How do people gain weight back?
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Being aware that you're gaining and being able to do something about it are two different things. I maintained for a couple years and then went back into old binge eating habits and just got to point where I didn't care. And then I would try for a couple days or weeks and then go on a binge for a week or just stop caring. It's been hard to get back to a consistent diet and routine instead of giving in at social occasions and giving in to the emotional rewards of sitting on the couch and eating without caring about portions.7
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SuzySunshine99 wrote: »This is one of the reasons I wonder if maintaining a small deficit during the week to eat more on the weekend might be a good idea for me. It is what I do now anyway and it keeps me from ever getting out of this mode completely. I don't know until I get there and try it though (assuming that is still my plan).
That's exactly what I do, and I've been able to maintain for several years. Slight deficit during the week so I can go a little over maintenance calories on the weekend. I maintain in exactly the same way I lost weight, just with a few hundred extra calories available to me. That's been the key for me...nothing much changed when I hit my goal weight.
The only pitfall I see with me is that on weeks I don't earn enough calories for a full day at maintenance I still take it because I don't usually care if it slows my loss by a little. I have more than a year to go before I have to worry about it but I have seen enough people regain that I will not back-burner at least some contemplation even now. Much will happen in the next year though with my rate of loss falling and getting even more active.3 -
Being aware that you're gaining and being able to do something about it are two different things. I maintained for a couple years and then went back into old binge eating habits and just got to point where I didn't care. And then I would try for a couple days or weeks and then go on a binge for a week or just stop caring. It's been hard to get back to a consistent diet and routine instead of giving in at social occasions and giving in to the emotional rewards of sitting on the couch and eating without caring about portions.
That "not caring" is really a killer. I think a lot of people can understand the feeling of just wanting to not worry about your responsibilities and being done with having to keep up on everything adult, let alone your eating habits.11 -
RelCanonical wrote: »Being aware that you're gaining and being able to do something about it are two different things. I maintained for a couple years and then went back into old binge eating habits and just got to point where I didn't care. And then I would try for a couple days or weeks and then go on a binge for a week or just stop caring. It's been hard to get back to a consistent diet and routine instead of giving in at social occasions and giving in to the emotional rewards of sitting on the couch and eating without caring about portions.
That "not caring" is really a killer. I think a lot of people can understand the feeling of just wanting to not worry about your responsibilities and being done with having to keep up on everything adult, let alone your eating habits.
Exactly, when life is super stressful I find I don't have the mental energy to care about weight management. So I've been working on stress management.
Injury (couldn't run) and life stress allowed me to gain back 70 lbs of original 120 lbs lost.8 -
I think it's really hard to keep yourself under control long term. Many people post on here that they're sick of logging. Once they lose the weight, they quit. You get used to weight swings while logging, so when it happens in maintenance you don't worry too much--it'll go back down in a few days, but then it doesn't. When you know you're gaining, but don't want to know how much, you stop getting on the scale. That's when you're really in trouble. By the time you force yourself to, it's depressing.5
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I've lost a bunch of weight and have been keeping it off for about a year and a half now... I am terrified about gaining it back (or even some of it back).
I don't trust myself and am planning on tracking my calories for the remainder of my life. Whenever I go "off-book" it seems to always turn into a binge (in the colloquial sense). In the midst of these "binges" I know they are happening. I am telling myself - "hey dude, you are going crazy, stop" - but I just don't. I'll eat until I am ill and it sometimes even continues to the next day. I feel shame and am disgusted with myself after they happen. Then, I get back "on-book" and am great for another few weeks.
So, I can see how someone can know they are gaining weight and know what they should do but just ignore it.
Also, I think some people gain back their weight because of some emotional issue that is never addressed in the dieting process. I know I have some underlying issues with food and am currently looking for a psychologist who specializes in eating disorders (it's been very difficult finding someone who is in my insurance's network). I am a bit scared since I have no experience with mental health care but I think it is necessary for me.9 -
I appreciate all the feedback. BTW im by no means throwing shade at people for not sticking to their weight management. Im just trying to prepare myself mentally by learning from mistakes that other people make. I only had about 50 to lose and have done fairly good of keeping it below a certain point the past 2 years. Also being in a deficit constantly makes me more conscious of what I am taking in.. I just know after goung down several sizes I never want to let myself go up.. so I'll have awareness.. but maybe I have to see myself 3 or 4 years from now.. im still in late 20s so not a whole lot of life experience
All the people who regained weight probably thought that too.14 -
I appreciate all the feedback. BTW im by no means throwing shade at people for not sticking to their weight management. Im just trying to prepare myself mentally by learning from mistakes that other people make. I only had about 50 to lose and have done fairly good of keeping it below a certain point the past 2 years. Also being in a deficit constantly makes me more conscious of what I am taking in.. I just know after goung down several sizes I never want to let myself go up.. so I'll have awareness.. but maybe I have to see myself 3 or 4 years from now.. im still in late 20s so not a whole lot of life experience
All the people who regained weight probably thought that too.
