Anyone else shrinking in secret??

I diet in "secret" because I only have a few pounds to lose and don't want to hear "you don't need to lose weight". It will just become a tape i play in my head when I'm feeling lazy or extra hungry. DH doesn't believe in calorie counting and my counting annoys him so I am open about the exercising and count in secret

I've stopped talking about it because people think I obsess.
Which I obviously don't.

It's more of a secret now. Sometimes people say "dieting" like it's a dirty word. Especially since I don't consider it dieting.

How am I sabbotaging? I have someone who sees me everyday, for more of the day than he does, who helps keep me on track.

It's great that you have someone to keep you on track. I think the sabotaging comments have to do with the story you told - your husband doesn't know, so he is placing temptations right in front of without even realizing what he's doing. As you know from your past experiences, losing weight & getting healthy can be hard, and for many of us, the best way to manage temptations is to avoid them, particularly in the early days of the journey. By not telling your husband about your lifestyle changes, you seem to be placing additional obstacles in your own way - he'll keep bringing home unhealthy snacks that you like to eat, so you are constantly dealing with temptation (and it sounds like it already has affected you - would you have eaten part of a candy bar if it wasn't in your house?).

Everybody has to figure out what works for them, and if this plan does, more power to you. I understand not wanting to have the same conversation about dieting with him again. But be sure you have weighed the pros & cons - is it worse to talk about another weight loss attempt or to have to deal with chocolate in the house all the time?

this is the first time i've really told people i was dieting, usually it doesn't last long and i don't want people to think i'm a failure. i still weigh/exercise in secret tho >_>

A lot of people watching what I ate/how much I exercised, and joking with me if they saw me eating something they didn't think was "healthy". It ended up being discouraging.

this is the worst! my friend posted a picture of some fake food, it was some kind of insane dessert burger thing, and i was like oh i'd eat the crap out of that, and she was like omg but you're on a diet you can't eat stuff like that anymore! yeah, i was totally planning on going out and getting 2 cakes and 2 pounds of ground beef and making a cakeburger before you stopped me, THANKS FOR YOUR CONCERN -_-

My OH isn't really supportive to me. I had to tell him though even for the reason that he likes all the bad foods and he will bring them home or want to order takeaways for dinner, etc. If i hadn't told him then he'd have kept bringing stuff home, although to be fair he still does bring stuff home. Every so often we have a big argument where i tell him he's the least supportive man on the planet and for a little while it works till it goes again. I doubt i'd have lasted this long if i hadn't of told him. Firstly we dont' have enough money for me to see food thrown away because he's bought it and i haven't told him i'm not willing to eat it, and secondly i've not enough will power to throw food away. By not telling him i wouldn't have been able to give him the opportunity to be supportive.

I'm shrinking in secret as well. Only my parents know what I'm doing or what I've done. I find that my family is to negative. They constantly watch what I eat and then they are down my back on why would I eat that, blah blah blah. My mom is being really supportive and dieting with me and cooking really good foods. I love doing it in secret though, I lost 20pds and my family are like wow you look amazing everytime I see them for an event. I can't wait to lose more and shock them!! hehe

Haven't told anyone either... I enjoy the looks on peoples faces at the work arena, when they are trying to figure out what is different about me. LOOOOVE it!

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Sorry double post

I kinda am. My boyfriend kinda knows, he says I look good no matter what (awwe =D ) but I'm still going for it. I haven't really told my family because I've always asked them to buy healthier food with me or ask them if I could borrow the TV to exercise in the past, and they always would get mad at me. So I'm doing it in "secret" now because I just don't want to deal with the constant questions and constant (nasty) comments my family sometimes gives me. Besides my boyfriend, I don't really have a positive person to go to while I'm trying to diet so I'm kinda on my own and keeping it quiet until they decide to change as well.

I'm not sure it matters if you've told him or not, but there is nothing wrong, esp. if you own a child care center, to have a discussion about using food as treats. Chocolate milk is not allowed in many local schools due to its high calorie content (and this is in Wisconsin where milk is revered!). One of my sisters (in her 60s) had to lose weight after surgery and was stunned to learn how many calories were in that tasty chocolate milk she'd been drinking to help get her calcium requirements. I remember decades ago when I was a kid, fresh fruit was a huge treat but so was the cherry in the fruit cocktaill My daughters (now in their 20s) went to a day care where fresh fruit was served daily and no canned fruits or vegetables were served. Not surprisingly, they don't consider canned fruit a treat (or a fruit for that matter).

Bottom line, it doesn't really matter if you doing this in secret, announced to the world, took out an ad, etc., it's your choice to lose weight and you're doing it for yourself. But you can send a message to your family about healthy eating outside of the context of "dieting."

I'm not trying to be judgemental, but since the OP created this post I assume she is either asking for opinions or validation. Why else start this thread?

As for me. I havent told me co-workers cause I'm not close with any of them and I dont give a flip about their opinions anyway. I recently had lapband surgery and only my husband, niece, and in laws know. I didnt want to worry most of my family. I know they would worry, plus they all live outta state. as For everyone else if they ask I will tell. Anytime I am on a diet or anything I let people know. I dont really undersstand y people stress over other peoples opinions of what they do with their bodies. They talk all they want, I dont care. I guess it's just me.

As for the hubby, if my husband didnt support me in trying to get healthier then he wouldnt be my husband. Period!! My husband is my biggest cheerleader and best friend. I couldnt imagine not sharing with him. If he was a jerk and brought me down then adios. I dont need that kinda husband and father. I do enough of that to myself.

We have a son and I dont let him eat processed junk. If my husband could eat that crap he would, but due to health issues he is on a strict low sodium diet. But before he ate whatever and that was ok for him, but not for me and our son. I bought healthy food and cooked. My hubby ate whatever I cooked. If he didnt like it, he could cook something else or go get some nasty fast food.

I told my husband, but not really anyone else. My family is not too supportive. My husband watched me count calories for a week or so, saw my energy increase due to healthier food, decided to get on board with me. Its great for us, because we have each other to commeriserate with when we get frustrated, and to remind each other that we don't need the whole Hershey bar, a few dark choc kisses is more that enough. He's not counting as seriously as I am, but he's getting a general idea of what he consumes a day. Between the two of us, we've lost around 25 lbs since Sept 9th. (me=15, him=10)

My best friend knows, my mum, my house mate and my partner. Oh and couple of work colleagues but that it is. I only tell these people so I can make better food choices and explain why I am not eating certain things.

To be honest, people just tell me, oh you are fine how you are. That is not what I want to hear. Or they think you are bragging so I just keep hush hush now. After losing nearly 7 stone in a few years a lot of people from my past notice but current friends have no clue so I tend to just want to keep the weight loss to myself as I can't really be bothered to talk to them about, especially as they don't want to hear that you have to eat less and work out more to lose it.