Ugh. Pigs on here!

MrsFarrow
MrsFarrow Posts: 326 Member
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So, I have to vent.

I have gone through life with a big chest. When I sprouted, I sprouted big. Almost all of my friends all throughout life have been normal to small in chest size, so they never understood the back pains, shoulders caving in, itching, spending ridiculous amounts of money on bras IF you can find them.

I posted a few days ago on here about a bra eating me, digging into my ribs and cutting me. The support (no pun intended!) was amazing. I got great answers and solutions, and got my issue taken care of!

I got on an noticed I had an email on here. It was a piggish email about the size of my chest.

Really? I mean, are you kidding me? I know some guys make fun of the women's threads on here, and I get that. Being a woman isn't as glamorous as we like to say. It's nasty, it's gross, and it's downright painful some of the time. And I get that posting info like that will illicit ridiculous responses in some cases. I just figured and hoped that a website like this would have less of a chance of getting tagged by pigs. Then when I responded? He didn't have the guts to say anything back. Really? So you're going to harass me then chicken out? What a man.

UGH!! It's been a good week otherwise lol!
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  • brittanyjeanxo
    brittanyjeanxo Posts: 1,831 Member
    Eh, just report him and send Mike the email, maybe he'll get kicked out. Or maybe not. Either way, don't let him bother you.
  • ajbeans
    ajbeans Posts: 2,857 Member
    I would report him. There are pigs and idiots everywhere, especially on the web. He needs to be reported though so hopefully he won't do it to someone else.
  • Giraffe33991
    Giraffe33991 Posts: 430 Member
    Eh, just report him and send Mike the email, maybe he'll get kicked out. Or maybe not. Either way, don't let him bother you.

    Yeah, report his butt. We are all self conscious enough without *kitten* like him piling on more crap to our fragile psyches!

    Sorry that had to happen to you.
  • imprimez
    imprimez Posts: 36
    I think you should have just ignored him and not even bothered with a reply. Possibly he was just trying to bait you into a response, even if he never intended to answer. It's just the internet-- dumb comments or messages never deserve a reply and just waste your time.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Yup. Forward it to Mike or Steven. It happens. Don't let it get to you.
  • lovinglife71
    lovinglife71 Posts: 65 Member
    Believe it or not.....there are pigs everywhere! I have had to delete a few on my friends list!! ugh!!
  • SarahBeeMe
    SarahBeeMe Posts: 91 Member
    NOT helpful :( There are some complete idiots out there. I agree with all the above, report him and show him that if he's not on here to support other people then he's in the wrong place. YUCK!
  • jgbigman
    jgbigman Posts: 63 Member
    Agree wth all above!!
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Do not respond,copy and paste it to Mike then block the person.
  • ChristineMarie89
    ChristineMarie89 Posts: 1,079 Member
    just ignore em.. ppl are disgusting sometimes... i had to clean out my friend list a few times... things like that are uncalled for
  • MrsFarrow
    MrsFarrow Posts: 326 Member
    The only response I sent was "Excuse me, what?"

    But he's definitely blocked, and I'll report him for sure.

    I was more just flabbergasted. Like...really? Are you honestly doing this? Weirdo. Ugh.
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
    Do not respond,copy and paste it to Mike then block the person.

    This^

    This happens a lot.
  • peterc9
    peterc9 Posts: 10 Member
    Sorry to hear about that - a real breach of trust. If you report him I hope he gets kicked out - we don't need people like that on MFP.
  • perceptualobfuscator
    perceptualobfuscator Posts: 159 Member
    Report him. We (those with larger chests and women in general) have a right to be treated like human beings, regardless of our chest size. People like that create an environment of body shame, hostility, and misogyny. I'm sorry you had to experience that, but happy you're willing to speak up and stay strong.

    That kind of behaviour isn't acceptable, and the best way to stop it is to bring attention to it rather than leaving it in the shadows. So I'm glad you started a thread on it - if we don't make it clear that the behaviour is unwelcome, those people will make us unwelcome.

    Report this guy, and kudos writing him back. Bet he was surprised that his actions actually had consequences!!
  • theberg
    theberg Posts: 80
    This isn't an excuse, I would just like to point out (as a proud member of the male species) that Men are dumb... As it turns out, some are worse than others.
  • IamRoJ
    IamRoJ Posts: 530 Member
    It's a shame this happened. I'd just ignore and block. I'm not excusing the behavior, but I sometimes think these emails are meant to be complimentary - and unfortunately there are those who actually recieve them as such. Additionally, regrettably this place has been tagged by other more predatory sites( "how to get laid" type sites) as a ripe place to find women with low esteem who will do anything for sexual attention. Makes us all susceptible to these creeps.

