Run into Jealousy?



  • OAS5
    OAS5 Posts: 374 Member
    It's a weird thing with losing weight and jealousy. I'm assuming we have all run into Jealousy and sometimes people trying to sabotage weight loss.
    I was the heaviest guy at work, along with another guy who was about the same size. I have lost 72-73 pounds and he is still heavy. I have gotten compliments or at least discussed my weight loss with just about everyone but this one person. He has never ever mentioned it.
    I've also had people ask me to eat crappy food at work to which I say no thanks. I've had people leave chips and crappy food where I sit at work in the morning. As if BS like that was gonna work. Just a funny thing about humans. Why jealousy and sabotage? I wouldn't do that to someone.

    Are you saying that the heavy person at your office is jealous, just because he hasn’t mentioned your weight loss to you? That’s quite an assumption. I never discuss any of my coworkers weight loss or gain; it’s not my business and in my opinion it’s rude to comment on acquaintances’ appearances. Doesn’t mean I’m jealous; just means that I don’t discuss those things with coworkers.

    I also think it’s a little presumptuous to assume that just because people offer you work snacks, it means they are trying to sabotage you. I would need to see some more specific examples of “sabotage,” because this example you gave doesn’t suggest sabotage to me. Just politeness/friendliness.

    To not even mention hey good job losing weight is a bit odd. It's not 5 pounds, it's 73 pounds, especially when everyone there has talked about it.

    I have to agree with @gallicinvasion here, just because this person hasn't congratulated you on your personal loss, doesn't necessarily imply that they are jealous and is one heck of an assumption, even if other people have commented. People have very different views on what's acceptable conversation at work.

    Where did I say I wanted a congratulations? All in saying is not too acknowledge it at all is kinda odd. I don't want adulation or about. It's just odd that everyone has said something except one person.

    And that's where we differ, I don't think it's odd at all and I wouldn't automatically assume jealousy. I'd actually be more bothered personally about the compliments in a workplace.

    Is he one of the people pushing snacks your way or are those the people who complimented you?

    Actually no ironically.
  • ceiswyn
    ceiswyn Posts: 2,241 Member
    I can't be sure that I've encountered jealousy... but a couple of people who were among my closest friends seem to have stopped talking to me, and they're both people who have gained weight over the time I've lost it, and who have body image issues.

    There are other reasons they might have decided to drop me. But I wouldn't be surprised if jealousy were a factor.
  • brenn24179
    brenn24179 Posts: 2,135 Member
    just realized this may be jealousy when a coworker got very distant last year when I lost the weight, she just keeps gaining weight, maybe I remind her of her weight. Yep, it was hurtful but I can drop her just like I did the pounds. Very good advice!
  • Not to minimize your feelings but you are a grown person so stop seeking validation or expecting praise for your life. Most will not be happy for you because it brings up their insecurities and makes you appear higher than. The passive aggressive acts you will have to just throw in the trash. The bitter seeded comments I have directed very straight forward in response. Most people don’t really celebrate others they act so they can get their validation fix but if you come out of the box they put you in then you don’t serve them and you get the ugly comments.

    Good job on losing just know most aren’t really that intrigued but a few really do want to know. Sometimes in our earnest to share we alienate and others act out. When I lost 100 lbs I got questions like what drugs did you use, you look ill etc. But losing weight was all I talked about directly or indirectly so I had to learn how to live without the praise. This applies to anything you do that changes how they met you.