Is it normal to believe the person you are in love with is the most attractive person in the world?

cyaneverfat
cyaneverfat Posts: 527 Member
edited January 2021 in Chit-Chat
Or am I just weird.

I found him more attractive than every celebrity, model or guy on the street I met, by 10 times at least.

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  • amorfati601070
    amorfati601070 Posts: 2,890 Member
    Well yes. If you know them personally it’s not just a skin deep attraction but a connection with them and what makes them, them. It’s real, in other words...not just a fantasy which is a lot of celebrity.
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    I think it’s common with the children we love but idk about romantic love.
  • sardelsa
    sardelsa Posts: 9,812 Member
    edited January 2021
    Yes. I don't find men actually attractive unless I feel a strong mental connection with them. Sure there are actors that are aesthetically pleasing but I find them to be on the same level of attraction as say a nice mountain range or car.
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  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
    Perhaps it's your normal. I can't say I've ever experienced such a feeling. If I did, it was fleeting.

    I agree with @twitchandshout, my children have only sparked such a constant flame. Never did I believe in love at first sight until my child looked at me for the very first time. They are still the most beautiful creatures on the planet.

    Yes, I think I’d say that ideally the partner you choose would be your first choice, but that physical appearance is only a small part of that.

    Then again, when I love someone, even a little, I like looking at them.
  • sardelsa
    sardelsa Posts: 9,812 Member
    MadMaxMFP01 wrote: »
    @sardelsa wrote: »
    Yes. I don't find men actually attractive unless I feel a strong mental connection with them. Sure there are actors that are aesthetically pleasing but I find them to be on the same level of attraction as say a nice mountain range or car.

    As long as it's a muscle car.

    That's about equivalent to Steve Buscemi ;)
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
    twitchandshout wrote: »
    Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
    Perhaps it's your normal. I can't say I've ever experienced such a feeling. If I did, it was fleeting.

    I agree with @twitchandshout, my children have only sparked such a constant flame. Never did I believe in love at first sight until my child looked at me for the very first time. They are still the most beautiful creatures on the planet.

    Yes, I think I’d say that ideally the partner you choose would be your first choice, but that physical appearance is only a small part of that.

    Then again, when I love someone, even a little, I like looking at them.

    Until they've done something to crush your soul. I've never looked at a man that had done me wrong and thought...."you so fkn smokin hot." 😂

    I’ve never had my soul crushed but I can see how that would be true.
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
    twitchandshout wrote: »
    Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
    twitchandshout wrote: »
    Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
    Perhaps it's your normal. I can't say I've ever experienced such a feeling. If I did, it was fleeting.

    I agree with @twitchandshout, my children have only sparked such a constant flame. Never did I believe in love at first sight until my child looked at me for the very first time. They are still the most beautiful creatures on the planet.

    Yes, I think I’d say that ideally the partner you choose would be your first choice, but that physical appearance is only a small part of that.

    Then again, when I love someone, even a little, I like looking at them.

    Until they've done something to crush your soul. I've never looked at a man that had done me wrong and thought...."you so fkn smokin hot." 😂

    I’ve never had my soul crushed but I can see how that would be true.

    Well...you crush my soul every time you disappear. Let's not do that anymore. 💋

    I'm not even sure if guilt even works with you, but its worth a shot. Next is empty threats! 😂

    I can’t take the pressure! 😂
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    edited January 2021
    Also, I don’t understand “most attractive” the same way I don’t understand favorite book or favorite food. There’s too much beauty of too many kinds to have a favorite.
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
    twitchandshout wrote: »
    Also, I don’t understand “most attractive” the same way I don’t understand favorite book or favorite food. There’s too much beauty of too many kinds to have a favorite.

    Have you even heard "Kashmir?"

    BTW - I also have a favorite child. 😯😂
    Let me guess. It’s the one who’s the biggest pain in the butt.

    Me to each of my children: You’re my favorite. Don’t tell your brothers.

    Me to the cat: I love you best. Don’t tell the dog.

    Me to the dog: I love you best. Don’t tell the cat.
  • twitchandshout
    twitchandshout Posts: 1,591 Member
    Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
    twitchandshout wrote: »
    Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
    twitchandshout wrote: »
    Also, I don’t understand “most attractive” the same way I don’t understand favorite book or favorite food. There’s too much beauty of too many kinds to have a favorite.

    Have you even heard "Kashmir?"

    BTW - I also have a favorite child. 😯😂
    Let me guess. It’s the one who’s the biggest pain in the butt.

    Me to each of my children: You’re my favorite. Don’t tell your brothers.

    Me to the cat: I love you best. Don’t tell the dog.

    Me to the dog: I love you best. Don’t tell the cat.

