What's YOUR weakness when it comes to the opposite gender?
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r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: ยปfitnessjustin01 wrote: ยปAsians ๐คฏ ... Can I be normal just for once and have the same answers as others I see ๐ซ
๐ Surely, you are normal and could not have possibly meant to come off as creepy as that yet I'll just leave this here for your weekend educational literature.
Don't get wrong, article was definitely educational in many ways I appreciated the article for what it is but I honestly think it could have been shared elsewhere without having it attached to this particular posters reply to his weaknesses.
Yeah I get you...
I have a friend who says all the time, for him, she's gotta be Asian... And he's not a creep, he's a pretty good Dude...
But we grew up in the same city and it was just what all the boys were into I guess back then... Some of us grew out of preference like this, while others possibly not I guess ๐คท๐ฝโโ๏ธ...
It's not due to any perverse stereotype like this article suggests and just comes down to varying other factors...0 -
fitnessjustin01 wrote: ยปAsians ๐คฏ ... Can I be normal just for once and have the same answers as others I see ๐ซ
๐ Surely, you are normal and could not have possibly meant to come off as creepy as that yet I'll just leave this here for your weekend educational literature.
Do you know the guy personally? Do you know if he has assumed fetish?
And here I thought this was peacefully quashed several minutes ago. But if we insist on another round discussing the appropriateness of having a fetish, romantic preference or any other affection based on solely race then here's an ally ๐คท๐ฟโโ๏ธ...
In Defense of Asian Romantic Preference
https://doi.org/10.5840/ijap2019211110
Lest the claim becomes I'm not objective (not that I need to be). It has a DOI reference in a journal so it MUST be valid.
In all seriousness, I'm not here to speak on behalf of all Asian women, so if you're interested in finding out if this preference is offensive then be curious and open-minded to do your own due diligence when presented with a new idea or construct. Especially one that may make you uncomfortable or has the possibility of making others uncomfortable:
* educate yourself on the matter in question using critical thinking skills
* have respectful, compassionate conversation with the people of concern that involves more active listening than defensive talking, and otherwise
* be humble about the fact one's affections are not always reciprocated or considered complimentary to another person (or group of people).2 -
fitnessjustin01 wrote: ยปAsians ๐คฏ ... Can I be normal just for once and have the same answers as others I see ๐ซ
๐ Surely, you are normal and could not have possibly meant to come off as creepy as that yet I'll just leave this here for your weekend educational literature.
Do you know the guy personally? Do you know if he has assumed fetish?
And here I thought this was peacefully quashed several minutes ago. But if we insist on another round discussing the appropriateness of having a fetish, romantic preference or any other affection based on solely race then here's an ally ๐คท๐ฟโโ๏ธ...
In Defense of Asian Romantic Preference
https://doi.org/10.5840/ijap2019211110
Lest the claim becomes I'm not objective (not that I need to be). It has a DOI reference in a journal so it MUST be valid.
In all seriousness, I'm not here to speak on behalf of all Asian women, so if you're interested in finding out if this preference is offensive then be curious and open-minded to do your own due diligence when presented with a new idea or construct. Especially one that may make you uncomfortable or has the possibility of making others uncomfortable:
* educate yourself on the matter in question using critical thinking skills
* have respectful, compassionate conversation with the people of concern that involves more active listening than defensive talking, and otherwise
* be humble about the fact one's affections are not always reciprocated or considered complimentary to another person (or group of people).
I don't need education. I'm Asian and have female relatives.. you painting that all whites only seek Asian or other race other than theirs for a fetish is bs. Unless you can prove the person is such a person.. DO NOT ASSUME!
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r3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: ยปfitnessjustin01 wrote: ยปAsians ๐คฏ ... Can I be normal just for once and have the same answers as others I see ๐ซ
๐ Surely, you are normal and could not have possibly meant to come off as creepy as that yet I'll just leave this here for your weekend educational literature.
