How rude...
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And this is a friend?0
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Just remember, relationships come and go but your life can only last so long. Keep losing weight and become healthier. If she doesn't want to support that, then she isn't a good friend.0
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So a friend of mine who never really has been supportive of my weight loss (I have lost 35lbs before jong here and I have gone from being the fat one too the thinner one - I am thinner than her) said to me I need to stop exercising so hard because I will never lose my belly!
Now how unssupportive is that! I mean of course I can lose my belly its just fat its not like I want to change my bone shape.
Why would someone say that
I have had the same thing happen! I was going to the gym on a daily basis with my friend, and i was also doing my first round of p90x, and she was NEVER supportative with me when I told her things. I remember one day, she came and picked me up so we could go to the gym together, and i was telling her how my size 4 jeans fit again- not a loose fit, but a lot looser than then have been, and she looked at me, and said " there is NO way your a size 4", and thats when i decided it was time to not workout with her, and i havent really hung out with her since. just remember, misery loves company.......0 -
What I've observed is that some folks, often without them being conscious of it, are not naturally inclined to be supportive. Whether it's latent jealousy, or competitiveness, or a proclivity toward cynicism, there are those who are predisposed to offer negative and even hurtful commentary.
Sometimes it's best to just ignore such remarks. Other times, depending on how close you are to them, stop and just ask them to consider just how that sounds to your ears for a moment. Sometimes a good swift kick to the complacency will wake some of these types up.
If there's a chronic problem with negative comments, you may even need to consider limiting your exposure to them. I've become a bit mercenary as I've gotten older. If a person isn't supportive and positive, they tend to be a sort of emotional barnacle, and you're better off not being burdened by their influence.0 -
Did you punch her in the face??
What a cow! She is so envious of you, strut your stuff and rub her face in it.
I think you need some new friends, add me if you like.
Totally agree!!! New friend is needed!!!0 -
you know the old saying, misery loves company!0
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jealousy0
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There's a concept that my husband and I keep in mind:
Addition by subtraction
Basically, all it means is you enrich your life by getting rid of the dead weight (no pun intended). As you lose physical weight, you'll see that there's a lot of social and psychological dead weight that gets exposed as well. Drop it, and keep it movin'!0 -
My mother in law is quite rude.
My wife has lost about 90lbs and Im just over 60lbs. When she comes over she doesnt compliment me or my wife, but on several occasions has asked us:
"What will you do with the skin?"
Now I understand asking once, but not twice, three times, or pretty much any time she's over. This just makes me want to smack her!!!0 -
What I've observed is that some folks, often without them being conscious of it, are not naturally inclined to be supportive. Whether it's latent jealousy, or competitiveness, or a proclivity toward cynicism, there are those who are predisposed to offer negative and even hurtful commentary.
Sometimes it's best to just ignore such remarks. Other times, depending on how close you are to them, stop and just ask them to consider just how that sounds to your ears for a moment. Sometimes a good swift kick to the complacency will wake some of these types up.
If there's a chronic problem with negative comments, you may even need to consider limiting your exposure to them. I've become a bit mercenary as I've gotten older. If a person isn't supportive and positive, they tend to be a sort of emotional barnacle, and you're better off not being burdened by their influence.
very very well said!!! I totally agree!!!0 -
Sounds like a jealous b!tch to me. Use it as fuel to further motivate you.
There is nothing better than being underestimated. Prove her wrong.
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Sounds to me like she is jealous.0
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That's a stupid reason to stop exercising...... lol Exercising is supposed to be a lifetime change...not just to get rid of the belly........
In my case, I do have that belly pooch but I'm pretty sure it's genetics because I have a lot of muscle underneath and can be really tiny and still have a belly but I'm not going to stop working out just because I'll always have that belly.
In the end I say that definitely does sound like jealousy or something. Or just being stupid?0 -
People are indeed mad!0
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She's jealous!0
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Your friend is used to being slimmer, and in our society that means she can see herself as prettier (whether she is or not). Now that you're the slimmer one, a piece of her self-esteem--the part that was at your expense--is gone. She probably hasn't thought this out consciously, but in some part of her mind she thinks if you stop exercising and losing weight, maybe she can be the thinner/prettier one again.0
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Doesn't sound like much of a friend to me. Time to surround yourself with some positive friends...Lata Haterrrrrrrr!!:drinker:0
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said to me I need to stop exercising so hard because I will never lose my belly!
Possibly the most absurd thing I've ever heard.
Which says a lot because I once got into a 3hr long debate with someone who was convinced Michael Jackson and LaToya were in fact, the same person. It got so heated that the cops were almost involved.
Let her do her, and you do you.0 -
I recently experienced this in a way. I had a few friends respond to an email in a snarky way by saying "keep up the good work" or "now how about another 35!". You need to drop them, they're just jealous!0
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Your loss causes others to need to self-evaluate and that can be uncomfortable.0
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So a friend of mine who never really has been supportive of my weight loss (I have lost 35lbs before jong here and I have gone from being the fat one too the thinner one - I am thinner than her) said to me I need to stop exercising so hard because I will never lose my belly!
Now how unssupportive is that! I mean of course I can lose my belly its just fat its not like I want to change my bone shape.
Why would someone say that
When people are visually jealous of you that means its time to GO HARDER!! Keep doing what your doing. 0 -
You should have said to her DONT HATE ME CUZ YOU AINT ME! LOL......JEALOUS! ABSOLUTELY! We cant fix stupid! Move up and onwards!0
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That is not a real friend. Real friends don't say things out of jealousy to hurt you.0
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I think it is because of jealousy. Some people can be like that - they don't want to see others succeed at something. It's sad but true 0
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Need a new friend and definitely JEALOUS!0
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^^^^^^^ very possible.Because she's a heinous cow?0 -
a few years ago when i first reached my goal weight i was amazed at how many people said negative things to me. i realize now that it was just jealousy! turn it into positive energy and use it as motivation!0
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that is horrible, this person sounds like they may have been use to being the thinner one and let the green monster out. Not nice at all0
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everyone on here is on point0
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