What nobody tells you about losing weight
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I've learned to appreciate dresses and skirts. They last longer when loosing weight, because pants get too big but you can always put on a dress.
At the same time body dysmorphia gets real. I need to double check sizes and still get it wrong most time now.16 -
Losing weight at a decent rate can be expensive when it comes to clothing lol. Last time I was here. I lost 100lbs and was buying new clothes every month for almost a year.
Reconciling the difference between body weight and fitness is something I have always struggled with. I'm 6'3" with a lean body mass of 243lbs. Being 50yo, 20% body fat is my realistic goal which pushes me to almost 300lbs. When I was younger I would have thought that 300lbs would be outrageously fat. Now it is really strong and just a big guy lol12 -
DezYaoified wrote: »No one said family/friends would try to sabotage me.
They may have fell in the category I did, where one "celebrates" and "rewards" with food. I had to change that mentality and behavior. I have a long journey ahead of me - and I have lost 80lbs. I had to re-establish what I consider rewards. But it sounds like the friend/family member is attempting to celebrate your loss with food. It does feel like active sabotage, and my hubby has done certain sabotaging behavior towards me as well. I realized that is how he has always been treated, so he is trying to be kind. And I am certain that he considers my not eating with him kind of standoffish - but now it is a thing. In a day I will get my protein, carbs, and oils in - just sort of 1 meal a heavy protein veggie, then a dinner as a veggie with less protein and some carbs. I can't deal with his meal and my meal being the same. I just can't seem to plan it right.
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Why do people feel that it's their business to comment on what I'm eating? "Oh, look at you eating all healthy." Like, really????
Also, sometimes people are concerned about commenting on weight because it can be a sore spot or inappropriate. I certainly don't mind if someone asks if I've lost weight. Others get offended. I think for myself, it's motivating when they do make the comment that the weight is coming off.
We were out on vacation last week and my husband said we should buy a carton of ice cream. I told him I would much rather not, but if he wanted ice cream, to go to the shop and get one any time he wanted to, but not to ask me to go with him. He understood and was supportive. Then there are times he brings home sweets .... ugh, so frustrating sometimes.10 -
It amazes me that people see a woman and feel compelled to make comments about her size. Since last March I have lost 83.6 lbs. and people just have to keep telling me how tiny I am. I'm 5'7" wear a large shirt and a 26 or 27x32" pants. and don't feel tiny. I look like a python who swallowed a goat. It is very disconcerting to hear tiny or big . Mainly because my body image still does not see me as the size I am. And I just don't appreciate hearing it no matter what size I am.16
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So, the people the side sleepers... when you lost weight sleeping got more painful? I lost 80 lbs, and really thought it would help the hip pain that I associated with gaining weight - especially at night. I am in the same amount of pain, granted I was never told when I lost weight it would be less painful - it was kind of an assumption. Is the sleeping pain related to weight? Or did it just happen to me at the same time? I am so confused, I was thinking less weight = less pain.6
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@justanotherloser007, Hi, I have always been a side sleeper. too. Weight loss hasn't made much of a difference comfort wise(except that I have to adjust my knee position). I will experience pain in my neck if my pillow lacks support but usually replace them. Maybe you need a new mattress and or boxspring or reposition the slats under your sleep set if it's not firm enough or a mattress topper if too hard.
I have a latex mattress, so no pressure points. Have had it for 15 years and it's still going strong. Have found that the amount of firmness that I needed got less as I lost weight but everyone's experience may be different.5 -
You don't deflate evenly. I have a waist now but there's all this fat/skin junk sagging and hanging out all round my lower hips and belly. Also fat/skin hanging down around my knees when it didn't used to. I suppose it gets worse before it gets better.10
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I definitely noticed that after a significant weight loss that I am always looking at myself and how cute I am! I know that this is totally vein, but it has been a confidence booster in that way!
This is complety true. I've lost 125 pounds. Still another 80 or so to go. But I told a buddy last month that this is honestly the first time in my life that I've been attracted to myself. I'm still not most of the time. But I look in the mirror alot more, take more pictures, and every once in awhile I'll catch myself thinking wow, I might actually be attractive.
