What's YOUR weakness when it comes to the opposite gender?

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  • _sw33tp3a_11
    _sw33tp3a_11 Posts: 4,692 Member
    You know that spark or feeling of excitement when you first enter a relationship? When you catch him watching you from across the room and you feel like the prettiest/sexiest girl. When you know the moment you've fallen hopelessly in love and you want to spend every minute with them? I miss all of that.

    Now I'm just the person that keeps the house clean, takes care of the kids (who are teenagers) and occasionally he takes me out to eat. He carries on like a bachelor with his hunting, fishing, golfing, pool/billiards league, etc.

    This makes me sad.
  • LeannJeffers
    LeannJeffers Posts: 486 Member
    You know that spark or feeling of excitement when you first enter a relationship? When you catch him watching you from across the room and you feel like the prettiest/sexiest girl. When you know the moment you've fallen hopelessly in love and you want to spend every minute with them? I miss all of that.

    Now I'm just the person that keeps the house clean, takes care of the kids (who are teenagers) and occasionally he takes me out to eat. He carries on like a bachelor with his hunting, fishing, golfing, pool/billiards league, etc.

    This makes me sad.

    Thanks - it makes me sad to. I just don't know how to fix "us" We are high school sweethearts and going on 23 years together. We were good until the pandemic hit - now I feel like we are broken. In a way I think he is using his hobbies to cope, while I am hunkered down at home hoping he'll join me.
  • _sw33tp3a_11
    _sw33tp3a_11 Posts: 4,692 Member
    You know that spark or feeling of excitement when you first enter a relationship? When you catch him watching you from across the room and you feel like the prettiest/sexiest girl. When you know the moment you've fallen hopelessly in love and you want to spend every minute with them? I miss all of that.

    Now I'm just the person that keeps the house clean, takes care of the kids (who are teenagers) and occasionally he takes me out to eat. He carries on like a bachelor with his hunting, fishing, golfing, pool/billiards league, etc.

    This makes me sad.

    Thanks - it makes me sad to. I just don't know how to fix "us" We are high school sweethearts and going on 23 years together. We were good until the pandemic hit - now I feel like we are broken. In a way I think he is using his hobbies to cope, while I am hunkered down at home hoping he'll join me.

    I find this relatable perhaps that's why it makes me feel sad for you but here's my unsolicited advice. Just talk to him. Communicate your feelings now before its too late.
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,684 Member
    works at chocolate factory
  • ermengarde22
    ermengarde22 Posts: 2,116 Member
    works at chocolate factory

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  • LeannJeffers
    LeannJeffers Posts: 486 Member
    steph6556 wrote: »
    @LeannJeffers, I’m sorry you are feeling like this. It sucks! And I swear I’m not over here on my high horse trying to tell you what to do! I’m just telling you what I do, that’s it. I’ve been married for 27 years and we have three teens now. I’ve been married my entire 20’s and 30’s and almost through my 40’s now and I feel like I can just touch a little bit on the subject of creating the type of marriage that is “ happy.” BE THE GIRL you were when he married you. Please don’t torch me for saying that but I feel like a lot of women blast their hubby for not doing those things they did before all while they stop giving a crap about what they look like, stop giving them attention in the sheets, being tired all the time, not showing appreciation for how hard he works, etc. I pretty much work my *kitten* off making sure I’m on top of my hubby’s needs, doing the dirty things we did when we were dating, taking care of myself, making sure the kids aren’t my conversation every moment of the day, doing things he finds fun with him ( NOT EVERY single time but most of the time ) making My family enjoyable meals and keeping it light and fun with music going on the evenings, dancing, cooking, you know, not being a total drag to be around and guess what that gets me???? A man that wants to be around me all the time, takes me out to show his appreciation, basically he bends over backwards to make me happy bc he feels loved, admired and appreciated! It’s work to show real love but love is the time and effort you give to something! I wish for you a happy and exciting marriage from a totally non judgmental perspective! Lots of love to you and your marriage !

