What's on your mind?

mmultanen · September 2019

@your_future_ex_wife I think looking inward and assessing what works for us and why and what isn't working for us and why is really important. It's hard work and the gains are not consistent but in the long run its work that makes us more comfortable with who we are and what is driving us to do the things we do.

Good on you for doing that work. It's not comfortable.

caco_ethes · September 2019

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Honestly, I've tried to meditate and I am not good at it. I find myself making grocery list in my head or planning the weekend trip to the cabin or wondering what I would look like with bangs. I haven't been able to get my head to a clear space with or without facilitated meditation.

BUT I am a giant fan of intentional breathing exercises. They help a lot with stress management.

Have you tried the Headspace app? It’s amazing. It teaches you not to repress thoughts during meditation but to simply observe them. Plus the guy’s voice is 🙌🏻

caco_ethes · September 2019

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I try to look beyond the surface, to extend grace for human errors, to invest time and effort, emotion and energy. For two or maybe three years now this has been what I’ve tried to do. because I want to be given the same kindness. I *kitten* up a lot. Say stupid things. Become self-absorbed. But I’ve tried to learn to be open, that people can care for each other even though we’re all a bunch of dumbasses.

But now IRL and online it doesn’t feel like it’s yielded much good fruit. And even though I try not to keep a record of wrongs, I have a list of four or five examples in that time of people either taking unfair advantage of my good faith or being suspicious and cruel about my motives. (And yes, one time in which I was a suspicious *kitten* about someone else’s motives and *kitten* it up.) What I’d hoped were budding friendships. I’m not even talking about sex or romance which I guess is supposed to be even more complicated.

I don’t know why I’m sharing all this, continuing to be vulnerable. Probably just a habit at this point.

Hugged this because you’re a complicated beautiful soul

cynthiabickham · September 2019

My ex showed up at my house last night. Luckily my dad was up watching the LSU football game. Told him to to leave, that I wasn’t interested in seeing him. My ex then proceeded to call my phone and leave voicemails. (He’s blocked so his voicemails went to my blocked voicemail box.)
He “just wanted to talk”. 🤣 #nope

_Miss_Chievous · September 2019

My anxiety is taking over today and the scenarios going through my mind is scaring the hell out of me. Can't wait for my daughter to get home and take my mind off of everything, she's been away for 2 days and it's been the longest 2 days ever.

nooshi713 · September 2019

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Trying so hard not to dwell on family problems but it is difficult.

Tomorrow will be a day of meditation.

Hope everything gets better.

Meditation helps me alot too. I've been trying to take some time every day for it. It's good for the soul.

Thank you 🤗❤️🥰

NoHookUpZone · September 2019

I'm thinking I need to ignore Samsung health calorie count and just follow mfp. It's confusing me

slimgirljo15 · September 2019

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mmultanen wrote: »

Honestly, I've tried to meditate and I am not good at it. I find myself making grocery list in my head or planning the weekend trip to the cabin or wondering what I would look like with bangs. I haven't been able to get my head to a clear space with or without facilitated meditation.

BUT I am a giant fan of intentional breathing exercises. They help a lot with stress management.

Have you tried the Headspace app? It’s amazing. It teaches you not to repress thoughts during meditation but to simply observe them. Plus the guy’s voice is 🙌🏻

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_Miss_Chievous wrote: »

My anxiety is taking over today and the scenarios going through my mind is scaring the hell out of me. Can't wait for my daughter to get home and take my mind off of everything, she's been away for 2 days and it's been the longest 2 days ever.

my favorite calm down method is to imagine i’m walking in the woods on a pathway through trees and there are dead leaves covering the path and my breath is so strong that every time i breathe out the leaves are blown off the pathway in front of me and i can see where i’m going
then breathe in again, and out to clear the path ahead of me just over and over while moving forward

idk if that makes sense but sometimes it helps me anyways

My image is of a beach.. I'm walking on the sand, a line of palm trees on my left the sun low on the horizon over the still ocean on my right. I watch my feet as the very edge of the water coming in touches them.. it's my calming place. I imagine the warmth, smell and feel as if I were there.

