Gained a pound in a month... while eating below TDEE?
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Fat loss and weight loss are related, but not the same thing. Did you know that stress is one thing that can increase water retention?
Estimated TDEE is not necessarily true TDEE, and estimated/logged intake and activity is not necessarily true intake and activity, so calculated deficit is not necessarily true deficit.
Do you use a weight trending app**? If so, what does the trend say?
** Happy Scale for Apple iOS, Libra for Android, Trendweight with a free Fitbit account (don't need a device), Weightgrapher, others. Not a crystal ball or a source of magical insights, but can be a help when losing very slowly, as I'd suggest you should be at your current weight.6 -
Hmm, yeah. It might be stress since I'm preparing to go away to college soon.
I don't have a weight trending app because I hate stepping on the scale, I'm always afraid I'm going to gain another pound. I assume it was water since yesterday I was back to 121. But on the downside, I haven't lost any weight in a month.
I have also ruled out that it's muscle. My body looks the same from the side (~very~ scientific, I know) but also, my waist hasn't shrunk. However, I've been doing ab exercises- at least 30 crunches, a 1-minute plank, and 20 leg lifts each day. I've expanded into doing that AND MadFit's senorita ab work out (so basically a 3 min ab workout). My thighs are still jiggly as hell and my arms look like bat wings when I put them straight out. I've also been doing 5 knee push-ups because that's all I can do (and get up from).0 -
Every time someone in these forums asks a question like this, someone (or many someones) always comes in to say "Your're eating more than you think." I'm going to be one of those people, but don't just tune me out.
The truth is, you can have the most accurate scale on planet Earth, and you could use that scale to weigh every atom of food that you eat ... and STILL be eating more calories than you think. How is that possible? Let me answer that question with a question.
How many calories are in an 85g pork chop?
When I enter that into myfitnesspal, I get a range of possibilities from 110 calories up to 262 with lots of numbers in between. Which is correct? Well, you could refine your search by adding modifiers, but even then you'll often end up with a range of possibilities. When that happens, you'll have to guess which one to use.
So, how do you know if you guessed right? Simple. The scale will tell you.
What's the scale telling you?
I'm entering/correcting literally everything I eat. Unless large companies are literally breaking the law, then everything is correct.
But again, I'm still not losing weight. It's been a month (and yes I'll bring this up with my doctor at the next appointment)0 -
Have you considered getting a professional personal trainer with a degree in nutrition to help you out?1
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Hanibanani2020 wrote: »Have you considered getting a professional personal trainer with a degree in nutrition to help you out?
Kinda broke right now (or well, planning to be broke in August because of college), but I have a friend who's thinking of getting a PT license. She's given me some ab exercises to do, which I do.
I also ran my measurements today and I'm 27-28% body fat. Great... But strength training hasn't been working.
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stargirlhorse wrote: »Hanibanani2020 wrote: »Have you considered getting a professional personal trainer with a degree in nutrition to help you out?
Kinda broke right now (or well, planning to be broke in August because of college), but I have a friend who's thinking of getting a PT license. She's given me some ab exercises to do, which I do.
I also ran my measurements today and I'm 27-28% body fat. Great... But strength training hasn't been working.
You are only like 5lbs away from being underweight. Do you think that little bit will make a difference? I think you will be way more happy with adding strength training/gaining muscle vs losing to be underweight.11 -
The Navy calculators are now giving me around 20%- three different calculators, two giving me 20 and one giving me 20.3.0
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stargirlhorse wrote: »Hmm, yeah. It might be stress since I'm preparing to go away to college soon.
I don't have a weight trending app because I hate stepping on the scale, I'm always afraid I'm going to gain another pound. I assume it was water since yesterday I was back to 121. But on the downside, I haven't lost any weight in a month.
I have also ruled out that it's muscle. My body looks the same from the side (~very~ scientific, I know) but also, my waist hasn't shrunk. However, I've been doing ab exercises- at least 30 crunches, a 1-minute plank, and 20 leg lifts each day. I've expanded into doing that AND MadFit's senorita ab work out (so basically a 3 min ab workout). My thighs are still jiggly as hell and my arms look like bat wings when I put them straight out. I've also been doing 5 knee push-ups because that's all I can do (and get up from).
