Anyone else shrinking in secret??

Why arent you telling him? Last time i tried I didn't tell my husband either, only bc I had failed so many times and he never believed me that I was going to do it.

I'm shrinking in secret too. Haven't really told my family or my friends. I don't see my friends too often so I'm hoping the next time they see me, they'll see a major change!

I know it's easier said than done but good for you. Don't eat that stuff !! When I first made the decission to change and eat healthy I remember telling my buddy that my "weakness" was ice cream. He replied, "it's not a weakness, it's a choice," It was MY choice to eat and become healthy. You sound like you are on the right track. Stay strong !!

My hubby and I are loosing together but I don't talk about it around my family because they are so discouraging. Better you should dump the milk down the drain than your diet.

I must admit that when I started my current diet, I was very hush hush about it too. The most awful part was when my co-workers would bring around rich foods that I used to LOVE; while I knew better and always walked away, I could not help but feel a little twinge of regret for having left the food behind. It took them a couple of weeks to catch on, and eventually they would just ask "Are you being a good girl today?" before offering any of their snacks to me. I think that the biggest reason I kept it to myself was that had I failed on my diet, no one would have been the wiser and everything would have gone on same as usual. But, you can do this! Some days are more difficult that others, but it can be done. Just focus on your goal.

I do this. I find as soon as I tell someone I have their expectations weighing on me as well as my own. This is my battle to conquer, and I the idea of doing it for me only.

Are you not telling him because he doesn't think you can do it and you want it to be noticeable at some point and hear the words "honey, have you lost weight"? I can understand that if that is what you are trying to achieve but you have to remember, you do need all the support you can get. I am divorced of almost a year and my ex remarried recently, he never thought he would ever see the thin me again, well I'm out to prove him and everyone else wrong, my family doctor of almost 12 years, told me about 4-5 years ago that I would never be able to lose this weight on my own that I would need gastric bypass surgery! well, here I am 91lbs down with 65 to go and I so can't wait to reach my goal and see the looks on all their faces when I strut in in some cute small adorable outfit and dangerously high heels....one of my rewards, a cute pair of high heels! So keep up the good work but do get all the support you can.

The best advice and support from a mom w/ 5 kds and 10 g-babies and a fun husband of 35 years..tell everybody..the whole family needs to enjoy HEALTH together..the choices as a family, even w/ babies is awesome..bring them into this journey!! enjoy and luck!!

I really agree with you, some people just dont have that wind beneath my wing support....Sure she have her reasons but guess what it's not really our business, our business is weight loss and whatever reason she may have for not telling her husband, IM just glad she is living a healthier lifestyle, what Im striving for

where as my boyfriend knows I am pursuing a healthier lifestyle I dont discuss my current weight, my excercise pattern or my goals with him. We make alot of food decisions together but thats because I cook and he likes healthy foods too.

The reason I dont discuss these things with him is because he is a body builder, and likes being muscular, and feels lean muscle on women is good but sometimes in his pursuit to be supportive he hurts my feelings. I could pinpoint a million examples which all point to my own insecurities but Im allowed to have them! The conversation just turns sour when we start discussing my workouts or my weight lifting because I do things differently then he does. He despises cardio, I love it. He loves my slightly round belly, I despise it. My butt is all muscle and he loves big butts so fortunantly we get along there. He lifts weights for hours, after 60 min of intense cardio Im done at the gym.

But when we dont discuss things, and he suddenly says "hey have you lost more this week?" and I respond with "nope, frustrated, week two of the same frickin weight. Why?" and get the response of "Well things are tightening up then babe because you definently look skinnier, and Feel skinnier." Its a great ego boost for me

I must admit that when I started my current diet, I was very hush hush about it too.

Saw my name up there and got curious.

I'm not very good at keeping secrets. I don't talk about others. That's gossip. But keeping my own secrets... not good at that.

I didn't really tell anyone at first but it was hard for me. I have a big family and when they're all eating very high calorie, high carb foods and see you grab an apple and move to the other room, they start wondering haha Then they noticed the change in my groceries from week to week, the added protein supplements, and the extra time I was spending at the gym. Eventually they noticed how my clothes started fitting better and all were like "damn you look awesome." Now the comments keep me going ;-)

Eventually he'll probably realize you're doing something different and the added support will be awesome but there's no reason you HAVE to tell him right away if you don't want to. Every relationship's different.