Why do people argue so much?

fteale
fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
edited October 2 in Health and Weight Loss
Why does anyone care how others lose weight?
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  • jarrettd
    jarrettd Posts: 872 Member
    The same reason they care so much about how you get to heaven, i guess.
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    because they want to make sure it is done in a healthy manner, so people don't get sick or die.
  • zoodalia
    zoodalia Posts: 294
    I agree, people get so involved in other peoples' business... everyone is entitled to lose weight however they want!
  • SheriRuth
    SheriRuth Posts: 10 Member
    The same reason they care so much about how you get to heaven, i guess.

    :word:

    "Because if YOU are wrong that means *I* am right" mentality.
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    because they want to make sure it is done in a healthy manner, so people don't get sick or die.

    Do you think people actually care that much about total strangers? Or is it more about the desperate desire to be right to validate their own actions?
  • sarahsmom1
    sarahsmom1 Posts: 1,501 Member
    If nobody cared about each other it would be a sad sad world
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    because they want to make sure it is done in a healthy manner, so people don't get sick or die.

    Some people do it because of this. Others just like to feel clever.
  • LeanerBeef
    LeanerBeef Posts: 1,432 Member
    Because we all know better than everyone else...and of course because I am the smartest of all and know everything about everything!
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    because they want to make sure it is done in a healthy manner, so people don't get sick or die.

    Do you think people actually care that much about total strangers? Or is it more about the desperate desire to be right to validate their own actions?

    that is a good question and I cannot answer for anyone, but myself. I would like to THINK that it is that people genuinely care, but I can see how at least a small part would be to show their "smarts" on a topic.
  • koutroulakis
    koutroulakis Posts: 77
    However there is a difference between caring (using kind considerate type of communication) and being condesending or mean. And I have seen the words on MFP that mirror the later...caring does not mean judging or being critical, ecspecially in a negative tone.
  • FearAnLoathing
    FearAnLoathing Posts: 4,852 Member
    because im right and your wrong :tongue:
  • sarahsmom1
    sarahsmom1 Posts: 1,501 Member
    because they want to make sure it is done in a healthy manner, so people don't get sick or die.

    Do you think people actually care that much about total strangers? Or is it more about the desperate desire to be right to validate their own actions?
    people do all kinds of thing for people they dont know its called compassion We help free people who are starving, during disasters, no fresh water people send best wishes when your down I don't think its just because people want to type their are people who are natural nurturers
  • djdeth
    djdeth Posts: 16
    because they want to make sure it is done in a healthy manner, so people don't get sick or die.

    Do you think people actually care that much about total strangers? Or is it more about the desperate desire to be right to validate their own actions?

    They probably don't care. It is all about putting people down for their accomplishments. That way we don't have to analyze what we are doing wrong. Basic human nature, and bad nature at that.
  • FifiLea
    FifiLea Posts: 80 Member
    because they want to make sure it is done in a healthy manner, so people don't get sick or die.

    Do you think people actually care that much about total strangers? Or is it more about the desperate desire to be right to validate their own actions?

    This. Some of the arguments on the forum are much more about some people proving themselves right than really caring about other people who, let's face it, are total strangers.

    Some people do genuinely care, but by no means all of them - and some of the negative attitudes and aggressively toned comments we can see every day on the forums attest to that.

    I care about the people on my friends list because I've got to know them a bit, but mostly I care about how I lose weight *and* I don't give unsolicited advice or opinions. In fact, often I won't give an opinion even if asked. My granny always said, "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." This is one of the maxims by which I live.

    I also live by the maxim that you can never be friends with someone who has seen you naked, but that's a whole other forum post...
  • koosdel
    koosdel Posts: 3,317 Member
    because they want to make sure it is done in a healthy manner, so people don't get sick or die.

    I'm thinking I may change my view... the heard needs thinning anyway.
  • ProTFitness
    ProTFitness Posts: 1,379 Member
    because they want to make sure it is done in a healthy manner, so people don't get sick or die.

