Women 200lb+, Let's Be Unafraid This August!!!
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@Renewed2021 Thank you for honoring us with your vulnerability. ❤️
I know everyone’s story is so different, but for me, I couldn’t start to lose the weight and change my life until I came to terms with who I was at my heaviest weight. It took 2 years of big emotional work to be able to truly see myself as beautiful and strong, even with the excess weight. When I really believed that and embraced that about myself, then I was ready to change my outward appearance because I had changed on the inside first. Of course, I know this is just my story and certainly doesn’t have to be this way for everyone, but it was so important for me to learn to love myself before (not after) I changed myself.11 -
Renewed2021 wrote: »If I'm gonna get serious about this, I need to remove temptations. Purging my cupboards today. Fortunately, there's not much to purge but there's enough to do some serious damage to my weight loss journey. I'm not ready for moderation yet, so I'll do without and allow myself small treats on occasion. This is my tipping point. If I can hold out and not restock my cupboards with junk, I know I can do this!
I find if I can get myself to go out and purchase an individual treat, I do much better than "a big package that I can preportion". If I do the preportioning, I just eat 2 - or 3 portions!! good job cleaning out temptation. i too have trouble with moderation!5 -
JuneyCleaves wrote: »
Man, I wish I liked hard boiled eggs but I cannot get a hard yolk down.
They're something I try every so often to try to acquire the taste but it hasn't stuck yet!
Try taking the yolk of the egg out, mix with a little bit of avocado, then have "deviled" eggs with it. you can add any spices you like. The avocado will take place of the mayo, be heart healthy and gives the yolks a much better texture!3 -
@Renewed2021 I wish I could give you a big hug. I've been surprised here and there by emotions that I wasn't ready for, as I lost (28 of probably 100-130, so not even that far in my journey!) Something in me is very afraid of letting go of this fat shield. So I'm there with you, working to get out of hiding too.
I'm the same with moderation. I can eat a pint of ice cream, or I can leave it in the freezer (and fight it off day by day.) I cannot--so far--eat a serving of ice cream and put the rest back.5 -
@Renewed2021 and @sargemarcori - I think you're both hitting on a deep truth that resonates for me, too. I don't know how to be a not-fat person. I've been a fat person all my life, and there are days when the enormity of this undertaking really hits hard. I'm worried that, since I've never been a not-fat person, I won't be able to figure out a new way to live and I'll stay a fat person because that's all I know how to do. My future has a lot of question marks in it right now. But I am figuring it out, step by step, pound by pound, day by day. I don't *need* to figure it out all at once, much as my jerkbrain thinks I do or I would like to, because - convenient as it would be - I can't just unzip my fat body and step out into the light at goal, it's a process of gradual change.
It's like I'm standing on the side of a mountain overlooking a valley, and I can see where I want to be across that valley. But it's really far away so I can't make out much detail, and the valley is full of mist and fog so I can't quite see the path across it, from where I'm standing. But I can see the path right in front of me, and forward a little ways; and I know roughly in what direction I should be facing; and the sun's coming out, so as I get closer to my destination I'll be able to see it all more clearly.
That metaphor got a little tortured but I hope you get my meaning.8 -
sargemarcori wrote: »letting go of this fat shield
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I'm off for a mini-vacation this weekend! Spending it with my parents in celebration of my mother's birthday. It'll be my first time in a hotel in over a year and a half, which feels insane. I'm very used to frequent travel.
I booked one of my OrangeTheory HIIT classes first thing tomorrow morning (persuaded my parents to pick a hotel VERY close to an OTF) so I at least know I have a baseline of activity and a calorie cushion for the day. Plus, lots of city walking, so just focused on making good food choices at this point.
Have a great weekend everyone!
@Renewed2021 - Thank you for your vulnerability and honesty. It brought tears to my eyes. I also need to do some of the same work and it is an emotional minefield.
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Update:
SW: 216
8/8: 208
8/15: 208
August GW: 199
I found myself a bit frustrated this week when I weighed in and had not changed a bit. But then I remembered that two days before I recorded my 8/8 weight, I was at 210. Then I did a mid-week weigh in and I'm down again. So my CW is actually 205 and I've lost 11lbs overall. Which is at least going in the right direction.
