Was I rude?

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  • chyloet
    chyloet Posts: 196 Member
    and I agree ... both wierd and rude for her to sit there and watch you drink it. Proving to me that it was sabotage. WHAT A B*****!!!
  • kevinlynch3
    kevinlynch3 Posts: 287 Member
    Gotta say..I think you were being polite..you were hesitant but you started drinking it and then stopped. You didn't refuse to drink it. Now, that would be rude. Comparing it to smoking cigarettes is not analagous..consuming food is a natural process "for everyone" where breathing in smoke is not "for everyone".

    You did follow the advice that others like Elexgordo gave (good advice), she just didn't allow you to be polite about it.

    Seems like she went out of her way to observe that you stopped drinking it and then she dumped the drink.

    Seems a little rude on her part to me. It wasn't clear whether she said anything to you about you not drinking it. If she did, then she was definitely the one being rude, you were gracious and tried to be polite and not offend your friend.

    If she didn't actually say anything, then maybe you're being a little too sensitive in perceiving it as potentially rude while she might have discounted the whole incident as meaningless.
  • d2footballJRC
    d2footballJRC Posts: 2,684 Member
    I think people jump to conclusions so much. The world is not out to get us. In the end regardless of others decisions we are responsible for our own actions. There is a way to do this with tack and grace.

    I would of accepted it and taken a sip, explained that I'm on a new lifestyle goal and that I wasn't blessed with the genetics to be able to drink this. Thank them for thinking of you and then either dump it or sit it there for awhile and talk and chat. Maybe it'd start up a conversation about the changes you are making, maybe the friend felt like someone was being ungrateful and etc.

    Communication and respect is key in all parts. Before I'd jump to the conclusion of sabotage or anything along that lines, I'd talk to the person about it. I think you did this politely, if you are afraid they are hurt by this ask them and communicate!
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
    Why do you feel you weren't polite? I mean, if you didn't feel guilty you wouldn't be posting about it here.
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    I stopped drinking pop entirely, so the other day when I went to the movies with a friend, he asked if I wanted anything and I said no thanks. He bought me a pop anyway. I just told him oh I'm so sorry I stopped drinking pop. He apologized for getting it for me and I apologized, so i wouldn't seem mean about it. We laughed and dropped it. I've known him since we were 6 though. I feel like if you keep saying yes to make someone else happy, you may not know when to draw the line. Gotta draw it somewhere, that's how I got in this mess.

    "he" pretty much most guys wouldn't get upset and start throwing drinks around. yeah. I went there.
  • deja_blu
    deja_blu Posts: 359 Member
    Why was she watching you drink it? That sounds like sabotoge to me!
    Yeah, that's spooky.

    Next time she tries something like this, you tell us and we'll take care of her. -wink and smile-

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  • hikeout470
    hikeout470 Posts: 628 Member
    I'd say it was like offering a cigarette. I never consume smoothies unless I make them myself, because who knows what's really in them. To scary of a potential caloric disaster in my opinion.
  • goatruns
    goatruns Posts: 61
    Aren't you glad you asked?
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    Why was she watching you drink it? That sounds like sabotoge to me!
    Yeah, that's spooky.

    Yeah she knows I drink nothing but water so I honestly was the one offended....it was nice of her but I was trying not to be rude...in the end she was like "I'll dump it ..drink some water"
    I don't think it was anything personal though on her part..
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    Was this person intentionally trying to sabotage your weightloss efforts and sky rocket your sugar through the roof?! How rude of her! That being said ... I probably would've accepted it politely and tossed it when she wasn't looking ... just to be polite. lol!

    i dont think it was anything personal..nevertheless it did hurt my feelings..however I agree with a previous poster that if it was another food I was crazy about maybe I would have reacted alittle differently....overall though it wasn't a big thing she just said "I'll dump it...go get some water"
  • L2M1D52
    L2M1D52 Posts: 616 Member
    I stopped drinking pop entirely, so the other day when I went to the movies with a friend, he asked if I wanted anything and I said no thanks. He bought me a pop anyway. I just told him oh I'm so sorry I stopped drinking pop. He apologized for getting it for me and I apologized, so i wouldn't seem mean about it. We laughed and dropped it. I've known him since we were 6 though. I feel like if you keep saying yes to make someone else happy, you may not know when to draw the line. Gotta draw it somewhere, that's how I got in this mess.

    "he" pretty much most guys wouldn't get upset and start throwing drinks around. yeah. I went there.

