • MeganReid1991
    MeganReid1991 Posts: 170 Member
    Phirrgus wrote: »
    I'll congratulate them. Realistically speaking, I have no way of knowing that they won't keep the weight off even though personal experience (myself and others) suggests otherwise.

    I just don't see a reason to discourage someone who recognizes that they need to do something about their weight. I will speak up though if I have reason to believe that what they're doing may cause actual long term harm though. That's usually only if they initiate the conversation though, usually....


    I definitely congratulate them as well! In no way shape or form did I mean that I hold it against them personally
  • pinuplove
    pinuplove Posts: 12,871 Member
    debrakgoogins wrote: »
    quiksylver296 wrote: »
    No. I assume they are on some fad diet, and I'll see them back up at their starting weight or worse soon.

    ^Ditto^ I also wonder how much muscle they have compromised to lose weight that fast.

    I always wonder how much pizza they didn't eat :cry:
  • MeganReid1991
    MeganReid1991 Posts: 170 Member
    etherealanwar wrote: »
    I understand where you're coming from. I know I should not let it bother me but I cannot help it. The way I see it is that I could have been done with the weight loss portion by now had I not strayed off my path in the beginning. I originally set a goal to reach my goal weight in one year from 200 lbs to 125 lbs. I reached 148 lbs by the end of 2018 and projected to take another 4-5 months to get to my goal which I am honestly upset about. Thing is I am eating 1,200 calories a day and do not plan on going any lower so I assume my TDEE is just not that high. I never lost at a rate of 2 lbs a week when I *should* have (back at my starting weight). Nothing I can do about it.

    On the positive side, I have ingrained better eating habits along the way and I'm very confident I will not have trouble maintaining. I HAVE lost a significant amount of weight which I do realize and am proud of. If I could make it so it doesn't bother me I would but sadly it does (and I KNOW comparing our progress is not a smart idea). I'll get to my goal eventually!

    Thank you I feel this!
    I know for me stress is a huge factor in why I’m not losing weight quicker but it’s just hard sometimes
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    edited February 2019
    MeganReid1991 wrote: »
    So I’ve lost around 23 pounds sense June. I’m very proud of myself, I still have to lose about 40 pounds to lose.
    But I’m not going to lie it’s been extremely hard when I see other girls losing 40-50 pounds in 5 months. It seems everywhere I look woman are losing tons of weight super quickly.
    I know that I’ve done this in a very healthy way I dunno I just get discouraged when I see how slow my journey is going.

    In my experience, there are two kinds of people who lose weight quickly. The first would be the very obese/morbidly obese who have a tremendous amount of weight to lose and the fat stores to support rapid weight loss. The second would be people who are basically starving themselves and spending countless hour in the gym exercising and substantially underfeeding themselves.

    I had no issue with losing my 40 Lbs over the course of about 7-8 months. My calorie deficit was easily maintainable and I was never super hungry when I was dieting and even enjoyed meals out, parties at friends' houses, pool side bbqs, etc. Also, while I enjoy regular exercise, I have a whole bunch of other interests and hobbies and have no interest in spending all of my free time in the gym trying to burn a bunch of calories. Beyond that, along the way I developed a lot of healthy habits that have made almost 6 years of maintenance a breeze. Most people who lose a lot of weight very quickly just put it back on just as fast.
  • daniwilford
    daniwilford Posts: 1,030 Member
    I lost a bunch of weight three years ago and it came off pretty fast 1-2 pounds a week. I gained it back. This time I am doing things a bit differently and it may be a little slower going but I don't feel like I am denying myself all the time. If I go over my goal by a few calories of even eat at maintenance for a day, I am trying to look at that as success, not how fast I can lose.
  • lemurcat2
    lemurcat2 Posts: 7,885 Member
    GreenValli wrote: »
    I am not irritated. Seeing my co-workers lose weight it actually motivates me. If they can do it, so can I.

    I'm the same -- that's actually what motivated me to start back when I first did.

    With respect to how others are losing, I don't talk numbers with people off-line. No desire to do that at all. But when it comes to perception of how fast others are losing, it also can be distorted by the fact that you all of a sudden notice or you don't see them for a while or the like. I had several people act as if I'd just lost it all instantaneously, and it was like "no, you haven't seen me for a while" or sometimes I lost enough that I got new clothes that made the weight loss more obvious.
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  • Phirrgus
    Phirrgus Posts: 1,894 Member
    MeganReid1991 wrote: »
    Phirrgus wrote: »
    I'll congratulate them. Realistically speaking, I have no way of knowing that they won't keep the weight off even though personal experience (myself and others) suggests otherwise.

    I just don't see a reason to discourage someone who recognizes that they need to do something about their weight. I will speak up though if I have reason to believe that what they're doing may cause actual long term harm though. That's usually only if they initiate the conversation though, usually....


    I definitely congratulate them as well! In no way shape or form did I mean that I hold it against them personally
    I didn't mean for my post to imply that you would, apologies if it did. It was just a general comment on the topic. :)
  • endermako
    endermako Posts: 785 Member
    I'm not jealous or upset with others that lose weight faster. More than likely they are not losing weight sustainably and will therefore go back to old habits and gain it back. I've lost 40lbs in a little over a year and that's a nice steady pace for me.
  • RelCanonical
    RelCanonical Posts: 3,882 Member
    I think as long as they don't question why I'm losing weight so "slowly", they can do them and I'll tell them "good job". I probably won't take any advice they might offer as seriously though, because with their rate of loss I could see it not being sustainable for me.
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