    I'm sorry you have to deal with this in addition to the other woes you mentioned. :(
  • bluefox9er
    bluefox9er Posts: 2,917 Member
    So, I have to vent.

    I have gone through life with a big chest. When I sprouted, I sprouted big. Almost all of my friends all throughout life have been normal to small in chest size, so they never understood the back pains, shoulders caving in, itching, spending ridiculous amounts of money on bras IF you can find them.

    I posted a few days ago on here about a bra eating me, digging into my ribs and cutting me. The support (no pun intended!) was amazing. I got great answers and solutions, and got my issue taken care of!

    I got on an noticed I had an email on here. It was a piggish email about the size of my chest.

    Really? I mean, are you kidding me? I know some guys make fun of the women's threads on here, and I get that. Being a woman isn't as glamorous as we like to say. It's nasty, it's gross, and it's downright painful some of the time. And I get that posting info like that will illicit ridiculous responses in some cases. I just figured and hoped that a website like this would have less of a chance of getting tagged by pigs. Then when I responded? He didn't have the guts to say anything back. Really? So you're going to harass me then chicken out? What a man.

    UGH!! It's been a good week otherwise lol!

    I would urge you to report, name and shame. this person might have a female 'friend' who reads this post and may re-consider if this person has anyone except their own convoluted and cruel agenda at heart.

    I treat every friend, man or woman as a brother or a sister on this site.
  • Just_Dot
    Just_Dot Posts: 2,283 Member
    I had a breast reduction when I was 19. At the time, I was 5'2", weighed about 120 soaking wet, and I was a 34DDD. What finally spurred me to get the surgery was a guy, whom I was flirting with at a party, said to a friend (and I overheard...) "Dude, it was like 30 minutes before I knew what she looked like!"

    Yep, men can be stupid.

    Report him. Block him. Move on.
  • RangerSteve
    RangerSteve Posts: 437
    I just figured and hoped that a website like this would have less of a chance of getting tagged by pigs.

    So you figured and hoped a website that has cleavage days and constant pictures of girls with their boobs and *kitten* hanging out of their clothes wouldn't attract pigs?

    Sure I guess.....I mean why would pigs be attracted to close up shots of girls with their.....assets hanging out and tiny little bikinis asking questions like "HONESTLY GUISE, DO MY BEWBS LOOK GUUD IN THIS?"

    Yeah, that kind of site wouldn't attract pigs. I'm perplexed, blown away, confused as to how a piggish male would EVER find this site.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    In other words a lady who may be for the first time in a long time (or ever) is finally feeling good about how she looks should either hide it or expect to be harassed?
    Bull crap,there is no excuse for that behavior,end of discussion.
  • methetree
    methetree Posts: 381
    In other words a lady who may be for the first time in a long time (or ever) is finally feeling good about how she looks should either hide it or expect to be harassed?
    Bull crap,there is no excuse for that behavior,end of discussion.

    Way to go Carl!!!!!

    You, sir, are awesome and amazing!
  • SusM321
    SusM321 Posts: 141 Member
    I agree, block and report. Naming names is up to you. MFP or not, there are idiots everywhere. It's a shame you had to deal with this. Oh yeah, thanks to all the guys that responded with support!
  • hush7hush
    hush7hush Posts: 2,273 Member
    Block it.

    I've gotten a few disgusting messages here. I don't let it take away from my experience. You'll find a bad apple no matter what community you're a part of. Cut 'em out and move on!
  • MrsFarrow
    MrsFarrow Posts: 326 Member
    I just figured and hoped that a website like this would have less of a chance of getting tagged by pigs.

    So you figured and hoped a website that has cleavage days and constant pictures of girls with their boobs and *kitten* hanging out of their clothes wouldn't attract pigs?

    Sure I guess.....I mean why would pigs be attracted to close up shots of girls with their.....assets hanging out and tiny little bikinis asking questions like "HONESTLY GUISE, DO MY BEWBS LOOK GUUD IN THIS?"

    Yeah, that kind of site wouldn't attract pigs. I'm perplexed, blown away, confused as to how a piggish male would EVER find this site.

    Here's the issue, Sherlock. I have never, nor will I ever, participate in "cleavage days" or whatever you're saying. If you look, 1. you probably can't even see my crap because I'm pretty sure mine is private, and 2. even if you did, the ONLY pictures I have are of me and my husband.

    And you know what's even worse? The fact that someone is actually sticking up for him. It disgusts me that men pull that crap and think it's ok. I'll shoot you his screen name, maybe you two can yuck it up elsewhere. If you posted a thread about jock itch, you wouldn't expect a woman to respond with "MMMMMMMM I LIKE YOUR JUNK BABY" Really? How disgusting are you guys?



