Only one being healthy

4lustxx · December 2019

Everyone in my household is obese , including me. I’ve been very strict and really working on eating healthy I cut out red meats for now ( maybe I’ll have on occasion) I cut out breads I’ll eat corn tortillas but I’m trying to whole using bell peppers or lettuce as bread but anywho I’m trying to lose weight I’ve never been this big until having a baby !! I spent my whole life thinking I was fat even when my weight was amazing and I looked good !! Anywho my bf always talks about diets and being healthy but it never about it I even said we can get healthy together we don’t need to do the same stuff or anything but we can make changes together ( he always says he wants to eat healthy but he binges on snacks he rather spend hours eating candy chips spam and stuff like that other than actual food he loves Mc Donald’s but he denies any food you offer (anybody) could ask if he wants food he says no and I used to get on him about it because he wouldn’t eat all day and than when he finally would it would be chips , spam making cookies etc. my mother isn’t around a lot she works a lot so she does tend to eat un healthy but she doesn’t effect me or anything she will eat healthy it just isn’t around like it use to be and my stepdad won’t eat vegetables unless it’s in a burger (LEttuce tomato) so how do I stay encouraged how do I continue just doing this on my own .. it’s kinda hard because we are cleaning out the fridge and I suggested making a turkey soup with all the veggies we had (they’re gonna go bad soon anyways) and my bf suggested beef fajitas I said he can make that for himself that would be great and he’s like I don’t make food for myself everyone eats it anyways and I’m just like ...
so idk , I buy my own food and eat a lot of fruit and veggies on my own because I don’t want to be fat anymore I’m just feeling alone in this journey. I don’t want my bf to necessarily do like me but I wish he’d enjoy eating real food idk if it’s beef or whatever cheesy but like a meal , not candy or chips something that will help his nutrition. Sorry for the rant I’m just feeling stuck in this household

Chef_Barbell · December 2019

This is a tale you hear a lot around here. You can only focus on yourself when it comes to weightloss. It's a solo journey, yes it's nice when you have others along with you but it's your path.

Now for weight loss, you only need to eat less than you burn. There are only unhealthy portions. No need to make drastic diet changes to lose weight because that tends to make people get overwhelmed and quit. Small sustainable changes definitely go a long way.

Hollis100 · December 2019

OP I hear you and feel for you. You want to eat more vegetables, get better nutrition and make it easier for yourself to lose weight, and everybody around you is eating high calorie snack food or takeout food that has more calories and less nutrition. We can't change other people, only ourselves. It's hard. Take it one day at a time.

For weight loss only, you only need to track calories, not change the type of food.

Down the line, can you look at getting your own fridge and maybe your own place? Good luck to you.

airforceman1978 · December 2019

I know your tell by heart. My wife will try for 3 days and say I didn't lose anything in 3days so I can't lose weight. Want get into mother and father inlaws lol. So here is what I have learned. First try to be nice and just tell them you have to do this for you and please be considerate. If that does not work tell them to kiss your *kitten* your doing this for you whether they like it are not. That is what I got from the 40 response off my post. There be people on both sides and but you got to do it for you no one else matters and you can't change them even though you wan't to.

NovusDies · December 2019

Losing weight is healthy all by itself. There is no need to start with food restrictions unless it is food that cannot be moderated.

Methods of weight loss are not universal. You do not want to start an adversarial situation by looking down on other's food choices as "unhealthy". Eating beef fajitas is perfectly fine if it results in a calorie deficit for the day. I have eaten them many times along with pizza, fried foods, potato chips, etc. I have lost a lot of weight and my health has dramatically improved.

My food choices now are very different from when I started. I would not recommend what I do to anyone. It works for me but others would find it a hardship because among other reasons it involves a lot of fish and most people seem to prefer chicken for lean protein.

Shortgirlrunning · December 2019

All you can do is focus on your own journey. You can’t make him come along with you.

Join in more in this community or find a weight loss Facebook group if you are feeling alone. Community can be a great help in your weight loss journey and if you can’t get that in real life there’s so many options online.

gewel321 · December 2019

This is my household. My husband actually is in a gaining phase and my son just eats whatever. I just do me. I go to the gym several times a week by myself. I eat what I want and keep under my calories. If my family wants to eat taco bell and I don't have the calories for it then I make myself a chicken roll. If we are going out for a dinner than I pick something small. If my husband wants something different then he makes it himself. He is a grown man. I will make food for my family and he can choose to eat it or not. I have wasted too much time not getting healthy because no one wanted to do it with me. This decision is for me and I will do it with or without anyone standing next to me.

Scottgriesser · December 2019

You are allowed to be frustrated, but you aren't allowed to impose your desired diet/routine on anyone else. It is a solo journey. Hopefully, after a while of seeing you do better, they will be more inclined to join in. Until then, you do you.

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