3 Kids- Yay or Nay? Did you wish you stuck with 2?

avatar1003
avatar1003 Posts: 20 Member
edited December 20 in Chit-Chat
Pros and Cons to having a third...
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  • LeGaCyGiAnT
    LeGaCyGiAnT Posts: 66 Member
    Pros - More $ on your tax return
    Cons - Outnumbered parent wise, makes it odd for going to amusement parks, Car is more jam-packed for long trips/ might benefit in buying a bigger SUV or mini van
  • sardelsa
    sardelsa Posts: 9,812 Member
    edited March 2019
    I'd like to know the answer to this as well. However I don't have a choice so maybe just some tips at this point lol.
  • Jruzer
    Jruzer Posts: 3,501 Member
    We've got 4, and they're the best things that have ever happened to Mrs Jruzer and me.
  • avatar1003
    avatar1003 Posts: 20 Member
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    Oh man, I am already there with the 2nd kid! Third one might just have to eat scraps ;)
  • mom23mangos
    mom23mangos Posts: 3,069 Member
    I've always been of the opinion that there is 1 kid and then there is more than 1 kid. So if you already have two, no need to bother stopping now. I personally tell every new parent I meet to stop at 1.
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  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    We stopped at two. My first was and is a little angel most of the time and made parenting seem really easy and no biggie. Number 2 changed our minds...he can be very sweet, but he can also be the spawn of the devil...he can go from Hyde to Jeckyll in like 3 seconds flat.
  • avatar1003
    avatar1003 Posts: 20 Member
    cwolfman13 wrote: »
    We stopped at two. My first was and is a little angel most of the time and made parenting seem really easy and no biggie. Number 2 changed our minds...he can be very sweet, but he can also be the spawn of the devil...he can go from Hyde to Jeckyll in like 3 seconds flat.

    OMG, Same here. I always wanted 3, but the 2nd one definitely makes me wonder what the hell is wrong with me :)
  • sardelsa
    sardelsa Posts: 9,812 Member
    cwolfman13 wrote: »
    We stopped at two. My first was and is a little angel most of the time and made parenting seem really easy and no biggie. Number 2 changed our minds...he can be very sweet, but he can also be the spawn of the devil...he can go from Hyde to Jeckyll in like 3 seconds flat.

    Gahh my second is exactly like that. Omg I don't know what I am going to do :o
  • lisaepell
    lisaepell Posts: 103 Member
    Reckoner67 wrote: »
    My third kid is hilarious

    Your mileage may vary

    Same here! My third is totally giving us a run for our money, but she is also the funniest thing. My husband had to convince me to have a third and while it would have been easier to stick with two, I can't imagine life with her. Also, I love that there will be more of them together as they grow up.
  • mom23mangos
    mom23mangos Posts: 3,069 Member
    lisaepell wrote: »
    Reckoner67 wrote: »
    My third kid is hilarious

    Your mileage may vary

    Same here! My third is totally giving us a run for our money, but she is also the funniest thing. My husband had to convince me to have a third and while it would have been easier to stick with two, I can't imagine life with her. Also, I love that there will be more of them together as they grow up.

    My third is turning my hair grey. First one, no problem. Second, he's the easiest of the bunch - basically raises himself. Third one....my God, give me strength.
  • getbehindthebarnes
    getbehindthebarnes Posts: 1 Member
    personally, the jump from one to two was big, but it was NOTHING like the jump from 2 to 3... yikes!

    now, that everyone is a little older and able to care more for themselves, I love having 3! some challenges like needing a little more room in the house, car, etc. but its workable!
  • TravisJHunt
    TravisJHunt Posts: 533 Member
    Funny so many with the third causing trouble, our second is a demon monster but I love him to death and honestly, I'd have had a third but we had trouble between the first and second, so when the second one was healthy my wife wanted to stop there which I was also okay with. It was hard having issues between so we weren't comfortable risking that again.
  • Reckoner67
    Reckoner67 Posts: 3,344 Member
    following because i'm thinking of getting third cat and very conflicted

    Conflicted about...what to name it?
  • Reckoner67
    Reckoner67 Posts: 3,344 Member
    Reckoner67 wrote: »
    following because i'm thinking of getting third cat and very conflicted

    Conflicted about...what to name it?

    i'm afraid my other kitties will get less attention and feel neglected tbh
    The middle child is almost always neglected. The oldest is always looked up to and the youngest is spoiled all the time

    see?? ^^^

    Yes, but CATS. They’ll get affection when they want it; when they don’t they’ll be happy that other cats are there to distract you so they can do superior cat things.
  • kbmnurse1
    kbmnurse1 Posts: 316 Member
    Nay!!!!! 2 is too many--LOL.
  • Reckoner67
    Reckoner67 Posts: 3,344 Member
    Reckoner67 wrote: »
    Reckoner67 wrote: »
    following because i'm thinking of getting third cat and very conflicted

    Conflicted about...what to name it?

    i'm afraid my other kitties will get less attention and feel neglected tbh
    The middle child is almost always neglected. The oldest is always looked up to and the youngest is spoiled all the time

    see?? ^^^

    Yes, but CATS. They’ll get affection when they want it; when they don’t they’ll be happy that other cats are there to distract you so they can do superior cat things.

    oh no my cats are special, theyre not like other cats

    I understand; my cats are very advanced for their age, and also very good at sports
  • LiftingSpirits
    LiftingSpirits Posts: 2,207 Member
    edited March 2019
    I'm a third kid. Pretty sure my mom regrets that a lot

    Why would you say that? Most people I know spoil their third child

    I was just being silly. I am the favorite because I learned what not to do (or how to get away with it) from the older ones 😉
  • Susabella627
    Susabella627 Posts: 107 Member
    Our third was unplanned for sure, but after 2 boys I got my little girl and she is now my best friend. Wouldn't change that for all the money in the world.
  • Reckoner67
    Reckoner67 Posts: 3,344 Member
    Reckoner67 wrote: »
    following because i'm thinking of getting third cat and very conflicted

    Conflicted about...what to name it?

    i'm afraid my other kitties will get less attention and feel neglected tbh
    The middle child is almost always neglected. The oldest is always looked up to and the youngest is spoiled all the time

    see?? ^^^

    If I get another cat, I’m naming it Meowcifient or Meowcifer.

    Meowcifer!!!!!!!!!
  • Reckoner67
    Reckoner67 Posts: 3,344 Member
    Reckoner67 wrote: »
    Reckoner67 wrote: »
    Reckoner67 wrote: »
    following because i'm thinking of getting third cat and very conflicted

    Conflicted about...what to name it?

    i'm afraid my other kitties will get less attention and feel neglected tbh
    The middle child is almost always neglected. The oldest is always looked up to and the youngest is spoiled all the time

    see?? ^^^

    Yes, but CATS. They’ll get affection when they want it; when they don’t they’ll be happy that other cats are there to distract you so they can do superior cat things.

    oh no my cats are special, theyre not like other cats

    I understand; my cats are very advanced for their age, and also very good at sports

    then u know other pet owners dont really understand the trials that come with raising twice exceptional kitties

    It’s certainly trying at times, but I wouldn’t give it up for the world! Every time they tell me they love me in cat-sign-language it makes it all worth it
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    Decided to stop with one mainly because that is what we felt we could afford and could parent.
    We made a pro and con list but in our hearts we knew we did not have more to give another child. It was the right decision for our family then and now to stop having children.

    There are plenty of families who are happy with 2 or 3 kids. I would talk with your partner. Think about it for awhile.
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