It's not vein either. I can't speak for everyone. But having spent 15ish years unattracted to myself, this is good body positivity and absolutely helps with confidence.23 -
penguinmama87 wrote: »Sand_TIger wrote: »Something else nobody every told me about weight loss is how GOOD healthy food would taste. I've enjoyed fruit more than any candy, and a really good yogurt with fruit on it is almost as good as ice cream. I'm amazed at how tasty lean protein and vegetables can be when cooked right. Yes, the body can indeed be trained into craving the healthy stuff, just as I wished would happen back in the day when eating junk.
You know the old refrain "why can't the healthy stuff taste as good as stuff that's bad for me?"
It CAN!
Yes!
And on the other hand, some of the "junk" is no longer palatable to me and it's kind of astonishing I used to eat it and like it. There's a couple things I still enjoy, but I think nostalgia may be a very big part of that and it overwhelms my other senses.
This. I haven't noticed that healthy food tastes better, but my sweet tooth is definitely gone. I'll take a plate of fries or some chicken over chocolate or desert any day. Ans that was never the case before.
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HOW painful the 'ol tail bone can be! I cannot sit comfortably anymore because my tail bone sticks out.14
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springlering62 wrote: »Sand_TIger wrote: »WifeDeputy wrote: »ne of my biggest things was learning how to nest my knees for sleeping at night. What does this mean?
It means that some of us learn we now have super bony knees and we can't comfortably stack one on top of the other while sleeping on our sides. I had something like that happen for a bit as my thighs lost padding and for a while my spine was out of alignment when I slept.
I ordered the thinnest memory foam pillow I could find on Amazon. It has really helped. I don’t like knees, shins, ankles or feet touching each other now, for some reason.
I saw knee support pillows at Bed, Bath and Beyond the other day, and I've been thinking about them every since. I may have to try one.4 -
Maybe not a surprise but losing weight at 71 and the end result looks so much different than when I lost it in earlier generations of age. I mean, in my 20's, totally lean and strong. In my 30's, more work to get there but I achieved that body. 40's and 50's and 60's...well, never quite the same but better. But now...down nearly 30 pounds (this time. I swear I have lost the equivalent to several small children in my lifetime!) and skin doesn't bounce back anymore. Boobs don't lift and bounce now. Nothing does. So for me, this is about health and feeling well, as well as controlling my blood sugars, cholesterol, and blood pressure and I am doing a good job with those. Lose it early and keep it off is my suggestion.41
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That you never really were "big-boned."
That you also lose weight from the inside. I feel so much less pressure on my stomach, lungs and heart. I feel more like a shell where my organs have room to function.
YES!!! The "big boned" comment for sure! Always used that excuse and now I wear a size 5 ring and have a hard time finding bracelets that stay on because my wrists are so small!9 -
Sand_TIger wrote: »Nobody ever told me that hunger isn't a small scale emergency.
My folks and I all have issues with hypoglycemia but I actually overcame them. For me anyway it's all in how I time things as well as in what I eat. If I have a carb first thing in the morning, even a healthy complex carb, guaranteed I'll have a blood sugar roller coaster ride. If I have protein first thing in the morning, or at least something containing protein, or totally skip breakfast, then everything stays happy and steady. I get hungry but it's the kind of thing that I can delay if needed and still make good choices, not that mindless "must have every carb in the house NOW" type hunger.
It was a revelation to me once I finally figured this out!
Also, I had no idea how much I'd love cooking after going on this healthy journey. Cooking with lots of colorful vegetables, lean protein, and flavorful, exotic herbs and spices has been so much fun, a lot less messy than with greasy spattery food, and it's been loads of fun learning new techniques and figuring out new recipes. I have a blast, and at the beginning of this I thought that cooking was something I wouldn't be able to enjoy as much.
Which reminds me, I need to come up with some kind of new and fun thing to make now! Like maybe a lunch salad with ALL the vegetables.
