What exactly is the point?

I'd rather have scars than to have scars AND be fat.

You should probably get some counseling to deal with these feelings. good luck!

I'd rather have scars than to have scars AND be fat.

This^ Besides your a pretty girl. Don't you know that? If you didn't then I am telling you so now. :happy:

You're 19...you're going to get a lot more scars, both visible and invisible. That's life. Life knocks you down. Life drags you over hot coals and broken glass. But you know what? You stand up, take a cool shower, invest in Neosporin & Band-Aids...and keep going. Who is life or circumstance or luck to keep you from doing whatever it is that makes you happy?

My profile has my motto in it:

Life is ****. All you can pray for is good toilet paper.

Chin up, babygirl. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent (Eleanor Roosevelt)

You're 19...you're going to get a lot more scars, both visible and invisible. That's life. Life knocks you down. Life drags you over hot coals and broken glass. But you know what? You stand up, take a cool shower, invest in Neosporin & Band-Aids...and keep going. Who is life or circumstance or luck to keep you from doing whatever it is that makes you happy?

My profile has my motto in it:

Life is ****. All you can pray for is good toilet paper.

Chin up, babygirl. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent (Eleanor Roosevelt)

^^^ everything she said!

Scars and stretch marks fade, plus life is not spent entirely in a bathing suit. It gets better. Everyone has frustrating days. Hang in there.

With great respect, you're not the only one.

I have stretch marks and my skin sags because as my doctor says, "You're not 16 anymore." I don't have children either. It was my choice, just as being here, with all these people sharing that same experience, is my choice.

The point is, you can choose to be something different than you are and to benefit from that, physical or emotional. You might need help to do that, but honestly, why else are you here? We all need each other.

The point of it all I think is to get to a place where you can look at yourself and say "I like the way I look". Its about self-respect. I got down to 160 pounds on this site, and I absolutely hated my life during the process. I was always hungry, I looked like hell, and I felt like it too. Fast forward about a month, and I now weigh 17 pounds more, but I feel amazing, I am happy with myself and with whatever way I look be it skinny or fat or somewhere in-between, and I look alot better too because im not skin and bones (some people just dont look good skinny, obviously i'm one of them).

Summarized, I think its about feeling good about yourself.

And about the scars thing, I cant say I understand it from your point of view, but I have a good percentage of my body covered in scars from a host of stupid s**t I did as a kid, and iv'e just learned that if I ever have anyone in my life who makes me feel bad about any of them, I have the control to not let it affect me and to tell them to f**k off.

Dunno if that helps any

Well, I have tons of scars. Maybe not as visible as yours, but they are my "history marks", One I have above my lip, got pecked by a rooster at age 2, another under my left eye, bite from a horse. Another on the palm of my hand, wiped off a cutting knife the wrong way. I know how you feel, I really do...but, people love you for YOU, they don't see the scars like you do. My husband loves my scars, they're a part of me, they are what makes me, me! Same as people who have freckles, or unruly hair, or the dimple in the chin. Please try to look at the beautiful person that you are, not the scars that hide your vision to that beauty.

I have a TON of scars. I grew up on a farm and am exremely clumsy, so I have scars on my legs, arms, a couple on my lips from getting hit in the face during basketball. I also had a breast reduction about 6 months ago, and the scars from that are huge, but I'm still happy I went through it.

I embrace my scars. My experiences have made me who I am and nobody is perfect. The good old VS models are made that why by photo shop. :-)

You were wonderfully made. You are more perfect then you know. try to discover that. Physiologically you still have 6 years of growing to do. scars and stretch marks at your age will likely go away.

The real point of all this is control. Self control. We all need self control for more reasons then physical health.

You can do this.

awww..I have lots of stretchmarks too and its depressing at times, but I feel so much better about myself the other 23 hrs and 45 minutes of the day that im not undressed and having to see them. Its so worth it to feel good on the inside. I hope you have a more positive attitude as you get older. I lost 100 lbs in my 20's. 16 inches off the waist alone. Its a terrible sight, but I call them my battle scars. I won the war with obesity.
I hope you feel better!

Every single scar I have tells the story of me. Each one is a moment of time in my life that changed and molded me into the person I am now. My newest one is the 6 inch incision scar across my abdomen from removing a tumor in April. While I was recovering I realized that I had to change my life or I wasn't going to make it much longer. I wear all my scars and stretch marks with pride. That which doesn't kill me will only make me stronger.

Let me give you something to think about. It's a parallel to what you've shared, so while I realize it isn't the same, it may help you.

I'm a community college professor. One of the things I deal with every semester is students who stumble and fall in an academic sense, and who become easily convinced that their life is over. I remind them that the real judge of a person's character is not whether they stumble (we all do) but how they respond to falling down. You can allow yourself to be defeated or you can learn from it, rise from the ashes, and be stronger. These marks may never go away, but they can be a springboard to greater things. (For example, I greatly impressed the president of the first college where I taught when I explained how I grew from the D+ on my college transcript. I secured his support for the job by how I handled it. The mark will never go away but I've found a way to make it work for me.)

On a much more personal level, let me share with you the deepest emotional scar I expect I will ever carry. 2 1/2 years ago, I lost my second child. His kidneys had failed to develop and he was lost to a stillbirth. Many months later, we learned that I had a very rare genetic disease that was responsible for this. In many ways I will carry the emotional scar of the grief and responsibility for his all to short life for the rest of mine. For many months after this passing I was not able to say little Reverie's name aloud. But here's the thing. The pain of his loss -- which will never go away completely -- allowed us to find out that his big brother has the same disorder. We now know about a kidney disorder that he has and are treating it before it becomes a problem for him. We were also prepared for possible challenges with his little brother, which are abundant (he has, effectively, no ears) and in spite of very severe hearing impairment his speech is only a couple of months delayed. All because of what his brother prepared us for.

Do not take this story as "people have it harder than you," because that is not what I'm saying. What I'm saying is that when you carry a scar of any kind you can choose to bear it with shame and grief, or you can choose to wear it with pride and as an emblem of what you've learned and who you've become. I will never be totally rid of the grief over losing a child. But the emotional scar from Reverie has come to define my life in a very deep way. That scar has taught me the power of my education in a very deep way, and inspired me to share that with others; I have plans to start an educational foundation in Reverie's memory some day to help other families with less education cope with similar challenges. The scar empowers me to do this; it's only been with me a few years, but I can't imagine life without it, and that is a good thing.

I think it's inevitable that we become defined by our physical and emotional scars. I haven't seen any evidence to suggest that we have a real choice in this matter. But what we DO have power over is whether that definition is a good or a bad thing. Maybe I'm just saying make lemonade from lemons, but I don't think so. I think it's deeper than that. I think it is empowering to OWN our scars and show the world what we've become both as a result of and in spite of our life's battles. Just something to think about.

Peace...