I know it may sound a bit ironic, but the weight-trending app can actually make you feel better about stepping on the scale because it shows you how normal those fluctuations are. As others have mentioned, the one-pound-freakout is a bit concerning.
While you can’t spot reduce, ab exercises can help build muscle over time, which losing fat can help reveal. But your body may not lose fat around your mid-section initially. And I don’t think that’s enough intense exercise to build muscle or burn fat just yet. And any exercise is better than none. Keep at it, and you’ll build on your current strength and stamina.5 -
stargirlhorse wrote: »Hmm, yeah. It might be stress since I'm preparing to go away to college soon.
I don't have a weight trending app because I hate stepping on the scale, I'm always afraid I'm going to gain another pound. I assume it was water since yesterday I was back to 121. But on the downside, I haven't lost any weight in a month.
I have also ruled out that it's muscle. My body looks the same from the side (~very~ scientific, I know) but also, my waist hasn't shrunk. However, I've been doing ab exercises- at least 30 crunches, a 1-minute plank, and 20 leg lifts each day. I've expanded into doing that AND MadFit's senorita ab work out (so basically a 3 min ab workout). My thighs are still jiggly as hell and my arms look like bat wings when I put them straight out. I've also been doing 5 knee push-ups because that's all I can do (and get up from).
I know it may sound a bit ironic, but the weight-trending app can actually make you feel better about stepping on the scale because it shows you how normal those fluctuations are. As others have mentioned, the one-pound-freakout is a bit concerning.
While you can’t spot reduce, ab exercises can help build muscle over time, which losing fat can help reveal. But your body may not lose fat around your mid-section initially. And I don’t think that’s enough intense exercise to build muscle or burn fat just yet. And any exercise is better than none. Keep at it, and you’ll build on your current strength and stamina.
But I’ve been doing these ab exercises since at least March, I want to say even since February (and I think I remember doing them late February on vacation, but only 25 crunches and 15 leg lifts). I haven’t seen any results. My stomach is just as giant as it was the day before or even the month before. I know because I’m Asian, I tend to get belly fat. It sucks but it’s just my stupid genetics.
BUT I have never seen an Asian with as much belly fat as I do. I’ve never seen an Asian with a protruding stomach like mine. I look like a pregnant teenager and that is NOT a look I want for college because everyone will think I’m a hoe. I REFUSE to attend college looking like this and will invest in waist trainers if I have to. Why won’t this belly fat go away? There’s no logical reason why it should still be here! Models like Ming Xi are also Asian and prove that nearly-flat stomachs are possible (yes I’m aware that females have uteruses. I took health). But why won’t mine look like hers? Or literally any of the ladies when you google “asian woman body from side” ?? And why do I have two chins?!2 -
stargirlhorse wrote: »Hmm, yeah. It might be stress since I'm preparing to go away to college soon.
I don't have a weight trending app because I hate stepping on the scale, I'm always afraid I'm going to gain another pound. I assume it was water since yesterday I was back to 121. But on the downside, I haven't lost any weight in a month.
I have also ruled out that it's muscle. My body looks the same from the side (~very~ scientific, I know) but also, my waist hasn't shrunk. However, I've been doing ab exercises- at least 30 crunches, a 1-minute plank, and 20 leg lifts each day. I've expanded into doing that AND MadFit's senorita ab work out (so basically a 3 min ab workout). My thighs are still jiggly as hell and my arms look like bat wings when I put them straight out. I've also been doing 5 knee push-ups because that's all I can do (and get up from).