    I would never torch you!! I happen to agree with you and agree that I need to become the girl that I once was! Without writing a novel about 2020 I have become a shell of what I used to be. I planned a fun night out last weekend to the great shots golf range and guess what it was like old times! It felt good and was inspiring. I truly believe that if I start moving towards who I used to be it will help us! We have been together for 23 years and have went through hell and back, literally with the lose of our child. Thank you so much for the inspiration and encouragement!!
  • steph6556
    steph6556 Posts: 575 Member
    @LeannJeffers , I am so so sorry. I cannot fathom the heartache. Thank you for taking it the way I’d intended and cheers to “becoming.” That’ll be a fun process👠
  • LeannJeffers
    LeannJeffers Posts: 486 Member
    steph6556 wrote: »
    @LeannJeffers , I am so so sorry. I cannot fathom the heartache. Thank you for taking it the way I’d intended and cheers to “becoming.” That’ll be a fun process👠

    Thank you, I am looking forward to the changes! I'll keep you updated.
  • Miss_Chiev0us
    Miss_Chiev0us Posts: 1,592 Member
    when she is committed AF and would even refuse CPR from another dude

    I'm out 👎
  • happimess01
    happimess01 Posts: 9,073 Member
    when they give me all the Catnip i need
  • Miss_Chiev0us
    Miss_Chiev0us Posts: 1,592 Member
    MelG7777 wrote: »
    When she’s ballsy enough to buy JUST the marshmallows from Lucky Charms. 🥰

    Oh hey girl hey 😉 You probably seen this on my IG account but does this count? I take all the marshmallows out of my lucky charms...

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  • happimess01
    happimess01 Posts: 9,073 Member
    When the only thing declined on our date is my credit card😍
  • Miss_Chiev0us
    Miss_Chiev0us Posts: 1,592 Member
    A dinner date that ends with a breakfast date
  • TonyB0588
    TonyB0588 Posts: 9,520 Member
    Eating with their mouth closed and using correct grammar in messages.

    Correct grammar?!?! I agree, but you don't find that species anymore.
  • PaperDoll_
    PaperDoll_ Posts: 32,857 Member
    MelG7777 wrote: »
    When she’s ballsy enough to buy JUST the marshmallows from Lucky Charms. 🥰

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    I think I made the adult decision 😏
  • happimess01
    happimess01 Posts: 9,073 Member
    When they give me their neck pillow on a long trip
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,684 Member
    MelG7777 wrote: »
    works at chocolate factory

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    Dreamy. 😍

    You get me❤
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    whats not my weakness is 'that guy' driving around in the muscle car that sounds like the muffler was purposely ripped off *look at me* dodging in and out between cars and slamming on the brakes every 30 seconds
  • brustmannzwei
    brustmannzwei Posts: 1,124 Member
    This one bullet is gonna sound bad but, oh well...
    When she looks like she could be the model for the “sponsored link: Men try this and never take Viagra again!” Advertisement

    She prefers an older pickup with a bench seat so we can sit cheek to cheek.

    When she wears her hair up in that bun sorta thing but then pulls out small strands of hair that hang down and sorta frame her face.

    I like to floss in the bathroom, not the bedroom as you could probably guess from another thread.

    Some days she’ll decide that it’s a no bra day. She may decide to wear an underbewb shirt or a loose tank with dropped armholes to show off sidebewb. She’ll spend the day relaxing, doing her thing, but occasionally when she knows I’m looking she’ll tease me a bit by maybe moving a certain way giving me a little more bewbview.
  • PaperDoll_
    PaperDoll_ Posts: 32,857 Member
    When she teaches me all the really important things in life like hashtags and what they do.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,510 Member
    hrichts wrote: »
    TonyB0588 wrote: »
    Eating with their mouth closed and using correct grammar in messages.

    Correct grammar?!?! I agree, but you don't find that species anymore.

    Language evolves. Its sole purpose is to communicate ideas. If you understand the point people are making, it’s working 🤷🏼‍♀️

    @hrichts

    this post good, my man

    wait.

    semicolons ?

    I say

    rules we make follow good rules; talk real smart... girl dig



  • Reckoner69_lmao
    Reckoner69_lmao Posts: 1,000 Member
    Probably not garlic but maybe silver
  • Reckoner69_lmao
    Reckoner69_lmao Posts: 1,000 Member
    When she sends me gifts WITH A STICKER in Pokemon
  • shaf238
    shaf238 Posts: 4,022 Member
    When he reads my sappy messages without needing a bucket

    I used a trough
  • _sw33tp3a_11
    _sw33tp3a_11 Posts: 4,692 Member
    MelG7777 wrote: »
    When he wants to make certain memes into real life...
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    😍
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