    As for everyone else? I thank you for your support :) Especially from the MEN who know this ISN'T OK.
  • RangerSteve
    RangerSteve Posts: 437
    Here's the issue, Sherlock. I have never, nor will I ever, participate in "cleavage days" or whatever you're saying. If you look, 1. you probably can't even see my crap because I'm pretty sure mine is private, and 2. even if you did, the ONLY pictures I have are of me and my husband.

    And you know what's even worse? The fact that someone is actually sticking up for him. It disgusts me that men pull that crap and think it's ok. I'll shoot you his screen name, maybe you two can yuck it up elsewhere. If you posted a thread about jock itch, you wouldn't expect a woman to respond with "MMMMMMMM I LIKE YOUR JUNK BABY" Really? How disgusting are you guys?



    As for everyone else? I thank you for your support :) Especially from the MEN who know this ISN'T OK.

    Reading comprehension issues? I think that should have been covered in 3rd grade or so.

    If you could find where in my post I was sticking up for him, I'd be happy to see it. I think you'll be looking for awhile though since I never stuck up for any piggish male.

    Secondly, SHERLOCK, if you can see the part I quoted in response to you, it was about you figuring a website that had all of the things I mentioned and not having pigs also attached to it is similar to expecting not to burn your hand when you touch a hot stove. Nowhere did I say you were doing any of that and who honestly cares if you do? My sarcastic reply was meant to highlight your lack of understanding of all things internet related. If you join a site where girls literally stick their boobs on the lens of a camera and take pics while attention whoring with comments about how men don't like their DD sized breasts, would you honestly expect pigs to stay away? And to follow up, would you honestly expect pigs not to send you messages?

    I know this is crazy but guys get a lot of weird messages on here too. What most of us do click the little "x" button on the top right corner of the screen to close the window and then go about our day.

    I'm sure it disgusts you that men pull that crap. I hope it equally disgusts you that women pull that same crap. We wouldn't want any double standards now would we. Feel free to shoot me his name though if it makes you feel better. Maybe I'll tell him I like his junk so he'll make a thread about it and wait for white knights to appear and build up his sensitive ego.
  • Enforcer25
    Enforcer25 Posts: 350 Member
    Just report the guy and be done with it, once again the post gets derailed by sarcastic comments that do nothing to help or answer the op.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Here's the issue, Sherlock. I have never, nor will I ever, participate in "cleavage days" or whatever you're saying. If you look, 1. you probably can't even see my crap because I'm pretty sure mine is private, and 2. even if you did, the ONLY pictures I have are of me and my husband.

    And you know what's even worse? The fact that someone is actually sticking up for him. It disgusts me that men pull that crap and think it's ok. I'll shoot you his screen name, maybe you two can yuck it up elsewhere. If you posted a thread about jock itch, you wouldn't expect a woman to respond with "MMMMMMMM I LIKE YOUR JUNK BABY" Really? How disgusting are you guys?



    As for everyone else? I thank you for your support :) Especially from the MEN who know this ISN'T OK.

    Reading comprehension issues? I think that should have been covered in 3rd grade or so.

    If you could find where in my post I was sticking up for him, I'd be happy to see it. I think you'll be looking for awhile though since I never stuck up for any piggish male.

    Secondly, SHERLOCK, if you can see the part I quoted in response to you, it was about you figuring a website that had all of the things I mentioned and not having pigs also attached to it is similar to expecting not to burn your hand when you touch a hot stove. Nowhere did I say you were doing any of that and who honestly cares if you do? My sarcastic reply was meant to highlight your lack of understanding of all things internet related. If you join a site where girls literally stick their boobs on the lens of a camera and take pics while attention whoring with comments about how men don't like their DD sized breasts, would you honestly expect pigs to stay away? And to follow up, would you honestly expect pigs not to send you messages?

    I know this is crazy but guys get a lot of weird messages on here too. What most of us do click the little "x" button on the top right corner of the screen to close the window and then go about our day.

    I'm sure it disgusts you that men pull that crap. I hope it equally disgusts you that women pull that same crap. We wouldn't want any double standards now would we. Feel free to shoot me his name though if it makes you feel better. Maybe I'll tell him I like his junk so he'll make a thread about it and wait for white knights to appear and build up his sensitive ego.

    I have never once had women doing that so guess I am either a loser (probably) or telling the truth about things (more likely).
    Piffle on.
  • RangerSteve
    RangerSteve Posts: 437

    The op didn't participate in any of those things so I don't understand your comment, yes some guys are pigs, not all of us are and I know the op wasn't saying that. I agree with the others that you should report this. I don't have a problem with the ladies on here that want to post suggestive comments or have suggestive pictures, but that doesn't mean every women on here is looking for those types of comments. This is a fitness web site first and it doesn't take long to read people's posts to see if they are like that or not so don't try to defend what this guy did based on other people's actions.