QFT, I'm one of them.
Adding, I've been in maintenance for a year now after losing about 50 pounds. I'm no longer "terrified" of re-gaining as so many of us are after reaching our goal, but I'm well aware that the focus I'm putting into maintaining right now could easly be switched to self-medicating with food if/when an emotional crisis happens. I've had a couple of mini-episodes, and with all my attempts to stratagize around the possibility, I truly don't know what would happen in an ongoing situation.4 -
It took me 10 years to regain the weight that I had lost. It was creeping up slowly, maybe a kg or so every six months. A single kilo is not much.
But why I let myself regain it? A few reasons. When I lost it, I lost it through a fab diet (Ducan) that went on for nearly a year. I hated every single day of it. And when I couldn't push further and lose the last 3-4 kgs, I said *kitten* it. I didn't like how I looked and I thought I'd need to lose another 10-15kgs, despite being 66kg at 171cm (with a big bust). I didn't want to bother and just went back to my old habits.
I maintained in the range of 70kgs for almost 2-3 years, but then I started work and it was extremely sedentary. Then introduce new career-related stress, issues, anxiety, and having never really bothered to deal with my bad relationship with food - it was my comfort, my only friend when everything else seemed to be going to hell.
My first year working I regained maybe 3-4kgs.
It was 4 years ago when I had reached 78kgs that I decided to start working out and try to start learning a bit about nutrition as I didn't want to hear or think about another diet like Ducan. I hired a PT to teach me how to properly workout as I didn't want to hear another "cardio for 2hrs". Two months into it and I sprained my ankle, ending up unable to walk for 4 weeks, unable to workout for 2 months. But I took the time to find MFP (December 2015), I started reading everything there was to read, understanding about calories, reading stories of people who had been three times my weight and yet they had lost it all by this magical thing called CICO (it sounded so damn simple that I didn't really believe it).
And there was my first attempt to get back on track and start losing again. I managed to maintain and even lose a couple of kgs despite being immobile, I was thrilled. And tadaaa!! I tore my ACL. Exactly 3 years ago I was told my knee was done. I couldn't walk, it hurt, I was lost. It hit me bad because it meant that I had to have surgery and be off work for months.
My weight crept up to 82kgs. The day after I was released from the hospital I came back to MFP. I started logging, I was taking care of myself, but being immobile, being away from everything and everyone kept playing tricks with my mind (depression+anxiety), so I'd log for a couple of weeks, then eat my emotions away. And when I went back to work... it was madness. I had to prove myself and regain my position. I had to concentrate on that and I simply couldn't deal with any of that. Still I had learned enough by then to at least maintain.
I remained 82 until last summer. But as I mentioned before during my initial weight loss or the past ten years I hadn't taken the time to actually evaluate my relationship with food, find why the moment I feel down or upset or anxious I need to stuff myself. And the past year-year and a half was hard. I lost close people to myself. My career was growing but I still didn't really know how to handle the new responsibilities and related stress. I was quite literally drowning. This January I weighed at 94.6. I wasn't surprised by the huge gain. I was partially surprised it wasn't more considering just how much I had been eating those past six months. And I knew that if I didn't do something then I would be lost.
I spent nearly 4 months focusing more on my emotional health, learning to deal with stress, emotions and anxiety. Learning to be honest with myself. Learning to take care of myself.
I started logging on 26th March. I'm already 6.8 kgs down - currently weighing at 87.4 kgs. This time I not only have a bit more knowledge about nutrition and fitness, but now I know myself much better. I treat myself much better. And even though I'm almost 20kgs away from where I want to be, I've already started reading and learning about maintenance. This time I'm prepared and I intend to kick *kitten*, my own *kitten*.12 -
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For me in the past, weight regain has been triggered by illness or injury which greatly reduced my activity level. I have lupus and a flare can put me flat on my back. It’s very difficult to stay motivated to be slim when everything hurts for months at a time. It’s not that I didn’t know I was gaining weight, it’s that I didn’t care enough at the time to take action.10
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WARNING: My post below might be triggering for some.
