To the guys.

i'm not particularly keen on the idea of working out with anybody.

I work out alone and I like it - but if I were to ask my boyfriend to take a playful little jog with me, it would hurt my feelings if he blew me off like the OP says the guy did. There's working out, and then there's being active with your partner.

WDYT? I want to know what a guy thinks about what was said, and how you feel about the difference between "playful and active" and "working out".


even though me and the boyfriend don't work out together, we still chase each other around the yard and goof off at the park.

I guess we go for bike rides sometimes, but I always want to sprint and she wants to go leisurely.

Sometmes she hits the treadmill while I lift weights. That's actually fun because we can both go our own pace but still be doing something together.

It is good to hear that you do like doing some active stuff together (the treadmill and weights) when it comes to fitness. My boyfriend is in better overall shape than me, and doesn't work out, so my working out is solely my thing, and we certainly have different hobbies... but in relation to the topic at hand, it's good to know that fit dudes that to work out will enjoy different paced activities with their SOs.

Working in a gym, I rarely ( mean it) see a couple ever working out together. If I do see them, it's usually one instructing the other and not really working out.
My wife is more than welcome to work out with me. But for my own personal goals and her own personal goals we don't. But my wife has done many of my group training classes.

Why not? No reason why you can't spend time with your significant other now and then. If she can't keep- slow down

On second thought ... Maybe this is easier for me because my girlfriend is imaginary and does what I tell her.

hahaha

Id have given him the finger and went about my jog. Rude!

Anyhow... Only experience Ive had working out with anyone was with my daughter. And yeah... it kind of annoyed me. She always wanted to move to something different before I was ready. I quite like doing it by myself now that shes back in school.

BUT... I do think it would be fun to have someone to jog or hike with.

I wouldn't mind working out together, but hubby is a beach boy (kite surfer) and I'm not, so makes it tricky. He doesn't enjoy the gym. And the gym is my thing.

I have no first hand answer to your question but if a lady is willing to hold my hand I hope I never ever treat her like *kitten* and have no respect for a guy that does.

You're a good guy!!!

I have no first hand answer to your question but if a lady is willing to hold my hand I hope I never ever treat her like *kitten* and have no respect for a guy that does.

You're a good guy!!!

Definitely.

For me...with her. My girlfriend has more than enough respect for my routine not to interfere, and if she wanted to follow along...my sets are short enough that we could trade off quickly and easily...her lift on my rest periods, me on hers...without this whole 'pace' mess you guys keep talking about.

If she wanted to do cardio the entire time (she doesn't...she's truly infatuated with kettlebells lol, which is cool)...we'd still be there at the same time, enjoying each other's company.

I get enough alone time at work.

One of the most important things a woman can do to have a successful relationship with a man is to occasionally allow him some space all of his own. I know it's hard to understand, even if you don't feel the same way (and some women do!), but the majority of guys need at least a little time alone. If you try to do EVERYTHING with him, you'll end up doing NOTHING with him!

It also applies to women also. In any relationship, its very important to have some space to live your own lives. No matter how many years you're together, you're still 2 people with 2 separate lives. That's a FACT.

I go to the gym with my husband, but we do our own thing. I'd feel like a weirdo hanging out with the men anyway. We've played tennis together, and done some jogging, I suppose that counts as working out together.. and it was never a problem, because we both workout often. But, I did have a very unfit friend, and it was the most annoying thing in the world working out with her. She walked way too slow, couldn't run, and always on the verge of passing out at the gym. (Actually asked on a couple occasions to take a cig break too. wtf, right?) So as long as the two people (husband/wife; friends) are on the same level, then it's all good, but when they're not, then forget it.

Not surprisingly, most people are so focused on sharing their opinions about themselves that they've missed the point of the OP. If the OP was just straight-up wondering how many guys work out alone, she wouldn't have included the story. The woman is asking *him* to go with her. She didn't roll up on him while he was working out and try to invite herself along. Clearly, she wants to jog, and given his response - he knows a little something about it through experience. She's asking someone to whom she's remotely close to go with her.

We don't know if she asks all the time or not. We just know this has happened this once. Yet, of course, even with limited information, most of the answers here have assumed that she doesn't give him enough space, and that she does this sort of thing all the time. He doesn't need to jog with her every day or even often, but to discourage her (*ding ding ding* the point of the story) when she's asking is douchy. Point blank. This isn't about what he likes to do normally. A good response that gets the same job done without being a baby about it is "No."

My wife and I used to workout together, now our schedules are different, so we workout alone, we sometimes go to the gym together, but workout separate. I do like working out alone, but if she wanted to I would workout with her, she understands how I workout, I don't chit-chat or make small talk. I like to do my workout and go. That guy sounds like a d!ck. I would never tell my wife something like that.

I agree. If my boyfriend would say that to me, I'll use my boxing techniques to punch him right in his face in no time. No one ever has the right to say those things to someone especially a partner.

ok i may be different here, but if my girl (when i actually find one) wanted to work out with me or walk/jog with me and doesnt mind slowing down for me i would have no problem with it. or even if she wanted to lift with me... i so much prefer to lift with someone even if they are not at my level.. it only takes a minute to adjust the weights... and with that said, i go to a gym with my best friend (who yes just happens to be a woman, and is also the person in my main profile pic with me.... kinda.... ) and she has wanted me to teach her to start lifting, and i have no problem with it and actually enjoy it because it is something that i can teach someone else, even though i am not all that good at it myself since i have only been lifting for about 4 months or so. but i prefer working with someone.....