Self Control Issues

nooboots wrote: »

Just to clarify we do not drink our tea with cream. That would be an abomination. And NEVER offer warm milk with a cuppa. Its cold milk.

Sugar optional.

Milk last as well and its safer to let a Brit put their own milk in too....not that we are particular about the whole tea thing............much.

I’m going to start Tea anonymous group- we all got tea addictions lol I’ll allow coffee drinkers it’s the wine of the bunch.

It took me YEARS of yo-yo dieting to lose the “all or nothing” mentality. MFP helped a lot, especially reading the Success Stories and Motivation threads. Good luck to you!

donaldstokley wrote: »

I need to get in a better mind set. For some reason I get it in my head that if I eat one bad thing that the day is for nothing and just go ahead and eat what ever I want instead of just eating the one bad thing and continue with my healthier plan for the day. I feel like my will power really needs help. I really do feel like a drug addict that can't even think about food without wanting to go binge eat everything in sight. If any one has any pointers for me on how I can work with the way I think about food that would be great and appreciated.

Just wanted to make sure you're not trying to lose weight too fast, as undereating can definitely lead to binging.

How much weight do you want to lose total and what is your weekly weight loss goal set to?



I also have self-control issues when I am sleep deprived, don't eat enough protein, or don't exercise regularly so I work very hard to make sure I have those three things covered.

Mild to moderate exercise is a mild appetite suppressant for me, and releases the "happy hormones" I used to seek from food. I used to self-medicate with food, but now manage stress with regular exercise, and increased stress with increased exercise.

So true had to change my settings was so tough that’s exactly my yo-yo on that chart! Increased it now says 1400 for a few days now but slip up like forgetting to add stuff yesterday didn’t help that one item I forgot messed up the whole count.

RunJosh86 wrote: »

I have struggled with this for the past couple of years myself. I find that it is at its worst when I am 1.) not eating enough during the day, and 2.) I am bored. I am learning to discipline myself to eat more during the day and to find something else to do when I have the urge to eat just because I am bored.

2 is definitely me. I’ve been told that I have a problem with stress eating or “eating my feelings,” but I think it’s less that and more to do with me just sitting around and snacking because I’m bored. I’ve been trying to find different things to do to occupy my time, because when I’m doing something, I’m not usually thinking about eating!

jean133mjg wrote: »

I find that if I do something all the time, it then becomes my habit. If I eat say M&Ms all the time, I crave M&Ms. If I stay away from sugar, cookies, breads, etc., I lose the craving. I've been learning that if I want something to be a habit for me, then I repeat that behavior enough and it will become my new norm. If I eat something repeatedly, then I want to continue to do so, so even though it may be hard, really hard, sometimes, I try to remind myself that I'm making a new and better habit for myself. When I still cave, I remind myself that it was just a slip, don't punish myself, and move on. I hope to have a lot of next meals, snacks, days, etc. to have more and more successes to follow. A slip up here and there in the long scheme of things, is not going to kill me. Giving up may. All the best to you.

This - with bells on.

You're trying to tackle a dual issue; mindset and physical wellness. These certainly aren't oppositional - I'd suggest you use them to your advantage.
You sound like once you have something highly-caloric you give in to the idea your day is dietarily ruined. That's a difficult feeling to break, but I'd suggest using it to your advantage rather than trying to totally break it.
Actively start your day with something you consider healthy; for me it's an oats protein shake.
The general idea is if you think one "bad meal" will ruin your day, you need to start your day right. You'll feel mentally healthier, and it will be easier to combat the "bad meal" feelings.

I used to do exactly the same thing. I've found logging has been hugely helpful. In actuality most of the time the day is not lost. When I was actively losing I would adjust something planned for later in the day or exercise a bit more or I might have just eaten at maintenance that day. Eventually I lost to my goal weight and I am now maintaining. I still have the odd off day where I eat over maintenance and I just cut back a bit the rest of the week. Try to get away from the all or nothing thinking and actually log what you ate and you may be very surprised to see that it wasn't as bad as you thought. I also agree that telling yourself that certain foods are completely forbidden is a sure way to fall into this trap. There are foods I no longer choose to eat simply because they are too expensive calorically but I know I can have it if I really want it.