I lost and regained 80-ish pounds twice; I'm currently losing weight for the 3rd and hopefully last time.
The first time I hit my goal weight and almost immediately resumed eating my previous normal. I was in a new relationship that was, frankly, food based. We loved to eat. He was already big and I caught up and regained in a couple of years.
The second time, I was really frustrated with my girth and went to extreme measures to lose it. I lost quickly (and expensively) using Medifast. I hit goal weight and had no idea what to do. I started swapping out similar calorie regular foods for the Medifast foods. I managed to maintain that loss for about 5 years.
Then "life" happened. I was hit with a surprise divorce; he was my entire support system. I suddenly found myself with no home, no friends and no family. I was in full blown survival panic and actually lost a lot of weight because I wasn't eating. I was also in full hormonal peri-menopause. Through sheer determination after a series of unfortunate mistakes, I finally landed on my feet.
After the divorce, I rented a room from a woman close in age who told me she was a nursing student and a waitress. It turns out she was a stripper and a drug dealer. I kept to myself and saved money to get out once I found out the truth. I'm a teacher. I had to get out quickly, but had no money to do so and no support network to help. Unfortunately, her house was raided and I was (briefly) arrested. I incurred no charges because the authorities quickly figured out I was not involved--still super stressful. I was able to rent a small apartment, by myself. It was glorious! Life was good. I had my own space and was able to cook meals. I cooked comfort foods, not health foods...I decided to foster a dog from my volunteer workplace (dog trainer at a shelter). I quickly realized that the dog could not live in an apartment. I had to find a house or return him to certain death (no exaggeration).
I found a "too good to be true" deal on a house that a fellow teacher owned. She wanted to keep the house but move in with her boyfriend. Great location, great price (rental). The huge caveat was that the house came with a built in room mate. My coworker who owned the house was an older female like me and she assured me George was safe and easy to live with. He was a professor at the University of Texas. Super smart and kept to himself, but friendly and quirky. He was okay, I thought. My foster dog had a yard! I had the whole 4/3 house to myself minus the master bedroom, which was a self contained studio with a separate entrance. George and I got along fine. The dog bonded with him. All was well. UNTIL...he committed suicide in MY portion of the house in a bedroom I used for storage. I lived with the body for several days because I didn't know. I didn't know.... I didn't know why the dog suddenly regressed and started attacking me. I didn't know where George was. I didn't know why my house was starting to smell. After I found out, I had to live in the house for the rest of my lease (10 months)! The landlord/co-worker would not let me out of the lease.That room was a disaster. All my possessions stored in there were ruined. It was not a nice, tidy death. The dog regularly attacked me after that because he was so traumatized. I was traumatized. The room had to have a "crime scene" clean. The landlord did not want to do it because it's expensive, so she closed the room and ignored it. I ate, and ate, and ate. I wanted to die along with George.
I finally saved enough money to get out of that <now> haunted hell hole and buy my own brand new, never been lived in house. No dead bodies. George did his deed in 10/2016. I moved out in 8/2017. I'm just now starting to get over it. The dog is now my dog! I'm just now feeling ready to tackle my weight. I was not a priority for a number of years. Escaping George's demons and healing myself and my dog were my top priorities.
Life. Happened. In a big, ugly way.55 -
Boy is that a loaded question. Speaking from experience and years of yo yo dieting the big reason I gained back the weight (as do SO many others) is that I looked at the diet as a finite thing. I'd go on it, lose the weight and go off it. Finally I realized that I had to make changes that I could and would stick with for life. Seems that many don't "get that."
There are other reasons; e.g., at a lower weight you need fewer calories and that might be hard for some. I'm in the National Weight Control Registry and one thing many have in common is that they get at least 60 minutes/day of exercise. When losing weight some will commit to that level of exercise but slip once the weight is lost.
And there are probably as many reasons why people gain back the weight as there are people who have gained back the weight.3 -
texasredreb wrote: »WARNING: My post below might be triggering for some.