    Yeah I didn't want to go there, I figured people would think that on their own lol
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    in the end she said "I'll dump it ....go get some water"...
    I don't think it was personal on her part I think she just forgot I drink nothing but water
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    I dont think it was personal on her part she just said "I'll dump it...go get some water.."
  • lormsbee
    lormsbee Posts: 6
    I don't think you mwere rude! SHe was by dumping it!!
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    It wasn't anything personal on her part...she just said "I'll dump it...go get some water"
  • PalmettoparkGuy
    PalmettoparkGuy Posts: 212 Member
    You could have accepted it and said you're full and would enjoy it later, then chuck it.
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    I think people jump to conclusions so much. The world is not out to get us. In the end regardless of others decisions we are responsible for our own actions. There is a way to do this with tack and grace.

    I would of accepted it and taken a sip, explained that I'm on a new lifestyle goal and that I wasn't blessed with the genetics to be able to drink this. Thank them for thinking of you and then either dump it or sit it there for awhile and talk and chat. Maybe it'd start up a conversation about the changes you are making, maybe the friend felt like someone was being ungrateful and etc.

    Communication and respect is key in all parts. Before I'd jump to the conclusion of sabotage or anything along that lines, I'd talk to the person about it. I think you did this politely, if you are afraid they are hurt by this ask them and communicate!

    LOL blessed with the gentics..lol exactly....but on the other hand people who have to work at things get the greater reward..
    She wasn't offended she bought me lunch too! I got to choose...;P
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    Why do you feel you weren't polite? I mean, if you didn't feel guilty you wouldn't be posting about it here.

    Because she BOUGHT it when you invest in something...it's rude either way lol
  • killagb
    killagb Posts: 3,280 Member
    1) How can you consider someone buying you a smoothie as rude? Obviously not everyone is in tune with your nutritional needs...in fact it's likely only you that is.
    2) I don't understand the logic of people acting like they are drinking it only to throw it away...to me, that's being a *kitten* and being dishonest. OK maybe if it's just you and that person around and no one else...then sure fake it...but if there are other people around that might enjoy it...well then pass up the offer while thanking them and see if someone else actually WANTS it.
    3) To the people acting like OMG it's a smoothie, who knows what's in it! This is McDonalds....they have a basic formula, this is put on their website in the nutrional information. You really aren't going to have to worry about any supplements you don't want...as they are too cheap for those ingredients :)

    Thank you, that is all.
  • SuperScrabbleGirl
    SuperScrabbleGirl Posts: 310 Member
    You can always rely on one of these kinds of threads to really show up the crazy on here.

    I think the best you can do is apologise for hurting her feelings. She will feel better and you can both move on.
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    1) How can you consider someone buying you a smoothie as rude? Obviously not everyone is in tune with your nutritional needs...in fact it's likely only you that is.
    2) I don't understand the logic of people acting like they are drinking it only to throw it away...to me, that's being a *kitten* and being dishonest. OK maybe if it's just you and that person around and no one else...then sure fake it...but if there are other people around that might enjoy it...well then pass up the offer while thanking them and see if someone else actually WANTS it.
    3) To the people acting like OMG it's a smoothie, who knows what's in it! This is McDonalds....they have a basic formula, this is put on their website in the nutrional information. You really aren't going to have to worry about any supplements you don't want...as they are too cheap for those ingredients :)

    Thank you, that is all.

    Your right...I was actually probably the rude one...she said she didnt want to be rude and bought me a smoothie....
  • theprices
    theprices Posts: 97 Member
    no and oh well. what are you gonna do waste your calories for the day to make someone else happy? NO...i mean im sure you thanked her for being "thoughtful" and all but she'll get over it....just dont expect her to get you anything from now on (which could be just as awesome) remember, youre in this for YOU.

    this! my calorie intake is determined by me alone - and never for a second do i worry about making someone else feel bad when it comes to my food CHOICE!
  • musicmint
    musicmint Posts: 469
    no and oh well. what are you gonna do waste your calories for the day to make someone else happy? NO...i mean im sure you thanked her for being "thoughtful" and all but she'll get over it....just dont expect her to get you anything from now on (which could be just as awesome) remember, youre in this for YOU.

    this! my calorie intake is determined by me alone - and never for a second do i worry about making someone else feel bad when it comes to my food CHOICE!

    are you a guy?.....this could be why LOL
  • awelch79
    awelch79 Posts: 233 Member
    Agreed on the saying "I am trying to watch what I eat, but Ill make the exception today". Someone also said "One day of over calories isnt going to kill you and its not worth hurting a friends feelings"--agree on that one, too!

    And REALLY on the sabotaging? Some people can be so dramatic. To the non-dieting person, a smoothie is good for you. They dont know all the details like some of us do. She was trying to be nice, Id bet on it.
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