For the last year I have started a diet and then lost about six pounds before I went back to old habits. I think my body was just expecting the same thing again so when I lost 8 pounds and hit 208, my weight loss stalled for a minute. I feel like it's kicked back into gear now which has made it easier to stick to my calorie and exercise goals.
I'm using a method called habit stacking to build healthy habits. This month I'm working on the following habits:
1. Drink 85oz of water daily - I'm pretty hit & miss on this one. I hit it about 50% of the time.
2. Stay within my calorie goal 5x/week - I'm holding strong to this habit and am tracking and hitting my calorie goal at least 5x/week. This has really allowed me to give myself grace and not feel so deprived.
3. Move intentionally every day - I'm learning that everyday is a vast difference from what I normally do and it's overwhelmed me quite a bit. So I'm showing myself grace here, too, and trying to stay active more than I'm not (at least 4/7 rolling days)
4. Weigh in once a week - I've been weighing in twice per week. I need to cut it back because I feel I am putting too much emphasis on that number and not enough on how I feel.
NSVs this month:- Tight Jeans fit again! Yay!
- Can feel myself becoming more full with less food.
- Did a 3 mile hike last weekend when a month ago I could barely walk to the end of my street
- Sex drive is coming back finally!
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Great to find the group. I am just starting. 17 months of having covid symptoms took a toll on my fitness and weight. I've been living in a little bubble of delusion about how much weight I gained (okay, lol big bubble of delusion). Now that I'm physically ready to do a calorie deficit, I'm having to face how far I have to go and what a lifestyle change this is going to be. This is always the hardest part of working to lose weight - how in touch it puts me with my heavy weight. My goal for the rest of the month is to decide I can love myself with open eyes at this weight without beating myself up, that I don't need to beat myself up in order to make healthy choices.7
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@goal06082021 @sargemarcori @justanotherloser007
I resonate with so much of all you have shared, and I cannot explain the comfort in knowing that I am not alone in these thoughts and this struggle. I really thought I was.
I absolutely love the metaphor/illustration of the mountain and the valley. I'm starting to believe if I saw the whole journey I'd quit now. But the next step is visible and it doesn't look that hard....6 -
Friday Weigh-in:
Age: 58
Ht.: 5'3"
My highest weight ever was 221 a few years ago.
SW: 205. (7/5/21)
Last week's weight: 197.4
CW: 196.4
GW for end of August: Under 195
UGW: Under 150 (?) TBD
Coming off slow, but it's coming off!!!!
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Hi I’m 53 and 5’6”.
Original starting weight: 257.8 1/14/21
Aug Start Weight: 221.5 (7/31/21)
Aug Goal Weight: 217.5
Ultimate Goal Weight: 170
Aug 7: 221.8 (+0.3)
Aug 14: 220.8. (-1.0)
Aug 21: 219.4 (-1.4)
Aug 28:
Aug 31:
I’ve reached my first goal of 220 lbs!!! I’m shocked as I didn’t have the best week diet or exercise wise this week. I gave up on my monthly squat challenge halfway through as my left knee started hurting after doing them. I’m sure my form was off but I didn’t want to push it. My knee feels fine now. I had a scary follow up doctor appointment for my eye yesterday and got all good news. I feel so relieved.
@Renewed2021 I could really identify with a lot you’ve said. I’d suffered with feelings of not being good enough for most of my life. And it was all related to men. From my dad and ex-husband leaving for other women to various boyfriends over the years. And I had a lot of therapy. I gave up on men 7 years ago. I’m sure that’s part of the reason I gained weight. And when I gained weight I magically became invisible to men. Voila! Now I’m losing the weight for me and my health. And I’m the happiest I’ve been in years.6 -
I had a really crazy work week, return to school. I'm the office secretary. I have finally had a chance to read through this week's posts.