Sadly, muscle takes months to years to gain in any material amount, so you're right, it's not muscle. Under perfect conditions, a very good result for a woman would be a quarter pound of additional muscle mass per week (possibly twice that, if male). Perfect conditions include a well-designed progressive strength training program faithfully performed, good nutrition (especially adequate protein), relative youth, and a calorie surplus. You have the youth part, but not the good progressive strength program (arguably the most important element), you're shooting for a deficit (not a surplus), and I have no idea how good your nutrition is. I'm not saying you couldn't see some muscle mass gain, but it would be less than a quarter pound a week.
Also, everyone, even very fit people, have some underarm tissue that moves when they hold their arms straight out. Relaxed triceps do that, with gravity. I'm not saying you have zero arm fat or whatever, but I'd bet that some of what you're calling "bat wings" is perfectly good muscle. For every single woman in real life I've discussed this with (there have been quite a few), part of what she was calling "bat wings" or some other ugly name was actually triceps muscles. (This is one of my pet peeves, TBH). Triceps are slack/mobile when relaxed, and only tighten up when they contract to do work. When you hold your arm out straight, they're relaxed.
Hold your arm out horizontally, then grab a handful of the hang-y bit with the opposite hand, grabbing up as close as you can get to the upper arm bone with your fingertips. Hold on.
Next, while continuing to hold on with the opposite hand, take the extended arm and flex it like you're a bodybuilder. Get the upper arm at an angle above your shoulder, curl the lower part of the arm down toward your shoulder, curl the wrist downward/inward, and just generally work as hard as you can by positioning and intention to tighten up every bit of your arm that you can, especially that upper arm. (Basically, it's the position in my profile photo, but with the elbow up so the upper arm is raised maybe a 45-degree angle above horizontal, and tightened. In my photo, the triceps muscles aren't really engaged.)
Anything that you have grabbed with the opposite hand, that you feel tighten up or get firmer when you do the flexing, is muscle, not fat or loose skin. It's just that when that muscle is relaxed, especially with the arm outstretched, gravity makes it hang a bit. (If it didn't, how would it contract to do work?) Any large/long muscle in your body can act like this, such as hamstrings. The triceps just happen to be located in an area where its easy to see them and obsess about it. Sometimes women misidentify some hamstrings as fat, too - in the seated, relaxed position, part of the upper thigh squishing out horizontally is just relaxed hamstrings. If one raises the leg while lying done, but keeping the hamstrings relaxed, they'll wobble, too.)
Even quite fit women (and men) can typically make the upper arm area wobble, if they hold it in the right position with triceps relaxed.12 -
You’re cutting too drastically to be building any kind of significant muscle9
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stargirlhorse wrote: »stargirlhorse wrote: »Hmm, yeah. It might be stress since I'm preparing to go away to college soon.
I don't have a weight trending app because I hate stepping on the scale, I'm always afraid I'm going to gain another pound. I assume it was water since yesterday I was back to 121. But on the downside, I haven't lost any weight in a month.
I have also ruled out that it's muscle. My body looks the same from the side (~very~ scientific, I know) but also, my waist hasn't shrunk. However, I've been doing ab exercises- at least 30 crunches, a 1-minute plank, and 20 leg lifts each day. I've expanded into doing that AND MadFit's senorita ab work out (so basically a 3 min ab workout). My thighs are still jiggly as hell and my arms look like bat wings when I put them straight out. I've also been doing 5 knee push-ups because that's all I can do (and get up from).
I know it may sound a bit ironic, but the weight-trending app can actually make you feel better about stepping on the scale because it shows you how normal those fluctuations are. As others have mentioned, the one-pound-freakout is a bit concerning.
While you can’t spot reduce, ab exercises can help build muscle over time, which losing fat can help reveal. But your body may not lose fat around your mid-section initially. And I don’t think that’s enough intense exercise to build muscle or burn fat just yet. And any exercise is better than none. Keep at it, and you’ll build on your current strength and stamina.
But I’ve been doing these ab exercises since at least March, I want to say even since February (and I think I remember doing them late February on vacation, but only 25 crunches and 15 leg lifts). I haven’t seen any results. My stomach is just as giant as it was the day before or even the month before. I know because I’m Asian, I tend to get belly fat. It sucks but it’s just my stupid genetics.