George was safe and easy to live with. He was a professor at the University of Texas. Super smart and kept to himself, but friendly and quirky. He was okay, I thought. My foster dog had a yard! I had the whole 4/3 house to myself minus the master bedroom, which was a self contained studio with a separate entrance. George and I got along fine. The dog bonded with him. All was well. UNTIL...he committed suicide in MY portion of the house in a bedroom I used for storage. I lived with the body for several days because I didn't know. I didn't know.... I didn't know why the dog suddenly regressed and started attacking me. I didn't know where George was. I didn't know why my house was starting to smell. After I found out, I had to live in the house for the rest of my lease (10 months)! The landlord/co-worker would not let me out of the lease.That room was a disaster. All my possessions stored in there were ruined. It was not a nice, tidy death. The dog regularly attacked me after that because he was so traumatized. I was traumatized. The room had to have a "crime scene" clean. The landlord did not want to do it because it's expensive, so she closed the room and ignored it. I ate, and ate, and ate. I wanted to die along with George.
I finally saved enough money to get out of that <now> haunted hell hole and buy my own brand new, never been lived in house. No dead bodies. George did his deed in 10/2016. I moved out in 8/2017. I'm just now starting to get over it. The dog is now my dog! I'm just now feeling ready to tackle my weight. I was not a priority for a number of years. Escaping George's demons and healing myself and my dog were my top priorities.
Life. Happened. In a big, ugly way.
My grandma rented out her basement to a nice older guy, who also did something similar, except he had the courtesy of doing it in the driveway
I was just a kid and was only involved peripherally, but it still had an impact-I can't imagine what you went through -hugs- 2 -
Life happens. For many people, the issue is comfort/stress eating, or they have psychological issues all tied up in their eating habits, or their weight was a defense mechanism. Once the priority of "weight loss" is gone, all those stressors come back into play, quietly and sometimes subconsciously. You see the weight creeping up but tell yourself, "I deserve this comfort/enjoyment/safety right now, I'll lose the little bit of weight once things get better". But the 5 lbs becomes 10 becomes 20 and now you feel like a failure which makes you double down on the comfort/stress/safety eating. Poof.
The bolded comment is something that I don't think gets mentioned often. Especially for women, at least so I've read, they can find they start getting more attention than they're used to once they lose weight. For some, it's unwanted and very unwelcome. Those women start to feel that their fat was their defense against that attention, and they regain the weight so they can feel comfortably ignored again. (Those women may not be the ones who come back and try again to lose the excess weight, but it is one reason why some people regain and don't do anything about it.)
For myself, I've regained about 12lbs or so from where I was at last summer. I've had a few unfortunate things happen recently, and although I'm quite disgusted with myself for letting my emotional eating get out of hand, I'm not in the right place mentally to deal with it just yet. I've been making all kinds of excuses not to do anything about it - but at least I do realise that they're just excuses. I know what I need to do, and I'll do it when I feel able to. Until then, I just need to try not to let things get any worse!9 -
I have had this problem in the past , in what can only be described as yoyo dieting. I think the hardest thing for me has always been losing the right amount of weight, but then not keeping a firm hand on it, by going to maintenance, instead saying today i can have a cheat meal and that 1 meal then turns into days and weeks and then im back again. Its breaking the habit and keeping at a deficit for a while after getting to GW.1
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My grandma rented out her basement to a nice older guy, who also did something similar, except he had the courtesy of doing it in the driveway I was just a kid and was only involved peripherally, but it still had an impact-I can't imagine what you went through -hugs-
Thank you. That event was the single most devastating thing that has ever happened to me. George and I weren't close. We were friendly and cordial, but we didn't "hang out" or spend much time together at all. His suicide changed me forever and not for the better. I can't imagine if that were someone I cared for and loved rather than a person who didn't mean anything to me other than he was another human being. Turns out, he had a huge network of people who cared about him. They all gravitated to my house after news got out and attempted to make shrines on my lawn, porch, driveway, etc. They wanted to come inside and see that room. They wanted to talk to me. I wanted nothing to do with them. I wanted them all to go away and leave me alone. It was a horrible, horrible time.
I guess the OP's question was a bit triggering for me! I know he didn't mean it in an accusatory way, but it struck a nerve--big time.
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I reached my goal weight 3 years ago and have kept it off. But last year I was on a vacation for a week and upon returning was horrified to see I had gained 6 pounds!
I kinda snapped and made sure I lost those 6 pounds right away (took about 3 weeks).
So now I’m extra vigilant about my weight because it’s staggering how fast it can return.
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As soon as I notice my weight going up five pounds I’m like f that and check myself before 5lbs leads to 10lbs and so on.
