Gone from 115Kg to 91Kg not convinced 80kg will get me where i want. Thoughts?
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Something that helped me was an increased focus on what my body could do, rather than what it looked like.
I started running, couch to 5k to start with, then a half marathon, then on from there. I had a plan to follow and tick off, I could see progress (Even if it was just getting a little bit further up the hill!) I had an event to complete. Never worried about time, just showing up and not quitting.
The number on the scale can be all over the place, but inches lost don't just re-appear. A pb is worth more to me than my wobbly stomach. Food is about properly fuelling in terms of nutrition and quantity.
More than that, being outside almost every day does very good things for my mental health. The happier I am the better I take care of myself in all respects.
YMMV, but it might be worth thinking about different ways to measure success.3 -
littlegreenparrot1 wrote: »Something that helped me was an increased focus on what my body could do, rather than what it looked like.
I started running, couch to 5k to start with, then a half marathon, then on from there. I had a plan to follow and tick off, I could see progress (Even if it was just getting a little bit further up the hill!) I had an event to complete. Never worried about time, just showing up and not quitting.
The number on the scale can be all over the place, but inches lost don't just re-appear. A pb is worth more to me than my wobbly stomach. Food is about properly fuelling in terms of nutrition and quantity.
More than that, being outside almost every day does very good things for my mental health. The happier I am the better I take care of myself in all respects.
YMMV, but it might be worth thinking about different ways to measure success.
I appreciate what you're saying but i think both are important.
I want to be able to tolerate myself.
It's great I can do more which is why I'm feeling that attempting to lose weight at this current stage may feel like diminishing returns. Maybe things will change in the future.2 -
Here is my two cents... worth every penny
Go have a mini make over.... I am sure there are guy places you could find. Hair cut, shave, and new outfit. I would be shocked if it did not boost your self confidence by at least a smidge. I think you have a handsome face and your shape is pretty damn good, especially considering where you started. A nice fighting shirt and pair of trousers or jeans, new shoes, and don't forget the undergarments.
Have a night out with a friend or 10 and rock the new look!
Sometimes we get in a rut and forget that a little pampering to ourselves can help our physical beauty as well as our mindful beauty. Sometimes we look in the mirror and see only the old us and can not see the great changes we have made. Please be kind to yourself... you deserve to be proud of the great success you have accomplished already.5 -
Everybody is being nice. I will be a *kitten*. Sorry!
Dude: the way you are talking about yourself is neither weight related NOR weight fixable. But it IS VERY FIXABLE if you get some pro help. A lot of things in life are DIY. But using a pro is often both faster AND cheaper.
As to your weight. Take it or leave it; your call. BUT, objectively, from the outside, as someone who is looking at your two pics and having SOME idea of what your weight numbers mean: YOU'RE DOING GREAT.
Sure. Slow down a bit. Absolutely positively MOST WONDERFUL news is that you've increased calories to 2000 and you're still losing. Frankly there is no reason why you can't keep losing while eating even more. I'm both older and shorter (and fairly active) and while logging on MFP I lost more than 80lbs eating 2500 or MORE on average.
Health metrics say you can probably afford to lose a little bit more than you already have. Do you HAVE to? NO. Should you be PUSHING yourself to? NO. Is it a bad thing to lose a bit more? Still NO. Will losing more (or less) weight, or regaining weight fix all the problems in your world for you? Sadly, NO!
But working on the off the wall level of incorrect self perception and self talk will go a long way towards improving life for you. That I can promise!
And while doing all of that eat even more calories and lose even slower... or not at all. Either is fine.
But don't drag defeat out of the jaws of your victory!8 -
Appreciate the help and support guys.
There's probably a lot going on so i think I'm feeling overwhelmed.
I'm taking a break from really focusing hard on what I eat. I'll go to the gym a bit but otherwise want a break. I'm really feeling like fixating on myself is causing me more stress.
On the other hand, I just feel like my belly makes me look like a pregnant woman. It may be the case that things get worse before getting better which is why I'm going to give it some time.
I just don't know the answer, at some point losing weight will be a good idea, getting into the healthy BMI range makes sense.
I'm probably just fixated about it because of the amount of unsolicited comments I've had about my size even from people I don't know. In those cases it seems to be more about how you look rather than how healthy you are.6 -
If people are making unsolicited comments to you in a negative way about your weight or shape, I would highly recommend you find other people to hang out with. These people are bullies. In my opinion, this type of behavior is typically an effort to make someone feel better about himself/herself by making someone else feel bad. It’s cruel and I would encourage you to ignore their comments. They have not earned the right to have their opinions considered.
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I think belly fat is the absolute hardest to lose. I've lost 50 pounds and I still have a big belly. My legs, arms, chest area (figures) and face have all slimmed down nicely. But my belly still protrudes out further than I would like. But...4 weeks ago I was in size 14 jeans. Went shopping this past weekend and came home with size 10s! So while I am still layering my clothes, I know that even my belly is shrinking. Photos are a great way to see the evidence. But do you use a measuring tape? When you look in the mirror and just see a big stomach, it's really hard to see anything else. But if you look at the line on the measuring tape and see that you've lost x inches, it's so satisfying. Good luck!4
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emmamcgarity wrote: »If people are making unsolicited comments to you in a negative way about your weight or shape, I would highly recommend you find other people to hang out with. These people are bullies. In my opinion, this type of behavior is typically an effort to make someone feel better about himself/herself by making someone else feel bad. It’s cruel and I would encourage you to ignore their comments. They have not earned the right to have their opinions considered.
