When did you know it was love?

To me, you can fall in love with someone and still not give your whole heart to them.

I realized that I was in love with my man when I just could not NOT tell him I loved him. It is the most terrifying and freeing feeling at the same time. I had loved him before we were dating, while we were friends, but I wasn't in love with him. It got to the point where it just slipped out and yet I meant it with my whole heart that I do love him.

It was never an "ah ha!" moment, but more of just thats the way it is. Take it or leave it.

Luckily he took it.

I agree with Maryd523, its not always the woman who gets attached. Hubs was waaayyyy more attached than I was in the beginning. I was terrified to start the relationship, but he was already a goner and in his mind it was a done deal. Stubborn man!

for me it was when i started to think of him more often, i couldnt get him out of my mind, i wanted to be with him more, we had the best times together I knew i was in love then. I still love him with all my heart and always will

I must say, I am a cynic as well. I believe love is an evolutionary adaption to help couples succeed at raising a baby together. Caveman stuff. You fall in love, and then you are blind to all their faults, because you need them. And if you couldn't ignore the bad stuff, you would break up and then have less of a chance of raising a healthy baby.

I don't think humans are meant to be monogamous to one person their entire lives...and divorce rates support this. I do think it's possible, and very desirable, but I just don't think it's really in our makeup. Serial monagamy is more in line with our nature. It takes a lot of work to keep a relationship happy and healthy for a lifetime. At least that's what I hear.

I couldn't agree more. It's true...we all look at other people. It's in our instinct. DON'T start going off on me...I'm not saying it's right...just it's in our nature to lust over others. I think it's actually gross after awhile...I see sooo many guys at my work check out girls all day or customers checking out girls when there w/their spouses!!! (i know women do it too...were just a better at it tho)

(i.e. guy=:noway: girl=:blushing: )

Anyways I'm also one of the few people at my work that hasn't cheated on their spouse or loved one...also gross and sad.

I love my boyfriend to much. And I knew within a few months of our friendship that we were meant for each other...just celebrated 7 years! There are times when I could do without him for a moment but our little spats could never outweigh our genuine affection.

I'm still unsure with my guy, mostly because I second guess myself. Sometimes when we're hanging out, him playing SC2 or whatever and me doing school work or something on my laptop, I'll have this urge to tell him I love him because I'm just so extremely content and happy at that point in time. But that's not all "love" is, right? Even if I do actually love him, I rather him say it first (and mean it!) ;x We've been together for almost a year and haven't thrown out the L word because he's not one to vocalize his feelings. I'm okay with that for the most part, but sometimes it drives me insane xD I've told him this of course that I like to know if he's happy/angry/frustrated etc. with the relationship, but Rome wasn't built in a day. Overall I'm happy and feel that words aren't needed 95% of the time.

Totally in the same situation... I'm not going to cave and say it first! But like you said, I don't need to hear it to know that we're happy together.

I see sooo many guys at my work check out girls all day or customers checking out girls when there w/their spouses!!! (i know women do it too...were just a better at it tho)

(i.e. guy=:noway: girl=:blushing: )

Anyways I'm also one of the few people at my work that hasn't cheated on their spouse or loved one...also gross and sad.

I love my boyfriend to much. And I knew within a few months of our friendship that we were meant for each other...just celebrated 7 years! There are times when I could do without him for a moment but our little spats could never outweigh our genuine affection.

LOL so true with those emoticons. Congrats on the 7 years !

THANKS! And we didn't say "i love you" for almost a year. Sometimes actions are better than words.

And YES guys suck at it...other night at work guy made it obvious he was checking me out. After the third time I told him he was "gross" and walked away, and I'm a supervisor but I couldn't help but say something. Maybe I should make a post on this topic lol