BUT I have never seen an Asian with as much belly fat as I do. I’ve never seen an Asian with a protruding stomach like mine. I look like a pregnant teenager and that is NOT a look I want for college because everyone will think I’m a hoe. I REFUSE to attend college looking like this and will invest in waist trainers if I have to. Why won’t this belly fat go away? There’s no logical reason why it should still be here! Models like Ming Xi are also Asian and prove that nearly-flat stomachs are possible (yes I’m aware that females have uteruses. I took health). But why won’t mine look like hers? Or literally any of the ladies when you google “asian woman body from side” ?? And why do I have two chins?!
Any chance part of it is anterior pelvic tilt and/or upper body slouch/chin-forward? Those are a very common issue these days, and both emphasize the abdomen - make it look bigger.6 -
stargirlhorse wrote: »stargirlhorse wrote: »Hmm, yeah. It might be stress since I'm preparing to go away to college soon.
I don't have a weight trending app because I hate stepping on the scale, I'm always afraid I'm going to gain another pound. I assume it was water since yesterday I was back to 121. But on the downside, I haven't lost any weight in a month.
I have also ruled out that it's muscle. My body looks the same from the side (~very~ scientific, I know) but also, my waist hasn't shrunk. However, I've been doing ab exercises- at least 30 crunches, a 1-minute plank, and 20 leg lifts each day. I've expanded into doing that AND MadFit's senorita ab work out (so basically a 3 min ab workout). My thighs are still jiggly as hell and my arms look like bat wings when I put them straight out. I've also been doing 5 knee push-ups because that's all I can do (and get up from).
I know it may sound a bit ironic, but the weight-trending app can actually make you feel better about stepping on the scale because it shows you how normal those fluctuations are. As others have mentioned, the one-pound-freakout is a bit concerning.
While you can’t spot reduce, ab exercises can help build muscle over time, which losing fat can help reveal. But your body may not lose fat around your mid-section initially. And I don’t think that’s enough intense exercise to build muscle or burn fat just yet. And any exercise is better than none. Keep at it, and you’ll build on your current strength and stamina.
But I’ve been doing these ab exercises since at least March, I want to say even since February (and I think I remember doing them late February on vacation, but only 25 crunches and 15 leg lifts). I haven’t seen any results. My stomach is just as giant as it was the day before or even the month before. I know because I’m Asian, I tend to get belly fat. It sucks but it’s just my stupid genetics.
BUT I have never seen an Asian with as much belly fat as I do. I’ve never seen an Asian with a protruding stomach like mine. I look like a pregnant teenager and that is NOT a look I want for college because everyone will think I’m a hoe. I REFUSE to attend college looking like this and will invest in waist trainers if I have to. Why won’t this belly fat go away? There’s no logical reason why it should still be here! Models like Ming Xi are also Asian and prove that nearly-flat stomachs are possible (yes I’m aware that females have uteruses. I took health). But why won’t mine look like hers? Or literally any of the ladies when you google “asian woman body from side” ?? And why do I have two chins?!
It's great that you do ab workouts. However, what ab workouts do is increase strength and eventually muscle. They do NOT do anything to the fat on top of the muscles.
Unless you have seen Ming Xi's bare stomach in person, there's a good chance you have never seen what her waist actually looks like. Photoshop is a thing and way too common. Videos an be edited, too. Same with the pictures you got from the google search you mentioned (which I'm not going to try myself, because frankly it sounds like results could be too fetish-y for my breakfast).
As a recent college student, I strongly recommend you spend the summer working on your self-confidence instead of your waist. I spent 6 years in college (non-US, so different system) and literally the only person to ever comment or stare at my waist was an elderly man at a charity event we threw. Like I mentioned in one of your other threads about the same subject, in all my photos from college the "good ones" are where I'm happy and confident, and the "bad ones" are the ones where I'm self-conscious about my body. Same obese weight in all of them.10 -
Is it time for the tough love yet cuz boyyyyyyy do I have something to say.18
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Please take a breath, you are comparing yourself to images that aren't real.