    You are absolutely correct! She's also my baby.

    I'll usually wait til they're in the same room and hug them really tight...while I whisper (out loud) "you're my favorite, but don't tell your sister."

    Me to the dog - I'm not really sure how I feel about you right now considering the stunt you pulled this morning don't look at me with those cute puppy dog eyes either cuz I don't even like you atm but you are absolutely my favorite don't tell the bearded drsgon

    Btw, My dog did the same thing on my bed yesterday. It was time to wash the bedding anyway, but still
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    At one time this was 100% true for me. Don't think I'll ever feel that way again.
  • chuckle_bunny
    chuckle_bunny Posts: 496 Member
    PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »
    At one time this was 100% true for me. Don't think I'll ever feel that way again.
    I don't believe it's up to us to decide that. When love feels lost, it has a way of finding its way back to you. Love always prevails in the end!
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    chuckle_bunny wrote: »
    PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »
    At one time this was 100% true for me. Don't think I'll ever feel that way again.
    I don't believe it's up to us to decide that. When love feels lost, it has a way of finding its way back to you. Love always prevails in the end!

    Lol. Not sure how much of this is a joke😜...but I agree to some degree. Its not that I'll never love again...I think I was young, naive, and unaware. Now🤷‍♀️im not
  • Versicolour
    Versicolour Posts: 7,164 Member
    chuckle_bunny wrote: »
    PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »
    At one time this was 100% true for me. Don't think I'll ever feel that way again.
    I don't believe it's up to us to decide that. When love feels lost, it has a way of finding its way back to you. Love always prevails in the end!

    Sometimes. Sometimes when love has been destroyed there is nothing in this world or any other that can bring it back. It may be possible to love again, but not the same person. Sometimes things are gone for good
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    Versicolour wrote: »
    chuckle_bunny wrote: »
    PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »
    At one time this was 100% true for me. Don't think I'll ever feel that way again.
    I don't believe it's up to us to decide that. When love feels lost, it has a way of finding its way back to you. Love always prevails in the end!

    Sometimes. Sometimes when love has been destroyed there is nothing in this world or any other that can bring it back. It may be possible to love again, but not the same person. Sometimes things are gone for good

    Yes, to this as well.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,988 Member
    Of course. When you look at a celebrity and don't personally know them, you're just looking at features. With the person you're in love with, you've likely learned their personality on a personal level, learned about their character, what their goals are and also they are likely feeling the same about you, unlike a celebrity.

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  • SodaDrinker
    SodaDrinker Posts: 106 Member
    i think its rare, because the person youre with is never the person you imagined being with
    also when i open instagram, theres way more attractive people than the one i love
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  • woollenmonarch
    woollenmonarch Posts: 152 Member
    If this were true, men and women won’t have affairs.
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    I mean, that might be your normal (and that's fine!), but it's not everyone's normal.

    For reference, I've been married for nearly 14 years and don't feel that way about my husband, although I might have in the beginning (again, normal). Do I still find him attractive? Yep.

    But I can concede that there are more attractive dudes out there. But just because those more attractive people exist doesn't mean I have any desire to venture elsewhere or kick my spouse to the curb, lol.
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    Love at first sight
    Love is blind
    Yes, I believe it can be normal if you feel that way. One person in my life had me feeling that way; he was my absolute best friend for almost 10 years; I could tell him anything when nobody else gave a minute to listen; and he was nice to look at, comfortable arms to be in, had a wonderful smile. But it can be a dangerous thing as well. If you get to the point of 'they can do no wrong' but then they do, it hurts even deeper.
    Always treat blind love with caution and a protected heart.
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    rosebarnalice wrote: »
    There's no two ways about it: by spouse is one goofy looking guy- tall and thin with a slightly irregular gait, long skinny arms like a car lot air dancer, and somewhat flattened face like a persian cat except for a nose slightly too big for his other features.

    But when we've separated a crowd or even in the grocery store for just a few minutes I turn around and see him again, my eyes dilate, and every other person in the room disappears into a cheesy vaseline-on-a-camera blur, and he's the most handsome man on the planet (and has been for the 35 years my eyes have been dialating for him) :-)

    Aaww. This. To find this again
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    edited January 2021
    I think my husband is an objectively handsome man but we’ve gone through some good times and bad and my attraction to him depends on how things are going. If he’s bein a jerk about something, no attraction.

    But when things are consistently good as they have been for a few years now and that man smiles at me, it lights me up. It’s the most beautiful thing, that warm smiling face.

    And I understand the whole across the room thing someone else mentioned. If I’m in a crowded place looking for him, seeing his face feels like home. Some people get bored of their partner it seems, but the more familiar he becomes to me over time, the more I cherish that familiarity.

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