Totally agree. Carbs in the morning mess up my whole day! It was a game changer when I finally realised this on my first ever intentional successful weight loss journey in 2018.15 -
No one tells you that you don’t just shrink but your body may wind up shaped differently. Well at least no one told me.16
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Something people sometimes forget to consider is how beverages can derail your progress, and I am not even talking about alcohol or sodas. Fruit juice is a big one. Lattes are too (even sugar-free lattes). A tall Starbucks sugar-free latte with almond milk substituted for dairy milk can add saturated fat, sodium, sugar, and calories that you may not have thought would matter. It's important to keep this in mind.11
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willboywonder wrote: »Something people sometimes forget to consider is how beverages can derail your progress, and I am not even talking about alcohol or sodas. Fruit juice is a big one. Lattes are too (even sugar-free lattes). A tall Starbucks sugar-free latte with almond milk substituted for dairy milk can add saturated fat, sodium, sugar, and calories that you may not have thought would matter. It's important to keep this in mind.
12 oz boiling water
1 oz or less Jordan’s Salted Caramel zero cal syrup
3 scoops Blue Lotus Instant Masala Chai powder
2 tbsp fat free half and half (20 cal)
Topped with 1/8c skim mil (17 cal), frothed in hand pump frother and microwaves to thicken froth
Sprinkle with cinnamon
Wonder and delight in a giant mug for 37 calories.
Sorry. I had already enjoyed most the froth by the time I saw your post. 😂19 -
stillastruggle61 wrote: »Maybe not a surprise but losing weight at 71 and the end result looks so much different than when I lost it in earlier generations of age. I mean, in my 20's, totally lean and strong. In my 30's, more work to get there but I achieved that body. 40's and 50's and 60's...well, never quite the same but better. But now...down nearly 30 pounds (this time. I swear I have lost the equivalent to several small children in my lifetime!) and skin doesn't bounce back anymore. Boobs don't lift and bounce now. Nothing does. So for me, this is about health and feeling well, as well as controlling my blood sugars, cholesterol, and blood pressure and I am doing a good job with those. Lose it early and keep it off is my suggestion.
I totally get this. Post-menopausal, I’m wondering if I’ll actually ever see anything close to a defined waist once I drop the 50 or so pounds I’m working on. Wisdom is speaking here… ditto to lose it early and keep it off.14 -
stillastruggle61 wrote: »Maybe not a surprise but losing weight at 71 and the end result looks so much different than when I lost it in earlier generations of age. I mean, in my 20's, totally lean and strong. In my 30's, more work to get there but I achieved that body. 40's and 50's and 60's...well, never quite the same but better. But now...down nearly 30 pounds (this time. I swear I have lost the equivalent to several small children in my lifetime!) and skin doesn't bounce back anymore. Boobs don't lift and bounce now. Nothing does. So for me, this is about health and feeling well, as well as controlling my blood sugars, cholesterol, and blood pressure and I am doing a good job with those. Lose it early and keep it off is my suggestion.
I totally get this. Post-menopausal, I’m wondering if I’ll actually ever see anything close to a defined waist once I drop the 50 or so pounds I’m working on. Wisdom is speaking here… ditto to lose it early and keep it off.
Mee too! I'm hoping that after a couple of years of maintaining, my skin will try to catch up with the weight loss. I know every body is different but I do have a defined waist - again. My arms - they are what is suffering the most, they are smaller, this I know but the skin. Doubt I'll ever be able to wear sleeveless again. It's OK though, I feel so much better than over the last 18 years, it's worth the residuals. I tell myself "I had my day". I'm over 60, I don't need a beach bod, I just want to be healthy - and wear some cute stuff too. :-D23 -
MrsDogLady wrote: »stillastruggle61 wrote: »Maybe not a surprise but losing weight at 71 and the end result looks so much different than when I lost it in earlier generations of age. I mean, in my 20's, totally lean and strong. In my 30's, more work to get there but I achieved that body. 40's and 50's and 60's...well, never quite the same but better. But now...down nearly 30 pounds (this time. I swear I have lost the equivalent to several small children in my lifetime!) and skin doesn't bounce back anymore. Boobs don't lift and bounce now. Nothing does. So for me, this is about health and feeling well, as well as controlling my blood sugars, cholesterol, and blood pressure and I am doing a good job with those. Lose it early and keep it off is my suggestion.
