Online Relationships
LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
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I know this is becoming a new trend now & there are some online couples who do ended up in each other's arms. I have a current online relationship with someone from Spain that I met & chatted for more than 2 years. Although he seems very serious (he already has plans of settling down with me) & sincere with me but sometimes I get worred that this will not work out later on since he is in Spain & I currently living in an Asian country. Just want to know what are your opinions on this kind of relationship?
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I feel like it is as unpredictable as any other relationship is. I have had nearby relationships, and online/far off relationships. Just so happens that the one I have been in for the past 4 years (and happy in!
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Treat it as you would a relationship with someone down the road from you, it has the same potential, both good and bad.0 -
I'm sure it could work, but eventually one of you would have to uproot unless you are both content with never meeting face to face.0
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I know my situation is different because I live in the states and the boyfriend I'm with now also lives here in the states but we met online years ago, and finally met in person in 2009. we've been together ever since and he moved here to Colorado (He lived in North Carolina before), so I do believe things can work out! What you should figure out before hand is which of you would be willing to move to the other place because it will essentially come down to that! But I'm happy for you! I do believe online relationships can work, since I'm proof it has worked for me! I love my boyfriend very much and he had no problem moving here for me once we met in person. He has a job here now and he LOVES it here.
I'm just glad things worked out in the end. I would have moved to NC for him too, but he likes it here better so it all worked out! I wish you the best!!! Good luck! 0 -
Im biased :laugh: I met my husband online in November 2002 and we have been together ever since.0
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It depends on whether one of you is planning on/willing to relocate for the sake of the relationship. I had a really good friend that was in a long term relationship with someone where they were even living together and engaged to be married. She had to move out of town for personal reasons and he planed on joining her. But eventually they broke up bcuz he just deep down didnt want to move and she couldnt move back to where he lived and it ended the relationship after a period of time. Sooo....to me that seems to be the biggest issue facing you two0
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I met my husband online in 1999. Yay for random AIM chats! (Does anybody even use AIM anymore? :laugh:) I agree with the person who said they can be as unpredictable as any other relationship. The biggest downside is not getting to spend any time together in person. Yes, any person can be a liar, in-person or online, but I think it's easier to hide stuff from behind a computer screen. That said, I'm all about throwing caution to the wind for love. Keep your heart guarded only as much as you realize that this relationship could fail just like any other relationship could fail, and have the confidence in yourself that you can be self-sufficient -- don't pin your everything on one person, whether online or down the street. And don't use up all your life savings uprooting your life unless you're sure you can come back home if need be, or make a life for yourself there if the relationship goes south. But if you have real feelings for him, and you feel like the relationship is strong and steady, go for it!0
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i have been talking to someone for the past 4 months that i met online and we are meeting in about a week. we talk and share way more than anyone i have ever met in a bar....we will see how it goes but i think that you have to be very careful and comfortable before you make the big decisions. i wish you the best in your relationship.0
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Serious and Sincere in an online capacity is one thing...in person is another thing entirely different. I'll agree with everyone else so far who has said that one of you will need to uproot, and I don't know if it's such a good idea until you've spent time together in person before making that decision.I know this is becoming a new trend now & there are some online couples who do ended up in each other's arms. I have a current online relationship with someone from Spain that I met & chatted for more than 2 years. Although he seems very serious (he already has plans of settling down with me) & sincere with me but sometimes I get worred that this will not work out later on since he is in Spain & I currently living in an Asian country. Just want to know what are your opinions on this kind of relationship?0 -
I've known people who met online and are currently happily in relationships or even married. I also know a couple of people who were deceived by the person they met online. In one case, they married and then divorced with horrific tales of abuse and fraud on the part of the man. She thought he was a prince when they were talking online but he was in reality, a toad.
Be very careful - the nature of the internet does allow a person to portray themselves as something other than what they truly are.0 -
I know my situation is different because I live in the states and the boyfriend I'm with now also lives here in the states but we met online years ago, and finally met in person in 2009. we've been together ever since and he moved here to Colorado (He lived in North Carolina before), so I do believe things can work out! What you should figure out before hand is which of you would be willing to move to the other place because it will essentially come down to that! But I'm happy for you! I do believe online relationships can work, since I'm proof it has worked for me! I love my boyfriend very much and he had no problem moving here for me once we met in person. He has a job here now and he LOVES it here. I'm just glad things worked out in the end. I would have moved to NC for him too, but he likes it here better so it all worked out! I wish you the best!!! Good luck!
