"No offense, but you're getting kinda big."
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Now contrast this with other posts that say "I didn't realize how big I was getting. Why didn't anyone tell me?"4
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killin_tyme wrote: »
Sure, you're right about that. But it could be in the reception rather than the delivery.
And I feel where the OP is coming from. When I was near my heaviest, my great uncle told me straight out in a room full of people that I was the "fattest one in the Jruzer family", and that obviously was not meant as a gentle encouragement. It sucked, and hurt. But I wasn't about to insult (or punch in the throat - really?) my 80-year-old WW2-veteran great uncle, either.2 -
Just ignore it and say, "thanks for noticing"... Sometimes I like to throw in "I am working on my winter body." Life is too short to give any Fs.
I have been called fat so many times by family members, even to this day at only 124 pounds and a size 4/6... When I introduced my fiancé to my family, one cousin asked me if he was blind, and another said that I am so lucky thick girls are trending. Just last week my mom said she was concerned that I wouldn't be able to find a wedding dress in my size, and questioned if the church was large enough for me to fit down the aisle. I used to be obese and I think people like family still see me that way, but even when I was a size 18/20 I would still be able to find a dress and certainly fit down an aisle. WTF? Once my Aunt even questioned if I was able to fit through a subway turnstile in NYC, and that was when I weighed 145 lb. I bet she still thinks I can't fit. Geez... So moral of the story, just ignore all comments about your size.2 -
Don't let any of those comments grind you down. Try to keep it in neutral and not be swayed by flattery or wounded by harsh criticism. Super-egos enjoy making others feel small. I can spot them a mile away.1
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