People will not assume your pregnant.
The girls in the pictures on the internet did not wake up like that. There is very flattering posing, lighting, photo-shopping going on.
It's also self selecting, only those who are very confident in their appearance are there. All the other people who look and feel like you are not having their picture shown everywhere.
You can only compare you to you, progress will happen slowly.
My suggestion for what it's worth is that you start doing Yoga, pilates, something of that nature.
It's easy to do at home so doesn't need to cost anything.
From what you've said I think part of it could be poor posture. Most of us sit down and slouch to much, and it makes an enormous difference when we stand up straight.
That kind of exercise done regularly helps to line everything back up, makes you stronger - including your core.
That can often help someone to carry themselves better, which in turn helps us to look better.
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This thread and the self-image distortion started bothering me. So, I went and took some photos. Neither photo is photoshopped in any way. Both are taken within 5 minutes of each other in the same location, in the same lightning, of the same person without any eating/drinkin/bathroom activity between them. No waist trainers, corsets, spanx or anything like that either.
The first picture (grey shirt) is with me slouching with bad posture, pushing my stomach out. I purposefully put on my belt too tight and a bit-too-tight shirt to accentuate the effect. The second picture (blue top) is with good posture, stomach sucked in, more flattering pose. I chose pants that don’t create a muffin-top effect and a more flattering top.
I’m literally obese (BMI 32.4) with unhealthy amounts of fat in my abdomen, and I can create a full baby bump OR a flat stomach for pictures without digital editing or any other tricks than changing my pose and clothes. Think about what lighting, proper underwear, professional editing and differences in bloat could do.
ETA: today is actually a fairly non-bloated day and I haven’t had lunch yet, usually I could do a much heavier fake bump...18 -
stargirlhorse wrote: »stargirlhorse wrote: »Hmm, yeah. It might be stress since I'm preparing to go away to college soon.
I don't have a weight trending app because I hate stepping on the scale, I'm always afraid I'm going to gain another pound. I assume it was water since yesterday I was back to 121. But on the downside, I haven't lost any weight in a month.
I have also ruled out that it's muscle. My body looks the same from the side (~very~ scientific, I know) but also, my waist hasn't shrunk. However, I've been doing ab exercises- at least 30 crunches, a 1-minute plank, and 20 leg lifts each day. I've expanded into doing that AND MadFit's senorita ab work out (so basically a 3 min ab workout). My thighs are still jiggly as hell and my arms look like bat wings when I put them straight out. I've also been doing 5 knee push-ups because that's all I can do (and get up from).
I know it may sound a bit ironic, but the weight-trending app can actually make you feel better about stepping on the scale because it shows you how normal those fluctuations are. As others have mentioned, the one-pound-freakout is a bit concerning.
While you can’t spot reduce, ab exercises can help build muscle over time, which losing fat can help reveal. But your body may not lose fat around your mid-section initially. And I don’t think that’s enough intense exercise to build muscle or burn fat just yet. And any exercise is better than none. Keep at it, and you’ll build on your current strength and stamina.
But I’ve been doing these ab exercises since at least March, I want to say even since February (and I think I remember doing them late February on vacation, but only 25 crunches and 15 leg lifts). I haven’t seen any results. My stomach is just as giant as it was the day before or even the month before. I know because I’m Asian, I tend to get belly fat. It sucks but it’s just my stupid genetics.
BUT I have never seen an Asian with as much belly fat as I do. I’ve never seen an Asian with a protruding stomach like mine. I look like a pregnant teenager and that is NOT a look I want for college because everyone will think I’m a hoe. I REFUSE to attend college looking like this and will invest in waist trainers if I have to. Why won’t this belly fat go away? There’s no logical reason why it should still be here! Models like Ming Xi are also Asian and prove that nearly-flat stomachs are possible (yes I’m aware that females have uteruses. I took health). But why won’t mine look like hers? Or literally any of the ladies when you google “asian woman body from side” ?? And why do I have two chins?!
