"Rude" California peeps

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  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    I'm from norcal, and I've never received that comment ^.^ But when I visit family in New York, I feel there are a lot of rude ppl. I think California has some of the nicest people, so maybe its cultural :D

    ps: Ive noticed that those of us who live nearer to the coast tend to be FAR from outspoken in many ways...maybe too polite sometimes. Further inland you go, the more abrupt people are in my experience. I've always seen ppl from the east coast to be abrupt lol xD
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    I was just visiting San Francisco from Colorado. We were eating at a little cafe where you ordered at the counter, and they brought you your food. At the end of the meal, I asked one of the employees where to put our dishes. She laughed and said, "Oh you're so cute. You're the first person to ever ask that." In Colorado, it is not uncommon to bus your own dishes at cafes and coffee shops. That said, I don't think Californians are "rude". However, what I have always thought is Californians are pretty fast paced and busy, much unlike Colorado. I attribute this to the expensive cost of living, and the need to work hard for the money. There is less time for the random conversation with a stranger or busing one's own table. Just my opinion.

    Haha, I *totally* would have assumed, and asked, the same thing about the dishes! MUST be a Colorado thing!

    I live in San Francisco right now and there are plenty of places where you bus your own dishes.
    I live in a tourist town near S.F. and its not uncommon to bus our own dishes either. That was sweet of you to ask ^.^ I usually look around if I am unfamiliar with the place and if I don't see somewhere to bus my own dishes, I just leave xD
  • rainunrefined
    rainunrefined Posts: 850 Member
    Once upon a time, I had a friend in college who was from Cali...and yes, she was rude. Not in a purposeful way, I suppose, but she was just plain bossy.

    However, I attributed that to being raised as the only daughter in a rich family, NOT to where she was from.

    I mean, I'm originally from New York, and I know I come off as distant...because these darn southerners down here are always smiling and cheerful and where I'm from that means they're doing drugs!

    :tongue:

    LMAO where I'm from the distant edgy people are the ones doing drugs. Different cultures, different drugs!
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,086 Member
    From the Bay Area and I don't think we're rude. We just don't happen to lay down when our rights may be getting violated. I'm sure people may think we're weird and outspoken, but let's face it without some of the antics of the "Bezerkleys" rights could be less for minorities and immigrants.
  • LisaKyle11
    LisaKyle11 Posts: 662 Member
    i am a northern California native and have never been called 'rude'....well, at least not very many times ;-). after traveling and living in different states, i honestly do not see Californians as a whole rude. depends on the individual not the state.
  • Bringerofrain
    Bringerofrain Posts: 163 Member
    Think of California as a Huge Melting pot, very diverse people and cultures here. I live in the Northern Central Delta region Which is worlds away from people in the bay area, coastal, Southern, Northern & Mountainous areas of the state. For the most part Californians are pretty pleasent. The younger crowd can get to being rude at times but they just don't know any better and you can find that anywhere. Our weather & seasons are nice! Except when it's 100+ for days on end it can wear on you lol I do a lot of hiking & have met lots of very nice, friendly and helpful people on my travels & even then I still get the "You aren't from around here are ya?"(in a nice way of course) even in my own state! ;)
  • catshark209
    catshark209 Posts: 1,133 Member
    Gotta love stereotypes! I'm from the San Joaquin Valley and its assumed we're all ghetto or hicks here. Good times. I met a guy from the South that moved here to be close to family and he said he couldn't get over how we won't say hi to strangers...like hell no..how do I know I ain't saying hi to some pervert!
    When I go to SF I do notice that tourists from the Mid West are the most considerate. Its the European tourists that make me want to pull my hair.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Grew up in California. OC area and San Joaquin Valley. Loved the people there.

    I'm in the Pacific Northwest and I must admit that I really like the vibe here. But, when I first moved up from California, I got some *kitten* from people here that didn't like Californians relocating to Oregon.

    Screw 'em.
  • VeganInTraining
    VeganInTraining Posts: 1,319 Member
    I know three Californians who have relocated here. One blends in perfectly and is a great fellow; very humble and nice. The other two WILL. NOT. STOP. talking about California. Apparently, EVERYTHING is better in California! Every day, there's something to gripe about that is better in California. Or they start name-dropping these little counties in California even though none of us have a clue what they're talking about, and laugh at us if we don't follow their references. It gets very annoying, very fast, especially as one of the gals has been here for four years already...not exactly a recent transplant.

    I'm pretty sure the whole state can't be like that, can it?

    Everything IS better in California, the weather, the waves, the beach...should I go on? I seriously had to look at your profile again to see if you work with me! One of the guys I work with is also from CA and he and I are always talking about how CA is better than NJ. But then again, this is New Jersey, just about ANYWHERE is better than Jersey! I am more than willing to admit that there are things that other states have to offer that CA has nothing on...such as....um......uh.....Rita's Water Ice, we don't have anything like that in CA. Oh and we don't have New Orleans and I am in love with New Orleans.
  • VeganInTraining
    VeganInTraining Posts: 1,319 Member
    I'm from So Cal and I'm an *kitten* :tongue:

    HAHA I was going to say that they think everyone from CA is rude because they are used to dealing with people from Southern CA but those of us from Northern CA are not rude, but I didn't want to offend. Thanks for answering that for me ;)
  • kunibob
    kunibob Posts: 608 Member
    Just remembered that sarcasm is hard to convey on the internet.The tail end of my post was supposed to be a bit tongue-in-cheek...any area that has a large population will have a larger number of jerks...it's in the math! I definitely don't think that my sample size of three accurately represents the whole state. :wink:

    Apparently, EVERYTHING is better in California! Every day, there's something to gripe about that is better in California.


    this sounds like most people ive met who are from New York............................. just sayin

    I don't know anyone from New York, so I can't comment. But I have met a lot of people from Toronto like that as well. And, being from a small town and living in Vancouver...people are like that here in Vancouver, too. Snobbery exists everywhere!
  • zaiikaa
    zaiikaa Posts: 112
    I've never heard of Californians being rude -- if anyone has that reputation, it's New Yorkers (city).
  • paulahhhh
    paulahhhh Posts: 283
    I don't think we're "rude", some of us just.. How do I say it nicely... Don't know how to think before we talk. You know?

    I spent most of my life in the little (not so little anymore) town of Tracy... I think the town was amazing and friendly. Now that I live in the Bay Area... I've come across loud, outspoken people. And I must say that I am now one of those people! HAHA
  • TS65
    TS65 Posts: 1,024 Member
    Having moved to the South from California, i can say maybe we do appear rude and overbearing. You see - with me, you know where you stand. I'm honest. I'll tell you what I think (no holds barred). I don't say one thing to your face, then turn around and do something else. I'd rather you hate me for being honest than lie to you. I won't pretend to be your best friend, then turn and talk behind your back. I won't say something mean and in the same breath say "bless your heart." If I like you, I like you. If I don't, then I just won't deal with you (but I will be cordial). If that's rude, then consider me a barbarian.

    **oh yes... and I'm also missing that filter between my brain and my mouth. (per the post before this)
  • ImperfektAngel
    ImperfektAngel Posts: 811 Member
    I am the sweetest Cali girl you will ever meet lol
  • redraidergirl2009
    redraidergirl2009 Posts: 2,560 Member
    I moved from a larger city to a small one and people here said I seem like someone from california, I'm not sure what that means. Another friend who moved here from the same area gets that a lot too. I take it as a complement since this is a more of a hick town
  • Tuffjourney
    Tuffjourney Posts: 971
    I am the sweetest Cali girl you will ever meet lol

    Yep, she is!:wink:
  • TluvK
    TluvK Posts: 733 Member
    I was just visiting San Francisco from Colorado. We were eating at a little cafe where you ordered at the counter, and they brought you your food. At the end of the meal, I asked one of the employees where to put our dishes. She laughed and said, "Oh you're so cute. You're the first person to ever ask that." In Colorado, it is not uncommon to bus your own dishes at cafes and coffee shops. That said, I don't think Californians are "rude". However, what I have always thought is Californians are pretty fast paced and busy, much unlike Colorado. I attribute this to the expensive cost of living, and the need to work hard for the money. There is less time for the random conversation with a stranger or busing one's own table. Just my opinion.

    Haha, I *totally* would have assumed, and asked, the same thing about the dishes! MUST be a Colorado thing!

    I live in San Francisco right now and there are plenty of places where you bus your own dishes.

    Well, I'm in trouble because I live in Colorado and don't recall having ever bussed my own dishes. Oops.
  • Mrs_TrimWaistFatWallet
    Mrs_TrimWaistFatWallet Posts: 486
    Only if you get in the way of someone that obviously feels more important than you. Otherwise, we're nice...just busy :-P (Los Angeles)
  • catshark209
    catshark209 Posts: 1,133 Member
    I don't think we're "rude", some of us just.. How do I say it nicely... Don't know how to think before we talk. You know?

    I spent most of my life in the little (not so little anymore) town of Tracy... I think the town was amazing and friendly. Now that I live in the Bay Area... I've come across loud, outspoken people. And I must say that I am now one of those people! HAHA

    I'm from Stockton! I like the Bay Area....I used to hang out in San Jo back in the day! Now you find me in the City.
  • paulahhhh
    paulahhhh Posts: 283
    I don't think we're "rude", some of us just.. How do I say it nicely... Don't know how to think before we talk. You know?

    I spent most of my life in the little (not so little anymore) town of Tracy... I think the town was amazing and friendly. Now that I live in the Bay Area... I've come across loud, outspoken people. And I must say that I am now one of those people! HAHA

    I'm from Stockton! I like the Bay Area....I used to hang out in San Jo back in the day! Now you find me in the City.

    I had a feeling that your "209" stood for the SJ valley!! I miss it! I rarely go back b/c I'm in school during the week & have family functions on the weekend or stranded with homework. LOL
  • Bringerofrain
    Bringerofrain Posts: 163 Member
    I don't think we're "rude", some of us just.. How do I say it nicely... Don't know how to think before we talk. You know?

    I spent most of my life in the little (not so little anymore) town of Tracy... I think the town was amazing and friendly. Now that I live in the Bay Area... I've come across loud, outspoken people. And I must say that I am now one of those people! HAHA

    I'm from Stockton! I like the Bay Area....I used to hang out in San Jo back in the day! Now you find me in the City.

    Ha ha Small world! I am in Stockton also! Great place & close to everything fun lol ;)
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