He already planning to go here visit me soon & then we will settle down in his country. Frankly I also love to live there & get to know my grandmother's ancestral roots although my bf lives in the northern part while our ancestral place is in the southern part. I hope that things will work out for us just like what you two have. I'm so happy that you have a successful relationship & I wish you all the best. 0 -
I totally agree... I met my last boyfriend on "match.com"... and people look great on paper and in reality, it's a whole other story... Everything that he "said" he was, he was for the first month.... After that, it was all lies... I'm not saying that you can't meet anyone and get married or have a great relationship... (you've seen the commercials)... hmmm everyone on there meets at a restaurant... over here everyone meets at Starbucks... lmao... Either way, please be careful... Make sure that you know whom you are seriously speaking too...
You should also wonder are the coming into your relationship "with a carry-on" or a whole bunch of luggage???? Be careful, follow your gutt feelings... and have faith....
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I've known people who met online and are currently happily in relationships or even married. I also know a couple of people who were deceived by the person they met online. In one case, they married and then divorced with horrific tales of abuse and fraud on the part of the man. She thought he was a prince when they were talking online but he was in reality, a toad.
Be very careful - the nature of the internet does allow a person to portray themselves as something other than what they truly are.
I also heard that from some people here & which is why I get worried. Although I completely agree with his plan to go visit me here & also to meet my parents (this is a trend here), but still I can't help but feel kinda cautious not because I don't trust him but because I still haven't met him yet.0 -
I totally agree... I met my last boyfriend on "match.com"... and people look great on paper and in reality, it's a whole other story... Everything that he "said" he was, he was for the first month.... After that, it was all lies... I'm not saying that you can't meet anyone and get married or have a great relationship... (you've seen the commercials)... hmmm everyone on there meets at a restaurant... over here everyone meets at Starbucks... lmao... Either way, please be careful... Make sure that you know whom you are seriously speaking too...
You should also wonder are the coming into your relationship "with a carry-on" or a whole bunch of luggage???? Be careful, follow your gutt feelings... and have faith....
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OK I will & I also agree on that in either way whether online or in person, we have to be very careful and more so when the person is miles away. We'll see what will happen to us although I don't really give in my 100% because of it. 0 -
I technically met my fiance online.
We knew each other from school, but later started talking online.
he came back to visit me for a few weeks during the summer, then went back to a different state and we were long distance for three years. He came back again this summer and now we're engaged!
If you have feelings for someone then you can make the relatoinship work,
and i think online is a good way to meet people, just as long as you know a little bit about the person.0 -
i have been talking to someone for the past 4 months that i met online and we are meeting in about a week. we talk and share way more than anyone i have ever met in a bar....we will see how it goes but i think that you have to be very careful and comfortable before you make the big decisions. i wish you the best in your relationship.
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eventually one of you will have to move , but who is willing to take that step? You or him?
I had an online relationship back in 1991 , after a year of communication I decided to come to the U.S and meet him in person.
The relationship went well for the first two years but then it ended terribly.
If you are willing to move to Spain just to be with him , both of you need to be sincere and mature about the whole situacion.
It's a big step, leaving family behind,friends,job.pets..etc... is not easy.
It's your life .the move is a risk ..I love them. I'm a gambleler at times...but now that im a older and wiser just make sure the parachute actually works:laugh:
Don't be afraid to ask him just how serious he is about your relationship, there were things I never asked just because I didn't want to seem paranoid or didn't want scare him away. I wish I had put the cards on the table and had a real talk. I was young and naive then and Just let my emotions lead me to him. You are worthy so make sure you look out for you,,if he truly cares for you he won't get upset ..he will understand .. Good luck !:flowerforyou:0 -
I met my husband online in 1999. Yay for random AIM chats! (Does anybody even use AIM anymore? :laugh:) I agree with the person who said they can be as unpredictable as any other relationship. The biggest downside is not getting to spend any time together in person. Yes, any person can be a liar, in-person or online, but I think it's easier to hide stuff from behind a computer screen. That said, I'm all about throwing caution to the wind for love. Keep your heart guarded only as much as you realize that this relationship could fail just like any other relationship could fail, and have the confidence in yourself that you can be self-sufficient -- don't pin your everything on one person, whether online or down the street. And don't use up all your life savings uprooting your life unless you're sure you can come back home if need be, or make a life for yourself there if the relationship goes south. But if you have real feelings for him, and you feel like the relationship is strong and steady, go for it!
