Let it GO! Decluttering (simplifying) your life of (people, places or things) success stories?

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  • NewLIFEstyle4ME
    NewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 4,440 Member
    tlsvas wrote: »
    Such wonderful posts here. I appreciate reading so many of them.

    My Story
    A year ago I was bedridden awaiting back surgery of two fusions. I was a whopping 325 pounds although by my surgery date I was probably below that due to being diagnosed with diabetes and starting to eat healthy. Yep, I was a total mess and completely out of control with my eating habits. After surgery which was successful, I was unable to walk due to be bedridden for several months. I then went into a rehab facility for over a month and gained the strength to walk again. This is where my journey back to good health really began.

    Fast forward to today, a year later. Once I began my journey to renewed health there was no stopping me. I have lost 115 pounds, reversed my diabetes and no longer take medication for it. My A1C dropped from 11.5 to 5.2. In getting physically healthy, emotionally I did the same. I walked away from toxic family members who consistently disrespected and devalued me. It was actually much easier than I thought it would be but in doing so it taught me a very valuable lesson. There are takers and there are givers and if you allow it, the takers will suck the life out of you. I have absolutely no regrets in walking away and for once I feel free - free from their emotional abuse, free from the fat that weighed me down and most of all free from wondering and worrying about what other people thought of me. I’ve learned to love me and put me first. Is that selfish, no, it’s called taking care of and loving oneself.

    W <3 W What a tremendous post and contribution to this thread!!! After reading your post, I felt/feel like I just was enveloped in a beautiful and powerful atmosphere. What a HUGE breath of fresh air--your post is going to help and inspire so many people, including me. Thank you ever so VERY much for posting this...you ROCK, period.

  • NewLIFEstyle4ME
    NewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 4,440 Member
    I was decluttering my (rented) house in preparation for moving into my (purchased-as-in-its-mine) house. We'd decluttered the shed and the garden (good weather). Last Thursday we got the keys to the new place and found that the previous owner had left a load of his unwanted stuff there and the garden looks like it hasn't been tended in years. We knew that the garden was a mess but the house was a shock, being as the previous owner had signed a legally-binding document stating that the whole property (including the garden) would be left clean and tidy.

    So I'm now decluttering the new house as well as the rented house. At least with the new house decluttering is easier as everything is being thrown out. None of it can be recycled/passed to a charity shop as it really is just old junk.

    Not what I'd expected and I almost cried last Thursday when we opened our front door. A week in though, some paint on the walls and I can see the potential I saw in the place when we first viewed it. I'm a lot happier now than seven days ago! It's going to be a fabulous home for us.

    Once the pest exterminator has dealt with the mice in the loft (nice house warming present) and we've finished renovating it...

    {{{ Hugs }}}} I'm so happy you've got a new home and so sorry that it's wasn't totally fabulous and loaded with bummer stuff, but I LOVE your attitude about and I'm cheering you and your beloved on in getting everything done. {{{{ Hugs again }}}}
  • NewLIFEstyle4ME
    NewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 4,440 Member
    snoo61 wrote: »
    Nice to see familiar faces pop in! So happy you are both doing so well! I'm getting ready to go babysit the grandkids for 2 weeks, so I'll be here when I can.

    Have fun with the Grands Snoo...I'll miss you big time! Once more, may these next two weeks bring you nothing but good times, laughter, love and again FUN!
  • snoo61
    snoo61 Posts: 549 Member
    snoo61 wrote: »
    Nice to see familiar faces pop in! So happy you are both doing so well! I'm getting ready to go babysit the grandkids for 2 weeks, so I'll be here when I can.

    Have fun with the Grands Snoo...I'll miss you big time! Once more, may these next two weeks bring you nothing but good times, laughter, love and again FUN!

    Thanks, my friend. I'm supposed to be there already. Last night (10:15pm) I got a text that my flight was going to be delayed an hour this morning. I'd have missed my connection, so I'm flying out early tomorrow. I'm so excited to get there!
  • NewLIFEstyle4ME
    NewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 4,440 Member
    edited July 2019
    snoo61 wrote: »
    snoo61 wrote: »
    Nice to see familiar faces pop in! So happy you are both doing so well! I'm getting ready to go babysit the grandkids for 2 weeks, so I'll be here when I can.

    Have fun with the Grands Snoo...I'll miss you big time! Once more, may these next two weeks bring you nothing but good times, laughter, love and again FUN!