Unfortunately, more recently it's strangers and not people I choose to hang with.
I had some random kid talk about me to their friend saying I looked like "Thor" with my "huge belly".
I once had a stranger just grab my belly at a music festival thinking he was funny.
Used to be friends making jabs but not really anymore.
I used to have people in previous work places shame me for what I was eating.
Doesn't really happen as much now but it just brings back memories.6 -
NYPhotographer2021 wrote: »I think belly fat is the absolute hardest to lose. I've lost 50 pounds and I still have a big belly. My legs, arms, chest area (figures) and face have all slimmed down nicely. But my belly still protrudes out further than I would like. But...4 weeks ago I was in size 14 jeans. Went shopping this past weekend and came home with size 10s! So while I am still layering my clothes, I know that even my belly is shrinking. Photos are a great way to see the evidence. But do you use a measuring tape? When you look in the mirror and just see a big stomach, it's really hard to see anything else. But if you look at the line on the measuring tape and see that you've lost x inches, it's so satisfying. Good luck!
I take measures periodically and have noticed inches going down.
To be honest, if I approach things more slowly, I reckon I could get a few more inches off.
My waist is around 36.5 - 37 inches now which from my understanding is at the upper end of acceptable in terms of health risks. It was definitely somewhere in the 40-something before so it's definitely moving.
I'm realistically at least 25lbs overweight so I'd hope some more inches could come off but I'm going to attack that slowly and more sustainably.
I think I'm convinced that this is my final form but realistically, I'd hope it'd look better with another 25lbs off over time. If there's visceral fat to come off, that may help shape stuff up.
I don't even mind myself too much when flexed.
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Asian born people I was doing business with used to rub my "Buddha belly" for good luck. And call me "big boy", in Chinese. The vast majority of them far from maliciously.
In fact some, who remain friends, have lamented that they sort of miss doing so! My own perception of their actions may have been different.
And I have no intention of providing them with a rubbing belly if I can help it!1 -
I think you look great! Just keep doing what you are doing. We all want to be magically smaller like right away, but it just doesn't work like that. Sweat, blood and tears, and a heckofa lot of hard work. And yes, dieting is hard work! No matter what diet you are doing. You look young. Your stomach fat will go away. Your body just needs to catch up. Someone mentioned collagen up thread. As a young man, you still have plenty of that. At my age, I don't. So just keep doing what you are doing. Once you hit 80k, do maintenance for a while. Let things shift around and I bet you will start noticing differences even as your weight doesn't change.1
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So got myself sitting around 88/89kg.
Not been exercising as much but the weight is at least stabilizing. Which is good considering it can be easy to put back on.
Not been feeling very comfortable in my own skin though and it's been weighing me down a bit mentally.
Honestly not sure what to do next but may as well keep plugging.
It's nice to feel a bit healthier and less lethargic but sometimes I feel I have an endless supply of belly fat.
Is it really one of those last places to go?4 -
I'm late to the party and I'm sure whatever I say won't help because I think you have some body image issues that you have to work through. Lord knows I have my own, but I wish you weren't so hard on yourself. I know healthy is subjective but I wouldn't know by those photos that you were overweight, definitely not by 25lbs. You've made great progress and the progress you've made looks good on you. I'd say focus on other things but I also understand wanting to feel attractive too. Anyways, keep doing what you're doing, take breaks when you need to, surround yourself with people who respect you, and take some time to learn something new or do something fun for the purpose of getting your mind off how you look. I was feeling self conscious last week and went to cedar point. I had so much fun with my husband and wasn't even worried about my looks because in the end it never really matters. Good luck 💕🤗3
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Hey, it looks like you are doing a great job. 12 years ago I lost 100 lbs at 5'9", from 255 to 155lbs. The first 10 months I lost all 100lbs. I had some sagging skin and didn't look the way I expected to look. Then it look me over a year to look really fit imho. After I lost the weight, as I continued a mostly running and some upper body regimen, I weighed about 160lbs and changed my body composition over 18 to 24 months to where I thought I looked "magazine fit."
But it was a nightmare to maintain peak fitness all year round. It was really miserable because my body would fight me and would require me to raise my intensity and vary the exercises to maintain. I decided that I did not want to peak all year round and chose 4 climbs to peak per year, then 3 then 2. Then I lost interest for a while. Then I regained interest. While being "magazine fit" is fun, it is really a pain in the *kitten*.
Here in 2010 @255lbs and 40 years old:
Here in 2011 @155lbs having lost 100 lbs. Not really "magazine fit."
Here in 2022 @160lbs looking more "magazine fit." Really hard to maintain. This picture was taken after a 14 mile run up the west side of Manhattan from Battery Park (the southern tip) to the George Washington Bridge (way up north).
There are lots of roads in life, Choose the one that fits you. Some of the roads in life are challenging and hard, but you only live once, so why not go for it and fly as far as you can. Best of luck to you dude. When you get down, don't give up on yourself.
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Honestly just keeping going.
I know I'm carrying more body fat than I'd like to so losing some weight is going to help that.
I think it will take a while to really get the ideal composition but it seems like it's not necessarily impossible.
I appreciate the comments any how.
When I get nearer my tough mudder, I'll do another update.0
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