“Situationship”

I had to look it up. Lots of definitions of one so basically, I'd say, EVERYONE has been in one.

I've done the hanging out with guys and things happen situation, and the booty call situation, and the feelings on only one side situation and the actual dating situation.

What are you trying to get over?

Peachesand_cream wrote: »

Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »

Peachesand_cream wrote: »

Google says: A situationship is a romantic relationship that's undefined or uncommitted. It may be based on convenience or short-term circumstances. That doesn't mean a situationship can't have some or even all the trappings of a regular relationship, including an emotional connection.

I think I'm in a situationship with my MFP friends list

Your entire list?

I'm offended, I thought our situationship was exclusive.

I'm breaking it off and heading over to @Motorsheen bc he's next on my friend list

Approved.

Hotelsma wrote: »

OpheliaCooter wrote: »

I personally never get over anything. Like, just literally block them from your mind.

Bloody hard when they even still appear on your dreams 😒

Oh I still dream about a 9 year past situationship BUT in your waking hours just try not to dwell and realize that you are dreaming up a unrealistic fantasy about nothing that could actually happen irl. Even the actual real memories are warped from time and loneliness.
There’s really just something about ‘potential’ like yall started something and then nothing, and them not choosing you that somehow is the perfect trap into thinking about them until you die. I’m sorry bro, it happens to the best of us. Just realize that it’s not even about them, it’s about you. What should you be focusing on that you’re avoiding by dwelling on an escape?

Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »

Hotelsma wrote: »

@Miss_Chiev0us @Motorsheen @Peachesand_cream a situationship in different time zones???? Now that’s an idea 🤔

Oh gosh, don't listen to me. I'm the worst

Motorsheen wrote: »

Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »

Hotelsma wrote: »

@Miss_Chiev0us @Motorsheen @Peachesand_cream a situationship in different time zones???? Now that’s an idea 🤔

Oh gosh, don't listen to me. I'm the worst

😆

OpheliaCooter wrote: »

Hotelsma wrote: »

OpheliaCooter wrote: »

I personally never get over anything. Like, just literally block them from your mind.

Bloody hard when they even still appear on your dreams 😒

Oh I still dream about a 9 year past situationship BUT in your waking hours just try not to dwell and realize that you are dreaming up a unrealistic fantasy about nothing that could actually happen irl. Even the actual real memories are warped from time and loneliness.
There’s really just something about ‘potential’ like yall started something and then nothing, and them not choosing you that somehow is the perfect trap into thinking about them until you die. I’m sorry bro, it happens to the best of us. Just realize that it’s not even about them, it’s about you. What should you be focusing on that you’re avoiding by dwelling on an escape?

Are you my alter-ego? Sometimes when I get into my own head way too much, all I can think of are the what-ifs and if-onlys, then there's the damn-it-all-to-hells. The grass is greener thinking and all that sort of rubbish. I try very hard not to go there because it doesn't help any present situation or forward thinking at all. But, at times, I still revisit that life I lived for about 10 years. He was my very best friend and saw me through some gawdawful stuff and I miss the communication/friendship/support I had. I also miss the feelings he had me feeling. At the time. But as it came to an end, there were other feelings. And those weren't of the positive kind. I truly knew better through out that whole period of my life but was always hopeful for a better outcome.

As far as getting rid of all the material memories from that time?? There are a few silly things I haven't been able to get rid of yet either.
But let's face it, when someone makes a huge difference in your life, they are part of your life, forever. Doesn't mean you have to dwell constantly in the memories. KWIM?

Good luck in all the situationships in your lives everyone.

Hotelsma wrote: »

Anyone been in one before or even know what one is lol if you have how did you get over?

Now that I know a bit more about your situation (after reading your responses), I can respond:

I've been in this particular thing more than once. The only way to "forget" them is to completely block off all communication with them (quit them cold turkey) and distract yourself as best you can.

I still sometimes think about my own "situationships" with people, but now that years have passed, it's gotten admittedly easier to dismiss the thoughts and/or remember the better/fun parts of our relationship without dwelling on all the bad things or the reasons that led to us discontinuing it.

But the only way I have found to move forward in those cases is to completely block those people out of my life. Sounds mean, maybe petty even... but it's what had to be done for the betterment of my mental health.

P.S. The stuff you have that she gave you or that reminds you of her: You only need to bin it if it's affecting your mental health *or* if by say, burning it you would find some sort of catharsis from it. Otherwise, I'd say put it in a small box or whatever, maybe label it and put it away somewhere. You can always dig it out and go through it t when you're having a better day in your mental space.