Romance

About 3 years ago we had the opportunity to enjoy a holiday in the middle of the Knysna forest...We enjoyed champagne and had a few tablespoons of mousse, strawberries and cream. We tend to speak a lot about romance but those acting it out is the true gentleman...others feel the effort is just not worth it.

Romance...you need an old sould for that these days, from what I am told.

Flowers...you are correct, Very over done, and they only last a short moment. Essentially, they die WITH the sentiment.


If a guy is going to swoon his lady, then he need to embelish the every day thoughts and actions. Yes, Dim the lights, burn the candles...add in some single instrument soft jazz or blues. Close off the entry way by whateaver means possible. Greet her at the door, with passionate, thrist quenching kiss like no other. Get her out of her shoes, use a dark slik scarf to blind-fold her as you guide her to a hot bubble bath. The drink of favour is chilled, the chocolate covered strawberries there to feast upon....

I think you may be missing the point why 'some' guys give their lady flowers (whether it be a bigazz bouquet or a single rose .. It's not because THEY like 'em sooo much ... It because they know their lady likes them so much.. They know it' s pleases their love'd one. It's all about sending a message to someone they love. It's not always about .. "ahhh crap, gotta send the ol' lady flowers .. cause she'll be expecting something for her birthday and ya know what they COST??? I better get some'n tonight!"

Noooo ... it's not always like THAT!

Agreed .. yes, most certainly the flower dies .. as it's supposed to .. But the sentiment LIVES and lingers. It's all about intention.

Decent debate, but you have then set the stage for expectation for flowers. Flowers are easy, no thought process, a quick stop, and rarely a meaning...Romance is from the heart, not a simplistic gesture.

Again, I think you have missed my exact point ... A simplistic gesture is from the heart...There is a huge difference between simply getting it done so you say you did it or doing something to please someone. It's all about intention.

Krikey .. My hubby can even offer me the garnish on his plate as a simplistic gesture like it was a beautiful flower .. It's NOT about the flower .. It's about the intention of the gesture.

So if you werent married, and I gave you my garnish....are you sure I wasnt gesturing something else? Just sayin'. LoL

I know what you mean, and possible settled best with...Romance is the effort put forth to instil passion of the heart for another.

About 3 years ago we had the opportunity to enjoy a holiday in the middle of the Knysna forest...We enjoyed champagne and had a few tablespoons of mousse, strawberries and cream. We tend to speak a lot about romance but those acting it out is the true gentleman...others feel the effort is just not worth it.

now thats my kinda romance!! im a sucker for stuff like that! i would totally melt!

this thread makes me so happy.

The most recent experience of romance I had was during a work day I got news from the doc that I needed more tests. I was worried, scared and emotional about it. I was chatting with my then boyfriend (now ex) and he was being very sensitive and caring. Then he politely told me he had to go, he had an important client to attend to so he wouldn't be able to chat.

I took a quick break from my desk and when I came back, he was sitting in my chair. I cried a little when I saw him because it was so kind and sweet and unexpected. And it was simple. His day was done, I was the important client. It meant all the world to me and made my day.

That to me was romantic. It wasn't a huge gesture or expensive. But it meant a lot to me for him to cut a little time out of his work day to hug me and tell me it would be alright.

Did I mention he helps me clip coupons? He tries to cut them all for me so I don't have to do it lol