    Thanks, my friend. I'm supposed to be there already. Last night (10:15pm) I got a text that my flight was going to be delayed an hour this morning. I'd have missed my connection, so I'm flying out early tomorrow. I'm so excited to get there!

    Excited for you sistergirl--may this time in your life bring you nothing but love, joy and FUN!
    {{{ <3 waving "Bon voyage" and HUGS <3 }}}
  • NewLIFEstyle4ME
    NewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 4,440 Member
    :triumph: Vanity ALERT: :warning:

    I LOVE the way I look here--Yes, Yay, WOW and of course, BOOM!

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  • Gisel2015
    Gisel2015 Posts: 4,189 Member
    @NewLIFEstyle4ME
    Congrats!!!! <3
  • NewLIFEstyle4ME
    NewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 4,440 Member
    Gisel2015 wrote: »
    @NewLIFEstyle4ME
    Congrats!!!! <3

    Love me some you G...{{{{ <3 Hugs and Much Obliged <3 }}}}}}}}}}}}
  • snoo61
    snoo61 Posts: 549 Member
    @NewLIFEstyle4ME 76lbs is phenomenal! You look that and more! Congrats my friend!
  • cory17
    cory17 Posts: 1,513 Member
    Congrats @NewLIFEstyle4ME Bet you're feeling so good!!
  • promisesstandin
    promisesstandin Posts: 150 Member
    How do I find this place again? The topics on MFP rotate and I don't know how to come back and find you. I'm liking the encouragement to each other I see here. Go folks! We're doing great things!
  • NewLIFEstyle4ME
    NewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 4,440 Member
    snoo61 wrote: »
    @NewLIFEstyle4ME 76lbs is phenomenal! You look that and more! Congrats my friend!

    Girlfriend!!!!! You sure know how to make a person feel like a million bucks TAX FREE! I love that you saud "you look that ans more--that's tremendous honey, THANK YOU my friend!
  • RetiredAndLovingIt
    RetiredAndLovingIt Posts: 1,395 Member
    @promisesstandin ..click the star on top right by the title & then later click the star far top & it will show you all the ones you have saved. (Starred) hope this helps!
  • NewLIFEstyle4ME
    NewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 4,440 Member
    ricomincia wrote: »
    I read a book called Goodbye, Things: On Minimalist Living by Fumio Sasaki late last year and it changed my whole perspective on life. Since then I have been ruthlessly going through things and moving them on - either to charity or selling them. Feels liberating.

    Think sometimes we hold on to objects for sentimental reasons - because there is a moment associated with them and a view that the thing will keep the memory alive. You'll never loose that memory and just take a picture of it to bring trigger that memory again if you feel you need it!

    Other thing I've been watching on Netflix earlier in the year is Marie Kondo's series on de-cluttering - which is also great and I've learnt a whole new way of organising my world to make it a much better place to live! :)

    The combination of these two have been something of a revelation....

    I've haven't heard of this book, will have to check it out. Living minimally does something inside and outside of you. I guess just like hoarding or living in excess all the time will/does too. I love the way you said you'd become "ruthless" letting go and not looking back at all your "stuff". I did the EXACT thing when I began this wonderful adventure (and I find it's a ongoing deal/like maintenance in weight blastification). I LOVE being "ruthless" in getting rid of excess and messy stuff(and thinking too)--it's the only way to "fly" with me concerning decluttering, period.
  • NewLIFEstyle4ME
    NewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 4,440 Member
    edited July 2019
    I haven't read all this thread but the beginning is good. Has anyone mentioned FlyLady? = Finally Loving Yourself. Look it up, nice website and encouraging. All the best to everyone. Moving and have lots to let go of - kids all out, downsizing to a very small place,... have lost 100lbs in less than a year... need to lose lots of pounds of junk!

    I've known about "FLYLady for years, but never knew the "FLY" meant Finally Loving Yourself...how cool! For you to have permanently blasting 100lbs AND in less than a year is the stuff CHAMPIONS are made of. You ROCK, period. Let me tell ya, getting rid of and not looking back a "lots of pounds of junk" is going to help, encourage, and bless your life just as much if not more than the weight loss. WOW! Thank you ever so much for posting--your contribution to this thread is absolutely fantastic--again YAY YOU, you superstar YOU! Boom!
    o:)<3o:)
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,410 Member
    ricomincia wrote: »
    I read a book called Goodbye, Things: On Minimalist Living by Fumio Sasaki late last year and it changed my whole perspective on life. Since then I have been ruthlessly going through things and moving them on - either to charity or selling them. Feels liberating.