I just wanted to say, if you really do have an unusual amount of belly fat compared to the rest of your body (not just the OP but anyone reading who feels similarly) have a doctor check you out, and ask specifically about Cushing’s syndrome. One other frequent sign is a lot of bright red stretch marks on the bottom of your belly. It’s caused by hormones going wild, and mine was caused by an ovarian tumor. My “looks pregnant” belly was NOT just normal obesity but an actual medical condition which was resolved by the tumor being removed.
OP, I don’t think you probably have this, just wanted to mention the possibility both for you and for others. Sometimes when you hear the sound of hooves, it really is a zebra, not a horse.
Also: may I suggest doing push-ups from an elevated surface rather than knee pushups? Knee pushups don’t really allow the same muscles to be targeted. Start with a wall, then a counter, then the seat of a chair. I also found that an ab roller is great for both strengthening those pushups muscles and the abs. You can get a cheap one for less than 10 dollars, or use a dumbbell or barbell.
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stargirlhorse wrote: »stargirlhorse wrote: »Hmm, yeah. It might be stress since I'm preparing to go away to college soon.
I don't have a weight trending app because I hate stepping on the scale, I'm always afraid I'm going to gain another pound. I assume it was water since yesterday I was back to 121. But on the downside, I haven't lost any weight in a month.
I have also ruled out that it's muscle. My body looks the same from the side (~very~ scientific, I know) but also, my waist hasn't shrunk. However, I've been doing ab exercises- at least 30 crunches, a 1-minute plank, and 20 leg lifts each day. I've expanded into doing that AND MadFit's senorita ab work out (so basically a 3 min ab workout). My thighs are still jiggly as hell and my arms look like bat wings when I put them straight out. I've also been doing 5 knee push-ups because that's all I can do (and get up from).
I know it may sound a bit ironic, but the weight-trending app can actually make you feel better about stepping on the scale because it shows you how normal those fluctuations are. As others have mentioned, the one-pound-freakout is a bit concerning.
While you can’t spot reduce, ab exercises can help build muscle over time, which losing fat can help reveal. But your body may not lose fat around your mid-section initially. And I don’t think that’s enough intense exercise to build muscle or burn fat just yet. And any exercise is better than none. Keep at it, and you’ll build on your current strength and stamina.
But I’ve been doing these ab exercises since at least March, I want to say even since February (and I think I remember doing them late February on vacation, but only 25 crunches and 15 leg lifts). I haven’t seen any results. My stomach is just as giant as it was the day before or even the month before. I know because I’m Asian, I tend to get belly fat. It sucks but it’s just my stupid genetics.
BUT I have never seen an Asian with as much belly fat as I do. I’ve never seen an Asian with a protruding stomach like mine. I look like a pregnant teenager and that is NOT a look I want for college because everyone will think I’m a hoe. I REFUSE to attend college looking like this and will invest in waist trainers if I have to. Why won’t this belly fat go away? There’s no logical reason why it should still be here! Models like Ming Xi are also Asian and prove that nearly-flat stomachs are possible (yes I’m aware that females have uteruses. I took health). But why won’t mine look like hers? Or literally any of the ladies when you google “asian woman body from side” ?? And why do I have two chins?!
Ming Xi is 5’10”, for starters, and spends literally all day every day working hard to look like that. It’s a full time job, she has people designing her meals and her workouts, and even at that, fewer than one in a million women look the way she does. There are billions of women in the world and only a handful of Victoria’s Secret models. And after all that hard work, many many people on earth would still say she’s not to their taste, because humans have different taste.
Even if you were literally pregnant few people would care enough to judge you. College is not high school. High school is a tiny little Petri dish where toxic people are forced together and no one can avoid judgement. In college no one cares what you look like unless you go out of your way to interact with them. You will be amazed at how freeing it is to be able to pick and choose where to go, what classes to take, and who to be friends with.
And, by the way, it’s kinda rude and judgy to call other women hoes, even if you are putting those words in someone else’s mouth. Work on that!14 -
rheddmobile wrote: »stargirlhorse wrote: »stargirlhorse wrote: »Hmm, yeah. It might be stress since I'm preparing to go away to college soon.