Thanks... Good thing I have my own finances to back me up that I don't want to tell anybody about it. I know this sound weird but I also encounter a lot of guys (especially here where I am but it can also apply anywhere) who I felt just used me for money & made me feel more like an ATM machine.0 -
eventually one of you will have to move , but who is willing to take that step? You or him?
I had an online relationship back in 1991 , after a year of communication I decided to come to the U.S and meet him in person.
The relationship went well for the first two years but then it ended terribly.
If you are willing to move to Spain just to be with him , both of you need to be sincere and mature about the whole situacion.
It's a big step, leaving family behind,friends,job.pets..etc... is not easy.
It's your life .the move is a risk ..I love them. I'm a gambleler at times...but now that im a older and wiser just make sure the parachute actually works:laugh:
Don't be afraid to ask him just how serious he is about your relationship, there were things I never asked just because I didn't want to seem paranoid or didn't want scare him away. I wish I had put the cards on the table and had a real talk. I was young and naive then and Just let my emotions lead me to him. You are worthy so make sure you look out for you,,if he truly cares for you he won't get upset ..he will understand .. Good luck !:flowerforyou:
Oh OK. I hope everything is fine now there. Anyway I'm also asking him on those things and he keeps on saying to me that he loves me & he's willing to do everything for me :ohwell: just I promise I won't cheat on him but well I'm still feel unsure about this. Thanks for your advice & I wish you all the best. 0 -
I'm sure it could work, but eventually one of you would have to uproot unless you are both content with never meeting face to face.
That's what I'm thinking. We both wanted to meet face to face because things are very different in person than in internet but since we still haven't meet yet so I couldn't stop worrying.0 -
Oh OK. I hope everything is fine now there. Anyway I'm also asking him on those things and he keeps on saying to me that he loves me & he's willing to do everything for me :ohwell: just I promise I won't cheat on him but well I'm still feel unsure about this. Thanks for your advice & I wish you all the best.
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Things are great =D ..that was a lesson for me , but if your bf plans to go visit you and talk to your parents ..that would a good start.
If I could go back I would have made him come meet mine first ...lol0 -
I am glad he is going to visit you. Make sure you really get to know him. My online relationship ended up being a bunch of lies. I did marry the guy and he did move here. I was married for about 3 years before I found out I was his third wife and not the second and he still tried to lie to me about it. I had a background check done.
Just be very careful!!!
Best of luck to you!0 -
Good for you for having the patience for online relationships; I surely don't. :laugh:
Just be careful on the outset and use your common sense. :flowerforyou:0 -
Happily married to my husband for 5 years-- we have a 2y/o son. First email April 2005, met face to face June 2005, he asked me to marry him Oct 2005 and we were married June 2006. Our son was born Dec 2008. If you really want something to work and so does he then anything can be done.0
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I met my hubby online in 2005, we met in November that year face to face the first time. Inseparable ever since.0
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As soon as I saw this topic I was like, yay! Haha. I met my Nick online purely by chance one day about a year and 8 months ago. We chatted for hours on end, and for whatever reason, things just really clicked and we fell head over heels for each other. Two days later (yes, TWO days!) he wrote me this: http://n003k.com/?p=212 (really long but so so so worth the read!) I knew as soon as I finished reading something he worked so hard on, putting his heart on his sleeve and risking never speaking to me again, I had to be with him. So, we decided we were in a relationship. We never really went by boyfriend and girlfriend, because we felt that we already had so much more than that. As a matter of fact, he is my fiance, but for use of this site, I do call him boyfriend. Anyway, I told my family about him, and he told his, and, though there was rightfully some skepticism there, he came down that April and my parents immediately saw why I love him so much. He is just THE most amazing guy. A year and almost 8 months later, and here I am, 1200 miles away from home to be with him, and it's working out fabulously. We almost never fight. We never get tired of each other (even though we live AND work together,) and though we are past the "honeymoon phase" and have our share of tiffs, we couldn't be happier. If it weren't for being online that day, we never would have met so I thank the LORD for online relationships :laugh:
Whoo, that was long. Sorry, I think about it and go on and on