777Gemma888 · September 2019

I like to type everything that is bothering me down to its microscopic detail. Then I would ready myself to meditate in the back yard firepit ...set it alight. Visualize it all turning to ashes before me as I watch and breathe. Then we would go for a run or swim depending on the energy expenditures and pain rooting. Yoga and meditative breathing above the duck, swan pond to magnetize only good and positive vibrations to fill the vacuum of whatever I had allowed to turn to ash and float away from my life. I don't entertain negative spaces or thoughts longer than I absolutely have to.

your_future_ex_wife · September 2019

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mmultanen wrote: »

Honestly, I've tried to meditate and I am not good at it. I find myself making grocery list in my head or planning the weekend trip to the cabin or wondering what I would look like with bangs. I haven't been able to get my head to a clear space with or without facilitated meditation.

BUT I am a giant fan of intentional breathing exercises. They help a lot with stress management.

Have you tried the Headspace app? It’s amazing. It teaches you not to repress thoughts during meditation but to simply observe them. Plus the guy’s voice is 🙌🏻

_Miss_Chievous wrote: »

My anxiety is taking over today and the scenarios going through my mind is scaring the hell out of me. Can't wait for my daughter to get home and take my mind off of everything, she's been away for 2 days and it's been the longest 2 days ever.

my favorite calm down method is to imagine i’m walking in the woods on a pathway through trees and there are dead leaves covering the path and my breath is so strong that every time i breathe out the leaves are blown off the pathway in front of me and i can see where i’m going
then breathe in again, and out to clear the path ahead of me just over and over while moving forward

idk if that makes sense but sometimes it helps me anyways

My image is of a beach.. I'm walking on the sand, a line of palm trees on my left the sun low on the horizon over the still ocean on my right. I watch my feet as the very edge of the water coming in touches them.. it's my calming place. I imagine the warmth, smell and feel as if I were there.

i imagine i’m in a casket 😐

slimgirljo15 · September 2019

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mmultanen wrote: »

Honestly, I've tried to meditate and I am not good at it. I find myself making grocery list in my head or planning the weekend trip to the cabin or wondering what I would look like with bangs. I haven't been able to get my head to a clear space with or without facilitated meditation.

BUT I am a giant fan of intentional breathing exercises. They help a lot with stress management.

Have you tried the Headspace app? It’s amazing. It teaches you not to repress thoughts during meditation but to simply observe them. Plus the guy’s voice is 🙌🏻

_Miss_Chievous wrote: »

My anxiety is taking over today and the scenarios going through my mind is scaring the hell out of me. Can't wait for my daughter to get home and take my mind off of everything, she's been away for 2 days and it's been the longest 2 days ever.

my favorite calm down method is to imagine i’m walking in the woods on a pathway through trees and there are dead leaves covering the path and my breath is so strong that every time i breathe out the leaves are blown off the pathway in front of me and i can see where i’m going
then breathe in again, and out to clear the path ahead of me just over and over while moving forward

idk if that makes sense but sometimes it helps me anyways

My image is of a beach.. I'm walking on the sand, a line of palm trees on my left the sun low on the horizon over the still ocean on my right. I watch my feet as the very edge of the water coming in touches them.. it's my calming place. I imagine the warmth, smell and feel as if I were there.

i imagine i’m in a casket 😐

Does that help?

I have 3 images I go to depending on how I'm feeling.. the one I described above for calming or ( lots of negative thoughts in my head) I imagine myself behind a brick wall with a little window if the negative thoughts that my inner self is saying are really getting to me.. I slide a metal shutter over the window so I can't hear the inner me. It's a visualisation that works really well for me.
Also if I feel a lot of negativity around me, I imagine dark storm clouds over my house then I picture a breeze coming up and blowing the clouds back till it's only clear, sunny sky.
These techniques have been with me 20 years and I'm glad I met the lady who introduced me to it.. it's helped me immensely.

your_future_ex_wife · September 2019

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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »

slimgirljo15 wrote: »

tinkerhellraiser wrote: »

caco_ethes wrote: »

mmultanen wrote: »

Honestly, I've tried to meditate and I am not good at it. I find myself making grocery list in my head or planning the weekend trip to the cabin or wondering what I would look like with bangs. I haven't been able to get my head to a clear space with or without facilitated meditation.

