I'm mad at myself...
DarkWarrior91
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I'm mad at myself because I'm physically weak. I had such a hard time lifting weights when normally I'm quite competent. But this time around, I could even do 10 reps of arm curls with 27.5 lbs. And my chest is just as bad. I bad a hard time lifting a total of 185 lbs. I feel embarrassed, weak, and hate myself. What am I supposed to do to get better and how in God's name am I supposed to feel better about myself when I'm just weak?
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Perhaps instead of being mad at your body, try focusing on your responsibility to care for your body.
If your body is weak, that means it hasn't gotten enough opportunities to build strength. If you want it to be strong, it's your responsibility to do the things you need to do to build strength.
Being angry at your body for not being stronger without having done the exercise to be stronger is like being mad at your brain for not knowing Japanese without having done the studying to learn it.
Strength isn't something you have, it's something you build. So if you want it, you have to build it.
But the bigger question is why are you shaming yourself over this?
Your body doesn't owe you strength. You owe your body care.2 -
Begin at the beginning. Check your ego at the door. Choose a progressive lifting program that works with your lifestyle/schedule - some good examples here: https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10332083/which-lifting-program-is-the-best-for-you/p1
Be consistent with your workouts. Lift a weight that allows maximum range of motion - again, check your ego. Track your nutrition, get plenty of protein ~.7g - 1g for each lb of lean body weight. Get plenty of sleep.
I understand how you feel. I started lifting 4.5 years ago. I could bare bench press 100lbs. Imagine that - a grown a** man barely able to lift 100lbs. Talk about a humbling experience. But everyone starts somewhere. If you're consistent with your workouts, you'll begin to see a noticeable difference in as little as six weeks. The human body is an amazing machine. Good luck!5 -
Begin at the beginning. Check your ego at the door. Choose a progressive lifting program that works with your lifestyle/schedule - some good examples here: https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10332083/which-lifting-program-is-the-best-for-you/p1
Be consistent with your workouts. Lift a weight that allows maximum range of motion - again, check your ego. Track your nutrition, get plenty of protein ~.7g - 1g for each lb of lean body weight. Get plenty of sleep.
I understand how you feel. I started lifting 4.5 years ago. I could bare bench press 100lbs. Imagine that - a grown a** man barely able to lift 100lbs. Talk about a humbling experience. But everyone starts somewhere. If you're consistent with your workouts, you'll begin to see a noticeable difference in as little as six weeks. The human body is an amazing machine. Good luck!
Good words from @DoubleG2. I can't say it any better than that^3 -
DarkWarrior91 wrote: »I'm mad at myself because I'm physically weak. I had such a hard time lifting weights when normally I'm quite competent. But this time around, I could even do 10 reps of arm curls with 27.5 lbs. And my chest is just as bad. I bad a hard time lifting a total of 185 lbs. I feel embarrassed, weak, and hate myself. What am I supposed to do to get better and how in God's name am I supposed to feel better about myself when I'm just weak?
I'm not sure what you're saying here?
Your post sort of implies that you used to (or usually) lift more. Is that the case? If so, how long ago could you lift more, and is there some obvious cause like disease/injury, exigencies in other parts of life forcing a cutback in practice, extreme dieting, or . . . ?
If that's true (that your strength has declined), in one sense it doesn't matter why.
I often say that the smartest sign in the world is one we see in many places: It says "You Are Here."
Wherever I find myself, no matter how I got there, "here" is the only place from which I can take my next step in some direction. To me, the measure of character and commitment is the direction of that step (positive or negative direction), and whether that step is a considered and sensible one.
It doesn't matter where I used to be, or where I wish I was, or whether it seems fair/unfair to be where I am. Thinking about those things is a waste of my time and energy, other than maybe some brief thought about how I learn from the past to prevent past pitfalls from recurring and causing future problems. Focusing on positive steps forward is a better use of time and energy, y'know? Self hatred accomplishes zero, may even be a negative.
Beyond that possibility, good advice above. Only one thing to add: Focus on a realistic progressive approach. Overdoing, to chase fast (re-) gains, only gets you injuries, setbacks, and slower calendar time to reach your goals.
Best wishes - you can get stronger.2
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