Advice to stop being a fat ***?

I absolutely love all the advice given here!! It’s true wanting to do better and be better has to come deep inside of yourself. Losing weight is the one thing only you can do for yourself. Making changes isn’t easy. Losing weight isn’t easy. I don’t think anyone wants to self sabotage themselves but we do. We are human. We make mistakes. I started small. I think someone else said this. I began to drink water. I’ve hated water my entire life. Strange right. I always say it’s for bathing and cooking. But I made the change. Slowly over time it began to be a habit. Reaching for water instead of a diet soda. Next I worked on my eating after 8 pm. I’m a night owl and consumed most of my after that time. Chips and sweets are my go to comfort make me feel better foods. I started measuring them. Then I started choosing one or the other and eventually I gave them up all together.
I’m not here because I know everything g. I’m here to open up to learning the process of living a healthier me. We learn through experiences and through others That’s why I’m here.

I want to hug you. I know exactly how you feel because I was right there. I still cry about my terror. I lived in that bubble for two years, the Dr told me I needed to stop drinking, stop smoking, stop eating, start excercise and take a handful of pills. The Dr told Mr. that he needed open heart surgery. That did it. 12 hours sitting in my car waiting for hourly phone calls from the operating room. Scared the F out of me. I could not imagine my life without him. I don’t want to lose him or die yet myself. I want at least another 20 years with him…I’m 52 he’s 66. He spent 5 days in hospital and I cleaned and refilled every cupboard. He came home Oct 27. Today he is down 35 pounds, 5 more to go. I am down 30, 81# to go. My depression and anxiety are gone. My blood pressure has gone from the 150’s/90’s to 115/75. My fibromyalgia has quit being a persistent pain (~95% diminished) arthritis pain is down to ~25%. My chronic post nasal drip and cough (3 years chronic) is gone. I sleep like a pro. I don’t get sleepy in the afternoon. Our acid reflux is Gone! I still hate excercise but I walk when the weather agrees. I do high intensity, low impact aerobics from YouTube 2-3 times a week in my livingroom, at my pace, break a sweat and then do self care. I have not had bloodwork but I can tell my insulin resistance is gone. I still sneak smokes but a pack a month v. a pack a day. I still have a G&T but 2 ounces every couple days v. 6+ every day. We have fallen in love with veg which is cheaper than our old eating style.

You have to find your Why. Try logging what you eat to start. See how many calories you really eat. That might slap you in the face. Start stepping on the scale daily. Can you incorporate small tiny steps? Drink water. Limit your eating window to only 12 hours and then 10 hours a day. Take a multi-vitamin. Make rules like no food within 4 hours of sleep, all food groups at a meal, only dark chocolate in the house as treats, no soda pop inside the house, no eating out unless it is Friday, try a new food each week like sardines, tofu, fennel or daikon, only coffee in morning hours, cut your cream by half, minimize added sugar, only tea in pm hours, only decaf within 6 hours of sleep, wear a pedometer or use a phone app start counting steps, start building and trying to up it 1000 steps avg a week, practice doing one self care thing per day. Take a tub, color your hair, pluck stray hairs, file your nails, do a sugar scrub, do a face mask, coconut oil mask your hair. Go to the Dr. for a reality check if you have not already.

You are not alone. Millions of us exist with you in our own pools of despair…but it does not make it ok. Find your reason, find your anchor, find your why, keep reading these boards, keep reaching out making connections. Get your Dr. on board. One success fuels the next so you just need one win to get you moving in the right direction. Once you get moving just keep going, don’t stop, don’t break, don’t coast, just GO. I will pray for you to find your mojo.

Everything @yirara says


And yes, PoGo still a thing. Our town was mobbed with players for the Larvitar Community Day yesterday.

Between walking the dog and playing PoGo, I easily get 15-20,000 steps a day.

My dirty little weight loss secret lol. No apple cider vinegar involved.