I don't have a weight trending app because I hate stepping on the scale, I'm always afraid I'm going to gain another pound. I assume it was water since yesterday I was back to 121. But on the downside, I haven't lost any weight in a month.
I have also ruled out that it's muscle. My body looks the same from the side (~very~ scientific, I know) but also, my waist hasn't shrunk. However, I've been doing ab exercises- at least 30 crunches, a 1-minute plank, and 20 leg lifts each day. I've expanded into doing that AND MadFit's senorita ab work out (so basically a 3 min ab workout). My thighs are still jiggly as hell and my arms look like bat wings when I put them straight out. I've also been doing 5 knee push-ups because that's all I can do (and get up from).
I know it may sound a bit ironic, but the weight-trending app can actually make you feel better about stepping on the scale because it shows you how normal those fluctuations are. As others have mentioned, the one-pound-freakout is a bit concerning.
While you can’t spot reduce, ab exercises can help build muscle over time, which losing fat can help reveal. But your body may not lose fat around your mid-section initially. And I don’t think that’s enough intense exercise to build muscle or burn fat just yet. And any exercise is better than none. Keep at it, and you’ll build on your current strength and stamina.
But I’ve been doing these ab exercises since at least March, I want to say even since February (and I think I remember doing them late February on vacation, but only 25 crunches and 15 leg lifts). I haven’t seen any results. My stomach is just as giant as it was the day before or even the month before. I know because I’m Asian, I tend to get belly fat. It sucks but it’s just my stupid genetics.
BUT I have never seen an Asian with as much belly fat as I do. I’ve never seen an Asian with a protruding stomach like mine. I look like a pregnant teenager and that is NOT a look I want for college because everyone will think I’m a hoe. I REFUSE to attend college looking like this and will invest in waist trainers if I have to. Why won’t this belly fat go away? There’s no logical reason why it should still be here! Models like Ming Xi are also Asian and prove that nearly-flat stomachs are possible (yes I’m aware that females have uteruses. I took health). But why won’t mine look like hers? Or literally any of the ladies when you google “asian woman body from side” ?? And why do I have two chins?!
Ming Xi is 5’10”, for starters, and spends literally all day every day working hard to look like that. It’s a full time job, she has people designing her meals and her workouts, and even at that, fewer than one in a million women look the way she does. There are billions of women in the world and only a handful of Victoria’s Secret models. And after all that hard work, many many people on earth would still say she’s not to their taste, because humans have different taste.
Even if you were literally pregnant few people would care enough to judge you. College is not high school. High school is a tiny little Petri dish where toxic people are forced together and no one can avoid judgement. In college no one cares what you look like unless you go out of your way to interact with them. You will be amazed at how freeing it is to be able to pick and choose where to go, what classes to take, and who to be friends with.
And, by the way, it’s kinda rude and judgy to call other women hoes, even if you are putting those words in someone else’s mouth. Work on that!
Exactly. Different people have different goals, and it is none of our business to judge them. Having a baby is perfectly normal, and having one (even without marriage or a steady relationship) does not a hoe make. Even if it did, there's nothing wrong with "being a hoe". I could go on about how damaging and messed up the whole concept of hoes or sluts being a bad thing and using those words to judge or degrade people is, but I'll try to not digress.
It sounds like you have internalized some messed up views of what women *should* be and look like, and struggle with not being able to meet those unrealistic goals.
I'm going to be honest here, OP. The things you write here make me think the problem is in your self-esteem, self-hate and how you view the world, not in your belly fat. Have you talked with an adult about how you feel? I know you're going to college so you're probably over 18, but I mean someone several years older than you, like a parent, teacher, guidance counselor, doctor, aunt, older cousin, neighbor, a friend's parent, someone else in your life you could trust?
Refusal to go to college because you're afraid of your looks and others judging you is pretty serious stuff.9 -
No one is going to assume your pregnant at 120lbs 5’6...
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