    Think sometimes we hold on to objects for sentimental reasons - because there is a moment associated with them and a view that the thing will keep the memory alive. You'll never loose that memory and just take a picture of it to bring trigger that memory again if you feel you need it!

    Other thing I've been watching on Netflix earlier in the year is Marie Kondo's series on de-cluttering - which is also great and I've learnt a whole new way of organising my world to make it a much better place to live! :)

    The combination of these two have been something of a revelation....

    Thanks for the book suggestion! I'll have to check it out!
    My mom once said that when her parents died of old age, there was a houseful of things left behind. She has always had a minimalist mentality. She told me that everything in the house was sentimental, since they were her loving parents. But all she kept in memory of them were their reading glasses and a handkerchief. She could have lugged everything to her house but you are right the memories will always be in the mind. The things we leave behind are just things.

    I love Marie Kondo's show as well.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,410 Member
    I just watched a video about the book. @ricomincia
    I liked hearing was it was written by a young man's perspective. I also liked the idea of adopting a "uniform"; don't have too many clothes but wear and buy only what truly suits you and you feel good in. The writer of the book has about ten pieces of clothing hanging in his closet.

    https://youtu.be/BUJB_zwD2SM

    I'll have to buy the book to get some more inspiration.
    One memory this review jogged was when I was moving classrooms; my dad was helping me. He said that I have way too many children's books and that is overwhelming for kids. So, I pared down my books by a third based on his wise comment. Same goes with toys. A child will get overwhelmed if they have a room with all kinds of toys instead of just a few toys in sight.
  • Gisel2015
    Gisel2015 Posts: 4,189 Member
    I like the idea of donating things that we don't longer need, want or overwhelm our household. I would do it in a heart bit. But how do you deal with your spouse's feelings and wishes?
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,410 Member
    Gisel2015 wrote: »
    I like the idea of donating things that we don't longer need, want or overwhelm our household. I would do it in a heart bit. But how do you deal with your spouse's feelings and wishes?

    That's a tough one!! He will have to meet you in the middle; donate just a few things with him and he'll probably slowly come to the realization, I don't need all this STUFF. I know that of all the things I've donated, I barely now remember what they were.
  • snoo61
    snoo61 Posts: 549 Member
    Gisel2015 wrote: »
    I like the idea of donating things that we don't longer need, want or overwhelm our household. I would do it in a heart bit. But how do you deal with your spouse's feelings and wishes?

    I started with my things only. I'm not anywhere near done, but my hubby has started going through his things. Its random, but progress.
  • snoo61
    snoo61 Posts: 549 Member
    Hi friends, got home last night to a clean house! Hubby cleaned, mopped, and even shampooed carpets. It was a wonderful feeling!
  • Gisel2015
    Gisel2015 Posts: 4,189 Member
    Awesome @snoo61! Great hubby you have there, enjoy him and the clean house. :)
  • snoo61
    snoo61 Posts: 549 Member
    Gisel2015 wrote: »
    Awesome @snoo61! Great hubby you have there, enjoy him and the clean house. :)

    He's definitely a keeper! :smiley:
  • cory17
    cory17 Posts: 1,513 Member
    Gisel2015 wrote: »
    I like the idea of donating things that we don't longer need, want or overwhelm our household. I would do it in a heart bit. But how do you deal with your spouse's feelings and wishes?

    Positive encouragement and look for the keys that make letting go of things easier for your spouse. (I am the spouse with the difficulty letting go/my dh would with great glee chuck the majority of what's here. But that's why I read this board - it's POSITIVE & encouraging /lectures simply make me resent it all & not want to let go. And I can hand over things to my kids who do pass it on if not needed. And if it's going to a good cause, I can give to that. Saw a video on Swedish death cleaning which made sense; so am trying. Also, if there's a reason why something isn't needed anymore, that helps. Putting stuff on freecycle so it goes to a new home as well.)
  • snoo61
    snoo61 Posts: 549 Member
    The computer room is next! I just keep seeing things that need to be gone through. I started photo albums, threw 1 out. But I really just need to start in one corner and go through the whole thing.
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