I totally get this. Post-menopausal, I’m wondering if I’ll actually ever see anything close to a defined waist once I drop the 50 or so pounds I’m working on. Wisdom is speaking here… ditto to lose it early and keep it off.
Mee too! I'm hoping that after a couple of years of maintaining, my skin will try to catch up with the weight loss. I know every body is different but I do have a defined waist - again. My arms - they are what is suffering the most, they are smaller, this I know but the skin. Doubt I'll ever be able to wear sleeveless again. It's OK though, I feel so much better than over the last 18 years, it's worth the residuals. I tell myself "I had my day". I'm over 60, I don't need a beach bod, I just want to be healthy - and wear some cute stuff too. :-D
I have the chicken wings too.
I’ve discovered the nylon sleeves that you can get on Amazon that are meant for preventing sunburn and/or hiding tattoos work GREAT for taming them. And they go very well with T-shirts.12 -
MargaretYakoda wrote: »MrsDogLady wrote: »stillastruggle61 wrote: »Maybe not a surprise but losing weight at 71 and the end result looks so much different than when I lost it in earlier generations of age. I mean, in my 20's, totally lean and strong. In my 30's, more work to get there but I achieved that body. 40's and 50's and 60's...well, never quite the same but better. But now...down nearly 30 pounds (this time. I swear I have lost the equivalent to several small children in my lifetime!) and skin doesn't bounce back anymore. Boobs don't lift and bounce now. Nothing does. So for me, this is about health and feeling well, as well as controlling my blood sugars, cholesterol, and blood pressure and I am doing a good job with those. Lose it early and keep it off is my suggestion.
I totally get this. Post-menopausal, I’m wondering if I’ll actually ever see anything close to a defined waist once I drop the 50 or so pounds I’m working on. Wisdom is speaking here… ditto to lose it early and keep it off.
Mee too! I'm hoping that after a couple of years of maintaining, my skin will try to catch up with the weight loss. I know every body is different but I do have a defined waist - again. My arms - they are what is suffering the most, they are smaller, this I know but the skin. Doubt I'll ever be able to wear sleeveless again. It's OK though, I feel so much better than over the last 18 years, it's worth the residuals. I tell myself "I had my day". I'm over 60, I don't need a beach bod, I just want to be healthy - and wear some cute stuff too. :-D
I have the chicken wings too.
I’ve discovered the nylon sleeves that you can get on Amazon that are meant for preventing sunburn and/or hiding tattoos work GREAT for taming them. And they go very well with T-shirts.
I don’t know your level of ability, given your mobility issues, but weights really helped with mine.
Also time has helped with loose skin everywhere except the life buoy around the waist. Holding my breath it will shrink. And doing lots of stomach vacuums. They help with the appearance but the Floam is still there.
Hey, Margaret, can I just say how happy I am you are here? SparkPeople must have been a great place to harbor users like you, and I’m so glad we inherited you! You’ve been such a great, positive contributor to the MFP boards!
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Sand_TIger wrote: »Nobody ever told me that hunger isn't a small scale emergency.
My folks and I all have issues with hypoglycemia but I actually overcame them. For me anyway it's all in how I time things as well as in what I eat. If I have a carb first thing in the morning, even a healthy complex carb, guaranteed I'll have a blood sugar roller coaster ride. If I have protein first thing in the morning, or at least something containing protein, or totally skip breakfast, then everything stays happy and steady. I get hungry but it's the kind of thing that I can delay if needed and still make good choices, not that mindless "must have every carb in the house NOW" type hunger.
It was a revelation to me once I finally figured this out!
Also hypoglycemic 🙋🏻♀️
For me, low carb and keto really messed with keeping a level blood sugar throughout the day. I space carbs and fruits along my day. I generally eat 5-6 times and at least 4 meals have a carb element to them. I start shaking and can’t focus when I go more than a few hours without eating, it’s why I.F. diets work great for my best friend but not for me. My learning has been more focused on not needing a full meal every time I need to eat.
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DezYaoified wrote: »Sand_TIger wrote: »Nobody ever told me that hunger isn't a small scale emergency.