Tears are flowing while I'm typing. You all have REALLY nailed my feelings about being fat. How I hate the "f" word. It upsets me so much to hear that word about other people and myself. It just seems so vile and ugly. None of us should be made to feel "less than" because of a number on a scale! But yet here I sit. I've ALWAYS felt that way about myself. Knowing that I'm successful in so many areas of my life, it still comes down to that @$%^/(& number on that scale. I'm uncomfortable being the center of attention. I shy away from higher positions in my school district even though I'm qualified and skilled at my job. I've put myself last for so many reasons- just because I'm fat! It just makes me wonder if and when I reach my goal weight, are all of the other feelings going to magically disappear? Any thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated. I can't tell you how much I rely on this forum to help me keep on this journey to a healthier, happier me. Thank you!
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5'3 48 (2013 HW 277)
Aug 1: 203.6 - goal for month 199 - Onederland
Aug 8: 201
Aug 16: 200.8
Aug 21: 196
Even with water fluctuations I can safely speculate that I have goal, and am actually in onederland.
So my goal is always to maintain, and if I lose that is very good. On the 1200 cal a day except for Sundays which are 1445 (maintenance calories at 130 lb goal weight) seems to be working perfectly.
Joining a gym today, a weird gym, but whatever - the hubby seems to think it is a good fit for our needs.
Physical Therapy is flash bang awesome!! Where has this been all my life, I was able to fall asleep without muscle relaxers before I went to bed!!! I haven't done that since 2016 when my pain almost caused a heart attack and freaked out my Dr. so much he has had me on blood pressure meds ever since. So maybe, if the pain is starting to get managed - I can re-look at the need for BP meds eventually. That is a nice thought.
NSV I can wear a size 18 pair of jeans - which is officially 10 sizes down from size 28. I don't know why I have them - probably on sale and they didn't have any bigger size?? In my best dreams I couldn't have been anywhere near size 18.
Ya'll are doing awesome! The food recipes are nice, the plans are good. We can do this ladies! It seems like men aren't really here..
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Age: 43
Height: 5'10"
SW: 290.6 (4/19/2021)
CW: 277.2 (8/1/2021)
8/7: 274.4
8/14: 273.6
8/21: 268.0
8/28:
GW for August: 268
GW for 2021: 240
UGW: 180
well, I don't know what happened this week. I thought I was drinking enough water but I will have to track again to be sure. This week has actually been a hard one. Had a kiddo birthday on Monday, my kids all went back to in-person school on Tuesday, early starts at work this week (and next week), and my allergies have been destroying me from all the smoke in the air. My step count is low, my sleep has been crappy, and there has been a lot of processed food this week. So, yeah, I am confused. I am planning on running all my air filters on max this weekend, and getting lots of sleep, so hopefully I will feel better by Monday.
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Weigh-in day!
Age: 30
Height: 5'3"
SW: 252.8 (11/13/2020)
CW: 216.4 (7/31/2021)
8/6: 216.4 or 215.8
8/14: 215.2
8/21: 214
8/28:
GW for August: 210
GW for 2021: 196
UGW: 144 by end of 2022
Okay, I'll take it! I really was not expecting to see a loss this week - I've gone over budget more days than I care to admit (although not by much - I was obviously still in a deficit), and I'm halfway through a course of antibiotics that tend to cause water retention. I don't think I'll hit 210 by next week, but maybe I will actually hit the -40lbs mark and maybe I can buy myself that cute dress this month after all! LMAO.
I've also been stressed about my younger cat this week; we took him in to the vet last month for some scratches on his nose that weren't healing, and that's now turned into 3 rounds of bloodwork and a sudden reluctance on his part to eat his food, which is a HUGE departure from his usual personality (he'll damn near take a finger off if you're too slow giving him treats). His nose is just about back to normal, just one little patch left where the fur is growing back in, but the bloodwork has come back with elevated calcium levels which could be stress or could be parathyroid-related. They're doing a full CBC workup, but the lab will take 7-10 days to get back to us, which might be closer to 2 weeks given the holiday weekend coming up. The loss of appetite is new, and I think it's emotional; I think he's decided he doesn't like being shut in the other room alone to eat, which we have to do to keep the older cat from eating his wet food, so now I or my husband have to sit with him in the other room for awhile until he decides he's hungry. Last night he laid in my lap for about half an hour before going to eat a few bites, then came back for another good long snuggle before going to eat the rest.