BUT I am a giant fan of intentional breathing exercises. They help a lot with stress management.

Have you tried the Headspace app? It’s amazing. It teaches you not to repress thoughts during meditation but to simply observe them. Plus the guy’s voice is 🙌🏻

_Miss_Chievous wrote: »

My anxiety is taking over today and the scenarios going through my mind is scaring the hell out of me. Can't wait for my daughter to get home and take my mind off of everything, she's been away for 2 days and it's been the longest 2 days ever.

my favorite calm down method is to imagine i’m walking in the woods on a pathway through trees and there are dead leaves covering the path and my breath is so strong that every time i breathe out the leaves are blown off the pathway in front of me and i can see where i’m going
then breathe in again, and out to clear the path ahead of me just over and over while moving forward

idk if that makes sense but sometimes it helps me anyways

My image is of a beach.. I'm walking on the sand, a line of palm trees on my left the sun low on the horizon over the still ocean on my right. I watch my feet as the very edge of the water coming in touches them.. it's my calming place. I imagine the warmth, smell and feel as if I were there.

i imagine i’m in a casket 😐

Does that help?

I have 3 images I go to depending on how I'm feeling.. the one I described above for calming or ( lots of negative thoughts in my head) I imagine myself behind a brick wall with a little window if the negative thoughts that my inner self is saying are really getting to me.. I slide a metal shutter over the window so I can't hear the inner me. It's a visualisation that works really well for me.
Also if I feel a lot of negativity around me, I imagine dark storm clouds over my house then I picture a breeze coming up and blowing the clouds back till it's only clear, sunny sky.
These techniques have been with me 20 years and I'm glad I met the lady who introduced me to it.. it's helped me immensely.

it helps when i’m feeling overexposed. and it helps me sleep ❤️

slimgirljo15 · September 2019

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mmultanen wrote: »

Honestly, I've tried to meditate and I am not good at it. I find myself making grocery list in my head or planning the weekend trip to the cabin or wondering what I would look like with bangs. I haven't been able to get my head to a clear space with or without facilitated meditation.

BUT I am a giant fan of intentional breathing exercises. They help a lot with stress management.

Have you tried the Headspace app? It’s amazing. It teaches you not to repress thoughts during meditation but to simply observe them. Plus the guy’s voice is 🙌🏻

_Miss_Chievous wrote: »

My anxiety is taking over today and the scenarios going through my mind is scaring the hell out of me. Can't wait for my daughter to get home and take my mind off of everything, she's been away for 2 days and it's been the longest 2 days ever.

my favorite calm down method is to imagine i’m walking in the woods on a pathway through trees and there are dead leaves covering the path and my breath is so strong that every time i breathe out the leaves are blown off the pathway in front of me and i can see where i’m going
then breathe in again, and out to clear the path ahead of me just over and over while moving forward

idk if that makes sense but sometimes it helps me anyways

My image is of a beach.. I'm walking on the sand, a line of palm trees on my left the sun low on the horizon over the still ocean on my right. I watch my feet as the very edge of the water coming in touches them.. it's my calming place. I imagine the warmth, smell and feel as if I were there.

i imagine i’m in a casket 😐

Does that help?

I have 3 images I go to depending on how I'm feeling.. the one I described above for calming or ( lots of negative thoughts in my head) I imagine myself behind a brick wall with a little window if the negative thoughts that my inner self is saying are really getting to me.. I slide a metal shutter over the window so I can't hear the inner me. It's a visualisation that works really well for me.
Also if I feel a lot of negativity around me, I imagine dark storm clouds over my house then I picture a breeze coming up and blowing the clouds back till it's only clear, sunny sky.
These techniques have been with me 20 years and I'm glad I met the lady who introduced me to it.. it's helped me immensely.

it helps when i’m feeling overexposed. and it helps me sleep ❤️

Glad it helps 🙂 ❤

_Miss_Chievous · September 2019

My boyfriend flys back here tomorrow and I'm super anxious to see him and have his company.

Motorsheen · September 2019

Debating..... red or green chiles

Life is Hard

_Miss_Chievous · September 2019

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Debating..... red or green chiles

Life is Hard

Green

Motorsheen · September 2019

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Debating..... red or green chiles

Life is Hard

Green

I was leaning red.... but yeah, it probably will be green.