Don't get wrong, article was definitely educational in many ways I appreciated the article for what it is but I honestly think it could have been shared elsewhere without having it attached to this particular posters reply to his weaknesses.
Point taken, hug given. I don't message/friend on MFP though and had I thought my comment would potentially derail a generally cute thread perhaps I *may* have reconsidered.
Some topics though, should not be left unaddressed. That said, I do commend @fitnessjustin01 for his balanced response.2 -
I must be out of the loop ,, He likes Asian Women ! Why is that a fetish ?1
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will_it_go_round_in_circles wrote: ยป
not sure yet where the line is ill have to get back to you on that one1 -
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I don't need education. I'm Asian and have female relatives.. you painting that all whites only seek Asian or other race other than theirs for a fetish is bs. Unless you can prove the person is such a person.. DO NOT ASSUME!
Interesting since, by the same token, I would not assume the ability to speak on behalf of all of the African diaspora or those living on the continent. ๐คท๐ฟโโ๏ธ
Also reread my initial reply, I was speaking to one person (who has long since replied) and not all men who identify as white. Nor did I speak on behalf of everyone who identifies as Asian.
You can make this about me but I'm unphased.
My initial intention is the same as the current one: sharing the POV of some women who have consistently felt objectfied. Does that mean a women? No.
This topic has been ongoing in people of color (POC) communities for generations. Let's not pretend I invented it or surfaced it from nowhere.
Why bringing it up gets folks riled is quite the curiosity indeed.
But, I've been ready to get this thread back on track two hours ago so speaking of fetishes...
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4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: ยปDear Posters,
This thread has touched on a sensitive topic, but I also think you guys are doing a good job trying to get your points of views across in a respectful manor. Please continue to be thoughtful in your responses. If you feel anything breaks guidelines please feel free to report it to the moderator team, or if you disagree with my choice to leave this discussion open please PM me.
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Don't shut this one down or I'll have nothing left ๐ฏ3 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: ยป4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: ยปDear Posters,
This thread has touched on a sensitive topic, but I also think you guys are doing a good job trying to get your points of views across in a respectful manor. Please continue to be thoughtful in your responses. If you feel anything breaks guidelines please feel free to report it to the moderator team, or if you disagree with my choice to leave this discussion open please PM me.
Thanks for your cooperation,
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Don't shut this one down or I'll have nothing left ๐ฏ
I can almost feel you sweating.. ๐
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slimgirljo15 wrote: ยปMr_Healthy_Habits wrote: ยป4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: ยปDear Posters,
This thread has touched on a sensitive topic, but I also think you guys are doing a good job trying to get your points of views across in a respectful manor. Please continue to be thoughtful in your responses. If you feel anything breaks guidelines please feel free to report it to the moderator team, or if you disagree with my choice to leave this discussion open please PM me.
Thanks for your cooperation,
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Don't shut this one down or I'll have nothing left ๐ฏ
I can almost feel you sweating.. ๐
This, the deal breaker thread and the ask questions thread may as well be the whole app for me ๐คท๐ฝโโ๏ธ๐2 -
Ok, maybe "clean up" would have been a better choice of words. I was gonna give it back still, but seems like maybe we agreed to move on already ๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ4
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Also, I think you said you started a herb/veggie garden with the family this year, I expect your participation in my new gardening thread
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4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: ยปAlso, I think you said you started a herb/veggie garden with the family this year, I expect your participation in my new gardening thread
If you saw that post, then you've seen about as far as I got ๐๐... Thanks for the reminder, summer isn't over yet I suppose ๐คท๐ฝโโ๏ธ2 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: ยป4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: ยปAlso, I think you said you started a herb/veggie garden with the family this year, I expect your participation in my new gardening thread
If you saw that post, then you've seen about as far as I got ๐๐... Thanks for the reminder, summer isn't over yet I suppose ๐คท๐ฝโโ๏ธ
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