Straight away! Well second time around lol! I was good friends with my husband's sister Rachel at university and met him, Paul, briefly at our graduation when he was only 16 ( oooh er! ) It wasn't love then as he was still a kid and I was in a long term relationship, but I do remember thinking how sweet and funny he was. Several years later I was Rachel's bridesmaid and as I walked into the church I saw Paul acting as an usher, our eyes met and I remember thinking 'Blimey, Rachel's brother really grew up!' He was 6'4 and drop dead gorgeous I was single again and we spent the whole of the reception dancing and chatting together. I felt totally relaxed with him, as if we'd known each other for years, which in a wierd way we had. The next day we both caught trains back down to London from Carlisle and Paul swapped his ticket to pretend he had to get the same train as me! We spent 7 hours together and at the end of it he carried my suitcase for me and helped me find a seat on my connecting train home - awwww ( That was the end of October 2006 ) We spent a few months swapping emails and chatting for hours on msn but I though he wouldn't fancy me as I would be too old and fat for him lol, ironically he said he thought I was out of his league and wouldn't look twice at my friends little brother in that way! Eventually we discovered we were both mistaken and he came to see me for a day out in Brighton and didn't go home untill 3 days later By February 2007 we were officially a couple and by April we'd decided we wanted to get married and have a family- I used to be a commitmentphobe lol! In May he took me back to the bench on Brighton pier where we had our first kiss and gave me a little plastic Hello Kitty ring, he was still a penniless student awwww again! By October Paul had graduated, got a job and swapped my ring for a beautiful diamond which he gave to me on a moonlit beach in Greeceafter writing 'will you marry me?' in the sand! We were married in August 2008 and have been so happy ever since. It helped that I already knew his family and I got a great friend for a sister but we really had no doubts.
Anyone who is cynical don't give up! I had a 7 year relationship which was a real struggle,full of arguments and tears and drama, I thought that was what relationships were like! I then went through a stage of being a total commitmentphobe, dating guys and having one night stands. I just hadn't met the right person! When you find them you will know! You will not have any doubts and everyone around you will think you're crazy for rushing into things! As for the monogamy thing that will change with the right person too, I used to always be lusting after other blokes even in my long term relationship I cheated and was a horrible girlfriend, but I think deep down inside I knew it wasn't going to last. With Paul I would NEVER cheat, I don't feel the need, we still fancy each other like crazy after 5 years and I can't imagine that changing. I hardly even notice other men now and even given the option of hooking up with some dream celebrity fittie I'd stay with my true love every time Believe in love at first sight, or second sight at least, it really does exist! x

I didn't really like my bf at start, but only went out with him because he was my friends mate and I felt like I 'should' go out with him.

Our first date I got very tipsy and the second I had a go at him because he was using his mobile on the date. I was brutal, and I now I look back, it was him just being really nervous.

I felt like that until about 9 months in when I got made redundant from work and went straight over to his place (he had been made redundant about 2 weeks before) and he was so nice and sweet and we spent more time together after 9 months of seeing each other only a wednesday evening for a drink. It was then I realised that I really did care about him and 7 years on, we are getting married next year. I was myself from the start so I never felt that I had to be on my best behaviour and he loved me from the start. He knew on our first date apparently.

our first kiss

Been together for 15 years, and my breath still catches when I see him across a crowded room. Insane huh? Just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary

We knew each other since first grade and often we shared the same classroom. I knew he liked me but I wasnt atracted to him. Senior year in high school he came forward told me he had feelings for me. I knew he was a good guy, respectable and smart, top of the class. I told him he had 50-50% chance. My mind was made though I knew he didn't have a chance (or so I thought). Since we shared friends and sometimes talked I didnt want to turn him down right away so he'd atleast say he had a chance. We spent more time together as months went by. I had a clear picture of the qualities I was searching on a guy (loved his own family, kind, not selfish, not a hipocrite, fun and with sense of humor) He turned out to have these qualities and more (I knew his family too). So we got together 1 week before graduation. Dated 2 years and will have 10 yrs married January 2 kids and one on the way.

We fell hard for each other within just a few weeks (he even proposed!) but I didn't know for sure until about 2 years later. We'd been going through some rough times and I thought that meant it was time for us to separate and move on. Since we were living together and both on the lease, we needed to wait at least a month, and he was hoping I'd change my mind so he asked for a little more time. New Years was the deadline so it was time for me to make a now or never decision and I realized I just couldn't leave him. It broke my heart to even think about it! So we reconciled and New Years was our special holiday for a few years! :flowerforyou:
Nine years later I took him up on his proposal and the rest is history.

I knew the first time we kissed. I literally felt the "sparks". I was 15 and he was 17. I had boyfriends before, but none that I woke up wanting to see and went to bed thinking about. He wasn't my "type". He was and is a country boy and after our first phone call I was like who is the boy. He's talking about horses and deer hunting. I gave him a shot though...:-) We've been together now for 15 years and married for 13. We had our first child right after I turned 17 and now here we are three kids later and I grow more in love with him everyday. We have changed alot over the last 15 years, but we've changed together and for the better. We are so much alike. I'm now a full fledged country girl. We value our faith, Love God, love our family and put our marriage and our family as our top priority.

My father died when I was 5 and my mother was a widow at 35. Thinking that I could lose my husband makes my heart ache and the me sick to my stomach. He's the reason I smile when I was up every morning and see he drooling face on the pillow. LOL!!! God truly blessed me with this man!!

We met on battle.net back when Warcraft 3 was popular... Falling in love was a gradual process since we talked a LOT, though it was definitely early on it sealed the deal when we met for the first time--he took a train to come meet me and that was it

Oh, and when I knew it was love - (insanity, if you read this don't hate me). He and I were from the metaphorical opposite sides of the tracks. I thought his family - the ones I knew - were stuck up and too full of themselves. Sounds unromantic, but I went through a serious, do I want to marry THIS guy - I mean look at those people? But after it was all said and done, I didn't care who his family were, I wanted to be with him, make him happy for the rest of his life. And I've done a patchy job of it.