I'm trying to limit red meat in my diet, and grilled chicken pairs well with green; so, yeah... green.

** edit to add: Life is still Hard.

.

_Miss_Chievous · September 2019

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Motorsheen wrote: »

Debating..... red or green chiles

Life is Hard

Green

I was leaning red.... but yeah, it probably will be green.

I'm trying to limit red meat in my diet, and grilled chicken pairs well with green; so, yeah... green.

** edit to add: Life is still Hard.

.

My invite must have gotten lost in the mail 😋😝

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NoHookUpZone · September 2019

TOUCHDOWN!!

caco_ethes · September 2019

A bunch of people are coming over tonight and I already can’t wait for them to leave 🤦🏼‍♀️

_Miss_Chievous · September 2019

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A bunch of people are coming over tonight and I already can’t wait for them to leave 🤦🏼‍♀️

😂 I feel like that everytime I host something. Or if I go somewhere, I cant wait to go home

caco_ethes · September 2019

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A bunch of people are coming over tonight and I already can’t wait for them to leave 🤦🏼‍♀️

😂 I feel like that everytime I host something. Or if I go somewhere, I cant wait to go home

What’s wrong with us? Or why is everyone else so wrong and we’re the only right ones?

_Miss_Chievous · September 2019

caco_ethes wrote: »

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_Miss_Chievous wrote: »

caco_ethes wrote: »

A bunch of people are coming over tonight and I already can’t wait for them to leave 🤦🏼‍♀️

😂 I feel like that everytime I host something. Or if I go somewhere, I cant wait to go home

What’s wrong with us? Or why is everyone else so wrong and we’re the only right ones?

I don't know but...

Vikka_V · September 2019

@your_future_ex_wife
Check it out Ex-y!!
I feel like a proud parent! 18 shamrocks, 2 flowers and 4 more flower sproutlets coming up!
The leaves and flowers close up at night, it has character! Really enjoying this plant...oh, and the weed I was duped into buying has grown on me, it's cute too. It closes up a bit at night too.

cynthiabickham · September 2019

I know it sounds bad, but the stress I have right now makes me want to just eat a crap ton of chocolate. Help.

your_future_ex_wife · September 2019

Vikka_V wrote: »

@your_future_ex_wife
Check it out Ex-y!!
I feel like a proud parent! 18 shamrocks, 2 flowers and 4 more flower sproutlets coming up!
The leaves and flowers close up at night, it has character! Really enjoying this plant...oh, and the weed I was duped into buying has grown on me, it's cute too. It closes up a bit at night too.

idk y this made me tear up. i guess cuz you remembered me. and because you waited so patiently for this. they are so pretty. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

PaperDoll_ · September 2019

cynthiabickham wrote: »

I know it sounds bad, but the stress I have right now makes me want to just eat a crap ton of chocolate. Help.

I'm sorry to hear you're stressed. I'd love to help you. Please send any and all chocolate to me!

mmultanen · September 2019

Motorsheen wrote: »

Debating..... red or green chiles

Life is Hard

Green.

Vikka_V · September 2019

your_future_ex_wife wrote: »

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Vikka_V wrote: »

@your_future_ex_wife
Check it out Ex-y!!
I feel like a proud parent! 18 shamrocks, 2 flowers and 4 more flower sproutlets coming up!
The leaves and flowers close up at night, it has character! Really enjoying this plant...oh, and the weed I was duped into buying has grown on me, it's cute too. It closes up a bit at night too.

idk y this made me tear up. i guess cuz you remembered me. and because you waited so patiently for this. they are so pretty. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Aww, I been taking progress pics all along, for you! 'Cause you seemed interested! I have a very good (creepy almost?) memory, I'm shy to share (sometimes!)
But thanks! You made me feel encouraged!! (uh-oh!!...whats next!?!)

They have flourished dramatically the past few weeks...had to show you!! And have to write the vendor a great review, super pleased. It was 'hard' to find and get shipped here, worth it tho...I rotate them throughout the day when I'm home and first thing I do at night when I get home...even the wonky little clover weed! I enjoy caring for them!

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