    Do you think people actually care that much about total strangers? Or is it more about the desperate desire to be right to validate their own actions?

    I generally don't speak up unless I think it is important and because I DO CARE! that is why I do what I do. I wan to help when I can. I don't know it all but I Ideas. Also If people don't want others opinions don't post complaints or questions when it comes to weight loss. Then they won't have to worry about other peoples thoughts and opinions
  • sarahsmom1
    sarahsmom1 Posts: 1,501 Member
    Because we all know better than everyone else...and of course because I am the smartest of all and know everything about everything!
    nope my sister knows everything about everything in the whole entire world
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,458 Member
    Because we are hungry.
  • sarahsmom1
    sarahsmom1 Posts: 1,501 Member
    because they want to make sure it is done in a healthy manner, so people don't get sick or die.

    Do you think people actually care that much about total strangers? Or is it more about the desperate desire to be right to validate their own actions?

    I generally don't speak up unless I think it is important and because I DO CARE! that is why I do what I do. I wan to help when I can. I don't know it all but I Ideas. Also If people don't want others opinions don't post complaints or questions when it comes to weight loss. Then they won't have to worry about other peoples thoughts and opinions
    Agree and dont show your diary
  • hikeout470
    hikeout470 Posts: 628 Member
    Why is it people have to strike out at those who have accomplished? What drives this human nature? Insecurity? It has happened in my work environment, not just the weight loss board.
  • Puckermann
    Puckermann Posts: 52
    Time to find a few decent friends and keep it in the newsfeed instead.
  • caroln3
    caroln3 Posts: 217
    I also live by the maxim that you can never be friends with someone who has seen you naked, but that's a whole other forum post...

    I agree!
  • vanessaclarkgbr
    vanessaclarkgbr Posts: 731 Member
    because they want to make sure it is done in a healthy manner, so people don't get sick or die.

    Do you think people actually care that much about total strangers? Or is it more about the desperate desire to be right to validate their own actions?

    I generally don't speak up unless I think it is important and because I DO CARE! that is why I do what I do. I wan to help when I can. I don't know it all but I Ideas. Also If people don't want others opinions don't post complaints or questions when it comes to weight loss. Then they won't have to worry about other peoples thoughts and opinions

    Definitely agree. I only tend to get stuck in in the forums when someone is running someone down - or I did on some pro ANA talk I heard once, trying to herd others up into the idea, I couldn't stand by and listen to that.
  • vanessaclarkgbr
    vanessaclarkgbr Posts: 731 Member
    Because we are hungry.

    LOL! There's got to be some truth in this! Hungry = Grumpy!!
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    because they want to make sure it is done in a healthy manner, so people don't get sick or die.

    Do you think people actually care that much about total strangers? Or is it more about the desperate desire to be right to validate their own actions?
    people do all kinds of thing for people they dont know its called compassion We help free people who are starving, during disasters, no fresh water people send best wishes when your down I don't think its just because people want to type their are people who are natural nurturers

    I bought a homeless man dinner last night....
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    Because we are hungry.

    I think that may be the most accurate answer so far. I know I argue when I am grouchy and I have been hungry and therefore grouchy for most of the last 6 months since joining here!
  • caroltina
    caroltina Posts: 453 Member
    I had this today, someone nosied in my diary, I might add after pushing me to open it about a week ago, and then was really critical despite knowing I had posted that I wasn't feeling well, been quite down, and broke down during training this week. So ye I took a day off, I went 100 cals over big whoop! Leftvme feeling like I should leave here tbh. Am feeling better this aft but really upset me this morning.
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member


    I bought a homeless man dinner last night....

    I bought a homeless man pizza on a snowy day last winter. Did I do him a favour or not? That's a lot of "bad" calories.
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    I don't care if YOU are doing things wrong, but when you try to convince unknowing others to do it your wrong way, then I argue. There are a couple people here that I've noticed who try to pass themselves off as experts when they are not and are often wrong.

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  • TexasSunny
    TexasSunny Posts: 87 Member
    Because it's a public forum.... and alot of THEORIES are out there.
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