    Rant done.

    Another person with reading comprehension issues. They're everywhere.

    The funny part is that the original part I quoted is still visible in your post so you must have seen it at least 2 times while writing and hitting "post reply" afterwards. Either you're trying too hard to score brownie points or you need to take a remedial class on comprehension.

    Also, I'll give you the same task I gave the person who started the thread. Point out where I defended this piggish male in my post. I'll wait.
  • Enforcer25
    Enforcer25 Posts: 350 Member
    Here's the issue, Sherlock. I have never, nor will I ever, participate in "cleavage days" or whatever you're saying. If you look, 1. you probably can't even see my crap because I'm pretty sure mine is private, and 2. even if you did, the ONLY pictures I have are of me and my husband.

    And you know what's even worse? The fact that someone is actually sticking up for him. It disgusts me that men pull that crap and think it's ok. I'll shoot you his screen name, maybe you two can yuck it up elsewhere. If you posted a thread about jock itch, you wouldn't expect a woman to respond with "MMMMMMMM I LIKE YOUR JUNK BABY" Really? How disgusting are you guys?

    As for everyone else? I thank you for your support :) Especially from the MEN who know this ISN'T OK.

    Reading comprehension issues? I think that should have been covered in 3rd grade or so.

    If you could find where in my post I was sticking up for him, I'd be happy to see it. I think you'll be looking for awhile though since I never stuck up for any piggish male.

    Secondly, SHERLOCK, if you can see the part I quoted in response to you, it was about you figuring a website that had all of the things I mentioned and not having pigs also attached to it is similar to expecting not to burn your hand when you touch a hot stove. Nowhere did I say you were doing any of that and who honestly cares if you do? My sarcastic reply was meant to highlight your lack of understanding of all things internet related. If you join a site where girls literally stick their boobs on the lens of a camera and take pics while attention whoring with comments about how men don't like their DD sized breasts, would you honestly expect pigs to stay away? And to follow up, would you honestly expect pigs not to send you messages?

    I know this is crazy but guys get a lot of weird messages on here too. What most of us do click the little "x" button on the top right corner of the screen to close the window and then go about our day.

    I'm sure it disgusts you that men pull that crap. I hope it equally disgusts you that women pull that same crap. We wouldn't want any double standards now would we. Feel free to shoot me his name though if it makes you feel better. Maybe I'll tell him I like his junk so he'll make a thread about it and wait for white knights to appear and build up his sensitive ego.

    I have never once had women doing that so guess I am either a loser (probably) or telling the truth about things (more likely).
    Piffle on.


    I'm right there with you, almost all my friends on here are female and I've never had that happen to me either. Like I said, the thread gets derailed by comments that don't do anything constructive,
  • TamTastic
    TamTastic Posts: 19,224 Member
    I understand the frustration. I lost a lot of weight and was sort of new to feeling "Sexy" for awhile. I have some cleavage pics. I don't post them to get attention..well from anyone specifically..more to feel good about feeling good and feeling attractive and wearing cute clothes!! lol!

    No, wearing sexy clothing does not warrant someone sending you a smarmy email. But this type of behavior has been going on since the dawn of time. When there was no internet, men cat called or whistled! lol! Now, as in "real life"..there will be men (and women) behaving that way. I don't think that's ever going to change. And unfortunately, sexy clothing does attract attention. MOST men just think it and keep it to themselves....but some are going to make comments or feel it's ok to contact you about things. Report him if he's out of line and makes you unfomfortable.

    I do get RangerSteves point too. He's not saying what he did was right..more that there ARE consequences to what we choose to say and do and wear. I have been on here for a long time. I used to be a lot more involved in the fun threads. We'd have fun, joke around, maybe get a bit risque...but we'd get into trouble for it. Now, to be honest..it's about 20x more risque than anything those in the past did. And having our cleavage and *kitten* hanging out in pics...is going to attract the wrong attention sometimes. It's just part of life. No, I'm not saying it's right. The good thing about it being online is you CAN report it, CAN block them and CAN ignore it. If I get a smarmy email...because I have cleavage (what's left of it! lol!)...showing in a pic.....then I can report them and I can take those pics down to keep that attention away. It is within my power to do so.

    Best of luck! And the important thing is to not let the smarmy types ruin it for you. This IS a great site. I've been on here for a long time and the tools helped me lose (and keep off) a ton of weight. Take care!!
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