I'm loving all the good updates this weekend, and I'm also glad that so many of us here can understand each other's struggles. It's not a club any of us necessarily wanted to be part of, probably, but I for one am glad to be in it with y'all. This is such a great, supportive group and I'm so glad to have found it.5 -
Well, I've finally gotten off my plateau for the last ten days
SW 212
August starting weight 189.8
8/1 189.8
8/6 186.8
8/7 186.4
8/8 185.4
8/21 184.6
total weight loss since 8/1 5.2
total weight loss since 6/1/21 27.4
Was hoping to get below 180 this month, but with just ten days doesn't seem likely, but will try.
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Age: 61
Height: 5'4"
SW: 260 June 2021
CW: 233.2 August 1, 2021
8/07: 230.8
8/14: 228.4
8/21: 225.4
8/28:
8/31:
GW for August 225lbs -8.2lbs
UGW 160ish
I’m having a great month with a loss of 3# for the week. I still have so much to lose but am celebrating each loss. I’m trying to look at the trees and not the whole forest.
I finally go back to work in September which I’m thrilled about but also where sweet, salty, starchy deliciously bad temptations are ever present. I can’t complain because I used to be the one bringing them. My plan is to avoid the break room and pack my own treats daily.
Thankyou ladies for your kindness and encouragement to all who join this group. I read something every day that makes me motivated and accountable for my own journey.
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I like to make Sunday's special and bake the hubby special keto treats I try to make his diabetes a little less burdensome. Today was yellow (keto) cake and sugar free icing for me, calorie free caramel drizzle for me ... so freaking goood!! But - I learned something really important. I WILL NOT think next time that we will have a treat then eat lunch and be fine. Treats are not equal to food. So next time I will eat a salad or whatever I have planned and have said treat, and I will not have to pull cake pans away from the hubby and strong will it (are those a thing?) myself. It just ends up a train wreck. So salad first (or whatever you are going to eat) then when you are full (this includes the hubby - ignore his I'm not hungry), having a treat will be really special and it will be very easy for ALL involved to have 1 serving for me, and maybe I can get the man down to 3 servings.. Cuz he was about to get a fork, and was very very sad that I told him it was time for lunch. I can't handle those pretty brown eyes, and I don't really have enough will power for one - much less two!! So lesson learned, plan accordingly and this will be wonderful every time. Promise and pinky swear!!1
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Keri
68 years old, Height: 5'6"
SW: 266 lbs (Dec 2019)
2/1/2020: 263.6
August SW: 255.2 (I was at 254.2 yesterday which I haven’t seen since February)
Current weight: 252.4
Month weight goal: 250
Goal for the end of the year: Get under 230
Goals for this month:
• Get a good night sleep. Mostly
• Keep drinking 8+ glasses of water. Needs work lately
• Log my food/ daily. No
• Evaluate progress and post on this thread weekly. Yes
• Find a healthier after dinner dessert. (last year I improved my breakfasts and this is my last issue to an otherwise very healthy diet)
• Plan meals at home. Yes
• Make progress with weight loss. yes
Not only did I make progress losing today but I was able to update my MFP Check in weight as well. I lost relative to my last lowest weight on here. Now I want to get to my low of last year on my old scale that weighed me lower than my current scale. That will put me in the low 240s and a lower obese class.
My surgery was postponed by a week. I had more tests and need the results. The tests were pretty painful and I am still recovering from that.
I struck out a goal because there is just too much on my plate now. We are having our deck repaired, reinforced and a portion replaced and expanded. My mother has been in the hospital and is now in a skilled care center to transition back home to her retirement community. I am still working full-time. What is helping is that I planned meals, ordered groceries anticipating my surgery. Now I have to redo since my surgery has been postponed. I need to work on drinking more water which I was doing earlier but not this past week. I also need to log my food. I want to get back to my walks which I couldn’t do with recovering.
Since my surgery is at the end of the month I will probably only do 1 more post next weekend. I will go now and read all of your posts this week.6
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