Peoples lives get busy, other priorities... their health not one.1 -
I quit losing weight staying faithfully on the same calorie amounts daily / weekly... The past year I have even gained a few pounds and keep swinging between 245 - 248 every few days. I have resigned that I must be on maintenance levels now. I am following the settings and have logged daily since May 2016!! I initially got down to 235 and was like in heaven with the results then slowly my body started gaining again.. very perplexing as I never go over my calories!! EVER!2
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texasredreb wrote: »My grandma rented out her basement to a nice older guy, who also did something similar, except he had the courtesy of doing it in the driveway I was just a kid and was only involved peripherally, but it still had an impact-I can't imagine what you went through -hugs-
Thank you. That event was the single most devastating thing that has ever happened to me. George and I weren't close. We were friendly and cordial, but we didn't "hang out" or spend much time together at all. His suicide changed me forever and not for the better. I can't imagine if that were someone I cared for and loved rather than a person who didn't mean anything to me other than he was another human being. Turns out, he had a huge network of people who cared about him. They all gravitated to my house after news got out and attempted to make shrines on my lawn, porch, driveway, etc. They wanted to come inside and see that room. They wanted to talk to me. I wanted nothing to do with them. I wanted them all to go away and leave me alone. It was a horrible, horrible time.
I guess the OP's question was a bit triggering for me! I know he didn't mean it in an accusatory way, but it struck a nerve--big time.
I had a very similar experience except it was my husband. I tried to stay in the house but eventually gave in and moved out of the house that I had at one time loved. Things such as that can drive you into a downward spiral...hard to climb back out.
Yes...we all have different reasons for losing control and gaining or regaining the weight. At times you feel helpless to control it. At times you ask yourself is it really worth it. Most of the time, at least for myself, it is more question of am I really worth the effort. Our brains...our emotions...our lives are complicated and we become to overwhelmed to do the things that we know we should do. So...IMO...no matter how many times we have to restart...there is always hope.20 -
Several times over the years I lost weight (20-50 lbs.) via crash dieting (Stillmans, Atkins, etc.) but then couldn't maintain it once I stopped counting carbs or calories and went back to normal eating. I'd also go from an occasional treat or meal out to daily treats and meals out. Beer or ice cream became beer and ice cream - every day. The problem was compounded by being in denial. When I knew I was eating too much or too much of the wrong things, I just wouldn't weigh myself. I knew I wouldn't like the answer, so I just ignored the question of how much I had gained. I had years where I never weighed myself. I usually wear loose clothes, and thanks to vanity sizing I was generally able to wear the same size when I bought new, so the creeping weight gain was easy to deny. Add to that a lifestyle where I was intermittently getting a lot of exercise, so my weight was easy to control, followed by periods of being mostly sedentary. I'd lose weight when active and gain it back when sedentary, so I could just tell myself that it was okay, I'd take care of the weight later. I did, but not always as much as I hoped, because it got harder and harder to maintain focus. i.e. lose 50, gain 20, lose 10, gain 15, lose 20, gain 10 - it's a never ending see saw, but ultimately you end up back where you started, or worse.
Since joining MFP, I've been able to maintain my weight loss for about 7 years, but with some minor yoyos when I was travelling. I've been lucky. I have mostly been able to keep up my activity at a fairly high level so I haven't had to really restrict calories. My emotional/family life has been stable. (I'm a stress eater.) As long as I'm home, I can cook healthy meals and track how much I am eating. For me, that's key. If I don't consciously count calories, the portions get larger and the treats get more frequent. Though even there, I can be in denial. ATM, I'm dealing with injury, so running less. Most of my daily calorie counts are over my limit. My weight is going up. Just a few pounds so far, but it's a bad start. I tell myself it doesn't matter because I was a bit underweight so what's a few pounds? But I know from past experience that my next step is to stop weighing myself so I can deny what's happening. This time, I refuse to do that.7 -
texasredreb wrote: »My grandma rented out her basement to a nice older guy, who also did something similar, except he had the courtesy of doing it in the driveway I was just a kid and was only involved peripherally, but it still had an impact-I can't imagine what you went through -hugs-
Thank you. That event was the single most devastating thing that has ever happened to me. George and I weren't close. We were friendly and cordial, but we didn't "hang out" or spend much time together at all. His suicide changed me forever and not for the better. I can't imagine if that were someone I cared for and loved rather than a person who didn't mean anything to me other than he was another human being. Turns out, he had a huge network of people who cared about him. They all gravitated to my house after news got out and attempted to make shrines on my lawn, porch, driveway, etc. They wanted to come inside and see that room. They wanted to talk to me. I wanted nothing to do with them. I wanted them all to go away and leave me alone. It was a horrible, horrible time.