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As soon as I saw this topic I was like, yay! Haha. I met my Nick online purely by chance one day about a year and 8 months ago. We chatted for hours on end, and for whatever reason, things just really clicked and we fell head over heels for each other. Two days later (yes, TWO days!) he wrote me this: http://n003k.com/?p=212 (really long but so so so worth the read!) I knew as soon as I finished reading something he worked so hard on, putting his heart on his sleeve and risking never speaking to me again, I had to be with him. So, we decided we were in a relationship. We never really went by boyfriend and girlfriend, because we felt that we already had so much more than that. As a matter of fact, he is my fiance, but for use of this site, I do call him boyfriend. Anyway, I told my family about him, and he told his, and, though there was rightfully some skepticism there, he came down that April and my parents immediately saw why I love him so much. He is just THE most amazing guy. A year and almost 8 months later, and here I am, 1200 miles away from home to be with him, and it's working out fabulously. We almost never fight. We never get tired of each other (even though we live AND work together,) and though we are past the "honeymoon phase" and have our share of tiffs, we couldn't be happier. If it weren't for being online that day, we never would have met so I thank the LORD for online relationships :laugh:
Whoo, that was long. Sorry, I think about it and go on and on
WOW I'm so happy for you... I hope things will work out the same with us. Some of his family including his mom already knows about me but unfortunately mine isn't that open yet. Can't blame them though.0 -
As soon as I saw this topic I was like, yay! Haha. I met my Nick online purely by chance one day about a year and 8 months ago. We chatted for hours on end, and for whatever reason, things just really clicked and we fell head over heels for each other. Two days later (yes, TWO days!) he wrote me this: http://n003k.com/?p=212 (really long but so so so worth the read!) I knew as soon as I finished reading something he worked so hard on, putting his heart on his sleeve and risking never speaking to me again, I had to be with him. So, we decided we were in a relationship. We never really went by boyfriend and girlfriend, because we felt that we already had so much more than that. As a matter of fact, he is my fiance, but for use of this site, I do call him boyfriend. Anyway, I told my family about him, and he told his, and, though there was rightfully some skepticism there, he came down that April and my parents immediately saw why I love him so much. He is just THE most amazing guy. A year and almost 8 months later, and here I am, 1200 miles away from home to be with him, and it's working out fabulously. We almost never fight. We never get tired of each other (even though we live AND work together,) and though we are past the "honeymoon phase" and have our share of tiffs, we couldn't be happier. If it weren't for being online that day, we never would have met so I thank the LORD for online relationships :laugh:
Whoo, that was long. Sorry, I think about it and go on and on
WOW I'm so happy for you... I hope things will work out the same with us. Some of his family including his mom already knows about me but unfortunately mine isn't that open yet. Can't blame them though.
Yeah, they're rightful to be skeptical. I'm sure they'll get over it eventually, especially if he's as great of a guy as you say he is and thank you! 0 -
I met my fiance online, and it has been working out perfectly. We met on the social-networking site, MySpace, about two years and seven months ago. We clicked instantly and started going out after about three days of talking. We didn't end up actually meeting in-person until about nine months into the relationship, but it was so worth the wait. Since then, we have been seeing each other every three months. Stavros will be moving up year next summer and I cannot wait. Love is love regardless of where or how you meet the person.0
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Love is love regardless of where or how you meet the person.
Agree on this.
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they can work but they do depend on everyone being honest about what they want, sounds like you guys are off to a great start, my one word of advice would be that if you move make sure you have a back up plan incase things don't work out, i moved twice to be with partners and didn't heed this advice, my friends there were his friends so when we broke up i had no one in the area to turn to for support, the second time i didn't realise things were going wrong and didn't have any money to set myself up in a new home (i was living in his place) this time round i paid attention and told my other half (again met online) from the outset that i wasn't prepared to move again for love and he moved here and although we have moved it was just round the corner into a bigger place we both have our own group of friends and don't rely on each other for anything apart from love and we've been together for over 2 years now and living together for 1. they can work0
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