My folks and I all have issues with hypoglycemia but I actually overcame them. For me anyway it's all in how I time things as well as in what I eat. If I have a carb first thing in the morning, even a healthy complex carb, guaranteed I'll have a blood sugar roller coaster ride. If I have protein first thing in the morning, or at least something containing protein, or totally skip breakfast, then everything stays happy and steady. I get hungry but it's the kind of thing that I can delay if needed and still make good choices, not that mindless "must have every carb in the house NOW" type hunger.
It was a revelation to me once I finally figured this out!
Also hypoglycemic 🙋🏻♀️
For me, low carb and keto really messed with keeping a level blood sugar throughout the day. I space carbs and fruits along my day. I generally eat 5-6 times and at least 4 meals have a carb element to them. I start shaking and can’t focus when I go more than a few hours without eating, it’s why I.F. diets work great for my best friend but not for me. My learning has been more focused on not needing a full meal every time I need to eat.
Same. I can't go too low carb. It creates bad stuff for me. Protein + carb together and I'm gold but the carb HAS to be there.
That said IF has been fine for me at some points and terrible at others. Depends a LOT on my activity level.
Also it didn't work when I was obese and it doesn't work at a healthy BMI but most of the time I was in the 'just' overweight range it was fine. That one might be coincidence though.5 -
I am still struggling to come up with a healthy mix of eating (I’m about 95% paleo), exercising, and intermittent fasting to get some movement on the scale. I’ve been at 192 for two weeks now. I keep telling myself it is not moving due to the fitness training I’m doing. I’m trying to find room for fruit for the carbs (my choice right now is watermelon) and I put a banana in my protein shake. I’ve read that focusing on protein and watching calories is best and everything else will shake out; but, I’m getting frustrated that I’m not having breads, pasta, pizza, cookies, candy (at all) or going out for fast food, and still not dropping the weight. And, I know some will tell me to stop using the scale, but it is the one thing that does keep me going — particularly when it goes down.6
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I've switched to buying my clothes at Ross or Target since my sizes changed this last year. I don't buy as much since I know it's only for now. I wash my clothes more often so I don't have to buy new clothes. I'll get a mani/pedi or a massage once in awhile instead of spending the money on clothes since everything is changing. That includes glasses! Since losing 35 lbs (so far) my glasses just don't look the same on my face; in fact they dig into my cheeks!
The bridge of my nose is sore and red lately.................never put two and two together! ty!9 -
fitwithfaith256 wrote: »HOW painful the 'ol tail bone can be! I cannot sit comfortably anymore because my tail bone sticks out.
This! Totally, even on soft squishy chairs too, man it hurts.
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That you can tell when you are really serious about doing this for real by how fiercely you defend your eating plan and exercise time, and how determined you are to make real, lasting changes for YOU.16
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Low carb...
No one tells you it is easy the first few days until you've burned through your reserve...and than it's work
No one tells you the correct ratio's, you need to find it for your body, ie.., some can do 20g carbs and some can do 50-100g and loose weight., everyone is different I work best at 20-30g
When low carb'ing it's hard to do strength training
When doing your ratio's add 20years to calculator
and Males...click the female box, This helps cover the people who have slow metabolism.
No one told me the last two times I lost 25-35lbs that your head had to be into it...Once you start plateauing you need to start looking at food differently.
Remember as a kid when your mother would have to drag you inside for dinner?
Well this is the feeling I'm looking for... eat to live Vs. Live to eat...
No one told me that 2400cals would help you gain weight lol (Stupid calculators)
1500-1700 is better with the correct ratio's.... at 1200 I want to naw bark off tree's
I could go on...
Lol..I guess I should put in some disclaimers... This is what works for me at 64 year old male..and it's worked since I first did Keto.. 20+ years ago
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Kaitie9399 wrote: »fitwithfaith256 wrote: »HOW painful the 'ol tail bone can be! I cannot sit comfortably anymore because my tail bone sticks out.
This! Totally, even on soft squishy chairs too, man it hurts.
I’m thinking about making a chair pad form fitted to my keister. Because this is beginning to happen to me also.
The last few days. I know exactly where those ‘ol hip bones are all day, every day.4
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