Can a bisexual man be a good husband

Kateinyourdreams · December 2020

So I good friend of mine has been married for a little less than a year and found out her husband is bisexual and now wants to end the marriage. I’m not sure how I think about this. Her husband really loves her and has stated he is and has been faithful. I feel for both of them. They are a beautiful couple and seemed so happy so I’m bummed.

Drex_617 · December 2020

I’m sure many bisexual people are wonderful spouses.. if they’re faithful people I’m not sure it matters who they’re attracted to. 🤷🏻‍♂️

As far as your friend, obviously don’t know them but if he wants out and wants to be happier that’s something that’s inside his head and he needs to find out what makes him happy. That’s just my opinion. I feel for your friend. But she deserves to be happy too and hopefully everyone involved finds that. Straight, gay, bi, doesn’t matter. Be you and be happy.

chuckle_bunny · December 2020

Gotta lay your cards out on the table before tying the knot. No one wants to be making scrambled eggs one morning and get hit with "oh, and btw, my sexuality is..."

I mean. Yo.

MaltedTea · December 2020

I read this, and left the thread but seconds later, I'm back because - to be blunt - I hate this thread's title. I find it inflammatory, offensive and downright icky even when posed as a question.

My discomfort being made clear (and not the first time in a post you've started), I hope you are able to navigate your friendship and be there compassionately for your friend while also considering the language used in conjunction with communities you may not belong to or immediately understand.

Drex_617 · December 2020

MaltedTea wrote: »

I read this, and left the thread but seconds later, I'm back because - to be blunt - I hate this thread's title. I find it inflammatory, offensive and downright icky even when posed as a question.

My discomfort being made clear (and not the first time in a post you've started), I hope you are able to navigate your friendship and be there compassionately for your friend while also considering the language used in conjunction with communities you may not belong to or immediately understand.

❤️👍🏼❤️❤️❤️

AndreaTamira · December 2020

Of course a bisexual person could be a good spouse to their partner. Why the heck wouldn't that be possible? - I mean, just because you are attracted to men and women does not mean you want to have sex with everybody around you. Just as you yourself probably dont want to sleep with everybody of the opposite sex.

I am confused, though. Why does your friend want to end the relationship with her husband? Because he is bi? Or because he never was open about that till now and she feels like he should have not hidden a big part from her? If it is the second I kinda understand her anger, but if it is the first... yeesh!

_sw33tp3a_11 · December 2020

The sexuality of a person has nothing do with a person being a good partner. Being a heterosexual doesn't automatically make you a good husband/wife. It takes more than a sexuality preference to be a good partner in a marriage. Understanding, love , support, communication... all that is what makes a marriage work. In this case it seems the communication wasn't there with your friends.

Yoshiboobs · December 2020

Bruv...his sexuality doesn't factor into being a good spouse. Anyone can cheat. I do think this information should have been disclosed before the marriage seeing as she's the type to leave someone over it and blab it around town apparently.

glassyo · December 2020

AndreaTamira wrote: »

Of course a bisexual person could be a good spouse to their partner. Why the heck wouldn't that be possible? - I mean, just because you are attracted to men and women does not mean you want to have sex with everybody around you. Just as you yourself probably dont want to sleep with everybody of the opposite sex.

I am confused, though. Why does your friend want to end the relationship with her husband? Because he is bi? Or because he never was open about that till now and she feels like he should have not hidden a big part from her? If it is the second I kinda understand her anger, but if it is the first... yeesh!

That's a really good question.

But, considering the title of the thread, how a person identifies doesn't make them a good or bad person or spouse. Like the song Gettin' Bi from My Crazy Ex Girl Friend says,

"And one more thing
I tell you what
Being bi does not imply that you're a player or a slut"

Revolu7 · December 2020

Can a minority be a good spouse? A Catholic? A Carpenter? A person being bisexual means nothing in a monogamous relationship.

Chef_Barbell · December 2020

MaltedTea wrote: »

I read this, and left the thread but seconds later, I'm back because - to be blunt - I hate this thread's title. I find it inflammatory, offensive and downright icky even when posed as a question.

My discomfort being made clear (and not the first time in a post you've started), I hope you are able to navigate your friendship and be there compassionately for your friend while also considering the language used in conjunction with communities you may not belong to or immediately understand.

This 100%. Of course a bisexual or any person can be a good spouse. 🤦‍♀️

What is concerning is not being open and upfront from the beginning.

RevGym2 · December 2020

I often have bisexual men approach me in the gym. Part of me thinks it’s because they want to follow my workout routine. But I think most of it is because I’m so damn attractive.

Motorsheen · December 2020

Can he Be a good spouse? Dunno. Probably as much as any other guy. So, 'yeah'.

The upside, if he's bisexual, I'm guessing that the decor (of at least half of their home) is absolutely gorgeous.

JACKRABBITnotsoSLIMS · December 2020

Chef_Barbell wrote: »

MaltedTea wrote: »

I read this, and left the thread but seconds later, I'm back because - to be blunt - I hate this thread's title. I find it inflammatory, offensive and downright icky even when posed as a question.

My discomfort being made clear (and not the first time in a post you've started), I hope you are able to navigate your friendship and be there compassionately for your friend while also considering the language used in conjunction with communities you may not belong to or immediately understand.

This 100%. Of course a bisexual or any person can be a good spouse. 🤦‍♀️

What is concerning is not being open and upfront from the beginning.

That’s the answer

Motorsheen · December 2020

RevGym2 wrote: »

I often have bisexual men approach me in the gym. Part of me thinks it’s because they want to follow my workout routine. But I think most of it is because I’m so damn attractive.

fstrickl · December 2020

Kashmir_314_ wrote: »

As much as a bisexual dog can be a good dog.

They’re all good dogs Brent!

(Anyones sexual orientation has nothing to do with their ability to be a good partner. Agreed that the wording of this thread is problematic).

KickassAmazon76 · December 2020

+1 for poor title choice. Agree with everyone here.

It's sad that he didn't tell her before they tied the knot, but if he hasn't been unfaithful, and isn't asking for permission to be now, then really what does it matter? Is it really worth ending a marriage?

I guess it all depends on what she is taking issue with and why.