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is MFP more important than marriage?

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  • NazmaAjm
    NazmaAjm Posts: 1 Member
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    Chieflrg wrote: »
    Mine lasted 23, but really should of been 2-3 in hind sight.

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  • TonyB0588
    TonyB0588 Posts: 9,520 Member
    well, not really a debate (I hope! :o )

    Today is my wedding anniversary and coincidentally I recieved this message from MFP on receiving my 7 year MFP poster badge: Wow! Seven years. Your community relationships have outlasted most marriages.

    Do most marriages really last less than 7 years these days?? (or was that exagerated hyperbole??)

    Mine has so far lasted for 34 .

    #humblebrag ;):Do:)

    I've heard the expression "Seven year itch" which apparently signifies a time when married people start to wander. I also know that a Christian marriage is expected to last until parted by death. Next month is 32 years of marriage for me. My parents are at 56 years now. This is what I consider "normal" but it seems the world is rapidly changing around me.
  • privy95
    privy95 Posts: 81 Member
    25 years
  • Howard_M_Burgerz
    Howard_M_Burgerz Posts: 61 Member
    edited May 2020
    15 years as of yesterday
  • midlomel1971
    midlomel1971 Posts: 1,283 Member
    17 years for me as of two weeks ago.
  • paperpudding
    paperpudding Posts: 8,926 Member
    Before the lockdown started in March...17 years.

    Since March....1,863,054 years....and counting. :|

    :D:D

  • 4legsRbetterthan2
    4legsRbetterthan2 Posts: 19,590 MFP Moderator
    Hummm, I've been on MFP longer than I have been married. Only married for 6 years so far. I'll check in next year and let you know if that itch has set in 😉
  • ali_kat4
    ali_kat4 Posts: 70 Member
    8 years on MFP.
    11 years happily married. Although sometimes when i'm clean eating, my marriage isn't as happy as when we can sit on the couch eating junk food together. hahaha
  • hipari
    hipari Posts: 1,367 Member
    edited May 2020
    Married for 9 months, together for 13 years, out of which we have lived together for 8 years.

    5 years on MFP, I think.
  • VeryKatie
    VeryKatie Posts: 5,928 Member
    MikePTY wrote: »
    well, not really a debate (I hope! :o )

    Today is my wedding anniversary and coincidentally I recieved this message from MFP on receiving my 7 year MFP poster badge: Wow! Seven years. Your community relationships have outlasted most marriages.

    Do most marriages really last less than 7 years these days?? (or was that exagerated hyperbole??)

    Mine has so far lasted for 34 .

    #humblebrag ;):Do:)

    This piqued my interest so I got to googling it. It was a bit hard to dicipher originally because a lot of places claim this stat as fact. But it's not really true, as there is an important qualifier.

    Marriages, that end in divorce , last an average of 7 years. So not all marriages, since only half end in divorce. Most places that quote this stat have dropped the "that end in divorce" part, so it becomes pretty misleading in those cases.

    have you looked up the stat of half of marriages end in divorce? Last I read, that stat is false as well. Its less.
  • HeidiCooksSupper
    HeidiCooksSupper Posts: 3,831 Member
    Hubby and I didn't find each other until we were 54. First marriage for both of us. I like to joke that we missed that first marriage people get divorced from. 14 years and lately staying home alone in our 2-bedroom apt., we're still fine, pandemic and all.
  • xGreatWhiteNorthx
    xGreatWhiteNorthx Posts: 335 Member
    My marriage lasted 5, but we were together for 8.

    Sort of hard to maintain a marriage with someone who becomes incredibly selfish and doesnt care about anyone but himself and he's an angel compared to the rest of his family.🤷‍♀️

    I'm a better person for leaving and putting as much distance between him and me as I legally could.
  • melissatwill
    melissatwill Posts: 246 Member
    My husband and I are on lucky number 13!! Definitely has not been easy & times when we both wanted to give up, but at the end of the day he really is my best friend and I couldn’t ask for a better father for our children!
  • threewins
    threewins Posts: 1,455 Member
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    I always have found this graph shape interesting.
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 31,718 Member
    threewins wrote: »
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    I always have found this graph shape interesting.

    Yeahbut, run that X-axis up to 100%, and it's a whole different graph. :lol:

    For interpretation, we have our choice between "Yikes! Three times higher divorce rate at 4-8 years vs 26 and beyond!" or "Single digit divorce rates all the way through, but making unsuitable choices usually shows up by year 8 or so", or variations on those themes.

    That depiction encourages one kind of interpretation over the other.

    P.S. I was married for almost 21 years. It probably would've lasted, but he a little over 21 years ago. I hope MFP is more important than marriage, because only one of those two is in my life now . . . and that's how I like it now, too.
  • paperpudding
    paperpudding Posts: 8,926 Member
    There is a word missing - I take it 'died' - he died a little over 21 years ago?

    As OP of this thread which surprisingly has kept limping along since my wedding anniversary back in Feb - marriage is more important than MFP.

    If MFP collapsed tomorrow it would be disappointing but not devastating.

    If my husband died/left it would be more than mildly disappointing. :*
  • melaniedscott
    melaniedscott Posts: 1,290 Member
    edited July 2020
    https://de.statista.com/statistik/daten/studie/1346/umfrage/anzahl-der-geschiedenen-ehen-nach-ehedauer/

    The chart shows divorces after x years of marriage for Germany.
    I'm quite sure that such statistics exist for USA too.

    So, for Germany, most marriages last longer than 7 years
    What I found interesting is the high rate of divorced "long-term-marriages".
    Possibly because their modus-operandi (raise the kids) became obsolete?


    Edit:
    For me it's 24 years and counting ...

    In the US we are seeing higher rated of "divorce" among elderly adults when one has serious health problems. They divorce so the ill partner can qualify for government funded insurance that pays more and doesn't bankrupt the other partner. Our healthcare system is crazy. It is pretty sad.

    20 years married here & quite pleased to continue. Almost 4 years on MFP.