I guess the OP's question was a bit triggering for me! I know he didn't mean it in an accusatory way, but it struck a nerve--big time.
I had a very similar experience except it was my husband. I tried to stay in the house but eventually gave in and moved out of the house that I had at one time loved. Things such as that can drive you into a downward spiral...hard to climb back out.
Yes...we all have different reasons for losing control and gaining or regaining the weight. At times you feel helpless to control it. At times you ask yourself is it really worth it. Most of the time, at least for myself, it is more question of am I really worth the effort. Our brains...our emotions...our lives are complicated and we become to overwhelmed to do the things that we know we should do. So...IMO...no matter how many times we have to restart...there is always hope.
I'm so sorry for what you went through. It was horrible for me and I was not close to him. It would be exponentially more difficult in every way if I were more than an acquaintance. Hugs to you.
From the time of my unexpected divorce until recently, my diet and health were not on the forefront of my concerns. I had so much more going on that what I ate didn't matter as long as I ate. Food was comforting for me when things started settling down. I really don't have many regrets about my eating. It happened. Now I'm ready to undo it. Hopefully my ability to lose weight again is as resilient as the rest of me.8 -
Im confused why so many people once they get to goal weight, somehow gain the weight back?
I am close to goal weight now so I'll occasionally slip gain a couple pounds but start again.
Im just confused at people who drop several sizes, just let themselves gain it back "without noticing"...
That's my thinking, too. It's such a huge accomplishment to get to goal. Thinking about all that effort and struggle, getting to goal and how good it feels to be fit - then just letting it all go to waste does not compute in my brain. I can't imagine gaining more than a few pounds back before noticing and taking corrective action. I WOULD NOTICE if I went up a size. Mentally, I can't/won't give up the accomplishments that I've achieved.
I've been at maintenance for over 8 years now, staying within 5 pounds of goal the whole time. I'm stubborn like that. But that's just me. I get that a lot of people get distracted by various things in life and don't necessarily notice changes until something big grabs their attention. So even though I can't understand it personally, I don't really judge others for gaining their weight back. It's just differences in personality I think.
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Im confused why so many people once they get to goal weight, somehow gain the weight back?
I am close to goal weight now so I'll occasionally slip gain a couple pounds but start again.
Im just confused at people who drop several sizes, just let themselves gain it back "without noticing".
For me if I were to go back to old habbits, once Id notice I am up say 10 pounds (really 5 but that could just be a chinese buffet meal the day after) I'd make a plan to get back on track ASAP.. but i see threads about people who lose 50 plus lbs but return with all that weight and then some back.
Im terrified to have that happen to me so I'd love insight into why we think those types of people struggle or let it happen. Thanks
Life happens.
All of a sudden you find yourself in a position where watching what you eat and exercising is either very difficult or impossible.
I have been slender for the vast majority of my life, but when there's a combination of a health issue and a household move, I tend to gain weight because I'm not as active and because I'm focusing on other things.
Also some of us can gain and lose 2 or 3 kg due to water retention. So if I happen to go up 2 kg, it's easy to say, "Ah but that's just water retention, I'll lose that next week.", and maybe I drop 1.5 kg and think, "OK good, the weight is coming down". But it doesn't come all the way down to where it was ...4 -
Once i begin slipping its so much easier to think "well *kitten* whats some more chocolate iv been eating badly anyway.." Vs to think i need to say no to a deeply engrained self soothing technique. My focus waivers, My determination slips, Life happens.
Side note the "5 pounds up can happen after a buffet" mindset sure got me in trouble during it lol. Denial is very powerful. Im on the top end of my range? well its okay its mostly water weight anyway....What you have cookies?? just a few-I ate badly yesterday anyway whats a bit more...
edit to side note: i also began dating a feeder which i never saw happening ever. Who expects that? Its hard to eat really well and fight the cravings when i know hes likely to just show up later and guilt me to see him with pizza anyway lol5 -
@SeanD2407 Last year as I got within 5 lb of my arbitrary weight goal, I decided to increase my calories slightly and lose weight slowly. That seemed like a sensible plan, but by the time I came to my senses I'd gained 50 lb.
Goal is not a number. Goal is a life. When you lose sight of the fact that you are living to live healthy and fit, you lose sight of good health and fitness. Yes, it is a tautology, but it's the truth.
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The only way for me to not gain weight back and lose track, is to weigh myself every day. That will keep me in check.2
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